First time Slave

[canusmanes2]

I am 26 going on 27 and being in a BDSM relationship. My master is 48 and his first time doing this to. I just got him to giving me enemas. I am open for anything and everything. If there is any masters or slaves out there tell what your life is like and is there any ideas that you can give me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Best way to explore is to talk to each other, find what tweaks your radar, and work together from there. What I or someone else might have done and enjoyed just may not be appealing in the slightest to you. Everyone is different and part of the fun is exploring your uniqueness together instead of trying to copy others.

Catalina

 

[AngusMan]

While I agree that talking is the best suggestion, if you're simply looking for ideas to talk about, there are plenty of stories here to get your fantasy engines reving.

Short list: Bondage, Foodplay, Situations, Toys (search: remote control vibrator), Home Movies/Photography, and general fantasies, such as nurse/patient/doctor (really plays into enemas).

 

[MasterandSir]

I am 26 going on 27 and being in a BDSM relationship. My master is 48 and his first time doing this to. I just got him to giving me enemas. I am open for anything and everything. If there is any masters or slaves out there tell what your life is like and is there any ideas that you can give me.

Discuss anything and everything and don't hold back.... As for ideas you could try each of you filling out the human sex map and see where the "I'd like to try" markers end up.

 

[DomOnTheBeach]

There is a lot more to Mastery and slavery than just sex. I recommend the two of you develop some protocols. Perhaps you kneeling and kissing his boots whenever you first come back together after a time apart. Or a stylized way of serving him his coffee or a drink.

The idea is to develop easily and constantly repeated actions that reinforce your submission to him and his Dominance over you. That can create an intensity that can make even the most vanilla of sex seem extra exciting.

Other than that I recommend communication, communication and more communication. Perhaps he could have you kneel, naked, in front of his chair while he is fully clothed, and the two of you can discuss fantasies...

 

[CutieMouse]

There is a lot more to Mastery and slavery than just sex. I recommend the two of you develop some protocols. Perhaps you kneeling and kissing his boots whenever you first come back together after a time apart. Or a stylized way of serving him his coffee or a drink.

The idea is to develop easily and constantly repeated actions that reinforce your submission to him and his Dominance over you. That can create an intensity that can make even the most vanilla of sex seem extra exciting.

Other than that I recommend communication, communication and more communication. Perhaps he could have you kneel, naked, in front of his chair while he is fully clothed, and the two of you can discuss fantasies...

One can also have a M/s (or D/s) relationship based on far more than "just sex", with nary a protocol in sight. Ultimately, it boils down to complimentary kinks/interests/definitions of Ms and/or D/s, etc... or as you so succinctly put it - communication.

 

[DomOnTheBeach]

One can also have a M/s (or D/s) relationship based on far more than "just sex", with nary a protocol in sight. Ultimately, it boils down to complimentary kinks/interests/definitions of Ms and/or D/s, etc... or as you so succinctly put it - communication.

I certainly didn't mean to imply that my way was the only way or even the best way. I apologize if that is how it seemed.

I DO believe that protocols are like the load bearing walls that can support the weight of a M/s relationship. Can you have M/s without protocol? Absolutely. But it absolutely is more difficult. Imo.

 

[CutieMouse]

I certainly didn't mean to imply that my way was the only way or even the best way. I apologize if that is how it seemed.

I DO believe that protocols are like the load bearing walls that can support the weight of a M/s relationship. Can you have M/s without protocol? Absolutely. But it absolutely is more difficult. Imo.

Oh I didn't think you were saying protocols = the only way of doing things... I'm just a bit persnickety about blankety sorts of ideas like "protocols". I know "your kink is not my kink, blahblahblah", but why does someone have to be naked and kneeling to discuss the foundation of the relationship? What purpose does it serve (other than the PYL* getting to look at the naked chick LOL)? Or kissing boots... okay. Huh?

I'm the sort of woman who knows her place. Once I make a decision, reminders are not necessary; thus "protocols" have always confused the hell out of me. LOL Which is why men like you are thrilled to know there are pyls out there who get off on protocols, and women like me are thrilled to know there are PYLS who don't give a rat's ass.

*PYL = Pick Your Label (Dominant/Master/Top)
*pyl = pick your label (submissive/slave/bottom)

And on that note, I will stop hijacking the thread..

 

[midwestyankee]

Oh I didn't think you were saying protocols = the only way of doing things... I'm just a bit persnickety about blankety sorts of ideas like "protocols". I know "your kink is not my kink, blahblahblah", but why does someone have to be naked and kneeling to discuss the foundation of the relationship? What purpose does it serve (other than the PYL* getting to look at the naked chick LOL)? Or kissing boots... okay. Huh?

I'm the sort of woman who knows her place. Once I make a decision, reminders are not necessary; thus "protocols" have always confused the hell out of me. LOL Which is why men like you are thrilled to know there are pyls out there who get off on protocols, and women like me are thrilled to know there are PYLS who don't give a rat's ass.

*PYL = Pick Your Label (Dominant/Master/Top)
*pyl = pick your label (submissive/slave/bottom)

And on that note, I will stop hijacking the thread..

For the record, not only do some of us not give a rat's ass, plenty of us have no idea where to acquire a rat's ass or how to gift wrap one if we could find one.

Hence the general lack of interest in giving, donating, or otherwise providing rats' asses.

 

[CutieMouse]

For the record, not only do some of us not give a rat's ass, plenty of us have no idea where to acquire a rat's ass or how to gift wrap one if we could find one.

Hence the general lack of interest in giving, donating, or otherwise providing rats' asses.

I happen to be really really good at gift wrapping; however, rat asses scare me so I'm not sure if my mad wrapping skillz would be up to the challenge.

(Damn you Yanks! I said I wasn't going to hijack the thread anymore!)

 

[DomOnTheBeach]

Oh I didn't think you were saying protocols = the only way of doing things... I'm just a bit persnickety about blankety sorts of ideas like "protocols". I know "your kink is not my kink, blahblahblah", but why does someone have to be naked and kneeling to discuss the foundation of the relationship? What purpose does it serve (other than the PYL* getting to look at the naked chick LOL)? Or kissing boots... okay. Huh?

I'm the sort of woman who knows her place. Once I make a decision, reminders are not necessary; thus "protocols" have always confused the hell out of me. LOL Which is why men like you are thrilled to know there are pyls out there who get off on protocols, and women like me are thrilled to know there are PYLS who don't give a rat's ass.

*PYL = Pick Your Label (Dominant/Master/Top)
*pyl = pick your label (submissive/slave/bottom)

And on that note, I will stop hijacking the thread..

I honestly do think protocols are about much more than just looking at the naked kneeling chick. They can be a physical reinforcement of the psychological states necessary for Master/slave relationships. There actually has been peer-reviewed research that Master/slave couples who utilize protocols have a higher percentage of success than M/s couples who don't.

Hats off to couples or poly families who don't need that reinforcement. But I think that is more the exception than the norm.

 

[CutieMouse]

I honestly do think protocols are about much more than just looking at the naked kneeling chick. They can be a physical reinforcement of the psychological states necessary for Master/slave relationships. There actually has been peer-reviewed research that Master/slave couples who utilize protocols have a higher percentage of success than M/s couples who don't.

Hats off to couples or poly families who don't need that reinforcement. But I think that is more the exception than the norm.

I don't think we've had a discussion on protocols and their positive (or negative) impact on power dynamics in a while... it might make an interesting thread.

 

[seela]

I honestly do think protocols are about much more than just looking at the naked kneeling chick. They can be a physical reinforcement of the psychological states necessary for Master/slave relationships. There actually has been peer-reviewed research that Master/slave couples who utilize protocols have a higher percentage of success than M/s couples who don't.

Hats off to couples or poly families who don't need that reinforcement. But I think that is more the exception than the norm.

I'd be interested in reading the research. Where can I find it? A (very) brief google search didn't bring the results I wanted.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

There is a lot more to Mastery and slavery than just sex. I recommend the two of you develop some protocols. Perhaps you kneeling and kissing his boots whenever you first come back together after a time apart. Or a stylized way of serving him his coffee or a drink.

The idea is to develop easily and constantly repeated actions that reinforce your submission to him and his Dominance over you. That can create an intensity that can make even the most vanilla of sex seem extra exciting.

One can also have a M/s (or D/s) relationship based on far more than "just sex", with nary a protocol in sight. Ultimately, it boils down to complimentary kinks/interests/definitions of Ms and/or D/s, etc... or as you so succinctly put it - communication.

Ha, I've just realised that things I'd call "routines" and 'structure' could be interpreted as 'protocol.'

Neat.

 

[Kojote]

For the record, not only do some of us not give a rat's ass, plenty of us have no idea where to acquire a rat's ass or how to gift wrap one if we could find one.

Hence the general lack of interest in giving, donating, or otherwise providing rats' asses.

Funny side note:
While reading this a noise led me to look to the right where the cage is placed.
Four little faces were clinging together and looking at me like they wanted to say "You can't sell our asses off ... Don't even think about it!"

 

[DomOnTheBeach]

I'd be interested in reading the research. Where can I find it? A (very) brief google search didn't bring the results I wanted.

It was a dissertation done by Master Bert, who is one of the instructors for Butchmanns Experience, the people who put on Southwest Leather Conference. With some googling you can find Bitchmanns and I would imagine you can contact him through there.

 

[DomOnTheBeach]

Ha, I've just realised that things I'd call "routines" and 'structure' could be interpreted as 'protocol.'

Neat.

Yep! And the fact that you consider them "routines" means you actually DO them! Which is great!

 

[seela]

It was a dissertation done by Master Bert, who is one of the instructors for Butchmanns Experience, the people who put on Southwest Leather Conference. With some googling you can find Bitchmanns and I would imagine you can contact him through there.

Is this the dissertation you were thinking about? Because if it is, there's nothing there that says that couples with rituals and protocol have a higher percentage of success. He only chose couples in long term relationships (the average length was around 4 years, I think), and there is no control group, so the dissertation doesn't really say anything about the protocol being a key component in the longevity of the relationships.

It was a good read, but I never would have guessed it was a Ph.D. dissertation, unless it was stated on it.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I happen to be really really good at gift wrapping; however, rat asses scare me so I'm not sure if my mad wrapping skillz would be up to the challenge.

(Damn you Yanks! I said I wasn't going to hijack the thread anymore!)

IMO, this is definitely the occasion where a super cute little gift bag stuffed with sparkly tissue paper would be appropriate.

 

[midwestyankee]

I happen to be really really good at gift wrapping; however, rat asses scare me so I'm not sure if my mad wrapping skillz would be up to the challenge.

(Damn you Yanks! I said I wasn't going to hijack the thread anymore!)

IMO, this is definitely the occasion where a super cute little gift bag stuffed with sparkly tissue paper would be appropriate.

Look at what a fine team you two make.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Yep! And the fact that you consider them "routines" means you actually DO them! Which is great!

Eh, just means we don't romanticise things.

Tis just what we do.