Just A FairyTale?

[LittleMisssubmissive]

Can anyone tell me if there are TRUE Doms/Femmes (sorry if the spelling isnt correct) out there? Ive posted a personal but...as far as i can tell most of the men who have pm'd me seem fake as hell. ive done my research in bdsm and know what to look out for, and with that said id love to know. im new to the lifestyle and would love to explore it but in order to do that i need to find a man/woman to connect with on that level....*sigh* How do i go about doing that without the hassel of putting up with cyber men on ego trips?

 

[ninser]

They are out there, but they are VERY hard to find

 

[LittleMisssubmissive]

good to know! ha now just finding one is going to be the hard part then.

 

[ImOnIt]

TRUE doms

Dohohohohoho

Cyber men on ego trips you can turn off with one button. Finding someone suitable for a relation ship is improbable, and becomes more improbable the more filters you apply. The good news is that you can make your own relationship by every single thing you say and do.

Your post doesn't say anything about what you expect 'the lifestyle' to be. The lifestyle is actually anything you want it to be, and you need to know what that is before someone else can help you make it.

A good place to start is in practise, in real non-internet life.

 

[ImOnIt]

One date ages ago (and I'd just met this girl) was her asking what she was and was not allowed to do. I waited a polite thirty minutes before taking her home. I'm not a true dom[/I according to her view, and it doesn't concern me at all.

I think it is fair to say that you make your own relationships in life. As another lit member said recently, online relationships can be merely a shared creative writing excercise.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Littlemiss, here's what I would sugggest;

join fetlife.com, which is like facebook for the BDSM set worldwide.

Check around for groups in your area, and start introducing yourself to them. You will meet plenty of bullshit artists there as well, sadly, but also lots of people who are active and serious-- and playful-- about the lifestyle.

Look for munches, which are informal, non-play get togethers in public restaurants, and go to some of them, to get an idea of what and who goes on in your area.

Talk to other subs. Make friends.

 

[Stella_Omega]

One date ages ago (and I'd just met this girl) was her asking what she was and was not allowed to do. I waited a polite thirty minutes before taking her home. I'm not a true dom[/I according to her view, and it doesn't concern me at all.

I think it is fair to say that you make your own relationships in life. As another lit member said recently, online relationships can be merely a shared creative writing excercise.

You mispelled twue dom, I think...

And whoever said that -- brilliant!

 

[DVS]

Can anyone tell me if there are TRUE Doms/Femmes (sorry if the spelling isnt correct) out there? Ive posted a personal but...as far as i can tell most of the men who have pm'd me seem fake as hell. ive done my research in bdsm and know what to look out for, and with that said id love to know. im new to the lifestyle and would love to explore it but in order to do that i need to find a man/woman to connect with on that level....*sigh* How do i go about doing that without the hassel of putting up with cyber men on ego trips?

Yes, we are out here, but there are far more of the "fake as hell" group. It's sad, because it not only reflects badly on my gender, it also makes it more difficult for one of those TRUE Doms to show he's not fake, without seeming like just another man on an ego trip. It ain't easy, once the submissive becomes weary of the search and her fake filter trigger finger gets "itchy".

All I can say is don't give up, and don't get discouraged. But because the Internet allows someone to be anything they want, plan on a lot more fakers coming your way.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

You mispelled twue dom, I think...

And whoever said that -- brilliant!

It was Homburg. Of course.

 

[DVS]

You mispelled twue dom, I think...

And whoever said that -- brilliant!

Maybe she's a tweety bird. You know...a twitter-er?

 

[Primalex]

How do i go about doing that without the hassel of putting up with cyber men on ego trips?

Why would the rest be interested in you?

1) You are 18.
2) You have a boyfriend.
3) You love your boyfriend.
4) You are exploring your "bi curiousity".
5) You are 18.
6) You even use the SRP forum, the place for people with no life.

Exactly why would someone, who is not a horny net geek, want to "connect" with you?