Dom "speak"

[NomadLady]

Recently on a business trip I met a Dom who referred to himself as "Sir" during our online chatting, emails, etc before we met for dinner. That continued into dinner and the rest of the evening. This was a first for me...meeting a Dom for consensual NSA play as well as having him speak that way, calling his own self "Sir" and WOW...it was HOT.
It was incredibly erotic and a great build up for the fun later in the evening. Was just curious how many of you Dominant men/or women do this?

 

[VelvetSin]

When in play mode, I can only refer to B as "Mister," "Mister (last name)" or "Sir." Any other slip will earn his wrath (sometimes but usually so I don't). I don't know if that's the standard protocol or if it's just what he likes. Whatever it is, I looooove it.

He does not like the term "Master" in reference to himself, because for him, it either means a Master/slave relationship which we do not have and do not want, or someone who has trained so extensively they are a Master of the craft. While he's had a good amount of training it was years ago, so he's renewing his skills and seeking out someone to learn more from, but does not consider himself a Master in that sense. Again, I don't know if that's the standard operating procedure or just his slant on the Name Game.

 

[catalina_francisco]

In have never met any PYL's who did this and must admit it would annoy me after awhile. Psychologically speaking, some people do this as a means of distancing themselves from the situation and/or the person they are communicating with, sort of as a means of not actually involving themselves in the moment. It is probably that feeling which would get to me if a PYL was doing it constantly as I would have a problem developing trust with them. If it works for you though, continue to enjoy.

Catalina

 

[NomadLady]

In have never met any PYL's who did this and must admit it would annoy me after awhile. Psychologically speaking, some people do this as a means of distancing themselves from the situation and/or the person they are communicating with, sort of as a means of not actually involving themselves in the moment. It is probably that feeling which would get to me if a PYL was doing it constantly as I would have a problem developing trust with them. If it works for you though, continue to enjoy.

Catalina

It wasn't so much "constant" as the conversation wasn't all about him. I guess it being a new "flavor" to me that it was highly erotic and also quite though provoking. Later during our play time it was even more intense as our play did quite rough...especially when we would ask how much more I could take for "Sir"....

 

[scraggles]

Thanks to Nomadlady...I too have experienced this Dom...and now lucky enough to be considered to be trained as his "new sub"...and so fulfilling to have him so local to me...only 30 mins away..and always wondering when Sir..will require my service....Yummy anticipation... I also think his referring to himself as Sir as VERY Erotic and hot.. not to mention.to have him groan in my ear "You will Hurt for Sirs pleasure" makes me shudder...Many kisses and Hugs..Nomadlady...

 

[NomadLady]

Thanks to Nomadlady...I too have experienced this Dom...and now lucky enough to be considered to be trained as his "new sub"...and so fulfilling to have him so local to me...only 30 mins away..and always wondering when Sir..will require my service....Yummy anticipation... I also think his referring to himself as Sir as VERY Erotic and hot.. not to mention.to have him groan in my ear "You will Hurt for Sirs pleasure" makes me shudder...Many kisses and Hugs..Nomadlady...

Thank you Scraggles....so glad that you two were able to meet and that he is training you now....Wish you both the best of luck!!!!!

 

[rosco rathbone]

He was referring to himself in the third person? Like "Sir would like another drink?"

 

[NomadLady]

He was referring to himself in the third person? Like "Sir would like another drink?"

Yes Rosco...he does refer to himself in third person often.

 

[Cattypuss]

I am reminded of the Seinfeld episode "The Jimmy"

 

[where]

Yes Rosco...he does refer to himself in third person often.

that would just send me into fits of giggles.

 

[scraggles]

I would of thought it would do the same to me..."the Giggles"....but somehow in the context of this Dom....its extremely Hot...and erotic...and I have first hand experience over a 2 day period...and can't wait for my next experience...Yummy...Im so craving to serve him again...

 

[rosco rathbone]

Yes Rosco...he does refer to himself in third person often.

Interesting...

 

[fuckmeat]

I don't know about this myself. It could be hot but only if I could take it seriously. But referring to oneself in the third person? Only the Queen does that where I come from. Plus, in a public place like that I'd be utterly mortified if anyone overheard.

What concerns me is when a self-certified dom guy needs to use protocols like this as a kind of BDSM security blanket. I can maybe see it as a test, because he wants you to slip up and call him by his first name. Aside from that though? I think online communities are more fussed about elaborate etiquette that RL players. It can smack of pretentiousness and insecurity to me, which are both major turn-offs.

 

[NomadLady]

I don't know about this myself. It could be hot but only if I could take it seriously. But referring to oneself in the third person? Only the Queen does that where I come from. Plus, in a public place like that I'd be utterly mortified if anyone overheard.

What concerns me is when a self-certified dom guy needs to use protocols like this as a kind of BDSM security blanket. I can maybe see it as a test, because he wants you to slip up and call him by his first name. Aside from that though? I think online communities are more fussed about elaborate etiquette that RL players. It can smack of pretentiousness and insecurity to me, which are both major turn-offs.

This Dom is very charming and doesn't do it so anyone can hear him in public. Both Scraggles and I met him in public places to begin with before deciding to invite him elsewhere for some private time. He doesn't need a security blanket of any sort, he is a very well adjusted normal guy who can be witty, charming, polite and a wonderful dinner date....then be a wonderfully dominant sadist behind closed doors. I never had the need to call him anything other than "Sir" so there was no need to use his first name. He is in no way shape, form or fashion pretentious or insecure.

Imagine how erotic it would be for your Dom to lean over during dinner and whisper something in your ear like "you will service Sir later this evening"...trust me on this one...IT IS HOT! HOT! HOT!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Cattypuss]

I'm thinking there's a cultural divide showing up here.

It's us Brits who find the whole thing risible/embarrassing. Maybe it's a Brit thing. We're not famed for playing along when people take themselves too seriously.

Frankly a man could look like Johnny Depp, and exude all the domliness and eroticism in the world.... if he then referred to himself in the third person like that I'd just laugh in his face and then walk away.

Like I say, maybe it's a Brit thing.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Imagine how erotic it would be for your Dom to lean over during dinner and whisper something in your ear like "you will service Sir later this evening"...trust me on this one...IT IS HOT! HOT! HOT!!!!!!!!!!

Nope, not doing it for me, either.

*grins*

But I'm glad you're finding it so hot.

 

[Cattypuss]

ok... maybe it's a non-US thing

 

[Lady Reiha]

that would just send me into fits of giggles.

same.

 

[vixjohn]

Imagine how erotic it would be for your Dom to lean over during dinner and whisper something in your ear like "you will service Sir later this evening"...trust me on this one...IT IS HOT! HOT! HOT!!!!!!!!!!

I LOVE this..... like, really love it, especially when He says "How much more can you take for Sir"


I like it, I like it alot

 

[Cattypuss]

I LOVE this..... like, really love it, especially when He says "How much more can you take for Sir"


I like it, I like it alot

Damn, you've just blown my "British" theory out of the water lol.

 

[where]

I don't know about this myself. It could be hot but only if I could take it seriously. But referring to oneself in the third person? Only the Queen does that where I come from. Plus, in a public place like that I'd be utterly mortified if anyone overheard.

What concerns me is when a self-certified dom guy needs to use protocols like this as a kind of BDSM security blanket. I can maybe see it as a test, because he wants you to slip up and call him by his first name. Aside from that though? I think online communities are more fussed about elaborate etiquette that RL players. It can smack of pretentiousness and insecurity to me, which are both major turn-offs.

I guess it would very much depend on how it's done. if it's done in a pompous way then it becomes risible as Cat says, but done in a sociopathic threatening way... that could be hot.

I'm thinking there's a cultural divide showing up here.

It's us Brits who find the whole thing risible/embarrassing. Maybe it's a Brit thing. We're not famed for playing along when people take themselves too seriously.

Frankly a man could look like Johnny Depp, and exude all the domliness and eroticism in the world.... if he then referred to himself in the third person like that I'd just laugh in his face and then walk away.

Like I say, maybe it's a Brit thing.

the other thing, apart from royalty, illiism is often an indication of sociopathy.

Damn, you've just blown my "British" theory out of the water lol.

I think it's a good theory and might still hold given the right circumstances

 

[NomadLady]

I LOVE this..... like, really love it, especially when He says "How much more can you take for Sir"


I like it, I like it alot

His even more favorite one is leaning over during a spanking and whispering in your ear...."how much more can you hurt for Sir?"....it just makes you want to take all the pain he wants to give......

 

[scraggles]

Well Sounds like we are in the minority Nomadlady, Thats fine...we all have our various turnons...Im just thrilled and waiting in eager anticipation for Sir to whisper in my ear again.."You will Hurt for Sir"...hope sooner than later

 

[vixjohn]

Damn, you've just blown my "British" theory out of the water lol.

BUGGER!!

SORRY!

Kinda.......

 

[NomadLady]

Well Sounds like we are in the minority Nomadlady, Thats fine...we all have our various turnons...Im just thrilled and waiting in eager anticipation for Sir to whisper in my ear again.."You will Hurt for Sir"...hope sooner than later

I think it's a cultural thing with the Brits....but yes we all have our various turn ons and to have somewhere whisper in my ear softly what the rest of the evening will hold....or what he wants me to do.....is just HOT HOT HOT!!!!!!!!!!!