My Sexuality

[Marquis]

Seems to me, to be fairly unchanged through the years.

If I were to boil it down to the essentials, I would say my sexuality is comprised of the following elements.

1. Reverence
2. Polygamy
3. non-vaginal sex
4. sadism


You will take note of how low sadism actually is on this list. It has taken me some time to be real with myself about that.

A bit more on each component:

Reverence

I once took a dating test that analyzed people on three dimensions (if memory serves). Brutal/gentle, love/sex and master/slave. I came up as a brutal love master aka "the false messiah." I thought it was a pretty accurate description of my style.

All said and done, nothing turns me on more than the idea of my sexual partner being absolutely emotionally subdued by me. If I know my partner values my pleasure and comfort beyond their own - it takes little else to get me off. The acts following are almost formalities.

Polygamy

This naturally follows from reverence. I am a narcissist and a cult leader type of guy, I need subjects, a flock, disciples. Polygamy has great appeal for me in this sense. I have experimented with group sex in many different forms and find that the only kind that does it for me is "everyone do what marquis says" or even better "let's all work together to figure out what marquis wants."

Non-vaginal sex

Honestly not a big fan of the vagina. It'll do in a pinch, but too many orgasms happen there. Babies come out of there, which seems to be it's primary purpose. Too often a woman can be intercoursed in her vagina and begin to get the idea that the act of sex is about her, her needs or her pleasure. By sticking to anal sex, oral sex, handjobs, facials, etc. etc. anything else really - we can be clear about the true focus of the activity. That said pussy does feel nice and if I am secure in requirements 1 and 2 it can be quite enjoyable.

Sadism

I'm not a big "I will whip you into shape" kinda guy. I never got very skilled with a flogger, or a piece of rope - and I've been at this thing for a while. I do like beating and bullying and cruelty, but in this day and age of careers and police and apartments - the kind of violence that really brings pleasure is just such a liability. This must be how doctors feel, with all the malpractice fears.

Still, inflicting physical pain is definitely a joy of mine and I do so, as much as I feel safe doing. Unfortunately I do feel like that amount is getting less and less these days and I am more lazy about after care than I have ever been.

 

[Marquis]

No comments?

I used to be famous around these parts!

I feel like Willy Loman.

 

[Primalex]

How can we debate about your sexuality? It's...yours.


I can relate to 3 and 4. The 3 would be my 2 I think.
The true sadism part of me is a bit complicated. It's locked in a cage and reserved for people who hurt me one way or the other, because this part of me has nothing to do with the happy kink world.

I could do without 2, but why would I? Muahahaha!
Seriously, the older I get, the more it loses its appeal. The hunt is still interesting, but then...

Reverence. Hm. No. Wouldn't be on my list at all. I would have as much fun if she would spit in my face. Obedience is the key, not what she thinks of me when she obeys.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hmmm, so you are under the impression vaginal intercourse as such is where all women derive the most pleasure, hence they begin to think it is about them and actually prefer it? Man, do you still have something to learn.

Catalina

 

[Marquis]

How can we debate about your sexuality? It's...yours.


I can relate to 3 and 4. The 3 would be my 2 I think.
The true sadism part of me is a bit complicated. It's locked in a cage and reserved for people who hurt me one way or the other, because this part of me has nothing to do with the happy kink world.

I could do without 2, but why would I? Muahahaha!
Seriously, the older I get, the more it loses its appeal. The hunt is still interesting, but then...

Reverence. Hm. No. Wouldn't be on my list at all. I would have as much fun if she would spit in my face. Obedience is the key, not what she thinks of me when she obeys.

I need to be loved.

Hmmm, so you are under the impression vaginal intercourse as such is where all women derive the most pleasure, hence they begin to think it is about them and actually prefer it? Man, do you still have something to learn.

Catalina

School me then.

 

[Netzach]

1. Chivalry. A version of reverence. It's that position between subjugation and strength that "I'd go to the lions for you" thing. I need to feel it. I flourish when it's put to the test and passes. It calms and stabilizes me.

2. Poly. Nay, cuckolding even. I don't mind a partner having his cute little flings, but most importantly there is this understanding: I fuck who I want, when I want, if I want and why I want, and you like it. Period.

3. Sadism - I think it's more an issue of toughness or manhandling on my part, and frankly if they love it, it doesn't ruin it for me. I know that's not "real sadism" but I enjoy the engagement enough that it's not really about me proving a point with pain, it's more about the force expended. I like it.

4. Vaginal sex - here's an interesting tidbit - I find this the most overrated activity ever. I don't get off from just that, I fuck PIV purely for emotional bonding because that's the pleasure in it for me. Adding the emotional equation in with a cock I adore it's softly and subtly sublime. With less intimate contacts - It's nice. It's nice like walking down to the bay and watching the sunset is nice. I get more out of ass sex, oral sex, toys, hands, and filthy talking while rubbing myself on someone's leg than I do out of PIV from a purely physical standpoint.

 

[Marquis]

I get more out of ass sex, oral sex, toys, hands, and filthy talking while rubbing myself on someone's leg than I do out of PIV from a purely physical standpoint.

You answer my humiliating questions about an incident that fills you with shame while I jerk off is one of my favorite games ever.

 

[KoPilot]

I uh... designed S a giant robut alter-ego so I could draw macrofuel of us.

So how 'bout them Dodgers?

 

[sb2009]

ah well. I like having my vagina fucked. It's not the only way I like to be fucked, but I think I would miss it if I couldn't get. But perhaps that is because I have sex with my husband and the fun/fucking/love/bonding is all tied together with the getting my ass beat part.

While everyone's sexuality is thier own, obviously, I am glad I have a partner who is ok with me getting pleasure out of sex.

 

[Primalex]

Hmmm, so you are under the impression vaginal intercourse as such is where all women derive the most pleasure

No, this wasn't written.

I wonder how you can turn "most women derive pleasure" into "all women derive most pleasure" without deliberate misunderstanding...?

 

[catalina_francisco]

No, this wasn't written.

I wonder how you can turn "most women derive pleasure" into "all women h, picky tonight are we?

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

School me then.

LOL, I am sure you are doing just fine and know women derive pleasure from many varied things, and in various areas. Personally I can orgasm much easier from being ass fucked, giving blow jobs and at times breast play, then standard old vagina poking any day.

Catalina

 

[SimonBrooke]

I shall attempt a serious response to this. Here's my list:

Control: I don't need a woman to be malleably submissive. I prefer some degree of push-back, of resistance, of struggle. But I want to control our sexual interaction. For me the delight in bondage is that it robs her as agency. In a recent thread about objectification subs talked about enjoying the idea that as fucktoy they might receive no pleasure at all. That isn't what I want. I don't want her not to orgasm, I want to make her orgasm - but under my control.

Mastery: related to control is mastery. I want to be able to play her like a virtuoso in his instrument. I want to bring her to more intense orgasm, more frequently, than anyone else ever has or ever will after me. I actually take (a lot) more pleasure from the woman's orgasm than from my own

Sadism: I do have a streak of sadism. It is part of me. I cannot deny it without denying myself. At the same time I find it a troubling part of my character. If I could not find a woman who got some positive enjoyment out of fear and pain, I would prefer to remain celibate (fortunately it seems I have found her).

Protection: it's important to me that although I may hurt and frighten her, no-one else does while she's mine; and that when I play with her, although I try to provoke intense experiences of fear, she actually comes to no lasting harm. Being the protector seems to me as much a part of dominance as any other aspect of it - dominance without protection seems just odd to me.

Contra the Marquis, while I take her arse and her mouth to establish and remind her of my possession of her, I mostly take her cunt for my pleasure. Vaginal sex is what gets me off most. I am and have always been sterile, but one of my great fantasies - the only one I'll never realise - is impregnation. It's not that I want children - I don't - but to impregnate a woman would be an act of great power.

Again, I don't want to be revered. Liked and respected, yes, but revered? I'd get the giggles. I wouldn't be able to take it seriously. And polygamy? Both my new plaything and I are interested in dual and triple penetration, and I shall arrange, stage manage, and direct those experiences for her (and, of course, participate). I also, at some stage, want to force her to go down on another woman while I fuck her. But my focus in both those things is on my plaything. It's her experience I'm creating, and her response that I will enjoy.

Group sex for its own sake? Meh. It is better (for me) to craft the perfect experience for one woman than to mildly mess with many.

 

[brioche]

Seems to me, to be fairly unchanged through the years.

I pondered for quite a while before deciding to respond to this, especially since I seem to be chronically short on time this month.

I feel that in order to give your statements fair consideration I would have to accept this statement as truth.
If what you have presented on this board is a fairly consistent depiction of your life and views as you see them at that point in time, than I cannot agree with the above statement.

As such, the rest of your post is a snapshot of your views at this time, and to that I say - interesting. I will limit myself to that comment as so many of my betters have already made the comments I might have made.

Also, I'm fing tired and need to sleep.

 

[rinka]

I shall attempt a serious response to this. Here's my list:

Control: I don't need a woman to be malleably submissive. I prefer some degree of push-back, of resistance, of struggle. But I want to control our sexual interaction. For me the delight in bondage is that it robs her as agency. In a recent thread about objectification subs talked about enjoying the idea that as fucktoy they might receive no pleasure at all. That isn't what I want. I don't want her not to orgasm, I want to make her orgasm - but under my control.

Mastery: related to control is mastery. I want to be able to play her like a virtuoso in his instrument. I want to bring her to more intense orgasm, more frequently, than anyone else ever has or ever will after me. I actually take (a lot) more pleasure from the woman's orgasm than from my own

Sadism: I do have a streak of sadism. It is part of me. I cannot deny it without denying myself. At the same time I find it a troubling part of my character. If I could not find a woman who got some positive enjoyment out of fear and pain, I would prefer to remain celibate (fortunately it seems I have found her).

Protection: it's important to me that although I may hurt and frighten her, no-one else does while she's mine; and that when I play with her, although I try to provoke intense experiences of fear, she actually comes to no lasting harm. Being the protector seems to me as much a part of dominance as any other aspect of it - dominance without protection seems just odd to me.

(...)

Mmmm... lucky girl...

 

[Netzach]

You answer my humiliating questions about an incident that fills you with shame while I jerk off is one of my favorite games ever.

You answer my humiliating questions about an incident in your past that fills you with shame while you jerk off is one of mine. I really do get off on that and if someone starts bumping into my pussy at a time like that I just tie them down and they don't get to jerk it then.

 

[Marquis]

I shall attempt a serious response to this. Here's my list:

Control: I don't need a woman to be malleably submissive. I prefer some degree of push-back, of resistance, of struggle. But I want to control our sexual interaction. For me the delight in bondage is that it robs her as agency. In a recent thread about objectification subs talked about enjoying the idea that as fucktoy they might receive no pleasure at all. That isn't what I want. I don't want her not to orgasm, I want to make her orgasm - but under my control.

Mastery: related to control is mastery. I want to be able to play her like a virtuoso in his instrument. I want to bring her to more intense orgasm, more frequently, than anyone else ever has or ever will after me. I actually take (a lot) more pleasure from the woman's orgasm than from my own

Sadism: I do have a streak of sadism. It is part of me. I cannot deny it without denying myself. At the same time I find it a troubling part of my character. If I could not find a woman who got some positive enjoyment out of fear and pain, I would prefer to remain celibate (fortunately it seems I have found her).

Protection: it's important to me that although I may hurt and frighten her, no-one else does while she's mine; and that when I play with her, although I try to provoke intense experiences of fear, she actually comes to no lasting harm. Being the protector seems to me as much a part of dominance as any other aspect of it - dominance without protection seems just odd to me.

Contra the Marquis, while I take her arse and her mouth to establish and remind her of my possession of her, I mostly take her cunt for my pleasure. Vaginal sex is what gets me off most. I am and have always been sterile, but one of my great fantasies - the only one I'll never realise - is impregnation. It's not that I want children - I don't - but to impregnate a woman would be an act of great power.

Again, I don't want to be revered. Liked and respected, yes, but revered? I'd get the giggles. I wouldn't be able to take it seriously. And polygamy? Both my new plaything and I are interested in dual and triple penetration, and I shall arrange, stage manage, and direct those experiences for her (and, of course, participate). I also, at some stage, want to force her to go down on another woman while I fuck her. But my focus in both those things is on my plaything. It's her experience I'm creating, and her response that I will enjoy.

Group sex for its own sake? Meh. It is better (for me) to craft the perfect experience for one woman than to mildly mess with many.

Thanks for your responses.

Always interesting to see how different people are wired.

The idea of impregnation is a big turn on for me too.

I pondered for quite a while before deciding to respond to this, especially since I seem to be chronically short on time this month.

I feel that in order to give your statements fair consideration I would have to accept this statement as truth.
If what you have presented on this board is a fairly consistent depiction of your life and views as you see them at that point in time, than I cannot agree with the above statement.

As such, the rest of your post is a snapshot of your views at this time, and to that I say - interesting. I will limit myself to that comment as so many of my betters have already made the comments I might have made.

Also, I'm fing tired and need to sleep.

Have I contradicted these comments in the past?

 

[Mohousewife]

I shall attempt a serious response to this. Here's my list:

Control: I don't need a woman to be malleably submissive. I prefer some degree of push-back, of resistance, of struggle. But I want to control our sexual interaction. For me the delight in bondage is that it robs her as agency. In a recent thread about objectification subs talked about enjoying the idea that as fucktoy they might receive no pleasure at all. That isn't what I want. I don't want her not to orgasm, I want to make her orgasm - but under my control.

Mastery: related to control is mastery. I want to be able to play her like a virtuoso in his instrument. I want to bring her to more intense orgasm, more frequently, than anyone else ever has or ever will after me. I actually take (a lot) more pleasure from the woman's orgasm than from my own

Sadism: I do have a streak of sadism. It is part of me. I cannot deny it without denying myself. At the same time I find it a troubling part of my character. If I could not find a woman who got some positive enjoyment out of fear and pain, I would prefer to remain celibate (fortunately it seems I have found her).

Protection: it's important to me that although I may hurt and frighten her, no-one else does while she's mine; and that when I play with her, although I try to provoke intense experiences of fear, she actually comes to no lasting harm. Being the protector seems to me as much a part of dominance as any other aspect of it - dominance without protection seems just odd to me.

Contra the Marquis, while I take her arse and her mouth to establish and remind her of my possession of her, I mostly take her cunt for my pleasure. Vaginal sex is what gets me off most. I am and have always been sterile, but one of my great fantasies - the only one I'll never realise - is impregnation. It's not that I want children - I don't - but to impregnate a woman would be an act of great power.

Again, I don't want to be revered. Liked and respected, yes, but revered? I'd get the giggles. I wouldn't be able to take it seriously. And polygamy? Both my new plaything and I are interested in dual and triple penetration, and I shall arrange, stage manage, and direct those experiences for her (and, of course, participate). I also, at some stage, want to force her to go down on another woman while I fuck her. But my focus in both those things is on my plaything. It's her experience I'm creating, and her response that I will enjoy.

Group sex for its own sake? Meh. It is better (for me) to craft the perfect experience for one woman than to mildly mess with many.

I have to agree..."Lucky Girl"

 

[NomadLady]

I shall attempt a serious response to this. Here's my list:

Control: I don't need a woman to be malleably submissive. I prefer some degree of push-back, of resistance, of struggle. But I want to control our sexual interaction. For me the delight in bondage is that it robs her as agency. In a recent thread about objectification subs talked about enjoying the idea that as fucktoy they might receive no pleasure at all. That isn't what I want. I don't want her not to orgasm, I want to make her orgasm - but under my control.

Mastery: related to control is mastery. I want to be able to play her like a virtuoso in his instrument. I want to bring her to more intense orgasm, more frequently, than anyone else ever has or ever will after me. I actually take (a lot) more pleasure from the woman's orgasm than from my own

Sadism: I do have a streak of sadism. It is part of me. I cannot deny it without denying myself. At the same time I find it a troubling part of my character. If I could not find a woman who got some positive enjoyment out of fear and pain, I would prefer to remain celibate (fortunately it seems I have found her).

Protection: it's important to me that although I may hurt and frighten her, no-one else does while she's mine; and that when I play with her, although I try to provoke intense experiences of fear, she actually comes to no lasting harm. Being the protector seems to me as much a part of dominance as any other aspect of it - dominance without protection seems just odd to me.

Contra the Marquis, while I take her arse and her mouth to establish and remind her of my possession of her, I mostly take her cunt for my pleasure. Vaginal sex is what gets me off most. I am and have always been sterile, but one of my great fantasies - the only one I'll never realise - is impregnation. It's not that I want children - I don't - but to impregnate a woman would be an act of great power.

Again, I don't want to be revered. Liked and respected, yes, but revered? I'd get the giggles. I wouldn't be able to take it seriously. And polygamy? Both my new plaything and I are interested in dual and triple penetration, and I shall arrange, stage manage, and direct those experiences for her (and, of course, participate). I also, at some stage, want to force her to go down on another woman while I fuck her. But my focus in both those things is on my plaything. It's her experience I'm creating, and her response that I will enjoy.

Group sex for its own sake? Meh. It is better (for me) to craft the perfect experience for one woman than to mildly mess with many.

I also have to agree here....VERY lucky lady that serves you....

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I shall attempt a serious response to this. Here's my list:

Control: I don't need a woman to be malleably submissive. I prefer some degree of push-back, of resistance, of struggle. But I want to control our sexual interaction. For me the delight in bondage is that it robs her as agency. In a recent thread about objectification subs talked about enjoying the idea that as fucktoy they might receive no pleasure at all. That isn't what I want. I don't want her not to orgasm, I want to make her orgasm - but under my control.

Mastery: related to control is mastery. I want to be able to play her like a virtuoso in his instrument. I want to bring her to more intense orgasm, more frequently, than anyone else ever has or ever will after me. I actually take (a lot) more pleasure from the woman's orgasm than from my own

Sadism: I do have a streak of sadism. It is part of me. I cannot deny it without denying myself. At the same time I find it a troubling part of my character. If I could not find a woman who got some positive enjoyment out of fear and pain, I would prefer to remain celibate (fortunately it seems I have found her).

Protection: it's important to me that although I may hurt and frighten her, no-one else does while she's mine; and that when I play with her, although I try to provoke intense experiences of fear, she actually comes to no lasting harm. Being the protector seems to me as much a part of dominance as any other aspect of it - dominance without protection seems just odd to me.

Contra the Marquis, while I take her arse and her mouth to establish and remind her of my possession of her, I mostly take her cunt for my pleasure. Vaginal sex is what gets me off most. I am and have always been sterile, but one of my great fantasies - the only one I'll never realise - is impregnation. It's not that I want children - I don't - but to impregnate a woman would be an act of great power.

Again, I don't want to be revered. Liked and respected, yes, but revered? I'd get the giggles. I wouldn't be able to take it seriously. And polygamy? Both my new plaything and I are interested in dual and triple penetration, and I shall arrange, stage manage, and direct those experiences for her (and, of course, participate). I also, at some stage, want to force her to go down on another woman while I fuck her. But my focus in both those things is on my plaything. It's her experience I'm creating, and her response that I will enjoy.

Group sex for its own sake? Meh. It is better (for me) to craft the perfect experience for one woman than to mildly mess with many.

Sounds like my Daddy, if you minus the Mastery section.

And he likes groups etc, but mostly it's about him. Once or twice I've been lucky to score some 'all about me' fun.

 

[Marquis]

Honestly, I am 28 years old and I really have no clue how to make a woman orgasm.

 

[ownedsubgal]

i don't really view the ability to bring a woman to orgasm as "mastery," and i would be completely incapable of serving or pleasing such a Dominant. when i think of mastery of another human being, i think of complete control and possession of the very soul...being instrumental to another person's development and growth, their ability to thrive or even function. they can't run or hide from it, they are irrevocably owned. i also think mastery goes hand in hand with another component of Marquis' sexuality: reverence. i revere the one who owns me, because of the depth of power and control he has over my life.

 

[Netzach]

Honestly, I am 28 years old and I really have no clue how to make a woman orgasm.

Female partners are always a slight shock to me, as I learn yet again that whatever works on me is unlikely to work on anyone else, and whatever worked on the last is unlikely to work on this one.

Males are, of course, the same, but less pronounced in their differences. It's not as simple and uniform as a lot of people claim, but it's not as alarmingly confusing either.

And I find "make" and "orgasm" problematic, kind of like "make" and "hypnotize" - generally you have some level of cooperation.

 

[SimonBrooke]

Honestly, I am 28 years old and I really have no clue how to make a woman orgasm.

WHAT!?

Time you learned, boy.

Each woman is different, of course. Each woman has her own particular triggers and quirks. But the majority of women - in Scotland, anyway - have never had someone concentrate and focus on just bringing them to orgasm. You get a woman who didn't know she could orgasm to orgasm, one who didn't know she could multi-orgasm to multi-orgasm, one who didn't know she could squirt to squirt, and you have putty in your hands.

Very happy putty.

Do that, and you will find the rewards are remarkable.

Study your woman. Learn her responses. They're more complex and subtle than us, of course, but they're not very complex or subtle. Remember than most of sex happens between the ears, not between the legs. Stimulate her mind, not just her genitals. It isn't hard.

And wow, is it worth it!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

WHAT!?

Time you learned, boy.

I get the feeling that Marquis doesn't care to learn.

Question though Marquis, do you care if she takes care of it herself, after you're done?