Discovered how to get over a truly negative feedback comment

[pizzaboyatdoor]

When I read the following comment as the first one posted to a brand new, just-went-live, chapter of my series the other day, my heart took a wooden stake at the same time my blood pressure skyrocketed.

Language too cliche too often: sounded like author was searching for way to solicit horniness rather than real feelings. Oh, and of course the kid sleeping through all of that was a bit far fetched.

Of course it was made by the infamous Literotica member "anonymous" and what hurt the most, was it was my first truly negative one after almost 300,000 hits on 22 chapters.

After I nervously re-read my own work for the 20th time and finally calmed down a little; I decided to go look for another opinion of it. Having become email buddies with another author doing a very highly read & rated gay romance series also, I decided to ask her opinion....and she gave me an unvarnished critique that made me feel lots better.

I told her in one of the emails we traded about it, that I really wished I could say what I felt: "Don't post something like that 'anonymously'....reach down and find your balls and use your REAL name and give me a link to the MUCH better stories YOU have submitted and gotten pubished....asshole!"

Of course, I only let that out in our communications and would never do it directly with someone; but needed to be able to rant properly. Finding some solace was good....especially from an empathetic but honest person who had also recently been subjected to a similar; but highly homophobic; public attack on her work.

Surprisingly, the negative comment also stirred up the muse so much, that I cranked out three more chapters in five days; have a fourth one started; and finalized the subjects and outline of the nine I will write to bring the series to a suitable conclusion....and set up the sequel.

Oh hell yeah! "Tell me what a piece of crap I have written and make my fingers fly even faster on the keyboard!!!" is my new mantra for when the next one shows up.

I read somewhere once, that if you don't get a complaint once in a while, you aren't staying busy enough. That works for me too.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Of course you were looking for ways to solicit horniness. That's what erotica is FOR.

Although a kid sleeping through while the adults had wild monkey sex ... that would be total wish fulfillment writing.

 

[Bebeslut]

I just rely on myself and on the few positive comments I am able to attract with my writing.
Some of the commentators -- not enough! -- have told me how good my prose is, and I tell myself, "These are the ones who get it."
Many of the negative comments I get really do reveal the silliness, and possibly low taste, of the commentators who made them.

 

[pizzaboyatdoor]

Of course you were looking for ways to solicit horniness. That's what erotica is FOR.

DUH!!!! Thank you very much, Stella.

Now can I borrow that 2x4 and use it on my commentator to help him along with his evasive hard on?

Although a kid sleeping through while the adults had wild monkey sex ... that would be total wish fulfillment writing.

Since my only kids that have occasionally interupted a good roll in the hay, have four legs and are very furry, I have never had to suffer thru the "wonderful" experience of hearing "I want a glass of water," from the foot of the bed at the most inopportune time. Plus....it's real easy to banish their asses to the backyard without guilt or simply shut the door tight since they don't have opposable thumbs to be able to work the knob.

The "far fetched" comment was because this clown's sexual possibilities didn't include the ability of a 23 year old college boy's nocturnal emmision being helped along by cuddling and simple frottage from his 18 year old partner; and still remaining completely asleep in the dream that created some serious morning wood.

 

[Stella_Omega]

DUH!!!! Thank you very much, Stella.

Now can I borrow that 2x4 and use it on my commentator to help him along with his evasive hard on?



Since my only kids that have occasionally interupted a good roll in the hay, have four legs and are very furry, I have never had to suffer thru the "wonderful" experience of hearing "I want a glass of water," from the foot of the bed at the most inopportune time. Plus....it's real easy to banish their asses to the backyard without guilt or simply shut the door tight since they don't have opposable thumbs to be able to work the knob.

The "far fetched" comment was because this clown's sexual possibilities didn't include the ability of a 23 year old college boy's nocturnal emmision being helped along by cuddling and simple frottage from his 18 year old partner; and still remaining completely asleep in the dream that created some serious morning wood.

Oh, who gives a fuck whether or not that's far fetched, it's totally a hot fantasy.

(google somnophilia)

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Why dont you try growing up.

 

[Boxlicker101]

When I read the following comment as the first one posted to a brand new, just-went-live, chapter of my series the other day, my heart took a wooden stake at the same time my blood pressure skyrocketed.

Quote:
Language too cliche too often: sounded like author was searching for way to solicit horniness rather than real feelings. Oh, and of course the kid sleeping through all of that was a bit far fetched.

Of course it was made by the infamous Literotica member "anonymous" and what hurt the most, was it was my first truly negative one after almost 300,000 hits on 22 chapters.

After I nervously re-read my own work for the 20th time and finally calmed down a little; I decided to go look for another opinion of it. Having become email buddies with another author doing a very highly read & rated gay romance series also, I decided to ask her opinion....and she gave me an unvarnished critique that made me feel lots better.

I told her in one of the emails we traded about it, that I really wished I could say what I felt: "Don't post something like that 'anonymously'....reach down and find your balls and use your REAL name and give me a link to the MUCH better stories YOU have submitted and gotten pubished....asshole!"

Of course, I only let that out in our communications and would never do it directly with someone; but needed to be able to rant properly. Finding some solace was good....especially from an empathetic but honest person who had also recently been subjected to a similar; but highly homophobic; public attack on her work.

Surprisingly, the negative comment also stirred up the muse so much, that I cranked out three more chapters in five days; have a fourth one started; and finalized the subjects and outline of the nine I will write to bring the series to a suitable conclusion....and set up the sequel.

Oh hell yeah! "Tell me what a piece of crap I have written and make my fingers fly even faster on the keyboard!!!" is my new mantra for when the next one shows up.

I read somewhere once, that if you don't get a complaint once in a while, you aren't staying busy enough. That works for me too.

If that's your idea of a negative comment, you have led a sheltered life on Literotica. If you want to see negative and nasty comments, read some of them in the Loving Wives Category. I would call the one you received constructive criticism, because it was advising on how the story could have been better.

 

[michchick98]

Yeah, what Box said. I've had some negative comments too, by that ever famous Anonymous. It's good that you channeled your frustration into writing. Some writers I've seen will give up completely with a negative comment or two.

 

[TxRad]

If that's your idea of a negative comment, you have led a sheltered life on Literotica. If you want to see negative and nasty comments, read some of them in the Loving Wives Category. I would call the one you received constructive criticism, because it was advising on how the story coud have been better.

And we won't mention a little thing like death threats.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Most LIT 'writers' maybe oughta give it up; maybe take up Paint By The Numbers naked pix.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Go read some of mine on my loving wives entries, then step back a little and be glad the single one you have is not all that bad.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=704709&page=submissions

There's a link to my submission page. Feel free to browse.