"ummm... it's a cock ring, actually" Coming out to the straights.

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So, I'm making this kink jewellery and I after an initial clean up, I showed the bangle and the cock ring to my work colleague (also a friend and mentor).

"what a lovely christening bangle!"
"umm... it's a cock ring actually..."

Silence as it's placed back in the box with fingertips.

anyway, the website is going to be seen by the family any day now. Mr TRB has said they are going to freak at me being a perv. Someone else suggested that I say I'm aiming for a neglected niche market.

Just wondering how others came 'out' to close (and very straight) family about being a little less than vanilla.

 

[Homburg]

After a question that I found a bit too probing: "Do you really want to know? Really? Because, if you do, I'll tell you. I'll answer any question you have. Just remember, you asked."

Shortly after MIS moved in, a buddy of mine what knows nothing about my predilections came over to see. He knocked on the door, and MIS answered. She sent him tot he garage door, as I was in my office. He says to me, "Dude, your babysitter is HOT." I shut the door and said, "Uh, she's not not my babysitter, man. That's my girlfriend." He blinked a coupla times and asked, "But what about [viv]?" "That's her girlfriend too." If looks could kill, I would not be typing this post today.

 

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After a question that I found a bit too probing: "Do you really want to know? Really? Because, if you do, I'll tell you. I'll answer any question you have. Just remember, you asked."

Shortly after MIS moved in, a buddy of mine what knows nothing about my predilections came over to see. He knocked on the door, and MIS answered. She sent him tot he garage door, as I was in my office. He says to me, "Dude, your babysitter is HOT." I shut the door and said, "Uh, she's not not my babysitter, man. That's my girlfriend." He blinked a coupla times and asked, "But what about [viv]?" "That's her girlfriend too." If looks could kill, I would not be typing this post today.

yeah... thing is, I'm kinda putting it 'out there' with the website. And I'm thinking more about my mum and highly prejudicial and judgemental brother. The kids... well the oldest will probably be ok about it, the youngest will really really freak out.

Friends and acquaintances, I'm not too bothered about. As it is the mister is having a hard time coming to terms with it all.

 

[Homburg]

Well, I think the line is drawn based on the amount of sexual/kinky stuff you'll be selling. If it is only a piece or two, you can claim that it is there because it was requested. Providing an "oft"-requested item to customers, even a blue one, is not necessarily waving the "KINKY PERVERT HERE" flag. All it says is that you are open-minded and looking to make money.

When you start making solid silver dildos from castings of your customers' wangs, well, then you're indisputably kinky.

(If you do this, I want a by-line credit for the idea )

 

[zarngash]

yeah... thing is, I'm kinda putting it 'out there' with the website. And I'm thinking more about my mum and highly prejudicial and judgemental brother.

It sounds like an opportunity for reprieve and silence from them. You can still love them even if they won't talk to you. . . What a brilliant strategy you've come up without even trying! Bravo! I wish I'd have thought of that first.

Here are a few thoughts on the subject - Is there really need at this time to identify the use of said art? Art is art, functionality notwithstanding.

Or, if you really want to stretch the art inspirational angle, call it what it is, but discuss aboriginal penis sheaths and how this is a modern tribe's version. . . yadda et cetra la la. . .

Good luck!

Would you share a photo of your finished work?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

So, I'm making this kink jewellery and I after an initial clean up, I showed the bangle and the cock ring to my work colleague (also a friend and mentor).

"what a lovely christening bangle!"
"umm... it's a cock ring actually..."

Silence as it's placed back in the box with fingertips.

anyway, the website is going to be seen by the family any day now. Mr TRB has said they are going to freak at me being a perv. Someone else suggested that I say I'm aiming for a neglected niche market.

Just wondering how others came 'out' to close (and very straight) family about being a little less than vanilla.

Your jewellry was pretty. Don't worry about what they say.

When you start making solid silver dildos from castings of your customers' wangs, well, then you're indisputably kinky.

(If you do this, I want a by-line credit for the idea )

http://www.cloneawilly.com/

It's not solid silver, but you can get glow in the dark!

 

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Your jewellry was pretty. Don't worry about what they say.




http://www.cloneawilly.com/

It's not solid silver, but you can get glow in the dark!

I know it's lovely. I'm getting comments on the prototypes all the time. I just don't want to upset my mum.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I know it's lovely. I'm getting comments on the prototypes all the time. I just don't want to upset my mum.

Yup. Fair enough.

But, does making these things necessarily make you a pervert?

It's like... a vegetarian serving meat in a restaurant. They may not like it, but they're providing for someone who does.. and making a few dollars on the side.

Would that make her feel better?

 

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Yup. Fair enough.

But, does making these things necessarily make you a pervert?

It's like... a vegetarian serving meat in a restaurant. They may not like it, but they're providing for someone who does.. and making a few dollars on the side.

Would that make her feel better?

it's the angle I'm aiming for. I just know I'm going to get the feminists rant off her for chaining women up.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

it's the angle I'm aiming for. I just know I'm going to get the feminists rant off her for chaining women up.

Mmmm, it's not so much the feminist rant that I'm worried about with my mum. It's the 'you deserve better than that' rant.

 

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Mmmm, it's not so much the feminist rant that I'm worried about with my mum. It's the 'you deserve better than that' rant.

I don't think that she'd see it as me being shackled (I just know the words she's gonna use) but of me doing the 'oppressing'. Mr TRB is concerned that she's gonna think him a wifebeater.

 

[zarngash]

Sweet! Lost wax casting has always fascinated me.

Thanks for sharing the photos and website. Now I have a better understanding of your vision. I think the market is ripe for high(er)-end accessories and toys.

Best of luck!

 

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Sweet! Lost wax casting has always fascinated me.

Thanks for sharing the photos and website. Now I have a better understanding of your vision. I think the market is ripe for high(er)-end accessories and toys.

Best of luck!

thanks!

my caster half hates me, I think. he gets a little resigned lilt to his voice when I call. he did say that my pebbles have cast beautifully though.

out of curiosity, what do you think of the site? One person said it was nice and easy to navigate (apart from the confusing entry page which I'm going to fix) but another said it looked like it was cheaply done and very concrete block looking. I want it to look classy but also because I work in disability studies I want it to be as accessible as possible, so black backgrounds fro example would be a no no.

I'm also not sure of the text. As I was writing it I felt I was getting all unctuous.

 

[Homburg]

ok, here's the site as it stands... there aren't any pics up yet though..

www.gentle-medusa.com

it has a distinct bdsm slant. I suspect it will be the collar and leashes that will rattle my mother most... There are also what are euphemistically called 'massage rings' in the pipeline.

Well, okay then. Yeah, kind of unavoidable. You can try for the kink-aware professional angle, but if that much of your work is kink-related it probably won't fly.

Personally, I wouldn't really sweat it. Art is art, and people that can't dig it are free to hit other sites.

and I actually suggested the idea of solid silver dildos to mr trb. he said that no one would fork out for them due to cost and that who would want a silver cast vibrator of their cock anyway? only someone who was really really egocentric would buy that for someone.

True, and of course there is noooo one in BDSM that is egocentric enough to want a solid silver copy of a cock. And, even if there were, BDSM people never spend loads of money on things other people find frivolous.

Oh, wait...

 

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Well, okay then. Yeah, kind of unavoidable. You can try for the kink-aware professional angle, but if that much of your work is kink-related it probably won't fly.

Personally, I wouldn't really sweat it. Art is art, and people that can't dig it are free to hit other sites.

I will report back when it's properly live!


True, and of course there is noooo one in BDSM that is egocentric enough to want a solid silver copy of a cock. And, even if there were, BDSM people never spend loads of money on things other people find frivolous.

Oh, wait...

see? this was exactly the argument I used. I think people ~would~ want one, even if it cost them in the high hundreds. of course, the bigger the guy is, the more it's gonna cost.

I do really think that my caster would have a blue fit though

 

[Sir_Winston54]

.... of course there is noooo one in BDSM that is egocentric enough to want a solid silver copy of a cock. And, even if there were, BDSM people never spend loads of money on things other people find frivolous.

Oh, wait...

Or egocentric (penocentric?) enough to have an entire thread devoted to their cock...


Have you put your order in to Kybele yet, HC?

 

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Or egocentric (penocentric?) enough to have an entire thread devoted to their cock...


Have you put your order in to Kybele yet, HC?

threads are cheap and you can massage your personal statistics. a silver dong is only cheap(ish) if you are not very big.

plus if was an order off a really hot and sexy poster, I might be tempted to road test it. That could be off putting for some.

 

[Stella_Omega]

thanks!

my caster half hates me, I think. he gets a little resigned lilt to his voice when I call. he did say that my pebbles have cast beautifully though.

out of curiosity, what do you think of the site? One person said it was nice and easy to navigate (apart from the confusing entry page which I'm going to fix) but another said it looked like it was cheaply done and very concrete block looking. I want it to look classy but also because I work in disability studies I want it to be as accessible as possible, so black backgrounds fro example would be a no no.

I'm also not sure of the text. As I was writing it I felt I was getting all unctuous.

Kybele, I have some very strong opinions about the site, and ideas I would like to share with you. Your PMs are off, want them here?

Also copyediting...

 

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Kybele, I have some very strong opinions about the site, and ideas I would like to share with you. Your PMs are off, want them here?

Also copyediting...

here or in PM is good. I promise I won't cry.

 

[midwestyankee]

And, even if there were, BDSM people never spend loads of money on things other people find frivolous.

Oh, wait...

Note that this also comes in a gold-plated version. Not exactly a bdsm-specific item, but any sex "toy" that rings up at $1,300 US is a serious bit of indulgence.

 

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Note that this also comes in a gold-plated version. Not exactly a bdsm-specific item, but any sex "toy" that rings up at $1,300 US is a serious bit of indulgence.

you can actually get solid gold ones... with diamonds!

http://www.jimmyjane.com/shop/littlegoldeternity-p-60.html

 

[midwestyankee]

you can actually get solid gold ones... with diamonds!

http://www.jimmyjane.com/shop/littlegoldeternity-p-60.html

What price, a gold and diamond-studded orgasm? Good find.

 

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What price, a gold and diamond-studded orgasm? Good find.

I've been coveting jimmyjane vibes for a long time. it was knowing they did replacement motors that made me think of making silver cock shaped ones.

Personally I like a bit more heft in a dildo or vibe than those give.

 

[midwestyankee]

I've been coveting jimmyjane vibes for a long time. it was knowing they did replacement motors that made me think of making silver cock shaped ones.

Personally I like a bit more heft in a dildo or vibe than those give.

I know people who wouldn't give a damn about the quality of the motor. They'd be transfixed by the gold and diamonds. Who needs a motor when you have gold and diamonds? Drop that little toy in the Prada bag and off you go to shop for the day.