How To Start Slave Relationship HELP??

[speardman]

For years I have had sexual relationships but they have not satisfied me. I am a male trying to establish a submissive relationship to a female who will control me with her feet as bait (my weakness). However, I have either been unsure of or unable to start one of these relationships thus far.

Can someone help teach me the way to begin?:

 

[satindesire]

For years I have had sexual relationships but they have not satisfied me. I am a male trying to establish a submissive relationship to a female who will control me with her feet as bait (my weakness). However, I have either been unsure of or unable to start one of these relationships thus far.

Can someone help teach me the way to begin?:

The easiest way to find exactly what you need is to first realize that BDSM and the stuff that turns you on shouldn't be your first priority in looking for a partner.

It's far easier to find someone you're interested in, in a vanilla way, then introducing them to your kinks once the relationship has established some sort of bond.

If you're looking for just a Domme to give you foot play, then going to a professional would be far simpler, albeit in the long run not emotionally satisfying. If you're looking for a loving long-term relationship, looking for women that interest you beyond sexual stuff is the thing you should focus on first.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Will you pick up the signals from her feet via the fillings in your teeth?

 

[Etoile]

I agree with satindesire. For something that specific, you'd be better off looking for a pro.

If you want a relationship, go for it, but make sure she knows about your desires. Do NOT make it the first thing you say, get to know her first and become close. But before you get really serious, you should at least drop the hint about your fetish and give her the option of continuing or not.

 

[eastern sun]

I'm going to echo the advice of seeking out a professional to get started, mostly so you can get comfortable with your own desires.

I also want to share a little story. A very sweet and shy man approached me at a club once, wanting to worship my feet. My knee-jerk reaction was "no thanks," because I'd just walked into an unfamiliar place, wasn't used to that kind of attention and felt equally shy and uncomfortable. He quietly demurred, and I have spent the last 18 years wishing I had said "yes." (I really do think of him often and warmly.)

I guess I'm trying to say that even when you finally approach women with your desires, they may not fully recognize their own interest in the activity until they've had a chance to get used to the idea.

 

[speardman]

The easiest way to find exactly what you need is to first realize that BDSM and the stuff that turns you on shouldn't be your first priority in looking for a partner.

It's far easier to find someone you're interested in, in a vanilla way, then introducing them to your kinks once the relationship has established some sort of bond.

If you're looking for just a Domme to give you foot play, then going to a professional would be far simpler, albeit in the long run not emotionally satisfying. If you're looking for a loving long-term relationship, looking for women that interest you beyond sexual stuff is the thing you should focus on first.

True, very true. However, my insatiable lust for a woman's foot is secondary to the desire to have one above me: terrorizing, withholding, and humiliating me. I suspect that these sensations are not present when "working w/" a pro.


I also have an uncontrollable attribute as of late which has me approaching many sensual females wearing open toed shoes w/ colored nails and immediately offering myself to them.

Unfortunately, the (very) few who accept do not take it seriously and thus would not last.

Point me in a direction?

 

[Anordinaryjoe]

Great thread.

 

[Etoile]

True, very true. However, my insatiable lust for a woman's foot is secondary to the desire to have one above me: terrorizing, withholding, and humiliating me. I suspect that these sensations are not present when "working w/" a pro.


I also have an uncontrollable attribute as of late which has me approaching many sensual females wearing open toed shoes w/ colored nails and immediately offering myself to them.

Unfortunately, the (very) few who accept do not take it seriously and thus would not last.

Point me in a direction?

If you want a relationship, you need to focus on HER. Right now the focus is 100% on you and your fetishes. If you cannot control yourself to the point where you can meet a woman - not accost her, meet her - then you really can only hope to realize this with a professional. You'd be surprised, though, how a pro can make you feel.

 

[fuckmeat]

True, very true. However, my insatiable lust for a woman's foot is secondary to the desire to have one above me: terrorizing, withholding, and humiliating me. I suspect that these sensations are not present when "working w/" a pro.

Ok, so you want a full time relationship where you identify as a slave? In that case you can post a personals ad here or on other fetish sites like collarme.com, alt.com or fetlife. You can also google for a 'munch' in your local area where kinky people meet regularly to network and chat.

I also have an uncontrollable attribute as of late which has me approaching many sensual females wearing open toed shoes w/ colored nails and immediately offering myself to them.

Unfortunately, the (very) few who accept do not take it seriously and thus would not last.

Point me in a direction?

Poppet, this is not going to get you anywhere. The odds of a random woman you encounter being into hetero dominance and foot worship, and in the market for a new submissive man are ludicrously small. You will get yourself a reputation as a weird, creepy pervert and rightly so. What you should be doing is seeking a dominant woman who enjoys humiliation play and you're looking in all the wrong places. Drag yourself away from the sale rail at your local shoe store and do yourself the courtesy of advertising for a domme who actually wants and would enjoy foot worship... before you get rewarded with your first restraining order or pepper spray experience.

 

[subwannabe]

I have to agree with satindesire here too. Funny, when I have given this same advice before in the past I usually get blasted with people saying you can't find what you want looking in the regular places, you have to look at bdsm communities. I really honestly believe that the majority of people have kink in them, even if it hasn't yet been brought out. Unless you are really out there on the ledge, you can work on a relationship first and see if that person is able to go down the road you want. If not, it's kind of like any other relationship, if it doesn't work out then you search for someone new. Obviously, not every relationship is going to work out.

 

[Essene]

If you want a relationship, you need to focus on HER. Right now the focus is 100% on you and your fetishes.

Emphatic "ditto"!

"Submissives" who are self-focused, and only want to work on their own fantasies usually alert the big honking red flag that says "They're just looking for wanking material. Self, run as quickly as you possibly can."

If you want the relationship, focus on the potential partner- if not, go see a professional, or someone who advertises that they are also only looking for wanking material.

 

[speardman]

I'm actually a pretty affable, outgoing guy. I seem to start relationships easily but I'm looking for that extra something.

...I can just imagine being tied up...teased and humiliated

 

[Etoile]

I also have an uncontrollable attribute as of late which has me approaching many sensual females wearing open toed shoes w/ colored nails and immediately offering myself to them.

Unfortunately, the (very) few who accept do not take it seriously and thus would not last.

I'm actually a pretty affable, outgoing guy. I seem to start relationships easily but I'm looking for that extra something.

One of these things is not like the other.