I want to please my mistress so much.... is there such a thing as too much ?

[MilwaukeeMike28]

I have met a new mistress. She is amazing and we have an incredible bond and chemistry. I have never wanted to please anyone so much in my life.

I know some women don't like men who are too into them.....

Is it possible to want to please her too much ? Should a subbie man play a little hard to get ?

Mike

 

[Kikori]

If it's a question about her limits and boundaries, doesn't it make more sense to ask her directly?

 

[infinity706]

I think part of it might be how many vanilla people get factored into all these generalizations. For D/s relationships, you have to revise some of the rules.

 

[Netzach]

Are you in a dating/romantic relationship or a primarily M/s one?

I expect absolutely no gamesmanship or bullshit in either kind of rel.

I expect complexities in dating and romance that are not there in strict M/s for me. In the former it's not rules being handed down so much as agreements. In M/s the agreement is that you agree with me.

Women do not like men who have the stink of desperation on them. If you are dating, chill out enough to be sure you're not *crowding* her. Read her body language and intonation.

If it's M/s and I don't want a slave in my presence at a given moment, he's accepted that he sees me on MY terms in the first place - his feelings about it are not the driving factor. If she has that sense of her own control it's also up to HER to correct anything that's not working for her - more so than in vanilla.

 

[minx1]

Congrats on finding a woman smart enough! lol

 

[BLoved]

Is it possible to want to please her too much ? Should a subbie man play a little hard to get ?

If you love her, and she loves you, why hide it?

If she loves you and respects you as a person, she's thoughtful when it comes to your feelings, doesn't jeopardize your safety, then isn't she deserving of your best?

Loving each other is about inspiring the best in each other.

 

[fuckmeat]

If she has that sense of her own control it's also up to HER to correct anything that's not working for her - more so than in vanilla.

Yep, that. If you're only submissive in the bedroom and the usual relationship rules apply outside it, then yes, you could be in danger of laying it on a bit thick. If however, she is Mistress at all times and has a more general authority over you, it's not unreasonable to expect clear direction about the type and level of service she wants.

If however, you're the former and trying to be the latter, you should sit down with her and have a frank discussion about how much power you want her to have over you and whether she wants that.

 

[where]

wow. not often you see a GB troll over here.