Capitalization

[llusciouss]

I like the guy being in charge. Really. But I read the BDSM stories and I hate (yes, hate) the whole capitalization bs. Seriously, the guy's in charge becaues you use capital H instead of h and no capitals for submissives? Ooooooh, yeah...shows he's in charge of me. Any guy who insists on the whole capital bs isn't in charge of me. I'd always have to wonder that he couldn't get a hard on unless I said it that way.

 

[graceanne]

Actually, that's one of the things that annoys the posters of this forum. We'll tell people it's not necessary and that it makes things hard to read. Most stop, some don't.

 

[CuteBrat]

I like the guy being in charge. Really. But I read the BDSM stories and I hate (yes, hate) the whole capitalization bs. Seriously, the guy's in charge becaues you use capital H instead of h and no capitals for submissives? Ooooooh, yeah...shows he's in charge of me. Any guy who insists on the whole capital bs isn't in charge of me. I'd always have to wonder that he couldn't get a hard on unless I said it that way.

i find it annoying as well, but i think You are missing the point. The capitalization isn't to give him a hard on, or to make him in control of you. It's to REMIND you of YOUR place....to help keep you or put you in a submissive head-space. And, to be honest, it certainly seems from your post that that isn't a head space you get into very easily.

 

[Scotsman69]

I'm male and dom, but I hate the capitals too. Neither she nor I need them to know where we stand with each other.

 

[Aquila1]

I can think of a hundred other, infinitely more effective ways to be put into a submissive head space other then wrestling with upper and lower case letters.

No offence to anyone, but I/i F/fucking H/hate I/it B/because I/it D/drives M/me N/nuts.

 

[ImOnIt]

It is S/smoking, A/acidic, B/bilious G/green E/eye P/poison.

 

[Homburg]

It is S/smoking, A/acidic, B/bilious G/green E/eye P/poison.

This.

I don't mind some capitalisation, but I get twitchy when I see the W/we, U/us, Y/you noise. It is certainly T/toxic.

 

[HisSexyPet]

I use the upper case letter when referring to Him to show respect and i use the lower case i cause basically i am lazy and don't hit the shift key. I agree though that the use of upper and lower case for the same word such as W/we to show that we are two separate levels is highly annoying and hard as shit to read.
And there is my two cents.

 

[JMohegan]

I like the guy being in charge. Really. But I read the BDSM stories and I hate (yes, hate) the whole capitalization bs. Seriously, the guy's in charge becaues you use capital H instead of h and no capitals for submissives? Ooooooh, yeah...shows he's in charge of me. Any guy who insists on the whole capital bs isn't in charge of me. I'd always have to wonder that he couldn't get a hard on unless I said it that way.

This is how I feel about use of the term "master," when an s refers to her D.

However, plenty of people seem to appreciate and be aroused or comforted by using that term. Since I'm not in a relationship with any of them, there's no problem.

 

[WriterDom]

I plead guilty to using it at one time. I quit. It should be implied without having to use it.

 

[sb2009]

i have a terribly cheezy hobby of making cards and all my alphabet stamps are lower case...so nothing gets capitalized. I tell myself it's very cool and ee cummings-like but it's just that I'm cheap and lazy.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I tent to capitalize the word "Dominant" as in "That asshat is your Dominant?" and anytime I refer to my Dominant or anyone else's. But not in a sentence like "Who is the dominant in your relationship?". I also never did slashy speak, that drives me crazy. Daddy has never required or asked me to write in any certain way, he's not into formalities at all.

I guess I selectively capitalize.

 

[MisterSir]

Don't mind the capitalisation of a pyl's terms for their PYL and vice versa, barely notice a pyl referring to themelves in lowercase, get mildly annoyed when PYLs do the same with uppercase, take up arms when either party breaks out the backslashes.

 

[StrayKat]

It irritates me just as leet speak or whatever that kind of nonsense is called. Posters that type all in one sentence without capitalization and punctuations irritate me as well and I dont want to bother reading such posts.

Imo whatever is hard on eyes does not belong to internet forum, reading from screen is hard enough as it is. Those that think capitalizing every second word is form of submission/domination I would ask to keep such stuff for their personal use and not force it on everyone else. For me it doesnt show anything but disrespect.

 

[yourmissl]

It irritates me just as leet speak or whatever that kind of nonsense is called. Posters that type all in one sentence without capitalization and punctuations irritate me as well and I dont want to bother reading such posts.

Imo whatever is hard on eyes does not belong to internet forum, reading from screen is hard enough as it is. Those that think capitalizing every second word is form of submission/domination I would ask to keep such stuff for their personal use and not force it on everyone else. For me it doesnt show anything but disrespect.

Well said.

 

[jenniferbaby]

As a former English major and avid reader and writer, I tend to prefer correct capitalization, but it's not something I quibble over too much. I like consistency more than anything else. If someone wants to write in all lower case, that's fine with me, and if they want to capitalize references to a PYL and use lower case for a pyl that's fine with me too. I personally don't care to use the distinction myself, mostly because it goes against the way I've been reading and writing my whole life and something inside me prefers being an 'I' instead of an 'i'.

I once talked to a dom who wanted me to "show respect" in only the second PM by lower casing all references to myself and upper casing all references to him. My red flag went up immediately, but I complied and continued talking to him because I wanted to see where things would go. It turned out he thought being mean and bossy was the way to be dominant and things didn't go much of anywhere.

I got involved with another Dom who cared nothing about capitalization but always maintained a position of power in the relationship. He was never mean, never bossy, but always in control. I guess capitalization is less important than the overall attitude of the PYL.

 

[yourmissl]

< snip >

he thought being mean and bossy was the way to be dominant

< snip >

You mean its not?

Well, damn. That certainly sheds some new light on things.

Hmmm...

 

[MisterSir]

You mean its not?

Well, damn. That certainly sheds some new light on things.

Hmmm...

Don't listen to her, it is! I am dominant, she is submissive, protocol dictates you must listen to me first and I say being mean and bossy is the mark of a TRUE dominant! Now drop and give me twenty!

I think my personas got a little confused towards the end there. Oh, Drill Sergeant Nasty, you are a dick.

 

[yourmissl]

Don't listen to her, it is! I am dominant, she is submissive, protocol dictates you must listen to me first and I say being mean and bossy is the mark of a TRUE dominant! Now drop and give me twenty!

I think my personas got a little confused towards the end there. Oh, Drill Sergeant Nasty, you are a dick.

Yes, yes, MisterSir. That's so hot!

Well color me embarrased. Just saw the white print and realized you were being sarcastic. Me too, of course. Really.

 

[StrayKat]

Hmmm I can be very very mean, does that mean I have no chance as dominant?

 

[jenniferbaby]

Don't listen to her, it is! I am dominant, she is submissive, protocol dictates you must listen to me first and I say being mean and bossy is the mark of a TRUE dominant! Now drop and give me twenty!

I think my personas got a little confused towards the end there. Oh, Drill Sergeant Nasty, you are a dick.

Actually, I think it would turn me on if someone told me to drop and give him twenty, even if he was mean and bossy while doing it. Now I have to add army fantasies to my list of fetishes...

Hmmm I can be very very mean, does that mean I have no chance as dominant?

Not at all. I'm sure there are many submissives who would enjoy it. I can think of many a scenario where a mean top can get me all hot and bothered...

 

[FurryFury]

This bugs me too. I don't understand how anyone can find it a turn on but um, each to their own I guess.

 

[Ravenwind]

I find the whole W/we thing (slash-speak) hard to read, and over the top. Out of respect for both positions, I'll differentiate the respective initials (D or s, PYL or pyl, etc) of titles, but not the actions themselves (akin to ecstaticsub's method).

As for myself, I only capitalize the H in reference to my Husband to show that he is dominant between us- not that it is required of me or anything, but simply for the sake of clarity to others.

In first-person perspective stories, however... the whole I/i or You/you thing (proper capitalization indicating emotional place)... *drools*. It doesn't work for me for 2nd or 3rd person perspectives, and just winds up driving me nuts.

 

[subish2009]

I tend to capitalize Dominant when referring to a specific person, as in "He's my Dominant."

I do not capitalize it when using it as an adjective, as in "He's pretty dominant."

But that's it. No other special caps games, and I agree with many others: I HATE the slash-speak (W/we). Puh-leez!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

No offence to anyone, but I/i F/fucking H/hate I/it B/because I/it D/drives M/me N/nuts.

That's NOT "capitaliation."

That's "slash-speak".

And it annoys the fuck out of most of us who prefer real language skills over text-speak.