Capitalization

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[Cattypuss]

I like the guy being in charge. Really. But I read the BDSM stories and I hate (yes, hate) the whole capitalization bs. Seriously, the guy's in charge becaues you use capital H instead of h and no capitals for submissives? Ooooooh, yeah...shows he's in charge of me. Any guy who insists on the whole capital bs isn't in charge of me. I'd always have to wonder that he couldn't get a hard on unless I said it that way.

Yup - it's just all a bit wanky really, isn't it?

I find all that careful self-consciousness and affectation a HUGE turn-off.

 

[sb2009]

As I do not know (that admit it, at least) any other people into this sort of thing, is it a no-no to just call each other by your names?

I know "sir" would never fly in this house...when we've lived in the south and visiting children would call my husband "sir" he would gently correct them and say "unless your parents don't want you to, you can call me Mr. First Name." He really doesn't like it.

We both grew up in NE and Sir/Ma'am wasn't a part of our childhood.

 

[StrayKat]

As I do not know (that admit it, at least) any other people into this sort of thing, is it a no-no to just call each other by your names?

I have that problem on CM, people calling me Mistress and what not and refusing to call me Kat. Its first part of my real name and if I want them to call me that why the hell they make problem out of it?

I really dont care what is no-no for others though, if they cant call me whatever I say we have nothing to talk about further.

 

[sadangel]

Sir does not insist on my capatlizing His name or such. It is something I naturally did. I don't like the /slash speak, but there is just something for me about letting Him know I am His angel, etc.

 

[Ravenwind]

As I do not know (that admit it, at least) any other people into this sort of thing, is it a no-no to just call each other by your names?

To each, their own. Some prefer titles, some do not. My Husband would give someone a severe tongue lashing (and not in the good way!) if they called him Sir or Mister. For me, he has me equate his name with the concept of "Master"- whenever I speak his name, I am reminded that I submit to him and none other. A friend of mine, however, insists upon the title "Sir" with his wife.

 

[Etoile]

i find it annoying as well, but i think You are missing the point. The capitalization isn't to give him a hard on, or to make him in control of you. It's to REMIND you of YOUR place....to help keep you or put you in a submissive head-space. And, to be honest, it certainly seems from your post that that isn't a head space you get into very easily.

Whoa, contentious much?

 

[Cattypuss]

More like shit-stirring, I'd say.

 

[graceanne]

More like shit-stirring, I'd say.

Most likely.

 

[Etoile]

Which is kinda what I meant.

 

[graceanne]

Which is kinda what I meant.

But it doesn't count until I say it. *nods*

 

[Taler2003]

One of the funniest posts I read on this forum has the dom writing Me Me Me every few sentences. I was rofling the entire time. It's somewhat cute when it's written as His or my Master, but Me is ludicrous.

 

[Bandit58]

I capitalise He and Him but I also use capital "I" when referring to myself, mainly because it's correct grammar but also I feel I have just as important a role as He does.....without my submission He can't be my Dominant

I agree with the slashy speak argument....it gets very confusing and hard to read, and I just find it pretentious twaddle

 

[caged_doll]

i find it annoying as well, but i think You are missing the point. The capitalization isn't to give him a hard on, or to make him in control of you. It's to REMIND you of YOUR place....to help keep you or put you in a submissive head-space. And, to be honest, it certainly seems from your post that that isn't a head space you get into very easily.

That's a pretty gratuitous assumption to come by from reading her initial post.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I was going to ad something pithy and snarky to the thread...

Then my train of thought derailed.

 

[badmatt]

This is a topic that comes up at all kinds of sites, forum or chat sites. And, depending on where one started posting or chatting the norms are different.

Yes, reading it can be annoying, but in many cases, it is all about headspace. I first started posting in a different site, on their forums and in their chat site, the use of caps for doms and lowercase for subs was expected so when someone didn't use that it was confusing. As I've noticed over the years here at lit it's not the norm, so I try not to, but I still do it at times.

However, to speak to the specific point of stories that the OP mentioned, I have to say, in a story it just drives me fucking insane. Stories, however short they may be, are works of literature and should conform to the language they're written in and it's rules of grammar (except of course when someone is actually speaking in the story).

That said, I do understand why some people just can't stop typing with the caps. I did it for almost 10 years before I came here to lit. And to this day, I still fight it. It's so bad that half the time when I type the words "me" or "my" or "mine" they come out "Me" or "My" or "Mine". Makes sending emails about the project my team is working on at work painfully difficult.

 

[Etoile]

caps r lame and so is punctuation d00d whats wrong with u ppl

 

[badmatt]

caps r lame and so is punctuation d00d whats wrong with u ppl

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