Training/Trainers

[Clamped Nips]

I have a question about the role of "trainers" in BDSM. I don't understand this concept. Wouldn't a Dom/Domme want to train his or her sub? I don't understand a 3rd party involvement for this aspect. I don't have anything against it (please don't think I am judging) I am just confused by the concept and I'm really just trying to understand how it works. I tried looking through the library and I did not see anything on the subject. Can people explain?

 

[CutieMouse]

"Trainers" in what sense? I've read a lot about BDSM, attended seminars, etc and haven't ever come across the concept of someone being "trained" by anyone other than their partner/themselves.

People do take classes, attend lectures, discuss theory, share techniques, study independently, etc - all of which might be viewed as "training" - but even within the realm of study, there are a myriad of different philosophies re: BDSM...

 

[WriterDom]

It's a way of getting their hooks in you. Maybe they can't have you, but if they are merely training you it puts a softer spin on things.

 

[Clamped Nips]

It's a way of getting their hooks in you. Maybe they can't have you, but if they are merely training you it puts a softer spin on things.

LOL I had a feeling.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

For many people the "training" relates back to fantasy of The Story of O. For others, the reality is that they do NOT have the skill to teach those who would serve them the skill sets the pyl may need to have. For example:

DomlyDom is a terrible cook. Unfortunately sucklysub isn't much better. He sends the pyl off to get some training (read that education) in a skill set they don't have. DomlyDom wants sucklysub to do the taxes too. So off sucklysub goes to the H&R Block class... Their getting "training." It's just not what you may typically think of when it comes to BDSM "training".

Sexual training is a hot issue for some. Most of us are pretty well satisfied with the natural instincts we're born with and the practice we've had over the years. A few of us even paid attention to what got our partners off and worked on getting better at doing those kinds of things. But for others, sorry, but their skill and ability in the sack may be awful, and training may be a necessity. Having the parts doesn't mean you know how to use them well. And some people DO know how to use them very well. Sending someone to get "trained" might be a good idea if it gets you and yours all hot and sexy.

*shrugs*

We don't have to understand the why of others fantasies and preferences. We just have to understand that theirs don't have to match ours. ;-)

 

[YourCaptor]

I volunteered with burden to train any sub to never speak another word and stair blankly out into space.

I feel it is my duty.