The politics of pussy eating...

[MALIBUMAN666]

Hello everyone.

I've been a member of Lit for quite a while now and have mostly been uploading my stories and posting on the BDSM forum, I didn't notice this place before now. I posted a question on the 'General Board' the other day which died a death, possibly because I phrased the question somewhat badly and possibly because it was the wrong place to post (perhaps if I'd put Obama / Guns / Medicare in the title it would have been better).

Now that I've found this place I think maybe this would be a better place for it.

It's not really a question so much, as simply that I am interested to hear people's views and experiences about a particular subject.

What sparked this was that I am currently reading Suzanne Portnoy's book 'The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker', and I noticed that in the second or third chapter she is complaining about 'men who don't eat pussy'. This is obviously not the first time that I have heard about this complaint, and my wife tells me that from what she understands it's not an unusual complaint.

Now personally I love to eat my wife's pussy, I'd do it until the cows come home. I don't care if I've already cum inside her, though I've never done it while she's on her period (doesn't really appeal to me and it definitely doesn't appeal to her).

I just wondered how difficult it really is for women to find men who like to eat pussy, or at least who will oblige them if asked?

I understand that this post probably gives the impression that I'm looking to big myself up in a 'hey look at me, my wife gets as much oral as she can handle cos I'm a stud' kind of way, but that really isn't my intention.

Funnily enough, I remember my first sexual experience, I was 18 at the time and I went to bed with this girl and the first thing i wanted to do was go down on her. She wouldn't let me, she said she was worried I wouldn't like it... (sooooo wrong!), I can't remember ever hearing a bloke refusing a blowjob in similar circumstances!

 

[ecstaticsub]

Some men won't eat pussy because they just want to have PIV sex. They don't want BJs either.

Other men see eating pussy as being submissive. Even some men who aren't into BDSM won't eat pussy because it puts them into what they consider to be a serving position. Being on top of a woman pounding her pussy keeps their dick hard. Licking and sucking pussy makes it soft. Therefor undesirable.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

Well as I AM submissive, I guess that explains why I like it so much...

 

[JohnMBrowning]

I was born wanting to eat pussy. (That doesn't sound right .)

The first time I ever had sex with a girl I wanted to eat her pussy. The second or third time she was on her period and I still wanted to eat her pussy, and did. I knew I was unusual in that regard, and also knew that I was right and the "norm" was wrong. (And I was right.)

My favorite sexual fantasy is a girl eating another girl's pussy.

I'm afraid your sample here may not be representative of the general population , but put one check-mark in the "guy really loves to eat pussy" column.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

Yeah, I imagine the people here are unlikely to be a representative cross-section of society....but still.

At least that's two of us! Hahaha.

 

[JohnMBrowning]

Yeah, I imagine the people here are unlikely to be a representative cross-section of society....but still.

At least that's two of us! Hahaha.

"Sex positive" is a description often applied to those who post on these boards.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I find it to be a submissive act. It's just not for me.

 

[sterculius]

I find it to be a submissive act. It's just not for me.

I don't think that performing oral sex is necessarily a submissive act. I'm a guy who loves both sucking cock AND eating pussy and in both cases I consider myself to be the dominant partner. I'm the one in control of their orgasm. I pride myself in my ability to play my partner like a musical instrument. When I'm done with them, they're completely drained (literally, in the case of men).

 

[rosco rathbone]

I don't think that performing oral sex is necessarily a submissive act. I'm a guy who loves both sucking cock AND eating pussy and in both cases I consider myself to be the dominant partner. I'm the one in control of their orgasm. I pride myself in my ability to play my partner like a musical instrument. When I'm done with them, they're completely drained (literally, in the case of men).

Yes, I've heard this from other dominants. I just can't see it that way.

 

[sterculius]

Yes, I've heard this from other dominants. I just can't see it that way.

Pity. You're denying yourself one of the most enjoyable aspects of sexuality. I sometimes feel guilty that I might be taking advantage of my oral subjects for my own selfish pleasure (yeah right). Luckily, they haven't caught on yet.

 

[JohnMBrowning]

Pity. You're denying yourself one of the most enjoyable aspects of sexuality. I sometimes feel guilty that I might be using my oral subjects for my own selfish pleasure. (Yeah right)

I get that. I say three Hail Mary's and go back to eating pussy.

 

[Eilan]

Funnily enough, I remember my first sexual experience, I was 18 at the time and I went to bed with this girl and the first thing i wanted to do was go down on her. She wouldn't let me, she said she was worried I wouldn't like it... (sooooo wrong!), I can't remember ever hearing a bloke refusing a blowjob in similar circumstances!

If the young woman was also your age, then she undoubtedly spent her adolescence listening to teen boys make fish jokes and other crude, immature references to female genitalia. When you're a young, impressionable teen girl, it's really, really difficult not to internalize those messages.

 

[emap]

Rosco you scaredy cat.

Try it this way, get above your wife in a 69, shove your dick in her mouth and eat her out, you're on top, getting blown, nothing submissive there, you are just repaying for the pleasure.

 

[NippleMuncher]

For the life of me, I can't see how eating pussy is submissive in the context of general, mutually fulfilling sex. Like the others have said the one doing the munching has the power to control when their partner gets their cookie. It doesn't get any more dominant than that.

Sure, one could be "forced" to do it which would then be submissive, but that's not what we've been talking about.

There are two things I can't get enough of, nipple munching and eating pussy. I'd almost rather do that than PIV ... ALMOST!

 

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[DrRamulak]

If the young woman was also your age, then she undoubtedly spent her adolescence listening to teen boys make fish jokes and other crude, immature references to female genitalia. When you're a young, impressionable teen girl, it's really, really difficult not to internalize those messages.

Meh, not everyone has assholes for friends. Not that you or your friends would know.

 

[Eilan]

I've got an admirer. How sweet.

 

[sugaredwalls]

For the life of me, I can't see how eating pussy is submissive in the context of general, mutually fulfilling sex. Like the others have said the one doing the munching has the power to control when their partner gets their cookie. It doesn't get any more dominant than that.

Sure, one could be "forced" to do it which would then be submissive, but that's not what we've been talking about.

There are two things I can't get enough of, nipple munching and eating pussy. I'd almost rather do that than PIV ... ALMOST!

I agree, pleasing each other orally, pure unadulterated pleasure is it's only purpose, which is a good thing. And big cyber (((hugs))) to you and the others on here for really enjoying eating pussy! My ex was alright, meh....he could take or leave it, mostly did it because I liked it. Kind of hard to enjoy something knowing that.

My S/O now, he likes to eat pussy and gets off on pleasuring me that way and not in that hurry up and do oral to get to the PIV sex way, he'll make a meal out of it...sorry, no pun intended! And I love doing the same for him, giving him oral with all the bells and whistles, making it all about his pleasure.

 

[JohnMBrowning]

And this is the predicament in which I find myself. He's not into it at all, giving or receiving. We've been together nearly 15 years at this point and I've probably given him 20 BJs; I have to get him really turned on for him to go for it. The attention embarasses him, I think. I've asked, he says he'd rather just have sex. I think I'm really missing out on being on the receiving end...

(This topic makes me sad.)

Beaming sympathy.

 

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[NippleMuncher]

And this is the predicament in which I find myself. He's not into it at all, giving or receiving. We've been together nearly 15 years at this point and I've probably given him 20 BJs; I have to get him really turned on for him to go for it. The attention embarasses him, I think. I've asked, he says he'd rather just have sex. I think I'm really missing out on being on the receiving end...

(This topic makes me sad.)

Bummer! I hate it when people hang-ups prevent them from trying new things or enjoying some really "vanilla" stuff.

My S/O now, he likes to eat pussy and gets off on pleasuring me that way and not in that hurry up and do oral to get to the PIV sex way, he'll make a meal out of it...sorry, no pun intended! And I love doing the same for him, giving him oral with all the bells and whistles, making it all about his pleasure.

This kinda describes my S.O. as well. I think she only gives me BJs because she knows how much I enjoy them, but I only get them on the rare occasion, whereas rarely an occasion passes where I'm not giving oral to her. One way streets really suck ... no pun intended! LOL

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm fairly sure my pussy is apolitical.

*peeks in knickers to check*

I've never had a problem finding sexual partners who are prepared to eat pussy but then, I'm not the type to lie there failing to communicate my needs for years on end. Finding someone skilled enough not to send me to sleep has been an issue as many guys think they're pussy-eating kings when they're not. Just as it's possible to receive a bad BJ, it's also possible to writhe around giving points for effort and give a guy a false notion of his talents. Plus, pussy eating talent is not universally transferable. What made the earth move for one woman won't necessarily work just as well on every other woman who crosses your tongue.

I've always been a willing cocksucker and it's quid pro quo as far as I'm concerned.

... unless you're a slave of course.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

I must say, I think my wife is less nuts about BJ's than I am about eating pussy. If she takes twenty minutes + she's always apologising (can't spell today) cos it's taking so long. Doesn't matter how many times I tell her I don't mind, in fact I wish it went on longer!

 

[sugaredwalls]

Thanks, John. I'm working on it...hopefully he'll come around.

My SO had read this book to help his sex life with his ex wife, that never panned out, they got divorced anyway....and I'm the one who reaped the rewards of a man who read a book entirely dedicated to eating pussy!

Might be worth getting a copy and sort of leaving it around for your dh!

She Comes First

 

[JohnMBrowning]

My SO had read this book to help his sex life with his ex wife, that never panned out, they got divorced anyway....and I'm the one who reaped the rewards of a man who read a book entirely dedicated to eating pussy!

Might be worth getting a copy and sort of leaving it around for your dh!

She Comes First

Wow, the customer reviews on the main Amazon page their are over-the-top good! Alas, the prospects of me doing much pussy eating are slim, else I'd snap up a copy. (Maybe I will for the reference shelf. )