Is anal sex gay? - if you're male?

[radepor]

If you're male -- Do you like to be fucked in the ass (e.g. by strap-ons, dildoes, male penis)?

If you answered "Yes", does this mean you're gay?

[Why would I ask such a question? I love being fucked in the ass; but, today I spent several hours at the beach and, it was only afterward that I realized I only had eyes for semi-naked, gorgeous, female bodies; male were of no interest whatsoever.

What does this mean? How do you feel?

 

[seig34]

No Anal sex is not gay. No your not alone on this one. I too like anal sex, I day dream of having a female PYL bound me, gag me, and have her way with me. I could go into more detail into this but this is not the place. Also I don't see myself as gay. There a thread about anal sex, and like i said your not alone on this one there a lot of guys out there that get off on this.

Its odd when i 1st thought about it i felt dirty. But the more i thought about it the more i wanted it. I even what as far to buy some sex toys for myself.

O and it means your weird Welcome to the club population the world, we all have kinks about ourselves. The sooner we accept them the better.

Hope this has helped a little.

 

[radepor]

BDSM or not

Some may question whether this thread belongs in BDSM.

I didn't mention a couple of things that apply to me, but not necessarily to others, that qualify as BDSM.

For example, Dildoes: Don't use them very often; prefer butt plugs. I'm partial to very narrow (1" wide) by (18"+ long) doubledongs and very large (4 1/4" - 4 1/2") butt plugs ( I think either the former but especially the later qualifies as BDSM). If you disagree, how would you characterize it?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Being attracted exclusively to people of the same sex makes you gay. Everything else is just sex. I fail to understand why the same guys who think anal play for men is gay are usually the ones who have a fixation for fucking women's asses.

This does not belong in BDSM in my opinion. It belongs on the GB where they tolerate this kind of bigoted stupidity.

And for the record, buttplugs and dildos are just sex toys. Playing with them has nothing to do with Bondage/Dominance/Sadism/Submission/Masochism in and of itself.

 

[MisterSir]

This is one of those threads that pops up every once in a while, so a summary of those: Being fucked in the ass only makes you gay if it's by a man and that's the reason you enjoy it. It would also help if you studied your search-fu a little better.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I don't see a problem with the question...it is asked often, but it may get a more informed response in the GLBT forum if that is really what is sought.

Catalina:catroar

 

[clutch1]

Where I come from it is.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

I don't think so. Being gay surely means being attracted to men. I like my wife to use a strapon on me, but I am not attracted to men at all. Hence I am not gay. Simple.

 

[JMohegan]

If you're male -- Do you like to be fucked in the ass (e.g. by strap-ons, dildoes, male penis)?

If you answered "Yes", does this mean you're gay?

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by an actual dick, I definitely wouldn't consider him straight.

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by strap-on, but not actual dick, my first thought would be: he's submissive. I realize this may not be true in every case.

 

[WriterDom]

There is a Dom on the GB who likes to get fucked with a strap on. I find it a little odd but to each their own I guess. I love having my ass licked or fingered with lube butt that's about it.

 

[gloriann]

Liking anal means you like anal.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by an actual dick, I definitely wouldn't consider him straight.

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by strap-on, but not actual dick, my first thought would be: he's submissive. I realize this may not be true in every case.

So what if someone likes getting assfucked by a real cock but doesn't find men attractive? Here's where the shemales come into their own!

 

[Cattypuss]

What on earth has wanting your ass penetrating got to do with sexual orientation?

How ridiculous.

People like to be fucked in the ass because it feels good. Your sexual orientation is about who you're attracted to - it's not about what sensations you enjoy.

 

[Netzach]

So what if someone likes getting assfucked by a real cock but doesn't find men attractive? Here's where the shemales come into their own!

Attracted to femininity to the point where a dick is no problem isn't completely straight. It's not "gay" but it's pretty much pulled out from the straight platform onto the bi track.

 

[Shankara20]

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by an actual dick, I definitely wouldn't consider him straight.

I suspect you would consider bisexual as an option.

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by strap-on, but not actual dick, my first thought would be: he's submissive. I realize this may not be true in every case.

I hear that this is your first thought.

Might I ask, how would a straight Top who enjoys having his ass played with every-now-and-then get pleasure?

How 'bout if he directed his bottom to do his ass?

Some guys enjoy the feel of something all slippery sliding in and out their 'ol bum massaging the prostate.

 

[Shankara20]

So what if someone likes getting assfucked by a real cock but doesn't find men attractive? Here's where the shemales come into their own!

Some think the attraction of shemales is for those guys who like cock, are deathly afraid of being seen as gay, and can't grasp bisexual as a viable option, to justify their cock desire. I tend to agree with that POV.

 

[Netzach]

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by an actual dick, I definitely wouldn't consider him straight.

If a guy likes getting fucked in the ass by strap-on, but not actual dick, my first thought would be: he's submissive. I realize this may not be true in every case.

So if I like penetrative sex I'm submissive?

I've definitely fucked men for the submission factor. I've also fucked men for all the romantic staring into your eyes intimacy factors of vanilla sex.

 

[BiBunny]

So if I like penetrative sex I'm submissive?

I've definitely fucked men for the submission factor. I've also fucked men for all the romantic staring into your eyes intimacy factors of vanilla sex.

Yep. Welcome to the club. We'll be sending you your ID and glow-in-the-dark decoder ring shortly.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It's suspect.

At the very least you will be placed on the warning list.

 

[Etoile]

Being fucked in the ass only makes you gay if it's by a man and that's the reason you enjoy it.

Bingo.

This does not belong in BDSM in my opinion. It belongs on the GB where they tolerate this kind of bigoted stupidity.

I agree that it doesn't belong in BDSM, it belongs more in GLBT, but radepor wanted to put it here...honestly I think the opinions given are super excellent and a lot more literate than GLBT denizens would give. I don't find it bigoted or stupid at all...just someone trying to understand themselves. It definitely doesn't belong on the GB where it will get swallowed up by the gaping maw.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Bingo.

I agree that it doesn't belong in BDSM, it belongs more in GLBT, but radepor wanted to put it here...honestly I think the opinions given are super excellent and a lot more literate than GLBT denizens would give. I don't find it bigoted or stupid at all...just someone trying to understand themselves. It definitely doesn't belong on the GB where it will get swallowed up by the gaping maw.

There's a gaping maw over there?

 

[Etoile]

There's a gaping maw over there?

Yup. I don't touch the GB for a reason.

 

[NakedMale]

any sex is always good, experiment and be happy

 

[satindesire]

There's a gaping maw over there?

And they don't brush it's teeth either. Yick.

 

[JMohegan]

So what if someone likes getting assfucked by a real cock but doesn't find men attractive? Here's where the shemales come into their own!

The world's getting more confusing all the time, and that's a fact!