My new pet: The training of A_______

[sailorpaul]

My new pet: The training of A_______ (with pics)

This started out as a personal in Literotica -- and succeeded wildly.

EDIT: Enjoy the pics, I love to share.

I've had her post some reactions in our personal, and it's clear that some people have been following the discussion. I really don't want to turn the personals into a discussion area -- so let's try a link from the personal and have you post comments here.

BTW, it was her delicious idea to find a way for comments without intruding on the training. We'll check in here as we go.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=31483914&posted=1#post31483914

Thanks
Paul

 

[serendipitous2]

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[CuteBrat]

there is something that makes me feel so........at peace....when i am a pet....(hopefully a well used, pleasing pet...)

 

[MisterSir]

Jesus Christ...

 

[nh23]

Jesus Christ...

HaHa. I like you more every day.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Jesus Christ...

HaHa. I like you more every day.

I think I said something like that about him yesterday. He kinda grows on ya.

 

[MisterSir]

I'm actually rather flattered, I can so rarely tell if people like me or not.

Of course, it'd be nicer if this dubious charm of mine worked on real and squidgy members of the so-called fairer sex, but I'll take what I can get.

 

[minx1]

Hi SP,

The reason you might get the welcome that you do here, is that at the cafe and talk for that matter we are often innudated with threads set up for PYLs (Doms, Dommes, Top etc) and pyls (subs, slaves, bottoms) to publicy adore and worship eachother.....though obviously with you being new to posting you may notbe aware of that. We also get a huge influx of HNGs (horny net geeks)

Having said that I can see why you thought to move your thread from the personals section and why as someone who is practising D/s you thought the BDSM forum would be the best option.

Personally I haven't worked out whether I have a problem with these kind of threads in the cafe; afterall there are lots of meaningless threads on here, including my own *laugh* Perhaps rightly or wrongly they are accepted more because generally the person and their MO is generally already known.

It might just be a worthwhile approach for you to join in the discussions in the BDSM forum and interact with people here too.

 

[sailorpaul]

Thanks minx1.

You are right -- I didn't know that you get lots of threads without a help/theme focus. I've spent almost all of my prior time in the stories sections and had never been more than a moment on the discussion boards. LOL, actually my original 2006 registration was so long ago that the old email address is long dead and gone. Couldn't find/remember the password, nor even get a new one sent.

Guess I liked the stories.

As for interacting, I'm up to some 30+ emails and maybe a dozen posts. Feels really, really, strange to be a virgin after my long ass life. Just proves you CAN re-invent yourself. In terms of earning my keep here, I DID provide a source for pink leather cuffs to someone in another thread. ROTFLMAO

Anyhow, we got some email/IMs that led to our internal discussion about a thread.

I shared with an experienced person earlier that: ...Actually I was trying to figure out WHERE to have people comment/ask questions, and thought the personals would have been the wrong place to do that. I've told her she can answer or post her thoughts within the bounds I've given her (no personal info, etc.) ...

You were both helpful. IM's don't seem to let others ask or build on other people's input, so how to bridge the gap?

Bottom line: the collective wisdom is _______________ ?
(Listening)

 

[minx1]

Thanks minx1.

You are right -- I didn't know that you get lots of threads without a help/theme focus. I've spent almost all of my prior time in the stories sections and had never been more than a moment on the discussion boards. LOL, actually my original 2006 registration was so long ago that the old email address is long dead and gone. Couldn't find/remember the password, nor even get a new one sent.

Guess I liked the stories.

As for interacting, I'm up to some 30+ emails and maybe a dozen posts. Feels really, really, strange to be a virgin after my long ass life. Just proves you CAN re-invent yourself. In terms of earning my keep here, I DID provide a source for pink leather cuffs to someone in another thread. ROTFLMAO

Anyhow, we got some email/IMs that led to our internal discussion about a thread.

I shared with an experienced person earlier that: ...Actually I was trying to figure out WHERE to have people comment/ask questions, and thought the personals would have been the wrong place to do that. I've told her she can answer or post her thoughts within the bounds I've given her (no personal info, etc.) ...

You were both helpful. IM's don't seem to let others ask or build on other people's input, so how to bridge the gap?

Bottom line: the collective wisdom is _______________ ?
(Listening)

Lol yes, listening.

Hopefully you will get some positive ideas about how to bridge the gap. I'm not sure I can offer anything too practical at the moment, but will have a think about it

Are you in an LDR?
I was in a LDR with my Dom for a year before we took our relationship to ''real'' life. To be honest I only intended it to be online initially as it was my first taste of D/s and a case of dipping my toe in the water to see if I liked it.
In a relationship like that you have to be pretty inventive for it to be sustainable. If you are in a distance relationship there is a distance domination thread in talk that you might find useful.
But I am sure there are many people here who will have some ideas - I think some have blogs; but I have never done one so can't comment.

As for number of posts, don't worry...that really isn't an issue. Size doesn't matter...you can talk garbage in 20,000 posts yanno?

I doubt many would have a problem with the thread you have described;if it is a place to ask and answer questions and involve others input.
I think it's the ones that sound overly titillating that tend to get peoples back up as they have HNG stamped all over it, as do ones that are set up to be a mutual appreciation society between two people, for a variety of reasons.

Seriously, I have just talked about cleaning in my thread and not in a D/s way.
I would say that your suggestion has as much a place in the cafe as many of the threads here do.

Anyway, I hope you get some useful input.

Enjoy.

 

[sailorpaul]

LOL I have to say that I currently get all the sex I need, or truthfully can handle. And, I really only like to cyber (phone) with people I know and like. So, HNG would be a stretch.

Oh, and everyone is within 30 min to an hour. Juggling three lives & kids is a challenge.
Paul

 

[ecstaticsub]

Just curious, why do you want others to ask questions or comment?

I knew nothing about non-fantasy D/s or BDSM when I met my PYL over 4 years ago. The first year was personally wrenching in some aspects as I learned what he wanted and expected of me. Along with discovering what I wanted from the relationship also.

I am incredibly thankful that all that interaction was only shared between he and I. Having others comment on it may have influenced my own feelings too much. When I did feel the need to talk it over with someone other than him I went to friends.

I know you both may be different so I'm just curious as to why you want others input?

 

[Abraxas Winterlight]

Jesus Christ...

Jesus is your pet!!!!!!

 

[MisterSir]

Jesus is your pet!!!!!!

I keep him in the basement. Seriously, for the son of God you'd think he'd come housebroken.

 

[sailorpaul]

1. Anyone have a suggestion for a presentation posture that works well when my pet is seated? Ritual seems to be a little more important to A___ than it's been to me in the past.

There are times, for example in public when I'm introducing her to someone, when that would be useful. If I address A___ by her play name I want her to first present herself as we talk with/to/about her.

I already know what we'll use when she's standing: head up, nipples forward, wrists crosed behind her back at the waist.

2. While planning on the phone for our date today, we stumbled into a way for her to cum that I've never thought of before. I'll have her demonstrate in person for me today. If it repeats as well as last night then I'll post it here.

Gotta' run.

 

[satindesire]

I keep him in the basement. Seriously, for the son of God you'd think he'd come housebroken.

Gives a new meaning to the term "Holy Shit"











....................Oooh, God, I'm sorry, that was bad...even for me. Okay, I'm leaving now. Sorry.

 

[eastern sun]

1. Anyone have a suggestion for a presentation posture that works well when my pet is seated? Ritual seems to be a little more important to A___ than it's been to me in the past.

There are times, for example in public when I'm introducing her to someone, when that would be useful. If I address A___ by her play name I want her to first present herself as we talk with/to/about her.

I already know what we'll use when she's standing: head up, nipples forward, wrists crosed behind her back at the waist.

2. While planning on the phone for our date today, we stumbled into a way for her to cum that I've never thought of before. I'll have her demonstrate in person for me today. If it repeats as well as last night then I'll post it here.

Gotta' run.

How about head down, hands between her legs, fingers under her thighs, and thumbs pressed against her clit. Then when you say "This is . . . so and so," she raises her gaze and makes eye contact, as she presses her clit with her left thumb and lifts her right hand to shake.

Or maybe hands in lap, eyes on you, and when you say "This is . . . so and so," she drops her gaze to her lap and then lifts her eyes shyly to say hello.

Or maybe ankles crossed, hands on thighs, and when you say "This is . . . so and so" she pinches herself on the inner thigh right before she says hello.

Or maybe you say to her, "this is not so important to me. Just be yourself."

Make it up. Have fun. Don't get too serious. Change the rules every so often to keep her on her toes.

 

[Abraxas Winterlight]

Gives a new meaning to the term "Holy Shit"

....................Oooh, God, I'm sorry, that was bad...even for me. Okay, I'm leaving now. Sorry.

*groan*

yes it was MammaNerd

 

[Netzach]

1. Anyone have a suggestion for a presentation posture that works well when my pet is seated? Ritual seems to be a little more important to A___ than it's been to me in the past.

Ritual is much much more important to H, my slave, than it was to his previous owner, and to him, by extension.

Ritual and evidence of D/s is much more important to me as a bottom than it is to my top. I'd love for him to tell me how to sit when I'm with him and he knows that.

He doesn't care, so he doesn't and I'm not in charge so I put on my big girl panties and live with it. I get *more* attentive to what he wants and likes actually, by having to focus on that and not what I want him to do.

I strongly recommend doing what YOU like best. If that means "darling I don't give a flying rat's balls how you sit, it's how you suck cock that matters" then enjoy your power.

Whose benefit is the training for?

Ask yourself this at every turn.

 

[CutieMouse]

Ritual is much much more important to H, my slave, than it was to his previous owner, and to him, by extension.

Ritual and evidence of D/s is much more important to me as a bottom than it is to my top. I'd love for him to tell me how to sit when I'm with him and he knows that.

He doesn't care, so he doesn't and I'm not in charge so I put on my big girl panties and live with it. I get *more* attentive to what he wants and likes actually, by having to focus on that and not what I want him to do.

I strongly recommend doing what YOU like best. If that means "darling I don't give a flying rat's balls how you sit, it's how you suck cock that matters" then enjoy your power.

Whose benefit is the training for?

Ask yourself this at every turn.

I you so much, you know.

 

[minx1]

Ritual and evidence of D/s is much more important to me as a bottom than it is to my top. I'd love for him to tell me how to sit when I'm with him and he knows that.

He doesn't care, so he doesn't and I'm not in charge so I put on my big girl panties and live with it. I get *more* attentive to what he wants and likes actually, by having to focus on that and not what I want him to do.

This is so true SailorPaul

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

I keep him in the basement. Seriously, for the son of God you'd think he'd come housebroken.

Funniest thing I've seen all day. And no, I haven't left the house yet, how did you know?

 

[Harmony_1985]

I think I said something like that about him yesterday. He kinda grows on ya.

Doesn't he just?

I'm submissive, but I want to pet him on the head.

 

[MisterSir]

A pet on the head?

...sadly, I'd take that. Better that than the nothing I've got going.

 

[sailorpaul]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Netzach View Post
Ritual and evidence of D/s is much more important to me as a bottom than it is to my top. I'd love for him to tell me how to sit when I'm with him and he knows that.

He doesn't care, so he doesn't and I'm not in charge so I put on my big girl panties and live with it. I get *more* attentive to what he wants and likes actually, by having to focus on that and not what I want him to do.

This is so true SailorPaul

Just got back and you folks all have me laughing w tears in my eyes.

1. Those of you weighing in along the lines of Netzach & minx1 comments - now that's a value-add.

2. ecstaticsub asked why I wanted comments at all. In all the years of private play, I've never been to a lifestyle party nor to any bdsm club. Shocking eh?

3. The suggestions by eastern sun were wonderful -- but I neglected to say clearly that I was looking for a PUBLIC presentation ritual that could be successful without attracting the attention of any nearby family, PTA pres, or other assorted do-gooders who do bad.

4. And regarding "...I keep him in the basement. Seriously, for the son of God you'd think he'd come housebroken."
Is there a photo available? Because I have some religious acquaintances who need an end to their continuous arguments.

Thanks all.

Oh, her new way to cum was just new to her. It was roll the lips from the side up over her clit. I misunderstood over the phone from her afterglow induced description.

Today was a great in-person play day.