Does this make me a submissive man?

[newtoforums]

One of my favorite fantasies is CFNM (clothed female naked male). I always dream of being married and living in a situation where my wife would keep me naked at all times. I dream of her friends coming over and her telling them to enjoy. Does this make me submissive? I love the vulnerability part. Usually i imagine the women being plain type. But what really attracts me to the fantasy is that these women would be giving me compliments and worshipping my body in these fantasies. They would enjoy the light domination because they would perceive me as an alpha male type. It also involves the fantasy wife's friends giving me blow-jobs, hand-jobs with whipped cream and such. Unlike in other CFNM fantasies the women service me. They enjoy massaging my body. They enjoy serving me. Its more to do with being admired. Maybe men have these fantasies because most women probably don't show admiration for men's bodies.

I love the vulnerability I would feel and control this gives women but I also love the worship, pleasure these women would be giving me in addition to the idea that my wife would enjoy sharing her husband with her friends and getting turned on by him being unfaithful.

 

[tkvh4u2]

One of my favorite fantasies is CFNM (clothed female naked male). I always dream of being married and living in a situation where my wife would keep me naked at all times. I dream of her friends coming over and her telling them to enjoy. Does this make me submissive? I love the vulnerability part. Usually i imagine the women being plain type. But what really attracts me to the fantasy is that these women would be giving me compliments and worshipping my body in these fantasies. They would enjoy the light domination because they would perceive me as an alpha male type. It also involves the fantasy wife's friends giving me blow-jobs, hand-jobs with whipped cream and such. Unlike in other CFNM fantasies the women service me. They enjoy massaging my body. They enjoy serving me. Its more to do with being admired. Maybe men have these fantasies because most women probably don't show admiration for men's bodies.

I love the vulnerability I would feel and control this gives women but I also love the worship, pleasure these women would be giving me in addition to the idea that my wife would enjoy sharing her husband with her friends and getting turned on by him being unfaithful.

Ummmm, yes?

 

[newtoforums]

Bump bump

 

[Cattypuss]

Patience is a virtue.

 

[myinnerslut]

it makes you a horny guy with fantasies and potential to be kinky.

 

[ownedsubgal]

no, nothing you described makes you in any way submissive.

 

[Homburg]

it makes you a horny guy with fantasies and potential to be kinky.

This.

no, nothing you described makes you in any way submissive.

And this.

Kinky, yes. Submissive, no.

 

[newtoforums]

Allright. So not submissive even if I enjoy the vulnerability and control I would feel by average looking women as I said?

How many women would be into this?

 

[MisterSir]

Ask yourself this: When you're thinking about the act, why are you getting pleasure out of it?

 

[Samuelx]

If you think you're submissive, you probably are.

 

[newtoforums]

If you think you're submissive, you probably are.

Lol. I doubt that's the case. I have noticed that all my fantasies involve me getting oral sex. I can't remember the last time I fantasized about giving a woman pleasure.

Like I said the worshipping aspect is more of a turn on than the giving women control aspect.

 

[BiBunny]

I'd say that's more narcissistic than submissive.

 

[MisterSir]

Like I said the worshipping aspect is more of a turn on than the giving women control aspect.

And there you have it. That, if that's what you're getting out of the fantasy/experience/whatever, makes you not submissive.

 

[newtoforums]

I'd say that's more narcissistic than submissive.

Is that a bad thing?

 

[graceanne]

Is that a bad thing?

Not necessarily.

 

[MisterSir]

Is that a bad thing?

Not so long as you aren't a complete twat about it, narcissism isn't much more than self-confidence taken to an extreme.

 

[newtoforums]

Not so long as you aren't a complete twat about it, narcissism isn't much more than self-confidence taken to an extreme.

True. This is also the only area I would ever consider being a narcissist. In other areas of life I aim to be humble. I think this is why this fantasy appeals to me. I am pretty shy, reserved, calm and humble so the thought of being treated and used as a wild sex toy by women is like the opposite of real life.


Although I doubt most women would be into this.

 

[YourCaptor]

I think its makes you more feminine then submissive.

Well not even that, but you are imagining using sex the way western women are often portrayed as using it. That is having the opposite sex admire you and want you, hence giving you some control.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Lol. I doubt that's the case. I have noticed that all my fantasies involve me getting oral sex. I can't remember the last time I fantasized about giving a woman pleasure.

Like I said the worshipping aspect is more of a turn on than the giving women control aspect.

I'm down with all this and I'm for damn sure not submissive.

 

[newtoforums]

I think its makes you more feminine then submissive.

Well not even that, but you are imagining using sex the way western women are often portrayed as using it. That is having the opposite sex admire you and want you, hence giving you some control.

Women seek to gain control and be admired.
This is about being admired and giving up control.
Hence why the woman would be clothed and the man would be nude. He maintains very little control in that vulnerable position.

 

[YourCaptor]

Women seek to gain control and be admired.
This is about being admired and giving up control.
Hence why the woman would be clothed and the man would be nude. He maintains very little control in that vulnerable position.

Have you ever talked to a stripper, they are so positive about their control of the situation it makes you wonder if they are delusional.

Many girls are like that, lap dance gives them control, blow jobs give them control, apparently anything that they could simply stop doing and piss of the guy with are methods of control.

That sounds like the alphaness you described.

Makes you want to take them outside the law and see how powerful they feel then.

 

[Kikori]

The only submission I can see is being 'forced' to be naked at all times.

Kinky, but like others said before, it's more a dominant thing to want to be wanted and treated like that.

 

[graceanne]

That said, if you think it makes you submissive, then who cares what we think? Everyone has different interpretations of the label 'submissive'.

 

[Marquis]

You sound like a toppy sort of sub.

Stop worrying about labels and figure out a way to get this shit done. Then come back and tell us about it.

Can you imagine how much more fun this forum would be if that's how we worked?

 

[nh23]

Yes, now bend over I have a new cane I want to try out.