BDSM in apartments?

[NightMuse]

Do anyone live in an apartment and play there? Im curious because Ive been here for a couple of months but have yet to play due to being afraid of neighbors hearing the sounds of toys hitting skin. I have one above me, and one next to me, and I believe theres a firewall on the other side of my room because I never hear anything from those people. I can hear the people above me play music loudly at times, and I hear their kids running on occasion.


What should I do, and how do you people that live in apartments handle it?

 

[missy_me]

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[Velvet Bubbles]

We live in a flat (same thing really), and I can't say as we have any trouble with it. But we tend to be quiet anyway as we don't want them hearing anything. Neither of us is a loud person, and the loudest impact noise is probably his hand on my behind. LOL That's our take on it.

 

[myinnerslut]

we did it i a dorm room for a year, walls as thin as paper. got some strange looks sometimes, and some applause once, but never had a real problem. we did refrain from using very loud toys though

 

[00Syd]

I live in an apartment, and have played mainly in apartments, and never had a problem. If one day a neighbor knocks and is like "keep it down" then turn the volume down a little, just as if you were playing loud music. And if a neighbor asks you "what the hell are you doing" then say "none of your fucking buisness" because its really not their buisness.

The only reason I'd be worried about it is being in a place where there is no legal way to practice BDSM. I'll be sure to be quiet in my new apartment in Boston, since if someone doesn't like it they can call the cops, but in NYC I'll for the most part do what I want to do.

 

[the captians wench]

I live in an apartment, and have played mainly in apartments, and never had a problem. If one day a neighbor knocks and is like "keep it down" then turn the volume down a little, just as if you were playing loud music. And if a neighbor asks you "what the hell are you doing" then say "none of your fucking buisness" because its really not their buisness.

The only reason I'd be worried about it is being in a place where there is no legal way to practice BDSM. I'll be sure to be quiet in my new apartment in Boston, since if someone doesn't like it they can call the cops, but in NYC I'll for the most part do what I want to do.

I've never had problems in my apt, and I don't hold back. But my friends used to turn on music to drown out the sounds because the people next door already thought the female in the house was being abused.

*shrug* Me, I just get grins from the cop living below me. She deffo uses her handcuffs outside of work.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

We don't live in an apartment now but I've lived in them before and we're in a terraced house with adjoining neighbours on both sides. The walls aren't particularly thick but we haven't had any problems so far.

In the last place we lived (which was also a terrace and a smaller one with thinner walls at that) although people heard the occasional odd noise, it was more than apparent that we were a happy, loving couple and that I wasn't some battered woman living in fear of him. Using music is a good cover and if we're doing something that I'm unlikely to tolerate without yelling the place down he'll gag me.

 

[NightMuse]

part of me wants to say fuck it, something up above me runs from one end of the apartment to the other at random intervals through day and night, and i only really hear the noise coming from them running or moving, not actual talking(rare), and the guy up stairs plays guitar and I can hear it through the floor, so I imagine it to be kinda loud.


my main concern lies in that I live in virginia where its illegal to look at someone funny, and dont wanna go to jail for my fun

 

[eastern sun]

It's important to know your neighbors.

The man who lived downstairs from us once asked me if I needed him to rough up my husband for me. When I said "no," he never mentioned it again. More often, we'd hear our neighbors get loud during sex after we'd been loud. One of the women who lived next door was an opera singer, and she could really "sing." We'd get all quiet and smile when we heard her, and then do what we wanted. . . .

But this is NYC.

Our kids in the next bedroom are a much bigger problem than the neighbors, and we've still figured out how to play. We take advantage of moments when we know no one is around too. (And then forget that we left the windows wide open. )

I've grown to enjoy the looks on some of my neighbors' faces after a particularly riotous time. One day the guy next door, a good friend, couldn't make eye contact with me when we took our garbage out the next morning. And then I heard his wife the next night for the first and only time ever.

 

[WriterDom]

I think a lot depends on the quality of the construction. I lived in an old house divided into apartments once and didn't ever hear anything unless the people downstairs turned their music up to nightclub levels. Which they did on occasion.

You can always put some music on. Not outrageously loud but it will cover a lot.

 

[Netzach]

I have NYC mores. I pretend I didn't hear them and hope they return the favor. I mean it is my own house.

 

[Anne_Prospere]

bah! just do it. Are you trying to keep the fact that you're a kinky couple a secret? If not, and they approach you, let them know those are good noises, not bad ones.

 

[NightMuse]

No, I'm not trying to be secretive about it, not that its their business anyways, but I don't want to be interrupted by the cops because someone hears something that they could perceive as something else.

 

[FurryFury]

I hate listening to other people noises. I especially hate listening to other people sex. But what I hate hearing the most is loud, abusive arguments.

I wouldn't worry too much about impact noises but I might consider "wrapping the room" in fabric, playing music or something.

I would gag my partner if they were "too" noisy or want to be if I were.

 

[Marquis]

I love my condo but I must admit that this is one of the reasons I look forward to owning a house one day.

My walls aren't super thin, but I can occasionally hear noises in other apartments so I know that loud noises from mine are just as audible. I think in the right environment I could really get into screaming, at the top of my lungs. I would also want to hear my sub scream... louder, louder and louder.

That sort of play isn't possible for us at home right now, but like many others have pointed out loud music can muffle milder sounds.

I have had building security knock on my door a few times to check if everything was alright. It's slightly embarrassing, maybe a little thrilling too, but ultimately not the biggest deal in the world. If it was happening more often I could see the issue getting more complicated, but mostly I just don't think my neighbors should have to put up with hearing our screams and shouts.

 

[Bandit58]

We live in a block of 8 units and have yet to have any complaints from the neighbours. The walls are pretty thick though

 

[sexycaz22]

I also live in a flat (apartment) and so far, the neighbours have not complained, expect once - but that was after the New Year party 4 years ago!! LOL! But not in the last two years with all the play sessions that I had in here. Never had a complaint...but then the neighbour below me usually have her TV on loud, and I almost can feel it through the floor, but does not bother me since I won't be able to hear anything anyway!

Living in a silent world does have its advantages!

 

[promethius7]

sshhh.

ball gag

 

[MisterSir]

ball gag

Doesn't stop the noise from toys hitting skin, though, which is the bigger problem. Unless you're going to soundproof the entire place, there's not a lot else that can be done, so you're just going to have to suck it up and take the curious stares where they come.