Female preferences in dirty talk

[thesensuallife]

Great question...

I like it when he notices where i am in the moment and verbalizes it. Like if I'm getting more excited and he asks if I like what he's doing or if I want more. That used to be embarrassing, but now it's a turn on. Or if I'm sucking his cock and he tells me to take it, just the way I want it. Or when I'm close to going over, and he tells me to give it all to him.

I guess it's not dirty talk as much as it's a continual stream of words that keep pushing me further and further into the out-of-control.

That, in the end, is what really does it for me. Knowing that the person I'm with can handle me going all the way over the edge. Who is willing to push me there. And who wants to go there with me.

Now, in the 'don't do' category, I have a two funny ones...

There was the guy who told me to get my vagina upstairs so he could fuck me...it was a turn-off...although i did it anyway, and we're still friends

And my all-time favorite...I have a particularly good climax...not the longest of all time by a long shot...but maybe longer than this guy was used to...and before the last shudders have run their course through my body, he asks, "Are you ok?"

Seriously...

 

[lass714]

Don't use "vagina".

Too clinical.

Nicknames for the vagina, compiled by comedian George Carlin. No one could ever say it better!

ace of spades
adam's cave
altar of love
baby box
bearded clam
beaver
belly entrance
biscuit
black bess
black box
blossom
bluebeard's closet
box
briar patch
brown madam
bullseye
bunny
bush
button hole
cabbage patch
canal
candle holder
carnal canyon
Cap'n Fuzzy
cat's meat
cave of harmony
cave of the 7th happiness
cavern
cellar door
chute
chocha
clamper
cleft
clutch
cockpit
cooch/coochie
cookie
cooter
cooze
coupler
crack
cranny
crease
crevice
crumpet
dimple
divine scar
donut
eel-skinner
Ellie Mae Clamp-it
envelope
fig bush
figgy pudding
fish tank
flower
Fort Bushy
front window
furbox
furburger
furrow gap
gaper
gash
gate of heaven
ginch (who stole Christmas?)
ginny
girl-street
glove
glove of love
goat-milker
gravy-maker
gully-hole
hair pie
happy valley
harbor of hope
hatch
hedgehog
hog eye
hole
honey-hive
honey-pot
hoohoo
horse collar
hot box
hot spot
house under the hill
irish fortune
itching jenny
jack nasty-face
jaxy
jelly-roll
juice box
keyhole
lady jane
lamp of love
lapland
latching lucy
lather-maker
little mary
locker
long-eye
love sponge
love tunnel
lower lips
magpie's nest
manhole
mark of the beast
meat
meat curtains
meat grinder
missy-thang
mom's homemade slit pie
mother's little secret
mound
mount pleasant
mouse
mouth-that-cannot-bite
muff
naf
nature's tufted treasure
nest
niche
nook
nooky
notch
oat-bin
old mossyface
organ grinder
oven
oyster catcher
patch
pelt
pen wiper
pie
piece
pin cushion
pipe cleaner
piss flaps
pit
playpen
pocker
poke hole
poontang
poor man's blessing
prick
purse
pussy
puta
quiff
quill sharpener
quim
quiver
rose
sachet
sausage wrap
Sir Muffenstein
slash
slit
slot
snake charmer
snapper
snappin' clam
snappin' turtle
snatch
snatch-box
socket
sportsman's gap
stank
steam room
stuff
sugar basin
tail
temple of low men
tool chest
toy shop
treasure chest
trench
triangle
trim
tube
tuna
taca tunnel
tunnel of love
twat
tweeze
twinkie-lee
twitcher
vag
vajayjay
valley
velvet glove
venus highway
vertical smile
victoria's secret
wet cave of lust
wet weasel
whisker biscuit
wooly-burger
yawnie
yum-yum

 

[Stella_Omega]

I really don't want comedian talk during sex.

At breakfast the next morning, that's when I want a little bit of funny.

digging some of those words though! "black bess" "Blossom" "Mark of the beast" "whisker-biscuit"...

You know, "coochie" comes to us from the very same Indo-European root word "Cu" that "cunt' comes from-- only it went on a trip the other way around the world through Araby and Africa, and came to the US with the black slaves. The two words met up here in the USA.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

hmmms, depends forme on what mood I am in.

Sometimes just a whisper of how much they want you is enough. Just to hear them say it's you at that moment making them lose control. Sometimes if I am in a 'need to lose control and be mastered phase' a little bit of bich and a cum slut could go over really well. And then there are those fantasy times when I like to hear what they want me to do with them and maybe others. *shrugs* Just depends on the mood and the buttons that need to be pressed. I have a lot of buttons!

 

[SimonBrooke]

I really don't want comedian talk during sex.

At breakfast the next morning, that's when I want a little bit of funny.

digging some of those words though! "black bess" "Blossom" "Mark of the beast" "whisker-biscuit"...

You know, "coochie" comes to us from the very same Indo-European root word "Cu" that "cunt' comes from-- only it went on a trip the other way around the world through Araby and Africa, and came to the US with the black slaves. The two words met up here in the USA.

I always think it's interesting that the same root gave us 'cunning', and 'kenning' and 'knowledge'..

 

[Stella_Omega]

I always think it's interesting that the same root gave us 'cunning', and 'kenning' and 'knowledge'..

Talk dirty to me, baby!

 

[raphy]

George missed "Man in a boat"

*nod nod*

 

[Stella_Omega]

George missed "Man in a boat"

*nod nod*

If this is how you talk dirty to women, you're probably better off keeping your mouth shut...

 

[XsNrg]

George missed "Man in a boat"

*nod nod*

No he didn't.........that term refers to a clit in my world....

 

[Stella_Omega]

Boys, boys. Get the wax out of your ears. OP asked for advice from women (and men) on what kinds of talk turns women on.

A list of words meaning pussy is NOT "dirty talk" to any woman. Trust me on this.

 

[XsNrg]

Excellent point.....

 

[GDesmond]

I just think pussy flows off the tongue so much easier.

thank you; I've always felt like that, too. Luv the word, cunt, too, when used at the right moment

 

[Stella_Omega]

thank you; I've always felt like that, too. Luv the word, cunt, too, when used at the right moment

when the right moment comes, do you just say "Cunt," or do you put a phrase around it?

 

[Chantilyvamp]

*wipes tears* okay that list has caused some serious amusement for me this afternoon. I just want to start a contest to see if any man can make some of those words into somethig that has erotic value to a woman. Cos right now the whole thing is just sending me into peals of laughter trying to come up with things that might even have a chance of working.

 

[Stella_Omega]

"Lemme suck on your man in a boat, baby!"

 

[harrlequin]

For women, I'm wondering is the reverse true? When we talk dirty to you, are you more interested in hearing about our cocks and bodies than hearing us talk about your bodies? I think for most women the most important thing (or at least one of the most) is to hear about how much we want you. How hard you're making us, how strongly we want to lick/kiss/stroke/fuck you or certain parts of you, how beautiful and sexy you are. My instinct when doing this would be to talk about your body and what I want to do to it, because that is where my mind would honestly be, but would it be a mistake to focus on your body so much? Again, I ask this because if a woman were to go on about my body, it would be of less interest to me than if she talked about her own.

This is what I like to hear, #1. Not so much about my body, although compliments are always nice, in the "dirty" context, something like "Oh fuck your ass drives me crazy" is appreciated.

Sluttiness is a common and important factor in much of talk, or that's the impression I get. In my limited experience it seems to me that most (possibly the vast majority?) of women like some to be told that they are slutty/whorish/nymphos etc. at least to some degree, and at the right time. Can you expand on this at all?

For me this is a no. *shrug* They are words with negative emotions attached to them and I've read/experienced far too many times feelings of humiliation/misogyny attached to this. In my experience, many men feel differently and these are not meant to be negative, so hearing them in the proper context doesn't totally turn me off, but it's not my preference.

And what about come/semen etc.? This is maybe more of a general turn-on question than in issue of talk, but how many women like to hear us talking about coming on/in you, or even beyond that? eg. "I'm gonna cover your face in my cream, make it all sticky" etc. (I'm guessing that one is going to vary a lot woman to woman)

One of the sexiest things I've heard recently went something like this.

"God, Baby, you have the sweetest ass. Damn, I'm going to come. Fuck - I'm going to pump my seed deep inside your fucking ass, I'm gonna pump and pump and pump an-aaaaaahhhhhh!"

 

[raphy]

Boys, boys. Get the wax out of your ears. OP asked for advice from women (and men) on what kinds of talk turns women on.

A list of words meaning pussy is NOT "dirty talk" to any woman. Trust me on this.

Okay, so we went a little off topic. What do you expect, this is the AH after all....

 

[Chantilyvamp]

"Lemme suck on your man in a boat, baby!"

or

'Baby please i just wanna rub your hog eye!'

roflmao

 

[Selena_Kitt]

I think sometimes things get lost in translation...

For example, I have a "million man" fantasy... as in, having so-many-men-I-can't-count all around me, masturbating, taking turns, etc...

He thinks it's a "slut" fantasy. But that's the male perspective.

From the feminine perspective, it's a "worship" fantasy. I want to be wanted, not used. It's a subtle but important difference.

And when it comes to dirty talk, I think similar things happen. I think "slut" can mean really different things, even spoken between two people in the same bed.

In terms of what I like to hear about, I'm with Imp... the "ohmygodIhavetohaveyouNOW!" part is the turn-on. Desire feeds desire. "I want" is always a turn on. I want you on all fours. I want your mouth. I want to be inside you.

I'm not quite as adamant that it's all about me, though... I'm happy to introduce another imaginary person into our bed. That's fun for me. I enjoy the thought of him with another woman, or being with her myself, so having fun with her together is good. Once in a while I'll sneak another guy in there, too...

 

[CharleyH]

Sluttiness is a common and important factor in much of talk, or that's the impression I get. In my limited experience it seems to me that most (possibly the vast majority?) of women like some to be told that they are slutty/whorish/nymphos etc. at least to some degree, and at the right time. Can you expand on this at all?

And what about come/semen etc.? This is maybe more of a general turn-on question than in issue of talk, but how many women like to hear us talking about coming on/in you, or even beyond that? eg. "I'm gonna cover your face in my cream, make it all sticky" etc. (I'm guessing that one is going to vary a lot woman to woman)

I think you watch/read too much porn (not that I don't, lol, ). Dirty talk, to me as a women, should be dirty in the moment. Writing dirty talk that a female character wants to hear in your story does depend on you, as a writer. It also depends on the character that you have written. Is she submissive? Will calling her a slut be enough to make her feel at your proverbial 'head' of power, will the word be dirty enough for her or is she a character who needs the word whore or requires the word cunt?

The word 'slut' is playful to me, as a woman. I call many men 'sluts'. The word just means I love sex, I love to experiment. To call me a slut means you are jealous that I have had more lovers than you, even if your tone is aggressive.

In a story, as in life, one might test the waters of the character by asking her 'are you a slut?' or by stating 'you slut'. Just like women, your character can have many reactions.
"Are you a slut?"
"Yes"
So what is the reaction of your male character to this?

"Are you a slut?"
"No."
So what is the reaction of your male character to this?

"Are you a slut?"
"More than you"
So what is the reaction of your male character to this?

These are just some examples on many variations. I think the best question you can ask yourself as a porn writer, is what turns you on? What do you want to hear from your female character when you talk dirty to her? If what she responds to your dirty talk turns you on, then I am sure there will be many readers just as turned on.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Charley has a very important point, there

Make your woman's response believable, and your woman readers will believe that that talk turned her on--- even if, under normal circumstances, that same talk might not be such a turn-on to them.

If its really fucking stupid-- like "I wanna rub your hog eye" you'll want to spend some effort on convincing your readers.

But it can be done...

 

[xssve]

Every woman is different, which is kind of a cop out, but true, nevertheless - some women enjoy it straightforward and earthy: they'll bust a gut if you try to get all mushy and assume you're a total geek, and this ranges from borderline (apparent) verbal abuse, to the merely explicit, to outright clinical detachment, and everything in between - others cannot stand anything but the most gentle of euphemisms.

Much of it, in my experience is how well the respective partners reads between the lines; background and experience, identity, worldview, etc., even local culture all have a lot to do with it.

Context is everything - "slut" may mean one thing coming from your lover, another thing coming from your bible thumping neighbor.

I think it could be used as an excellent device for character development, there are always your "doubles" for instance, i.e., the prim and proper, demure librarian type who turns into a total slut in bed, sort of an "evil twin" thing - I think this may be what Doulton is referring too - the whole worship of femininity thing is often very stifling for women, it makes it hard for a lot of women to cut loose and relax into the thing, kind of a "will you respect me in the morning?" attitude, social acceptance.

I just say: "Shit, I don't respect you now" - and that usually gets a laugh: i.e., it can be a sort of icebreaker.

 

[Firebrain]

Context is everything - "slut" may mean one thing coming from you lover, another thing coming from your bible thumping neighbor.

Exactly.

Another on the "don't" list - Yoda impressions (yeah, don't ask).

 

[xssve]

I think possibly the English are less uptight about it, they have a tradition of Elizabethan bawdiness to draw on to contextualize the whole thing, whereas America gained much of it's identity largely at the height of the Victorian era, where Victorian reserve was stranded, and festered in isolated environments of low population density.

There is the same sort of pendulum going, the extremes of license on one side and puritanical rigidity on the other, both of which are often matters more of perception than reality, and the differences may be largely superficial, although I have a theory that Island populations tend to develop more relaxed attitudes towards sexuality since there isn't a lot of room to get away from each other.

It's very typical of religions to seek isolated conditions, the earliest American settlers on the East Coast were religious communes seeking to pursue their respective oddities unmolested, and they contributed much to the overall American psyche; much of this country is still stuck firmly in the Nineteenth century when it comes to sexuality.