Why is virginity such a turn off for everyone?

[Lorianna]

It seems like if you're over 18 and still a virgin people avoid you or don't want anything to do with you. Most people will even break up with someone once they find out they're a virgin.

I think it's really stupid that people can be so mean about it.

 

[RebeccaRose]

I guess there's something in people not wanting to have to lead someone through every step of the way.. a preference for at least some experience... or something like that.

Personally, I'm not at all bothered by virginity. I mean if you're "destined" to be with the person and you like them, then really what should it matter. You can still have fun right?

 

[sunandshadow]

Funny, I've always heard that virgins who are willing to lose their virginity are in high demand.

 

[RebeccaRose]

Well there are those kind. I guess this only really happens in some circles mind you

 

[Lorianna]

Yep, I believe that's it, Rebecca. Personally I'm about to give up on ever finding anyone. It just doesn't happen for some people.

I just thought I'd ask here and see what people's opinions were. I've asked on other forums and the answeres weren't very inspiring. It's a sociological survey I'm doing.

 

[cadman7777]

It seems like if you're over 18 and still a virgin people avoid you or don't want anything to do with you. Most people will even break up with someone once they find out they're a virgin.

I think it's really stupid that people can be so mean about it.

couple of things...it is getting so rare to be a virgin at 18 most don't know what to do and it makes them uncomfortable.

and the other thing is many people are just idiots and you don't need their approval to feel good about who you are

 

[Lorianna]

Actually, I'm 24.

 

[cadman7777]

Actually, I'm 24.

Same stuff still applies

 

[infinity706]

Well, virgins aren't a problem for me. It's just totally incompetent ones. I've had a few of those pursue me because they heard I was an easy fuck. If the idea is that it entitles you to simply show up, have me act out all your fantasies, get you off, and not have to make any effort at all learn anything or even try to mimic any of my moves, it won't go over well. I even had one fool that expected to be allowed to dominate me. Showing up, trying to order me around and throwing a fit because you don't want to use a condom is grounds for me walking out on your sorry ass right this second.

That hasn't been true for all virgins, though. There have been some that were polite and willing to learn. Sure, they sucked the first time like probably everyone, ever, but if someone shows promise for repeat performances, it's not a big deal.

 

[A_Kefka]

Just a thought, but it might not be the fact that it would be your first time that is a turn off. If could be that since its kinda rare to still be a virgin at that age (kids are all sluts now, seriously) that they assume there must be something wrong with you if you still are. This is of course idiotic on their part, because if they haven't found anything about you they dislike other than your inexpirience then they should not worry about it. I didn't have sex till I was 18, but she didn't know I was a virgin (was kind of an unusual circumstance).

 

[plaidscott]

Being a virgin myself, I don't understand it to an extent. Yeah, if you're looking for a "quick fuck" you're going to want someone experienced, and I understand that. I also know there are those out there, partially because of how my generation (am I really old enough to say "my generation"? Wow) views virginity in general, who would fuck just about anything just to get rid of it. And of course those virgins just out to get off.

But if/when someone is looking for a real relationship, or at the very least one with emotional attachment, it really baffles me when people get looked down upon for being a virgin.

Personally, I know I will be a lover that would rather get my partner off than worry about myself. Getting off myself is obviously GREAT, but just the thought of giving someone immense pleasure is ecstasy to me. I couldn't start to imagine what it will really be like.

Obviously I know close to jack shit about sex from personal experience and I have a pretty good idea that I will suck the first time (though I will not dwell on that), but I will be willing to learn and won't be looking for that quick "fuck me now, I expect it to be awesome, don't talk to me after" type of fuck.

I'd imagine that I'm far from the 'norm', especially for a male, at least in my thinking.

 

[Programmer Cat]

It seems like if you're over 18 and still a virgin people avoid you or don't want anything to do with you. Most people will even break up with someone once they find out they're a virgin.

I don't know how it is for women, but if a male admits he's a virgin after the age of 14, others immediately assume that he's a socially retarded troglodyte who has no idea how to relate to others in real life.

 

[Programmer Cat]

But if/when someone is looking for a real relationship, or at the very least one with emotional attachment, it really baffles me when people get looked down upon for being a virgin.

My wife and I just find it annoying, since we were virgins before we met each other. Now that we've realized that we're bi and like to play with others, we take particular delight in finding virgins and teaching them the ropes.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

its like having the plague.

 

[texharley]

It seems like if you're over 18 and still a virgin people avoid you or don't want anything to do with you. Most people will even break up with someone once they find out they're a virgin.

I think it's really stupid that people can be so mean about it.

My wife was a virgin when we married and she was 23, I was 40 and not a virgin I had been married before for 19 years and had bisexual experiences before that. It did not bother me because I was looking for love more than sex and I knew she would be hot in bed after we married. She was just saving herself for marriage. That is not common today except in churches and even then it is not all that common any more but it does exist and there is nothing wrong with it if that is what an individual wants to do.

It is just odd to see a topic about virginity on literotica especially in the GLBT section. I don't think most of use are concerned with keeping our virginity. Yes, there will be men who are not interested in dating you if you want to remain a virgin until marriage but a man who wants a wife who will be faithful and not compare him to other men will appreaciate your virginity. but I doubt he is here.

 

[Shywong]

For me virginity is a double edged sword, both a turn on and a turn off depending on the person. My first reaction when finding out a girl is a virgin is disbelief depending on her age. Anyone over 21, I call bullshit. Just kidding.. You know what they say, for guys you divide by three, for girls you multiply by three.

Virginity Pros & Cons

Pros:
Pure and Innocent
Clean and Healthy
Easy to please sexually.
More likely to remain loyal AFTER sex.

Cons:
Inexperienced [Won't know what you/they want.]
Timid and Needy [May want their first time to be special.]
Not kinky enough. [Very high chance the sex will be vanilla and boring.]
More difficult to get into bed. [You'll need to be patient and wait until they're ready.]

 

[A_Kefka]

The easy to pleas part might not be true. Just because someone hasn't has sex doesn't mean they don't masturbate. She might have incredible orgasms when playing with herself and expect the same from penetration and not get it. Hopefully you are still giving her what she needs, but that could still be dissappointing for her.

 

[Lorianna]

Well the reason I'm still a virgin is because I've always been extremely shy. And nobody really liked me when I was growing up. I wouldn't say I'm ugly, I just had some different beliefs than everybody else. Plus I had some gender identity issues(I'm transgender). I grew up in a very narrow minded, prudish, town in Alabama, where I still live.

I'm not a prude by any chance though. I do masturbate, watch porn, and smoke marijuana, hehe. And I'm bi. I'm just not good with people and I'm starting to believe nobody likes me anyways so I'm about to give up ever meeting anybody.

I was just curious what the problem everybody has about virginity. I'm actually fine with being a virgin, but I don't want to remain one forever.

 

[Lorianna]

I'm not surprised at any of this. This fucking world sucks anyways.

god, I'm better of killing myself than to live another day in this fucking world with all these screwed up, shallow, brain dead assholes and bitches.

 

[19cock]

I'm not surprised at any of this. This fucking world sucks anyways.

god, I'm better of killing myself than to live another day in this fucking world with all these screwed up, shallow, brain dead assholes and bitches.

Easy there, it's not quite that bad. Yeah people can suck, but then there are people out there that really shine, and eventually you will find them.

I was single for two years before I met my current girlfriend, and a virgin until then too.

I was 20 when I lost my virginity, and I think people put too much stock in age. Everyone thinks you have to have sex before your 17 or 18, and how could you not have, and blah blah blah. Whatever. I'm happy to have had sex when I did, and not have rushed into it just so I could say I did it.

 

[Draco1969]

Ok.....
It is time for my two cents on this I was a virgin untill I Was 20 and for the whole time I was a teenager I chased everything trying to bust a nut, I'm not a bad looking guy I was just too horney and stupid to get laid lol. But anyway when I finally lost my virginity it was to my gf at the time it was the first time for both of us and it was ok but not the best I had. But I'm glad I waited the connection was there and it felt right. My freind don't worry about being a virgin there is nothing wrong with that in fact I have great respect for you for holding out like you have when the time is right you will know and the person you give your self to will also the thing is go with your instincts don't be pressured into loosing it because once its gone its gone and you can't get it back. So my freind it is rime for you to pick your self up believe in your self be proud of who you are!! And move from that town and find your place in this world where you will fit in and be accepted for who you are. Enjouy your life and when it is time you will know and trust me you will be gald you did. and those who look at you odd because you are a virgin most of the wish they were still so Chill and be proud of who you are and don't sweat the small stuff it will happen. And if you really want to loos your virginity and no one wants to help you let me know ill help. or you can always go with a pro nothing wrong with that just make sure its not one off the street. Be proud of who you are and don't let anyone tell you different.

 

[akaSol]

Very much like Draco1969 , I to had my first sexual encounter at 21.

It was our mutual first time, bank holiday weekend , with no one home. From Friday until some time Sunday morning.
This was way beyond ALL of my piers who had started @ 15 yoa.
Virginity for me was simply not finding the right person.

Transversely I became some what over indulgent sex wise , so finding a partner who does not recoil at what I have done is becoming increasingly difficult. So my advice is to not worry about your "piratical" experience but having found literotica would mean in my mind you have in some way mentally under gone the process.

>Sol

 

[Kumani]

It seems like if you're over 18 and still a virgin people avoid you or don't want anything to do with you. Most people will even break up with someone once they find out they're a virgin.

I think it's really stupid that people can be so mean about it.

I think people avoid virgins like the plague because they do not want to have to spend their time teaching someone what to do. Ridiculous nonsense! Instead they want to be with someone sexually that is experienced under the premise that they already would know some stuff. I have had the experience of having sex with a virgin and i must say that it was incredibly more satisfying than some sexual experiences that I have had with supposedly experienced men