Mom drops off arguing kids - good or bad?

[Lavared]

WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. — Usually, it's an empty threat: "If you kids don't stop fighting, I'm going to stop this car right now and leave you here!" But a mother from an upper-crust New York suburb went through with it, ordering her battling 10- and 12-year-old daughters out of her car in White Plains' business district and driving off, police said Tuesday.

Madlyn Primoff, 45, a partner in a Manhattan law firm, pleaded not guilty Monday to a charge of endangering a child. A temporary order of protection was issued, barring her from contact with the children, who were physically unharmed.

White Plains police said Primoff ordered the arguing girls out of the car Sunday evening as they were driving home. She left them at Post Road and South Broadway, an area of shops and offices 3 miles from their home, then drove off, the police report said.

The report does not say whether the girls had cell phones.

Police would not say if Primoff ever returned to look for the girls, but they said, without explaining how, that the 12-year-old eventually caught up with the mother. The 10-year-old was found by a "Good Samaritan" on the street, upset and emotional about losing her mother, police said.

The girl gave police her mother's name and their address in well-to-do Scarsdale, and they asked Scarsdale police to check Primoff's $2 million house. Shortly afterward, Primoff called Scarsdale police from home to say the 10-year-old was missing, said Scarsdale Detective Lt. Bryant Clark.

He directed her to White Plains police headquarters, where she was arrested.

Yeah, yeah, I know. She's a horrible Mom etc. But... when I was a kid three miles wasn't that far to walk home from.

Does this justify her losing contact with her children? Does it depend on the neighborhood she dumped them out in, whether they knew their way home or not and the time of day?

What are your thoughts on this?

(link to entire article... http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,517437,00.html )

 

[where]

I did it once. fucking kids are so pampered

 

[koalabear]

Bravo for Mom....but the Libs will raise hell.

 

[hotMarie]

been there....

No, I didn't threw them out of the car, but lord knows I wanted too.
I laughed when I first readed the story... but then realizing how young the girls were.. its a terrible story... being a single parent is a tough job but I think the mother lost her mind.... feel sorry for the girls

 

[where]

No, I didn't threw them out of the car, but lord knows I wanted too.
I laughed when I first readed the story... but then realizing how young the girls were.. its a terrible story... being a single parent is a tough job but I think the mother lost her mind.... feel sorry for the girls

they are ten and twelve. hardly little babies

 

[Lavared]

Did the story mention her being a single Mom? If so, I missed that. I don't think that would make any difference. I'm married and can still get plenty upset with my kids for arguing with each other.

 

[koalabear]

Did the story mention her being a single Mom? If so, I missed that. I don't think that would make any difference. I'm married and can still get plenty upset with my kids for arguing with each other.

I think they said she was a married Lawyer. My Sis used to make hers hug when they fought, ended the fights fast.

 

[Delicacy]

There's better ways to discipline kids. She should've taken them home, grounded them and taken away things like Ipods, computers, cell-phones, etc. My four kids all agree that being grounded and not having their little luxuries was the ultimate punishment.

I have to wonder why the article stated the value of her home. That seemed kind of strange.

 

[koalabear]

There's better ways to discipline kids. She should've taken them home, grounded them and taken away things like Ipods, computers, cell-phones, etc. My four kids all agree that being grounded and not having their little luxuries was the ultimate punishment.

I have to wonder why the article stated the value of her home. That seemed kind of strange.

Lib news.

 

[Le Jacquelope]

Did the story mention her being a single Mom? If so, I missed that. I don't think that would make any difference. I'm married and can still get plenty upset with my kids for arguing with each other.

Police would not say if Primoff ever returned to look for the girls, but they said, without explaining how, that the 12-year-old eventually caught up with the mother. The 10-year-old was found by a "Good Samaritan" on the street, upset and emotional about losing her mother, police said.

I guess you could consider this a good thing if you don't mind your 10 year old daughter being found by some stranger on the street.

Perhaps he'll be a "Good Samaritan". This way when you recover your daughter, scared as hell for her very life, you can let her testify to her sibling how serious you are about them not fighting. This way they can be mortally terrified of you instead of angry at each other.

Or perhaps he'll be a pedophile who'll snatch her and do horrible things to her and one day you'll find her skeleton under the ground next to a tree in the woods. Then you can present her remains to your other child as a warning against disobeying you. An additional advantage of this is that your daughter's death would not be directly by your hands.

Alternatively you could treat them to a re-enactment of Andrea Yates when you get back home: instead of drowning them, though, you could resort to waterboarding.

That ought to teach kids a lesson about fighting amongst themselves.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is family values, koalabear style.

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[blunt_trauma]

did they know the area? did she stop just out of sight? {because how else did the 12y/o 'catch up' to a car?}
there are poor kids who walk that far to shops/friends/school, and nobody bats an eyelid.

still, i wouldn't have done it. too many loonies about.

 

[Sonny Limatina]

I did it once. fucking kids are so pampered

I got thrown out of the car once--in the middle of the highway. I was maybe 12. I guess I was technically in danger, but I knew how to cross a road. It was an ugly scene, and it certainly didn't reinforce any deep parenting messages, but it didn't mean anything in the long run.

The girls were old enough to walk home from the mall (which is what White Plains' shopping district is).

 

[NaughtyLil1]

I have been there. I have two girls and can totally relate. You can only threaten so long, and then you have to make good on your word. That's one of the tough parts of being a parent sometimes. However, in today's climate, I would be very hesitant about dropping my girls off 3 miles from home. I think I would have done it a little closer to home, like at the end of the driveway. lol

Shame on the 12 year old for not looking after her little sister.

 

[paganangel]

Yeah, yeah, I know. She's a horrible Mom etc. But... when I was a kid three miles wasn't that far to walk home from.

Does this justify her losing contact with her children? Does it depend on the neighborhood she dumped them out in, whether they knew their way home or not and the time of day?

What are your thoughts on this?

(link to entire article... http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,517437,00.html )

i know one thing, the value of the home is irrelevant.

 

[Le Jacquelope]

Shame on the 12 year old for not looking after her little sister.

Like mother, like daughter.

Alternatively, she may have been thinking to relegate her 10 year old sibling

to the role of bait.


(Yes, I know that's not entirely funny...)

 

[where]

I got thrown out of the car once--in the middle of the highway. I was maybe 12. I guess I was technically in danger, but I knew how to cross a road. It was an ugly scene, and it certainly didn't reinforce any deep parenting messages, but it didn't mean anything in the long run.

The girls were old enough to walk home from the mall (which is what White Plains' shopping district is).

mine threatened to call child line

 

[paganangel]

they are ten and twelve. hardly little babies

ten.
you fucking idiot.

 

[paganangel]

Lib news.

fox news

 

[Recidiva]

Yeah, yeah, I know. She's a horrible Mom etc. But... when I was a kid three miles wasn't that far to walk home from.

Does this justify her losing contact with her children? Does it depend on the neighborhood she dumped them out in, whether they knew their way home or not and the time of day?

What are your thoughts on this?

(link to entire article... http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,517437,00.html )

Yes, she should. This circumstance shows her to be easily rattled and prone to irresponsibility. Inability to convince children to have some respect for her or themselves.

Yes, that makes her a bad parent. Hopefully they find someone with more effective parenting methods that don't include impatience and endangerment as "teaching tools."

 

[rosco rathbone]

When I was a kid, in the sticks...maybe.

Too many pervs on the road now a days.

Bad call.

 

[Le Jacquelope]

Bravo for Mom....but the Libs will raise hell.

Actually, we libs wish you Conservatives would do this with your kids more often. It would cut down on the chances that your demon progeny might survive long enough to vote for America's Next Top Rommel[tm].

 

[IrezumiKiss]

She shouldn'ta done it, but I gotta say this...White Plains ain't BedStuy, Brooklyn. Some people really need to step their heads out of their comfort zones if they think walking three miles in White Plains is a discipline.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

mine threatened to call child line

I said that once to my mom when I was younger, so she stuck a bright green sticker on the phone with the number for me to call.
I never did, but I did get kicked out of the car once. I'd probably do it to my kids too.

 

[hotMarie]

I think they said she was a married Lawyer. My Sis used to make hers hug when they fought, ended the fights fast.

oops....I thought I heard on TV she was divorced.... I was wrong....

 

[impetuous]

There's better ways to discipline kids. She should've taken them home, grounded them and taken away things like Ipods, computers, cell-phones, etc. My four kids all agree that being grounded and not having their little luxuries was the ultimate punishment.

I have to wonder why the article stated the value of her home. That seemed kind of strange.

I agree. Having your ten and twelve year old girls walk three miles (in the evening, according to the article) through a business district is not an appropriate punishment. I have no problem with disciplining kids, but putting them in a dangerous situation is irresponsible.

The mother should have taken away privileges and toys/phones, etc., instead.