Rape and homosexual urges afterwords.

[Shywong]

First off, if you're sensitive to this subject, move along please. I don't want to offend anyone or start an argument. Rape is a terrible thing, but it makes the best fantasies. Now if you're open minded to this, hear me out.

I'm looking for true stories about same sex rape and the effects it has on one's sexuality afterwords. Particularly a heterosexual person becoming bisexual or developing homosexual urges after being raped. I had a friend I met online who's bisexual but used to be straight. I flirted with him a lot, especially over his butt because that's how he got my attention. Eventually I asked if he was ever raped and he said yes. Then I asked if that's what caused his anal fetish, because he likes to be fucked. He said pretty much yeah. So the experienced essentially awakened his 'potential' and he began craving more in his new erogenous zone. The thought of such really turns me on, needless to say I was very, very interested and wanted to know more but it was a sensitive topic, so I stopped prying and never brought it up again. No one ever wants to talk about those kinds of experiences. Which is why I made this thread. If you were ever raped and it changed something in your sexuality, would you care to talk about it? I like to listen.. And I like to read so I'm also looking for articles based on real experiences of this nature. Most rape articles I find are about consoling and dealing the negative side effects. If there's one positive thing about rape is it can broaden your sexual horizon. You'll discover knew desires and kinks from the experience that can improve your sex life. Yeah I bet you're saying that's a really fucked up analogy and it's not true. I'm hoping someone understands where I'm getting at here. Bottom line is I'm looking for stories about same sex rape and how it effects the victim's sexual orientation. If you have your own to share, or know of any good ones, please let me know. Anyone is welcome to add my Yahoo or MSN if you want to talk in private.

That's all. Hope I didn't disturb anyone too much.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Here is something

I wrote this in 2004 in response to another thread...

click me

I will think more on this and give you an updated response in a bit...

(ETA~I just noted that you were looking for same sex encounters concerning rape...so this might not fit...)

 

[Programmer Cat]

Can't help you here. The closest I came to being forced was having a drunk guy grab me and forcibly kiss me at a Sisters of Mercy concert -- and I had just shoved him away from me. It didn't really change anything; I had already been willing to try gay sex if I had met somebody I felt safe with.

 

[Bystander]

when I was a kid I was molested by an older man. I'm not sure if that is the reason why I'm bi right now or if I was just that way and the urges would have come naturally over time. I guess technically speaking I wasn't raped but it still wasn't consensual, atleast not initially.

 

[texharley]

First off, if you're sensitive to this subject, move along please. I don't want to offend anyone or start an argument. Rape is a terrible thing, but it makes the best fantasies. Now if you're open minded to this, hear me out.

I'm looking for true stories about same sex rape and the effects it has on one's sexuality afterwords. Particularly a heterosexual person becoming bisexual or developing homosexual urges after being raped. I had a friend I met online who's bisexual but used to be straight. I flirted with him a lot, especially over his butt because that's how he got my attention. Eventually I asked if he was ever raped and he said yes. Then I asked if that's what caused his anal fetish, because he likes to be fucked. He said pretty much yeah. So the experienced essentially awakened his 'potential' and he began craving more in his new erogenous zone. The thought of such really turns me on, needless to say I was very, very interested and wanted to know more but it was a sensitive topic, so I stopped prying and never brought it up again. No one ever wants to talk about those kinds of experiences. Which is why I made this thread. If you were ever raped and it changed something in your sexuality, would you care to talk about it? I like to listen.. And I like to read so I'm also looking for articles based on real experiences of this nature. Most rape articles I find are about consoling and dealing the negative side effects. If there's one positive thing about rape is it can broaden your sexual horizon. You'll discover knew desires and kinks from the experience that can improve your sex life. Yeah I bet you're saying that's a really fucked up analogy and it's not true. I'm hoping someone understands where I'm getting at here. Bottom line is I'm looking for stories about same sex rape and how it effects the victim's sexual orientation. If you have your own to share, or know of any good ones, please let me know. Anyone is welcome to add my Yahoo or MSN if you want to talk in private.

That's all. Hope I didn't disturb anyone too much.

I am 57 and it has taken me over 40 years to get over and accept a rape situation that happened in Jr High school. I was a typical boy with desires toward girls. I was in the shower during P.E. and several of the guys started grabbing me and rubbing the dicks all over me and tried to penetrate my ass and they forced me on my knees and tried to force their cocks in my mouth. I told the coatch about it and he yelled at me and told me to stop making stuff up and everyone gets picked on in school and to grow up. I tried to tell me dad and he ignored me.

Anway shortly after that my best friend and I would suck each other and I really enjoyed his cock in my mouth and mine in his. We never cummed in each other but did jacke off and cum on each others cock. After he moved I started suckng another friend. Then I stopped and until this day have not sucked a cock since, but I do fantasize about it and years and years it troubled me and I could not accept that I may be bisexual living straight. I can now accept it and even come here and discuss my bi fantasies and every once in a while I will cyber with other men an sometimes women sometimes a husband and wife.

There is no doubt in my mind that if this had not happened I would not be bi but I don't care if I ever end up single again or the wife decides to accept the alternative lifestyle I would suck cocks in a second.

 

[Pattythebelle]

I know for myself, I sometimes wonder if the abuse I received when I was younger is the basis for the confusion that I had for so long. I know that in the beginning it was scary but over time I started to fully enjoy the feelings and emotions of being treated as a female. To this day, I know that I live primarly as a lesbian with my SO but have had male partners that have accepted me and treated me as a woman.

 

[Etoile]

I know for myself, I sometimes wonder if the abuse I received when I was younger is the basis for the confusion that I had for so long. I know that in the beginning it was scary but over time I started to fully enjoy the feelings and emotions of being treated as a female. To this day, I know that I live primarly as a lesbian with my SO but have had male partners that have accepted me and treated me as a woman.

I have to admit I'm a little confused. Are you saying that abuse caused you to lean toward being transgender?

 

[texharley]

I know for myself, I sometimes wonder if the abuse I received when I was younger is the basis for the confusion that I had for so long. I know that in the beginning it was scary but over time I started to fully enjoy the feelings and emotions of being treated as a female. To this day, I know that I live primarly as a lesbian with my SO but have had male partners that have accepted me and treated me as a woman.

I think what we experience growing up defines us aas adults

 

[Shywong]

We are the sum of our experiences, the product of our environment. At least that's one way to put it. Unnaturally experiences at a young age have a more profound impact than it does on adults. Especially if its a first experience. My first sexual encounter was performing cunnilingus on my cousin. I really enjoyed doing it to her so I grew up to have a major fetish for incest, femdom and eating pussy. My bi-curious tendances stemmed from my anal fetish that doesn't have any real origin other than me loving big butts.

 

[Pattythebelle]

I have to admit I'm a little confused. Are you saying that abuse caused you to lean toward being transgender?

No Etoile, what I'm saying is that because of the early abuse, it caused so much confusion for me. I sometimes wonder if I hadn't been subjected to sexual experiences as early as I did, maybe I would have learned more about myself before having to deal with grown up problems.

Before the rape, I was a somewhat happy little girl enjoying friendship with other girls my own age. After it started, I was thrust into dealing with people twice my age. It was a time that made me ashamed for what I was doing and for feeling that I enjoyed doing it. To a point, I was always kept in a state of mental confusion as to what gender I was.

It wasn't until my teen years that I started facing who I was and what my thoughts about life were. I still had the confusion but not as bad as when i had to deal with so many other back then.

And please Etoile, don't think that I'm being defensive. I've read many of your responses and know that you only ask questions that seem appropriate. I guess even to this day, I have mixed feelings about who I am.

 

[Shywong]

Pattythebells: I'm just a little lost here, are you genetically male or female?

 

[Pattythebelle]

Pattythebells: I'm just a little lost here, are you genetically male or female?

To answer your question, even thought I hate to be classed, today I am a non-op transsexual.

I was born a male, lived for the most part of almost 17 years being mostly female, went into the denial stage and trying to prove I was all macho till I was 25. When I married, I tried to tell my SO about me and who I felt I was but she didn't want to have anything to do with it. I suppressed who I was until I was 31. That was when my first child was born and so many emotions came flooding back.

For that first year, I was a stay at home parent that enjoyed being a housewife and full time Mother. I had a next door neighbor that knew me and accepted me as another woman. Even thought I knew my SO was aware of what was going on she still denighed it.

At 42, my SO had to finally come to grips that my female side wasn't going away and after 3 gruling days of tears, yelling, accusations, silence and finally talking, she some what accepted me.

After leaving the military, I started living full time as a woman and started into hormone treatments. I was two years into HRT when I developed blot clots and my doctors advised me that I could never take them again.

Today, I live an androgonous life with my SO. We have found happiness just being two people in love.

I hope this answers your question Shywong. I will be more than happy to have any further discussions just please contact me through my e mail.

 

[HarlotMinx]

Not saying that you did Pattythebelle but just a thought on this topic. People should never(keep in mind I very rarely use umbrella statements and this is one such case) transition because of a abuse. Unfortionately it's pretty common and always a mistake on an extreme level. It's the number one thing gender therapists look for when dealing with people who are looking for hormones and letters for surgery. It's also the reason you can't legally get surgery without a letter from a therapist and doctor in the United States, Canada, and most of Europe. I've seen a couple people who have transitioned because of abuse and ended up in a position where they didn't really feel committed to transitioning but on some level felt they had no choice. It's also why I so strongly recommend people see a therapist for half a year before even considering hormones.

-poppet

 

[Pattythebelle]

HarlotMinx, those are very sound and truthful words about people that transition because of abuse. It's funny because it was the same words that helped me to become comfortable with who I am today. It was a new therapist that I saw, that was recomended by the doctor that diagnosed the clotting issue that helped me to see that some of the underlying issues with my transitioning was an effect of the abuse. The therapist that got me on the hormones was either one that didn't fully comprehend my situation or was just going along with whatever I said to make a buck.

Sometimes some of us that wish so hard and for so long, sometimes end up with something that shouldn't be. I remained with the new therapist for over a year to finally become happy just being me. I am a joyful combination of both male and female, Mother and Father, husband and wife.