a discussion thread about moderating this forum

[Recidiva]

To Reci and Stella, I got both your backs. Just saying I concur with both of you. And I wish there more of the both of you than the idiot factor.

I know you got my back, and my front.

You're awfully thorough

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I know you got my back, and my front.

You're awfully thorough

You know, I know about your front and I looooovvve it, but as far as I've known you here, you've been awfully vague about your back.

So...does Reci have a caboose in the back of that supertrain, or no? Or should I be asking UD?

 

[Recidiva]

You know, I know about your front and I looooovvve it, but as far as I've known you here, you've been awfully vague about your back.

So...does Reci have a caboose in the back of that supertrain, or no? Or should I be asking UD?

I am..."Physically Vague Woman"

PVW has a cape covering her booty.

 

[shereads]

It would be very bad if you or any member of your crew were chosen to be a monitor; but how much more terrible it would be if you were God? Although you try to judge like God, your not. Keep pushing, you will get your friend over the edge. She is just about there now.

Here's a peace offering:

I don't know who you are, or what your beef is with some of the people here (and don't want to hear it rehashed) but not knowing you hasn't stopped me from taking a few cheap shots. Mea culpa. Snark is such an easy way to vent stress and frustration, sometimes we forget to consider how it might feel at the receiving end. I'm not a mean person, I hope. Well, sort of, sometimes. But it's not my favorite self.

Want to come in again and start fresh? No anger, no preconceptions about anybody here?

I'm sure this can be a harsh place to be new, but that wasn't my experience. I lurked for a long time before I leaped in and wrote a long reply to a political post that happened to have been written by a beloved figure here. Not the most promising way for a newbie to make a first appearance, and was braced for the worst, but it didn't come. I was welcomed. Have had some dreadful misunderstandings and made some (yawn) enemies along the way, but it's been rewarding to hang out with some courageous people, and compassionate ones, and an assortment of characters from other countries (Other planets, too, I suspect.) I've seen a lot of newbies welcomed, and a few spammers/self-promoters treated with disdain. I've never witnessed dismissive behavior toward any new person who didn't seem to be spoiling for a fight from the get-go. No doubt, you feel your experience was different. That's not what I'm asking. Just wondering if you'd like a do-over.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I am..."Physically Vague Woman"

PVW has a cape covering her booty.

I bet this was you in your university days, weren't it?

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2032/2293619995_79f9f506b0.jpg

 

[Recidiva]

I bet this was you in your university days, weren't it?

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2032/2293619995_79f9f506b0.jpg

Between my voice that can talk anybody into anything and my brains that can twist people up into knots and get really good test scores...my booty was just one of those things I had. Not as important as other assets at least in my view.

I do know my daughter said "Mom. Thank you for this ass."

 

[neonlyte]

*gulp*


I don't believe I have an opinion on this... yeh... that makes a change.
I have enough trouble moderating myself these days. (I recommend therapy with a person whose first language is not English - makes you concentrate no end.)

Wankers exist. It is their prerogative to display all their prejudice and bigotry in a place where they can remain anonymous (or not). None of us have to listen to or read their hatred, and whilst iggy means missing out on the living proof that Darwinism doesn't quite explain everything, it does save a whole lot of frustration.

Story ought be revived... I stopped posting there after finding myself talking to myself... I do that enough in RL, I don't need to do it on a forum.

 

[Recidiva]

Whilst iggy means missing out on the living proof that Darwinism doesn't quite explain everything, it does save a whole lot of frustration.

I LOVE this.

 

[wmrs2]

Here's a peace offering:

I don't know who you are, or what your beef is with some of the people here (and don't want to hear it rehashed) but not knowing you hasn't stopped me from taking a few cheap shots. Mea culpa. Snark is such an easy way to vent stress and frustration, sometimes we forget to consider how it might feel at the receiving end. I'm not a mean person, I hope. Well, sort of, sometimes. But it's not my favorite self.

Want to come in again and start fresh? No anger, no preconceptions about anybody here?

I'm sure this can be a harsh place to be new, but that wasn't my experience. I lurked for a long time before I leaped in and wrote a long reply to a political post that happened to have been written by a beloved figure here. Not the most promising way for a newbie to make a first appearance, and was braced for the worst, but it didn't come. I was welcomed. Have had some dreadful misunderstandings and made some (yawn) enemies along the way, but it's been rewarding to hang out with some courageous people, and compassionate ones, and an assortment of characters from other countries (Other planets, too, I suspect.) I've seen a lot of newbies welcomed, and a few spammers/self-promoters treated with disdain. I've never witnessed dismissive behavior toward any new person who didn't seem to be spoiling for a fight from the get-go. No doubt, you feel your experience was different. That's not what I'm asking. Just wondering if you'd like a do-over.

Yes, I would like very much to have a do over. Your advice is very well received. I have wondered myself why my entry was so dramatic. It may not be possible to start over but I am trying to be a new and wiser person each day.

It has always been a trait with me to attract high strung, opinionated personalities. I too am a very opinionated person. I am challenged to show the opinionated person that he or she is wrong most of the time, including me. I am working on technique of how to do this without doing harm, but I seem to be a slow learner, but I am trying to learn.

A person that wants to end a hostile relationship with me will find it easy to do so. A few soft words, like you have used with me, will go a long way in making my responses filled with kindness and love. Thank you for your interest and I will try to please you in my personality development.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Yes, I would like very much to have a do over.

Do-over done.

Welcome to the AH, Wmrs.

 

[Recidiva]

Yes, I would like very much to have a do over. Your advice is very well received. I have wondered myself why my entry was so dramatic. It may not be possible to start over but I am trying to be a new and wiser person each day.

It has always been a trait with me to attract high strung, opinionated personalities. I too am a very opinionated person. I am challenged to show the opinionated person that he or she is wrong most of the time, including me. I am working on technique of how to do this without doing harm, but I seem to be a slow learner, but I am trying to learn.

A person that wants to end a hostile relationship with me will find it easy to do so. A few soft words, like you have used with me, will go a long way in making my responses filled with kindness and love. Thank you for your interest and I will try to please you in my personality development.

:thumb_up:

Here I discover I don't know the codes for certain emoticons I don't use.

 

[damppanties]

... (Other planets, too, I suspect.) ...

Careful. Mr. Alien is a little sensitive about that.

wmrs2,

 

[Stella_Omega]

A person that wants to end a hostile relationship with me will find it easy to do so. A few soft words, like you have used with me, will go a long way in making my responses filled with kindness and love. Thank you for your interest and I will try to please you in my personality development.

Perhaps, this idea of yours works the other way around, too. When you walk into a forum full of people you do not know, and describe them as trolls within your first five posts, they probably won't be very interested in soothing your feelings.

Perhaps a few apologies on your side would be a good way for you to start.

 

[Recidiva]

Perhaps, this idea of yours works the other way around, too. When you walk into a forum full of people you do not know, and describe them as trolls within your first five posts, they probably won't be very interested in soothing your feelings.

Perhaps a few apologies on your side would be a good way for you to start.

Someone else should start the Mea Culpa Amnesty thread.

 

[Guest]

Perhaps, this idea of yours works the other way around, too. When you walk into a forum full of people you do not know, and describe them as trolls within your first five posts, they probably won't be very interested in soothing your feelings.

Perhaps a few apologies on your side would be a good way for you to start.

Yep.

Many or most of us around here tend to take offense when being called names, especially by someone we don't even know.

 

[wmrs2]

*gulp*


I don't believe I have an opinion on this... yeh... that makes a change.
I have enough trouble moderating myself these days. (I recommend therapy with a person whose first language is not English - makes you concentrate no end.)

Wankers exist. It is their prerogative to display all their prejudice and bigotry in a place where they can remain anonymous (or not). None of us have to listen to or read their hatred, and whilst iggy means missing out on the living proof that Darwinism doesn't quite explain everything, it does save a whole lot of frustration.

Story ought be revived... I stopped posting there after finding myself talking to myself... I do that enough in RL, I don't need to do it on a forum.

You are obviously a very wise person. One statement you make, I really like but I would like to add to it.

Wankers exist. It is their prerogative to display all their prejudice and bigotry in a place where they can remain anonymous (or not).

Don't you think that most people who have major differences with others, like atheist versus theist, think the other person is full of hatred, narrow mindedness, and bigotry because they simply disagree with their opinions?

 

[BOSTONFICTIONWRITER]

Sr71plt

people Want Moderators So They Can Post Moronic Crap That No One Is Allowed To Make Fun Of.

I think you hit the nail on the head, JBJ.

 

[BOSTONFICTIONWRITER]

Og would be great.

But probably way too smart to take the job.

Thank you, yes, I accept your nomination for me to moderate this site.

The first act of business is for you not to post anymore. Go read or write a story. Go ahead. Now! Go!

You've posted too much already. Now, get lost.

There, now we don't even need me as a moderator. She's gone. My work is done here. Lunch!

 

[BOSTONFICTIONWRITER]

Okay, who farted?

Stella.

 

[BOSTONFICTIONWRITER]

Brother cite these post. We the people demand to know who these people are that have made unsubstantiated attacks. If you don't tell us, we'll cut everybody's head off. That way we will get the guilty person. That sounds fair to me.

By the way, did you check out the "Holier Than Thou Porn"? There is a list of these varmints there.

How can we tolerate these unsubstantiated attacks? here is how. Don't build glass houses.

"Wow! I like this guy."

 

[Stella_Omega]

You are obviously a very wise person. One statement you make, I really like but I would like to add to it.

Don't you think that most people who have major differences with others, like atheist versus theist, think the other person is full of hatred, narrow mindedness, and bigotry because they simply disagree with their opinions?

well, not necessarily. But when you express your difference in bigoted narrowminded ways, when you act as if the forum hasn't already existed for seven years before you ever showed up-- yeah, you sound hateful.

 

[shereads]

:thumb_up:

Here I discover I don't know the codes for certain emoticons I don't use.

just type :banana: then delete the ba.

 

[shereads]

Yep.

Many or most of us around here tend to take offense when being called names, especially by someone we don't even know.

Slattern.

 

[BOSTONFICTIONWRITER]

Well, for self-preservation, you really do need to put this type of activity into perspective. It's all part of the "get his/her goat" Internet game. Those playing a rough version of it these past few days have been nearly (not this over the top, of course) as rough with me--on the same basis you are highlighting here--for months--dare I say years (without all that much "community" outrage expressed on my behalf in terms of the greater social issues being sullied--and the "community" didn't, because we're all somewhere along that "get his/her goat" game spectrum with each and every other poster ourselves). Hell, the last run BFW made at me on the sexual preference issue, that good 'ole champion of gay causes safe_bet joined in with him (although you have that thread on ignore). But it was all connected to the "get his goat" (or try to at least) Internet game.

If you can keep perspective, you won't be victimized by this. If you can't, you are a disadvantage in chatting on the Internet from the getgo.

What did it matter what I said about you? You're not gay...you're bisexual (lol).

 

[Recidiva]

just type :banana: then delete the ba.

Nope. I must be doing it wrong.



Nope.



dang.



darn this keyboard.



*sigh*

Well, I give up.