Need Ideas.

[bbwbrandie]

I need some ideas what to do with the boyfriend when I tie him up. Whenever I try to think of things I blank. And usually when I do tie him up I can't help myself and jump straight to intercourse. We don't have to many toys, but we do have vibrators, rope, dildos, handcuffs and lube.

We are into things like, hitting, biting, anal, bondage, verbal abuse, oral, teasing, and ice. We would like to try wax play but I am not to sure as how to go about it.

Help?

 

[subwannabe]

Make him eat his own cum. Don't give him a choice. Make sure if you do the wax thing you use special wax. You can't use ordinary candle wax.

 

[HarlotMinx]

Make him eat his own cum. Don't give him a choice. Make sure if you do the wax thing you use special wax. You can't use ordinary candle wax.

Please have a basic understanding of a subject before giving someone advice on what you can or can't do. This is the number one reason I've seen people do something dangerous or irresponsible with play, because someone gave them incorrect advice.

Of course you can use ordinary candle wax, paraffin wax IS what they use in bulk candles and generally what you want to use in wax play. You want to avoid Votive, Taper, and Beeswax candles since these have melting points above 130ish F (you can go higher but but know your limit and be aware of potential burn risks). Generally, if you're new to wax play, you want to stick with paraffin candles mixed with mineral oil (the type that they sell in those glass containers) since they burn lower than pure paraffin candles. What you have to be wary of with candle play is the additives in the wax. Things like coloring, metals, and scents cause the wax to melt at higher temps (mineral oil being an exception). This can make temp range paraffin range from 120 F all the way up to 170 F. Also be wary of any allergies you might have to any additives before you poor it all over your back.

-poppet

 

[bbwbrandie]

I was going to get one of the "mexican" candles with the jesus type idols on them. I heard that these melt at a lower temperature.

Thanks for the replies!

 

[Shadowann2]

When I have my boyfriend tied down to the bed, I like to start by kissing him. Then I lick, nibble, and suck my way down his chest and sides, alternating one side to the other. I also slide my long hair over ever inch of his torso, including his cock. I do this for a little while, then I put my hair up in a clip and give him oral. He love to watch me do it, and he's frustrated that he can't touch me while I'm doing it because he is tied up. It makes for a very big orgasm for him.

ETA: ParyLight candles are great for wax play because they are made to burn at a lower tempature than most candles. Even the votives and tealights don't burn my skin when I use them.

 

[Sylvia2]

Don't do anything to him.

Make him watch... have your fun playing with yourself and a range of toys. It's especially good if you can prop his head up on a pillow to watch you on a chair over the other side of the room. Then bring the action a bit closer... toy yourself just inches from his face, maybe straddling it. You could even stuff a toy in his mouth and make him hold it there while you play. A bit of this sort of teasing should drive him nuts... the lack of contact building him up to a perfect state of high tension... and then, if you're feeling generous, you may wish to relieve him as you see fit.

That's just for starters.

 

[spndrft]

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=306956

I highly recommend checking out the "library" for any number of great ideas, as well as info about particular activities (like wax play, above).

One thing I found with wax play is putting oil down first (massage oil/baby oil) makes peeling off the wax much easier. I also highly recommend doing it on a plastic sheet - quick & easy cleanup.

If you're looking for suggestions for sensation play - I recommend walking thru places like home depot/lowes and craft stores like michaels... look at every object and think what it would feel like against the skin, hell try it out. I recently picked up a sandpaper block, saranwrap on a stick, a very soft brush with a very hard handle (hehe), zip ties, push pins, clothespins, and a bunch of really sharp things that are great for dragging along the skin... among other things...

the brush is specatcular for tickling... something I have a new appreciation for as my pyl is ridiculously ticklish.

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

Get your self off, repeatedly, and make him watch. Even straddle over him and do it. Then wait a long time before you let him cum.

 

[wouldloveto]

Get your self off, repeatedly, and make him watch. Even straddle over him and do it. Then wait a long time before you let him cum.

That is what I would like done to me...

while making him wait do many of the above suggestions.

 

[midwestyankee]

Do what you want to please yourself. If he gets his rocks off, that's fine but it's not your goal, necessarily. Take care of number 1 and let number 2 fill his balls for a night.

 

[Corylea]

Dom his fantasies out of him, then use this information against him.

We can't tell you what to do with your boyfriend, because we don't know him. But he can tell you. (You might want to disguise this a bit, so it doesn't look like, "I have no idea what to do with you -- help!")

Tell him that you want him to entertain you by telling you his fantasies. You can ask him for a single fantasy, or you can make him tell you stuff for a long time. In addition to asking him to tell you about relatively ordinary fantasies, you can ask him to tell you what activities he's afraid of, what he's never done but would like to try, what, if anything, he'd like to be made to do, and what he definitely doesn't want to do.

After that, you should have plenty of information. And you should have some additional information about yourself, too. What on his list made you yawn, what made you think, "Oh, yuck," and what made you think, "Ooooh, sounds like fun"? As long as it wasn't on his "definitely not" list, you can try anything that sounded like fun to you. If nothing seemed especially interesting, well, I find the would-like-to-be-made-to-do, the afraid-of, and the never-done-but-would-like-to-try lists especially interesting.

And if what you really want is intercourse, well, there's no law that says you can't do that. If you want to BDSMize it, you can tell him how much you enjoy using him as a fucktoy. Or you can put a cockring on him, the kind that keeps him from coming, so that you can enjoy him for longer. Or tell him that he has to please you or X (something he doesn't like) will happen. Heck, girl, you've got a man all tied up and at your mercy -- USE him!

Have fun!