Valentine's Day Support thread- aka the Anti-Valentine thread

[sophia jane]

Ok. So y'all (most of you anyway) know that I just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. Which sucks in itself.
But tomorrow is my least favorite holiday (and it was before the breakup, so imagine how much I love it now!), and I'm feeling a little blue about it. Also really worried that I'm going to fall apart tomorrow and spend the day feeling sorry for myself which isn't really helpful for anyone.

So...I thought I'd start a support thread for those of us without a valentine or those of us who just hate the heart and cupid holiday. Feel free to pout, mope, spew, or- more fun- flirt. I know I can't be the only one without a valentine.

 

[cloudy]

I've never been one to celebrate Valentine's Day, but I do now - with my kids.

They receive heart-shaped suckers and candies, a small (inexpensive) gift, and a nice card, and then we spend the day together making cookies, watching movies, whatever.

I enjoy it much more now.

 

[sophia jane]

I've never been one to celebrate Valentine's Day, but I do now - with my kids.

They receive heart-shaped suckers and candies, a small (inexpensive) gift, and a nice card, and then we spend the day together making cookies, watching movies, whatever.

I enjoy it much more now.

That's what I'm doing for the first time this year. I hope it works!

 

[cloudy]

That's what I'm doing for the first time this year. I hope it works!

You'll have a great time, and they'll remember it. Any day I can celebrate my children is a good one, yes?

 

[pleaz_me]

I'll jump on the wagon with you SJ.

I was just recalling last night my first "memorable" V-day years ago. I received a card and a stuffed bunny from my sweetie. He had whited out something beneath my name. It was his other girlfriends name. Consequently, we did get matching bunnies. So thoughtful.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

I've never been one to celebrate Valentine's Day, but I do now - with my kids.

They receive heart-shaped suckers and candies, a small (inexpensive) gift, and a nice card, and then we spend the day together making cookies, watching movies, whatever.

I enjoy it much more now.

Me too. The kiss and the homemade card I get from kidlet means far more than any overpriced dozen roses.

 

[sophia jane]

I'll jump on the wagon with you SJ.

I was just recalling last night my first "memorable" V-day years ago. I received a card and a stuffed bunny from my sweetie. He had whited out something beneath my name. It was his other girlfriends name. Consequently, we did get matching bunnies. So thoughtful.

Ouch. I had a year when I was younger when I was involved with a guy who also had another girlfriend, but I knew about her and stayed anyway (such good self-esteem I had!). He got her roses and other crap that year. He just fucked me.

I've had exactly one good valentine's day. I was fifteen. I need to get better SO's.

 

[impressive]

I've never been one to celebrate Valentine's Day, but I do now - with my kids.

Yeah, I've gone this route, too. I used to get them "From Your Secret Admirer" cards/gift-ettes, but they're on to me now. I still give them stuff, but it's only from Mom.


Even with a SO with whom to celebrate, I think the peril in the holiday lies in the definition of "romance" and the fact that many partners don't have a fat fucking clue what it means. I mean, "obligatory" jewelry/flowers/dinner/sex is NOT romantic -- on any occasion.

 

[pleaz_me]

Ouch. I had a year when I was younger when I was involved with a guy who also had another girlfriend, but I knew about her and stayed anyway (such good self-esteem I had!). He got her roses and other crap that year. He just fucked me.

I've had exactly one good valentine's day. I was fifteen. I need to get better SO's.

~Laughs~ Her and I got together and invited him over that night. That's when she told me of the "other" one. He didn't get the "other" one anything .. ooooh ... except knocked up.

I make such good choices in menfolk.

 

[pleaz_me]

Even with a SO with whom to celebrate, I think the peril in the holiday lies in the definition of "romance" and the fact that many partners don't have a fat fucking clue what it means. I mean, "obligatory" jewelry/flowers/dinner/sex is NOT romantic -- on any occasion.

Exactly. I'd rather have a surprise moment of those things.

 

[tickledkitty]

So, I got the gift a few days ago, which was very nice. However, the lack of attention that followed (and continues) is pretty damned disheartening.

 

[pleaz_me]

So, I got the gift a few days ago, which was very nice. However, the lack of attention that followed (and continues) is pretty damned disheartening.

(((((Hugz))))) tk!

 

[tickledkitty]

(((((Hugz))))) tk!

Thanks. Hugs back.

 

[Dianthus]

So, I got the gift a few days ago, which was very nice. However, the lack of attention that followed (and continues) is pretty damned disheartening.

Yeah, that's the obligatory part of the holiday that sucks so much. I'd rather have wholehearted attention some other day of the year.

I have a huge distaste for the cultivated expectations around holidays and this one in particular. Love doesn't mean frilly hearts. It can. But it doesn't have to.

I celebrate VDay with my daughter and it was so much fun when she was little. In high school, there is so much emphasis placed on this holiday that it pretty much ruins it for her now.

 

[Leto Degeneres]

Well, now this is perfect! Here's the video for a reminder NOT to forget Valentine's Day.

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x8410i_love-me-tender-or-else_fun

Being a new poster and all I don't know if that will be a link or if you have to cut and paste.

 

[The_Fool]

I think I was channelling Bel earlier. Maybe not. Someone may or may not be in for a pleasant surprise.

 

[DeeZire]

Nice video.

A couple of my favorite, uplifting movies for V day.

Barfly - Mickey O'Rourke. Very inspiring story about an alcoholic who does not triumph over his demons.

9 1/2 Weeks. - Mickey O'Rourke gets to humiliate Kim Basinger for 90 minutes. Again, a very inspiring look at dysfunctional relationships.

Secretary - James Spader gets to humiliate Maggie Gyllenhaal for 90 minutes. A rather sappy ending, if I remember correctly. Hopefully I'm wrong and the ending sucks.

Center Of the World - Molly Parker pulls a lollipop out of her candy-box in a stripper bar and offers it to a customer. Later, she masturbates for her wannabe boyfriend who's clueless when it comes to satisfying women. One of the bleakest movies I've seen. I loved it.

Last Exit to Brooklyn - I saw this a long time ago, but as I recall, it was rather dark, with a truly vile gang rape scene - perfect for V Day.

The Ice Storm - put on your sweater for some chilling wife swapping.

I think it's important to celebrate the more grotesque and depressing aspects of humanity on such a special day. If you set the bar incredibly low, your life will look marvelous in comparison.

 

[Leto Degeneres]

Nice video.

Barfly - Mickey O'Rourke. Very inspiring story about an alcoholic who does not triumph over his demons.

9 1/2 Weeks. - Mickey O'Rourke gets to humiliate Kim Basinger for 90 minutes. Again, a very inspiring look at dysfunctional relationships.

Secretary - James Spader gets to humiliate Maggie Gyllenhaal for 90 minutes. A rather sappy ending, if I remember correctly. Hopefully I'm wrong and the ending sucks.

Center Of the World - Molly Parker pulls a lollipop out of her candy-box in a stripper bar and offers it to a customer. Later, she masturbates for her wannabe boyfriend who's clueless when it comes to satisfying women. One of the bleakest movies I've seen. I loved it.

Last Exit to Brooklyn - I saw this a long time ago, but as I recall, it was rather dark, with a truly vile gang rape scene - perfect for V Day.

The Ice Storm - put on your sweater for some chilling wife swapping.

I think it's important to celebrate the more grotesque and depressing aspects of humanity on such a special day. If you set the bar incredibly low, your life will look marvelous in comparison.

You're making me laugh. Sorry, 'cause I know you wouldn't like the thought of that That list and your comments about it makes me see Gomez and Mortica.

 

[shereads]

Last night's episode of 30 Rock said it all.

 

[sophia jane]

I think I was channelling Bel earlier. Maybe not. Someone may or may not be in for a pleasant surprise.

I wish I knew what this meant! I'm so curious.

 

[The_Fool]

10 Ways to Know your Geek is Not That Into You

 

[The_Fool]

I wish I knew what this meant! I'm so curious.

Nuttin' honey, just mutterin'

 

[DeeZire]

You're making me laugh. Sorry, 'cause I know you wouldn't like the thought of that That list and your comments about it makes me see Gomez and Mortica.

"Sarcasm" is my middle name. I have several satires on my story list, including a couple from the How-To contest.

My story idea for the Valentines Day contest was a guy giving a box of chocolates to his new lady-friend out in a rent-a-sailboat. Unfortunately, she's fresh from some foreign country and is unaware of the fact that she's allergic to peanuts. She goes into shock and dies while he's trying to maneuver the boat back to shore. At that point, he - being a bit creepy - can't resist the urge to consummate their relationship anyway.

Now that I have laid out the plot, perhaps someone else can write the story, leaving me free to rent Barfly instead.

 

[Katyusha]

It's not that I don't have a Valentine...I do. My problem with Valentine's Day is the expectations placed on people, particularly men, to spend money in order to prove their love. My problem is the idea that the more money you spend, the more proof that is that you truly love someone. To me, Valentine's Day is just another day. I get weird looks for that at work but it's really how I feel. I'm pleasantly surprised and happy when Gizz does something for me for V-Day but I don't make it a requirement of our marriage; I don't expect him to do anything more than he does on any other day. He can take me out for an expensive and romantic dinner and buy me a beautiful piece of jewelry and a heartwarming card, or he can simply come home from work, give me a kiss and cuddle with me for awhile just like he always does, and either way he's showing his love to me and that's all I want every day.

But maybe that's just me.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

We always go out to dinner. She's working V-Day so any sex afterwards is a dead issue, given how tired she always is. Sunday should be better since she's off. Right now, I'm trying to make reservations at our favorite Indian restaurant. They're not answering the phone. This is not a good sign . . .