Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Lizzie_Borden]

like clockwork.

Seriously, did you steal the self proclaimed bitch's park at the supermarket MIS? Or what?

What did you doooooooo?

 

[myinnerslut]

Seriously, did you steal the self proclaimed bitch's park at the supermarket MIS? Or what?

What did you doooooooo?

no clue. she just started in one day and is apparently a slow learner.

 

[wildone28]

I am not a self righteous know it all bitch like you are

 

[myinnerslut]

ETA: not worth it

 

[misty82]

My boyfriend and I are both switches. I live in the states, he lives in Belgium.

Lately we're helping one another to develop our dom sides. I'm finding it a bit of a challenge as I'm so used to playing the sub role with my exes.

I need some help coming up with long distance commands that I, as a beginning Dom. will feel comfortable issuing.

 

[myinnerslut]

My boyfriend and I are both switches. I live in the states, he lives in Belgium.

Lately we're helping one another to develop our dom sides. I'm finding it a bit of a challenge as I'm so used to playing the sub role with my exes.

I need some help coming up with long distance commands that I, as a beginning Dom. will feel comfortable issuing.

start slowly. call him up on the phone, get him turned on, then direct how he is to touch himself. faster, slower, that sort of thing. you can do the same on the computer via webcam i you have them.

if there is something he does that you like, have him do that for you. if there is something he does that you dont like, tell him he isnt allowed to.

it sounds simple, but just do what is comfortable for you, that you like.

 

[misty82]

The biggest challenge for me is communicating like a Dom. I was raised up in rural Minnesota and it's next to impossible for me to COMMAND anyone to do something. We've burst out in giggles a few times and lost the sub / dom game because I'd go and issue a strict command but before I knew it I'd end the command with "please".

 

[Homburg]

The biggest challenge for me is communicating like a Dom. I was raised up in rural Minnesota and it's next to impossible for me to COMMAND anyone to do something. We've burst out in giggles a few times and lost the sub / dom game because I'd go and issue a strict command but before I knew it I'd end the command with "please".

Ever been stopped by a police officer? Notice how they end their very obvious commands with "please" and still say "sir" and "ma'am"? Do you feel like the command is not absolutely implicit? That is how you can be polite, and still in charge.

 

[kittenartist]

The biggest challenge for me is communicating like a Dom. I was raised up in rural Minnesota and it's next to impossible for me to COMMAND anyone to do something. We've burst out in giggles a few times and lost the sub / dom game because I'd go and issue a strict command but before I knew it I'd end the command with "please".

I always give my commands with a "please" and often a "thank you". Manners and dominance are not mutually exclusive. I mean, I even phrase commands as a question -- me and him just both understand that "no" is not a possible response.

I say just use the language you are comfortable using... and if you giggle on occasion then so be it. Perhaps you can turn that please at the end of commands into a kind of sarcastic please? You know, something like, "Honey, punch yourself in the ear five times now, please." And turn the giggle into a evil laughter!

In the end, practice and experimenting on finding your "Dom Voice" will probably be how you get comfortable with issuing commands. But, you know, the journey is half the fun.

 

[the captians wench]

Ever been stopped by a police officer? Notice how they end their very obvious commands with "please" and still say "sir" and "ma'am"? Do you feel like the command is not absolutely implicit? That is how you can be polite, and still in charge.

Jounar is very polite with him commands. He almost always says "please" and "thank you". When I was there with him he would even "ask" the command. "Would you like to go in the halway and take pics there." It was very clear this wasn't really a question (hince the "." ) but it almost took that form.

I very much like the polite dom over the "I said do it now bitch" style. But then, I've always been attracted more to class.

 

[misty82]

You've all got no clue how much more confident that makes me feel. Our relationship is founded on respect and neither of us think that the "I said do it now, bitch' type commands would be appropriate.

I suppose I just need to gradually work myself into it. I've got him doing some assignments for me at the moment and since I find it difficult to issue strict commands aloud, he's getting his orders in the form of daily emails. I must say, from his "daily homework reports" that he has to send me, I believe they're working even better than I'd hoped.

 

[pbourlart]

I confirm

 

[misty82]

I would like to introduce you all to my boyfriend, pbourlart. Part of his orders today were that he had to join the forum. He is the sub at the moment (because of our current game) so feel free to speak to him as one.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Just for the record...Our relationship is very respectful and polite but something about "On your knees, bitch" always gets my pussy wet and instantly puts me in my place.

 

[myinnerslut]

I confirm

welcome to lit

(for the record, i speak to doms and subs the same way. if you arent my Master, i speak to you like a person. no more, no less untill you show me you deserve to be treated so.)

 

[wildone28]

Yeah right

You speak to people like you know more then they do

You are not always right and you are not the sub of all subs like you think you are

Get over your damn self righteous self

 

[myinnerslut]

Yeah right

You speak to people like you know more then they do

You are not always right and you are not the sub of all subs like you think you are

Get over your damn self righteous self

i dont know you. i have never met you. i dont know why you have taken such a dislike to me. what did i do to offend you so?

i hope you find a way to deal with it more productively, instead of taking up space in a thread with irrelevant posts.

 

[Bandit58]

i dont know you. i have never met you. i dont know why you have taken such a dislike to me. what did i do to offend you so?

i hope you find a way to deal with it more productively, instead of taking up space in a thread with irrelevant posts.

mis, the ignore button can be your friend in these sorts of cases

 

[the captians wench]

Just for the record...Our relationship is very respectful and polite but something about "On your knees, bitch" always gets my pussy wet and instantly puts me in my place.

Oh, we have our moment there as well...but they are few and far between....that keeps them very special.

One of his favorite things is to say something along the lines of "show me your tits cunt", but some how it always comes out very polite. Almost in a tone you might imagine Mr. Darcy. *giggles*

 

[myinnerslut]

when i first found out that Master played d+d and other role playing games, i used to tease him lightly for it. over time, the stories he told about the games played really interested me and made me curious. over the most recent visit, Master, viv, and i started a d+d campaign set in scarred lands. we have been playing regularly since.

its an odd way to stay in contact when away, but aim video chat makes it possible to game every night before bed. i cling to it as yet another way to stay in contact, and find myself honestly enjoying the game.

as silly as it sounds, dungeons and dragons helps keep my Master and i connected. i am grateful for it.

 

[kittenartist]

when i first found out that Master played d+d and other role playing games, i used to tease him lightly for it. over time, the stories he told about the games played really interested me and made me curious. over the most recent visit, Master, viv, and i started a d+d campaign set in scarred lands. we have been playing regularly since.

its an odd way to stay in contact when away, but aim video chat makes it possible to game every night before bed. i cling to it as yet another way to stay in contact, and find myself honestly enjoying the game.

as silly as it sounds, dungeons and dragons helps keep my Master and i connected. i am grateful for it.

Not so silly. I know a few people who stay in contact by playing games like WOW online. It is a good way to be connected with out the need to think of clever things to say during a conversation. Because, there are just days when there is nothing of interest to report.

Me and my bunny have been known to indulge in a bit of Trivial Pursuit over the phone I think the fact that he trusts me to roll his dice and read the questions honestly speaks volumes about our relationship... Especially considering I am a self professed cheater at other games! (Come on, Monopoly is all about evil business practices, how can you not cheat?)

 

[Adakgirl]

Yeah right

You speak to people like you know more then they do

You are not always right and you are not the sub of all subs like you think you are

Get over your damn self righteous self

wildone you speak out of line here. I like reading innerslut. I think she is an excellent contributor to this board and I think we are damned lucky to have a woman like her posting with us. I've gleaned a lot of understanding from her intelligent, well -written, posts. Her personal interpretations of this lifestyle are insightful and refreshing.

As for YOU wildone, you are the one who doesn't know how to speak to people. You have no have grounds to back your claim that innerslut speaks like she thinks she is better than any other submissive. She is far from being self righteous. however she does know her...self

wildone you have contributed to this board "Talked to people" only 5129 times in the whole 7 years you have been here.
Innerslut has "Talked to people" 5465 times in just two years.-that means Innerslut has had 246 MORE interactions with other people here than you have and she has done it in a fraction of the time you have been around .

THAT leads me to conclude ...wildone...you are dead wrong here. If she was anything like you claim her to be, others would certainly have called her on it by now, but no one has but you. Instead people are relating to her quite well, liking her, enjoying her, replying to her posts, asking her opinions on topics.

I am an honorable woman, if I were in your place, (and I would not be)
I would recognize this about her and post a sincere apology.

 

[myinnerslut]

wildone you speak out of line here.

*snip*

I am an honorable woman, if I were in your place, (and I would not be)
I would recognize this about her and post a sincere apology.

thank you

 

[wildone28]

Let me guess you are here little lap dog that has to suck her ass and lick it to make it clean..

I am more honorable then Mis and you for that matter can be..

Mis thinks she is the shit and that her shit doesn't stink and that what she says is always right..NOT..She is no better then anyone else around here

I have the right to my opinion and you to yours..

I owe no one an apology here..NO one and I do not intend to apologize. I have a right to my opinon as you have a right to yours

 

[myinnerslut]

im sorry you got dragged into this adakgirl. looks like she just wont quit, and still has given no reason for her enmity. dont waste the post to argue, it wont get anywhere.