Getting over a broken heart?

[niceguys1st]

You would think I would know better by now. I've been single now for just over 5 months and am finally at the point where it doesn't upset me as much as it did before. The only thing that remained was feeling lonely. Until I met this girl.

I try not to let myself get in over my head too quickly, but this girl was one of the most incredible people I've ever met. We connected almost instantly on every level, romantically, sexually and had so much in common. I thought it would take me years to find somebody that I connected with that much and even though I only knew her for a short time, I was completely infatuated with her and already had feelings for her.

But then, as quickly as it started, it ended. Circumstances essentially prevented anything from developing between us even though she admitted to me that she felt much of the same things that I did. That is probably what hurts the most, knowing that she feels so strongly for me. You would think that it would be easy if two people felt the same, but not everything is that simple I guess.

I've been so upset since it happened and haven't felt like myself at all. Part of me wants so badly to talk to her, but I keep fighting the temptation to send an email or pick up the phone because I feel that if I do, it won't matter. Nothing will change and things may end up worse.

I'm not even sure what the point of this thread is to be honest. I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest. How have you guys been able to get over being hurt so badly? I'd love to hear any suggestions, because I hate this feeling.

 

[alyssawesome29]

Did she get married? Shipped off to the army?

I'd just like to know a little more about her undesirable leave so we could give you more suggestions.

 

[NippleMuncher]

When you open yourself up and you get hurt, that is truly one of the worst feelings ever. Moreover, once it's happened a time or two, you're more guarded for the next encounter. I can't offer much other than to reflect on how this person was similar to others in your life and what it is that draws you towards them. Please understand me when I say that I've been there. Until you make the connection, you're bound to continue to choose the same type of person.

Signed,

Been There, Done That.

 

[niceguys1st]

Did she get married? Shipped off to the army?

I'd just like to know a little more about her undesirable leave so we could give you more suggestions.

It's complicated. Basically, she was in a relationship for a while and it ended up falling apart. She was alone for quite a while until she ended up meeting somebody else and while they aren't officially a "couple" there is still something there between them and she is wanting to give this enough time to see if anything develops from it.

But, because they're not officially together, she still talked with other guys and whatnot but never intended to meet somebody that she connected with as much as me and she found herself starting to fall for me which made things worse because she knew that it would be impossible to love 2 people at the same time. And since I was the new guy on the scene and hadn't been around for as long as Guy #1, I drew the short straw and was forced out of the picture even though she didn't want it, she knew it needed to happen before things progressed beyond what they had already.

 

[structure]

Time heals all wounds ....

I would suggest hanging out with your friends for awhile, avoid being alone if you can. If you have things of hers around you, pictures, clothing, cd's whatever, box them up and put them away someplace. Get them out of sight. You need to move forward at your own pace, and having things of hers around will only prevent that. Like I said, go out with the guys, have fun, you never know where you might bump into, the next miss right.