Dance lessons?

[human_male]

I've been thinking about looking into finding a dace class in the shameless and blatant attempt to meet women. I found a public one very near me that teaches entry lesson salsa. I haven't gone yet because my concerns are that I'd be horrible at it, and I know it's something that would be difficult for me to find the courage to get up and try. I'd be terribly self conscious. Also, I would think any women would just twig to the fact that a guy showing up on his own is probably only there to meet women.

I suppose I could just go and watch and see how it goes, and see if anyone paid any attention to me, and assuming there weren't more men there than women (this being New Zealand it wouldn't surprise me) sign up for some lessons. But I don't think I could commit to anything long term. If I didn't meet someone soon I'd just quit.

So I guess I'd like to know if this is realistic or not. Have any guys tried it and if so how did it go? Did you have to actually get good at it before you started getting attention?

Anyway, thanks.

 

[janeyl]

Of course they'll pick on the fact that you've probably gone to meet women-why do you think they're there?? Those classes are full of women who i'm sure will jump at the chance to have a male partner!

Seriously though, go because you think you might enjoy the activity not purely to meet women-it will be spotted immediately if you dont throw yourself into it and there is nothing more attractive to me than seeing someone really trying at something and ENJOYING it-that will be the key to establishing relationships

I go to a contemporary dance class for beginners and was amazed to see 2 guys attending but they've been there very week so far-we all suck at it so far but by trying and really enjoying it we're all getting better. Now we're all begginning to strike up conversations and chat and who knows what may occur?

 

[bailadora]

I haven't gone yet because my concerns are that I'd be horrible at it, and I know it's something that would be difficult for me to find the courage to get up and try. I'd be terribly self conscious.

I think that anytime you attempt something new, there is bound to be some nervousness and self consciousness. When I took up tango, I had 10 years classical ballet and jazz training and 4 years salsa, merengue and cha-cha instruction under my belt. And it still took almost 6 months before I felt comfortable with some of the most basic concepts. It takes awhile for movements to become part of muscle memory and to feel natural. But the fact that we were all beginners and in the same boat was very reassuring.

I suppose I could just go and watch and see how it goes, and see if anyone paid any attention to me, and assuming there weren't more men there than women (this being New Zealand it wouldn't surprise me) sign up for some lessons. But I don't think I could commit to anything long term. If I didn't meet someone soon I'd just quit.

You might want to call and see if there is a trial class. Some instructors will offer the first lesson gratis, so that people can get a sense of whether or not it is something they want to commit to.

But I have to say that I agree with with Janey in that I think that you should take lessons because it's something you are really interested. If you go just because you want to meet women, the lack of enthusiasm will eventually come out. And personally, I'd rather dance with someone who is there for the love of the dance, regardless of the skill level.

ETA: I can't say how it is in your neck of the woods, but the classes I took were a mixed group of both singles and couples. And those who came to class with an SO didn't always get partnered up with those they arrived with. My instructor felt that it was beneficial to learn to dance with a wide variety of people and so he kept mixing up the pairings. I have to say that it was a great idea and I learned a whole hell of a lot.

 

[SpecialKay62]

And....if you took the class and DIDN'T meet anyone, you could go to dance places and find some new friends to dance with! Bonus points! And...ladies LOVE men who can dance! So sexy! Go for it!

 

[blondedreamz]

No question about it, do it. Dance is a social grace that is sorely lacking these days. Any woman in her right mind appreciates a man who is at least willing to try.

Also, remember that a great slow dance can also be construed as foreplay.....

Good luck!

 

[human_male]

Thanks everyone. I would definitely prefer to go along and just enjoy the dance but it's just not me. Well, unless I surprise myself. But I figure I'm not going to get any positive results in my love life unless I take some positive, concrete steps and this is the only thing I can think of.

I've read a man who can dance in an aphrodisiac to women, but it would take commitment to get that good at it. I don't think I'm going be impressing anyone lol.

Thanks again.

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

laughs... a man doesn't necessarily have to be fabulous to be an aphrodisiac when dancing. I agree with the above comments that the fact he is willing to try is a HUGE turn on... Go for it. What do you have to lose by exploring a new area that will make you more fit, more attractive, sexier, allow you to meet present and future woman and will make you stand out from the crowd of a million other guys???

It's definitely extremely romantic and well worth pursuing...

 

[bailadora]

I've read a man who can dance in an aphrodisiac to women, but it would take commitment to get that good at it. I don't think I'm going be impressing anyone lol.

Thanks again.

If I may - I think you are approaching this with a slightly skewed attitude. Instead of being worried about impressing the ladies, go with the intention of having fun while learning a new skill. JMO, but the guys who can poke fun at themselves are more attractive in my book....

Anyway, best of luck to you Human_Male and let us know how it goes.