BDSM from the BBC...

[naxalite0906]

Interesting article..

What are people's thoughts?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7504758.stm

 

[jockdom]

I found the viewers letters interesting! The satanic one was a hoot!

 

[DreamSensualist]

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[ShyGuy68]

I liked this one

Frankly, it scares me to know what people will do in the name of recreation. How can physical aggression, bleeding wounds, broken bones, dirt, humiliation, orchestrated and ritualised violence and even deaths have any place in the psyche of any rational adult? Anyway, so much for rugby. And boxing, wrestling, judo and any other competitive contact sport you care to name, all of which are essentially substitutes for sex anyway. BDSM sounds much safer, plus there's at least a chance you'll find your fellow participants sexually attractive, unlike rugby. Er, presumably.
Zax, Amersham, UK

 

[subbie_333]

Interesting article..

What are people's thoughts?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7504758.stm

A few random yet serious thoughts (come on, i'm allowed a few every once in awhile):

Why is it that the first part of articles like this take the approach of "introducing" the world to BDSM, as if people have never heard of it before, or, have never read other articles like this before? When will the world reach a point when articles can say "BDSM" and skip over that basic stuff and simply get right down to the point of the article?

OK, granted, there are news items about deaths that occur during a BDSM "type" scene. Some involve "real" BDSMers where something went horribly wrong. Some involve a crazy person using BDSM as the environment to commit their crimes. And, articles like this one like to guesstimate how many people are involved in BDSM. But, i haven't seen something that compares the number of BDSM-related deaths to the number of people who practice BDSM. i mean, there are statistics that talk about how reliable different birth control methods are, and, how likely you are to get cancer if you smoke, and, how likely you are to have liver failure if you drink, and, how likely you are to die in an automobile accident compared to dying in a plane crash. Simply, if you participate in a BDSM scene, how likely are you to die? If it is statistically less likely than dying from a heart attack while screwing your secretary, wouldn't that be a good thing to know?

The article states: "...Christian Action Research and Education (CARE) group which condemns "unconstructive" relationships based on "the dominion of one person over another"."

So, i looked up "unconstructive" on www.dictionary.com (since i had never heard of the word before - where is BiBunny when you need Her?) and it was defined as "not constructive". Now *THAT* is funny! Being the information seeker that i am, i looked up "constructive". Some of the words/phrases used to define it are:

- helping to improve
- promoting further development or advancement
- structural
- denoting an act or condition not directly expressed but inferred from other acts or conditions
- helpful
- based on an interpretation

thesaurus.reference.com lists synonyms of "constructive" being: beneficial, effective, helpful, practical. The only antonym listed for "constructive" was "destructive". Some of the words/phrases used to define it are:

- causing destruction or much damage
- productive of serious evil
- mischievous
- pernicious

Synonyms are listed as ruinous and deleterious (look it up for yourself!). The antonym for destructive is creative.

So, the conclusion from that English lesson is that those people who say the BDSM relationships are "unconstructive" are saying that you BDSMers are *NOT*:

- creative
- helpful
- structural
- beneficial
- effective
- practical

On the other hand, you BDSMers *ARE*:

- producers of serious evil
- mischievous
- evil (an obsolete definition of pernicious)
- wicked (yet another obsolete definition of pernicious)
- ruinous
- injurious to health (OK, so you don't have to look up deleterious)
- harmful to living things (yet another fun definition of deleterious)


Now, back to the part about "the dominion of one person over another". So, i guess that group agrees with France (see other thread on this site) in condemning women that follow traditional Muslim values. i am not Jewish, so, i invite correction on this thought, but, doesn't the Old Testament say something about a woman's place is to serve her husband? Is CARE condemning that as well, or, are they more like their U.S. right wing fundamentalist Christian brethren in supporting the "Leave It To Beaver" and "Father Knows Best" view of families?

OK, that is enough for one post. Fire away folks

 

[ShyVixen]

I read the article and just rolled my eyes. But this made me laugh:

"What we are finding is that people who engage in BDSM activities are not weirdoes," says Dr Richard de Visser, of Sussex University, "they just choose a certain sexual activity."

Well thank fuck for that! Weirdos...pffttt.

I'm often confronted with prejudice about a BDSM relationship/ practices. I was asked yesterday what pleasure there is in a power exchange relationship...well actually the conversation ran something like this:

"I just don't see the fun in being commanded and beaten. It's not my thing. I don't understand why anyone would want to bleed or hurt or feel pain. To me that is abuse. and you read these stories of things going too far and people being murdered or seriously injured..."

And that gets the root of the matter. People read sensationalist stories in the news and form unhealthy attitudes towards BDSM, especially here in the UK where it's not prudent to be so open about your sexuality/ sexual practices.

 

[the_mgp]

Hey, I happen to like being a weirdo!

 

[ShyVixen]

Hey, I happen to like being a weirdo!

LOL Me too, but me being a weirdo has nothing to do with the fact I like to be beaten during sex I'm just weird full stop.

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

I was pleasantly surprised. I've seen way too many negative news articles on BDSM. It's nice to see something decent for a change.