Questions, Questions, so much to learn

[saphicsub]

Not sure where to start so i will blurt it out

Is the prolonged practice of enemas healthy for the bowel?

How often is it safe to do, what frequency?

Does wearing a butt plug on a regular or semi permanant basis damage the sphincter muscles, ........i once heard about a gay guy who had stretched his muscles so much he was incontinent

Even if practising safe sex, and the rectum becomes torn, can your own bacteria cause a problem if it enters the tear? Are you self immune?

Does anyone have any knowledge of ejaculating strap ons and if so, what can be safely used as an ejaculant?

Whats the best type of lube to use for prolonged use over several hours so that it doesnt dry out, be absorbed and become sticky?

Is there any preference of water based over silicone and why?

Is it possible to introduce a lubricant higher up in the rectum after an enema that would give several hours of useage without causing irritation?

Would a natural product like olive oil be suitable or would it be too readily absorbed?


I would welcome any further advice too please

 

[Etoile]

Not sure where to start so i will blurt it out

Is the prolonged practice of enemas healthy for the bowel?

How often is it safe to do, what frequency?

Does wearing a butt plug on a regular or semi permanant basis damage the sphincter muscles, ........i once heard about a gay guy who had stretched his muscles so much he was incontinent

Even if practising safe sex, and the rectum becomes torn, can your own bacteria cause a problem if it enters the tear? Are you self immune?

Does anyone have any knowledge of ejaculating strap ons and if so, what can be safely used as an ejaculant?

Whats the best type of lube to use for prolonged use over several hours so that it doesnt dry out, be absorbed and become sticky?

Is there any preference of water based over silicone and why?

Is it possible to introduce a lubricant higher up in the rectum after an enema that would give several hours of useage without causing irritation?

Would a natural product like olive oil be suitable or would it be too readily absorbed?


I would welcome any further advice too please

I'll answer your questions, but I find them suspicious. I'll explain at the end.

For an ejaculating strap-on, use what's recommended on the box. Warm water is common.

Lube is very much a personal preference. I favor water-based lube, especially Astroglide. I think it gives the best "real feel" sensation. However, if you choose silicone lube, do not use it with silicone toys! It will break them down. Silicone is my favorite material for toys - it's expensive, but it's the best - so that's why I recommend water-based lube, as well as preferring the feel of it.

Introducing lube high up the rectum seems pretty silly to me. I dunno what the intention is there, but my reaction is "what would you do that for?"

Olive oil and baby oil were not meant to be lubricants for sex. Ditto for Crisco. Doesn't mean people don't use them, but my personal suggestion is to stick to the stuff that was made for sex.

So now it's time for me to explain my suspicion. All of these questions you are asking suggest to me that a man is involved in your relationship. This is purely my opinion, but women are not usually so obsessed with heavy anal play. Also, ejaculating strap-ons are really not that common, so it sounds like testing someone's reaction to ejaculation, period...including from a cock. As a lesbian myself, if I were getting those topics from a potential dominant, I would back away very fast. It just sounds like a man to me. Totally subjective, totally my opinion, but I wanted to share just to make sure you'll be okay.

 

[Desdemona]

um, wait a minute

I'll answer your questions, but I find them very suspicious. I'll explain at the end.

Yes, enemas are fine over a prolonged period of time. Some people do them every day; more than once a day would be kind of odd because there's really no reason to. Once you're cleaned out, you would have to eat again and wait for it to be processed before there would be a need for more enemas. That just isn't likely to happen more than once a day.

No, your sphincters will not be permanently loose if you do a lot of anal play. Even with big toys. The story of a gay man becoming incontinent is basically just rumor. The anal sphincter is very stretchy and resilient. Even wearing a buttplug every day won't damage you - after all, the anus closes around the neck of the plug.

Afraid I don't know about the trauma/self-immunity question.

For an ejaculating strap-on, use what's recommended on the box. Warm water is common.

Lube is very much a personal preference. I favor water-based lube, especially Astroglide. I think it gives the best "real feel" sensation. However, if you choose silicone lube, do not use it with silicone toys! It will break them down. Silicone is my favorite material for toys - it's expensive, but it's the best - so that's why I recommend water-based lube, as well as preferring the feel of it.

Introducing lube high up the rectum seems pretty silly to me. I dunno what the intention is there, but my reaction is "what would you do that for?"

Olive oil and baby oil were not meant to be lubricants for sex. Ditto for Crisco. Doesn't mean people don't use them, but my personal suggestion is to stick to the stuff that was made for sex.

So now it's time for me to explain my suspicion. All of these questions you are asking suggest to me that a man is involved in your relationship. This is purely my opinion, but women are not usually so obsessed with heavy anal play. Also, ejaculating strap-ons are really not that common, so it sounds like testing someone's reaction to ejaculation, period...including from a cock. As a lesbian myself, if I were getting those topics from a potential dominant, I would back away very fast. It just sounds like a man to me. Totally subjective, totally my opinion, but I wanted to share just to make sure you'll be okay.

In my own nursing practice, I have seen numerous cases of people who lost their anal sphincter integrity due to overstretching. It's not a rumor. It's reality if people aren't judicious and careful with their anal play. I've seen anuses you could drive a truck in and believe me, they don't retain stool particularly well (or at all). For most folks, the need to wear diapers or get a colostomy due to fecal incontinence isn't real sexy. Yeah, I know there are kinksters who'd dig it, but I'm speaking in generalities here.

Additionally, daily enemas are NOT a good idea. People can and do become dependant upon them for elimination. I'm not opposed to occasional enemas for cleansing purposes prior to play. In fact, with anal play they're pretty necessary. But daily? No. Not good at all.

For the original questions, let me direct you to the library here. It's extensive and your questions will be answered there.

 

[Etoile]

In my own nursing practice, I have seen numerous cases of people who lost their anal sphincter integrity due to overstretching. It's not a rumor. It's reality if people aren't judicious and careful with their anal play. I've seen anuses you could drive a truck in and believe me, they don't retain stool particularly well (or at all). For most folks, the need to wear diapers or get a colostomy due to fecal incontinence isn't real sexy. Yeah, I know there are kinksters who'd dig it, but I'm speaking in generalities here.

Additionally, daily enemas are NOT a good idea. People can and do become dependant upon them for elimination. I'm not opposed to occasional enemas for cleansing purposes prior to play. In fact, with anal play they're pretty necessary. But daily? No. Not good at all.

For the original questions, let me direct you to the library here. It's extensive and your questions will be answered there.

My apologies, I stand corrected.
*is embarrassed*

 

[Betticus]

I read somewhere a loooong time ago that some people who perform frequent high colonic enemas have been known to have degraded bowel function. Permanently.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I would not be engaging in an enema on a regular/daily basis as it can cause a dependency. This explains it a little. Usage can also result in irregular heartbeat in those predisposed to the condition.

This has a lot of good answers to some of your questions as well as a lot of information.

My experience has been most online adult outlets as well as sex shops stock ejaculating variety of strap ons and some even ejaculating butt plugs.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

I have met and played with some dykes so ass-obsessed they scare gay men.

 

[WriterDom]

In my own nursing practice, I have seen numerous cases of people who lost their anal sphincter integrity due to overstretching. It's not a rumor. It's reality if people aren't judicious and careful with their anal play. I've seen anuses you could drive a truck in and believe me, they don't retain stool particularly well (or at all). For most folks, the need to wear diapers or get a colostomy due to fecal incontinence isn't real sexy. Yeah, I know there are kinksters who'd dig it, but I'm speaking in generalities here.

Additionally, daily enemas are NOT a good idea. People can and do become dependant upon them for elimination. I'm not opposed to occasional enemas for cleansing purposes prior to play. In fact, with anal play they're pretty necessary. But daily? No. Not good at all.

For the original questions, let me direct you to the library here. It's extensive and your questions will be answered there.

Yeah, I knew a nurse who would only have anal sex on her birthday.

 

[Etoile]

I have met and played with some dykes so ass-obsessed they scare gay men.

True, they are out there. Calyx of Isis is a great example. But my suspicions still stand, and for somebody who hasn't even met the potential dominant yet, I'd be really cautious. We know there is some sub frenzy going on, and I just worry that her new partner isn't going to be what she hopes for. The whole package of questions just struck me as "Um, what? Are you sure this is a chick?"

Also I have removed my bad information. Still in the quote from Des, though. I'm really embarrassed about it, I should know better...

 

[saphicsub]

Thank you all for your replies so far.
Im totally new to this (anal virgin) and they are my questions and not ones ive been asked by a Domme, therefore my lack of experience is obvious and may well arouse some suspicions.
Yes she has a preference for anal and when i asked why she said its because its humilliating and taboo. i dont see it becoming a daily routine for the simple reason that when youve got a Farrari in the front drive, why drive the beat up pickup truck thats parked round the back ! Yes, anal is something i want to try and hope i enjoy but its not going to become a daily event and neither will enemas. I like my body the way it is and im keen for it to stay that way.

I just felt i should be fully aware of as much info as i could think of............i dont want to make or let happen irreversible damage due to ignorance.

I have also searched another discussion board for resources and did come across some similar questions and was appaled at the incorrect advice being offered about what ingerdients could and should be used in formulating an enema.
Even from my scant knowledge i knew much of what was posted was dangerously inaccurate and was horrified by the light hearted way the subject was discussed.

Please Etoile, dont be embarrased, you have been kind enough to offer your well intentioned advice. We all learn something new every day and exchanging information on here is the best first hand resource available.

To answer your suspicions re the Domme, ..........no i havent met her but have had lengthy online chats. I cannot confirm if shes genuinely female and lesbian and for my own safety i wont be engaging in anything more than a vanilly style meet untill i feel happy with my safety and her intentions. But the whole reason for seeking advice is so i will always know whats best for my health and happiness

SS

 

[Netzach]

Thank you all for your replies so far.
Im totally new to this (anal virgin) and they are my questions and not ones ive been asked by a Domme, therefore my lack of experience is obvious and may well arouse some suspicions.
Yes she has a preference for anal and when i asked why she said its because its humilliating and taboo. i dont see it becoming a daily routine for the simple reason that when youve got a Farrari in the front drive, why drive the beat up pickup truck thats parked round the back ! Yes, anal is something i want to try and hope i enjoy but its not going to become a daily event and neither will enemas. I like my body the way it is and im keen for it to stay that way.

I just felt i should be fully aware of as much info as i could think of............i dont want to make or let happen irreversible damage due to ignorance.

I have also searched another discussion board for resources and did come across some similar questions and was appaled at the incorrect advice being offered about what ingerdients could and should be used in formulating an enema.
Even from my scant knowledge i knew much of what was posted was dangerously inaccurate and was horrified by the light hearted way the subject was discussed.

Please Etoile, dont be embarrased, you have been kind enough to offer your well intentioned advice. We all learn something new every day and exchanging information on here is the best first hand resource available.

To answer your suspicions re the Domme, ..........no i havent met her but have had lengthy online chats. I cannot confirm if shes genuinely female and lesbian and for my own safety i wont be engaging in anything more than a vanilly style meet untill i feel happy with my safety and her intentions. But the whole reason for seeking advice is so i will always know whats best for my health and happiness

SS

While a lot of things might be faked, you could try a phone call. I can't imagine meeting someone I'd never talked to on the phone, but that's me.

 

[Desdemona]

embarrassing posts

My apologies, I stand corrected.
*is embarrassed*

It's all a part of my Lit experience. We're imperfect humans. It takes a strong person to admit a mistake. Shrug it off and keep on posting, babe.