Have you changed your appearance for your S/O?

[satindesire]

Mispelling in the poll, I apologize. It's supposed to be...I CHANGED my wardrobe for my S/O. Oops.

Poll Time!!

In the few years I've been involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I've heard and talked a lot of different things we do to please our partners. I've been quite curious to see how many of us, PYL and pyl, have changed our outward appearance to make our partners happy.

Vote and be happy.

It's multiple choice. Pick all that apply.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I have tattooed and pierced myself, changed my hairstyle, worn specific makeup and begun shaving for my Daddy. Wouldn't have it any other way either.

 

[callinectes]

I lost weight for my SO, but it is probably more correct to say I lost it for myself and my health, but but he was a huge supporter and a happy beneficiary.
He took an active part in my weight loss, partly by reading my food journal each day and offering suggestions and support. Of course, he is also knew that simply by writing down what I had and knowing he would read was a powerful incentive.

I have changed my wardrobe only slightly. My basic style is the same but I tend to be more pulled together and wear dresses and heels more often now.

plastic surgery..he would never ask me to have surgery, but I am thinking of have a tummy tuck and breast lift. I've worked hard to achieve this weight loss and I want my boobs and tummy to look as good as the rest of me. He is supportive of my feelings on this but is happy either way.

Neither of us like tats, brands, etc. so those won't ever be an issue.

 

[EmpressFi]

the weight I lose is for me and no one else, It doesnt work any other way. Does he encourage me, hell yeah.. but he's never asked me to lose a pound.

He does require that I shave, and after having it done it for 19mos, now I cant imagine going back to not shaving. The other, I was debating getting my nipples pierced but then he asked me one day if I would, for him, and so that tipped the scale.

 

[KayKat]

I did let my bangs grow out for my ex Dom as he didn't like them...I had been growing them forever...But I Did it because he asked...

 

[Bandit58]

I've grown my hair a bit longer, and coloured it a bit brighter red, because He likes it

I've also been shaving since we've been together, because He prefers it.

Other than that, clothing, weight loss and beauty treatments have all been for me, and He encourages me to do more of it, because it makes me feel good

 

[Desdemona]

I stopped shaving

To satisfy his kink. He loves hairy pits and pubes, so now I'm furry.

 

[missy_me]

I gain weight for him. In reality, I would be doing the same even if he didn't ask me to because I want to be healthy and I want to gain weight. Doing it for him just makes it easier for me to succeed.

And I've changed my haircolor back to my natural blonde because it's what he prefers.

 

[Bandit58]

To satisfy his kink. He loves hairy pits and pubes, so now I'm furry.

Desdemona, I think you are the only person I know of who has stopped shaving - most subs I hear about started shaving to please their Dom!

 

[Tebazile]

I've changed my hair length and color, my wardrobe, and my shaving habits.

My S/o really likes long hair, so my hair's now longer than it's been since my sophomore year of high school. He thought black hair was a little too emo for me (He just stated his opinion... He didn't outright ask me to color my hair), so I have highlights now.

I used to dress like a boy (for the most part), because I honestly thought I was a lesbian. Turns out, I'd just never had good sex with a guy, haha. He didn't have a problem with what I wore, but when I tried something a bit more form flattering, His approval was enough to make me completely change.

And I was just a trimmer before, ha. But He prefers a clean shaved "work area" (), so I do that now.

 

[the captians wench]

No one has every really asked me to change my appearence.

Jounar and I have talked about me being branded, but not very seriously, more just the posiblitiy of it. He would also like me to have my nipples pierced, he's talked about it for 3 years, but has never required it. I think the more perminate things he doesn't want to force on me until I'm ready.

I have changed my wardrobe slightly in that I don't wear panties anymore. Well except for when I'm taking pictures and when I have it aproved which is very rare. I have been ordered not to wear my hair in pigtails around my apt, which is my favorite way to wear it. But he doesn't like pigtails. Those are the only two things he's really insisted on that were different from before.

 

[nippleslut]

I let my hair grow long i used to keep it shoulder lenght but He likes long hair so i let it grow. i have also gotton my clit hood pierced. He brought it up but it was my final choice even though i would have never done it were it not for Him.

 

[Desdemona]

Well, I admit it's not common in the bdsm world...

Desdemona, I think you are the only person I know of who has stopped shaving - most subs I hear about started shaving to please their Dom!

But, I think there have been a couple of posts here and there by others who had to quit shaving. After a while, you get used to it and it's not such a big deal. I've been working in the yard in a tank top all morning with my pit hair showing. Nobody notices; of course, it helps that we live in a community populated mostly by old hippies. Female armpit hair is common here.

 

[kinkyknickers]

I have been asked NOT to get anymore "inconvinient" piercings. I am yet to obey. Heh!

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

I think it's obvious

 

[satindesire]

I've changed my hair color from blonde to my natrual red, gone on a diet, started shaving my pubic area totally instead of leaving a 'landing strip' and he also insists I go to the tanning salon and get my nails acrylic'ed.

I also dress much more conservatively than I used to. Latino men are known for their jealous streak.

 

[TenJed69]

She started shaving and dyed her hair for me, but that was before D/s. Now she doesn't wear panties most of the time, and wears skirts and dresses more.

As for me, I started working out because of her. But only because I wanted to in myself, she never asked and she usually tells me not to bother. But a strong arm is an arm that can spank longer and harder, so I do it anyway

 

[YourCaptor]

I changed my wardrobe.

I don't worry much about my appearance, while I like to look good, I suck at accomplishing that, but don't really care enough to try harder. So the x played a huge role in my clothing choices. I liked it that way, made shopping easier and I didn't constantly look like I just got off a 15 hour flight.

While we where together I was looking good.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Ive lost weight While he and I have been together... but not for him or at his request but he is proud of me... Ive lost a total of almost 60 pounds. But it was for me.. I work out daily and I wanted it not him...

 

[culloden]

But, I think there have been a couple of posts here and there by others who had to quit shaving. After a while, you get used to it and it's not such a big deal. I've been working in the yard in a tank top all morning with my pit hair showing. Nobody notices; of course, it helps that we live in a community populated mostly by old hippies. Female armpit hair is common here.

I never did get the objection to pit hair, leg hair, hair down there. If I get to raise a beard, no reason she should need shiny legs.

 

[satindesire]

I never did get the objection to pit hair, leg hair, hair down there. If I get to raise a beard, no reason she should need shiny legs.

But, beards are SEXY.

Course, so are shiny legs.

 

[culloden]

But, beards are SEXY.

Course, so are shiny legs.

Sexy is what we make it out to be.

I don't mind shaved, I don't mind hairy. I hate stubbly, though.

And having someone change their look for me, now that's sexy.

 

[Netzach]

I tend to encourage what's there rather than change what's not - if that makes any sense. I slap my lover's hand away if I see him pulling gray chest hairs (a losing battle at this point anyhow) I cheerlead M's full body shaving jobs, I tell H to lose the running shoes if he's not running if he wants to look remotely more hip. I did start shaving for my lover, though, and pointedly refuse to give up the landing strip now, it's just become habit. I think positive reinforcement works well on people, D or S and people do mold around things their partners are enthused about.

 

[satindesire]

*Snip*I think positive reinforcement works well on people, D or S and people do mold around things their partners are enthused about.

I identify with that. I've changed my look for pretty much every guy or girl I've been with.

 

[A_Kefka]

I first tried wearing thong underwear because a woman wanted to see me in them, she had a thing about my butt.