faeriefire
Really Really Experienced
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- Feb 26, 2008
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I recently had a conversation that brought up failings. Weaknesses. Things to improve. There are traits within myself I want to change and for me that means making adjustments personally. The thought of changing for someone else or being monitored by another makes me antsy. Sorta independent that way 
What I'm wondering is how comfortable people are with having negative traits pointed out? Is it ok for a sub to point out the paunch? A master to suggest dance lesson? A friend to give you an honest answer about her interpretation of your IQ level when it comes to dating?
How do people deal with criticism? And do you think it's ok to make changes in yourself based on another's opinion?
With the D/s dynamic it seems it would be natural for one person to exert influence over another's activities. Do PYLs use their position for betterment of their subs? Do pyls make suggestions or take action to 'improve' their partner?
Do you think people are actually able to accept others as they are? Or is there a persistent desire to change someone else for the better? And if so is that ok?
Feel free to answer all or part...I know I'm rambling a bit lol...but any insight as to how people accept criticism and respond would be very helpful. Thanks in advance.
What I'm wondering is how comfortable people are with having negative traits pointed out? Is it ok for a sub to point out the paunch? A master to suggest dance lesson? A friend to give you an honest answer about her interpretation of your IQ level when it comes to dating?
How do people deal with criticism? And do you think it's ok to make changes in yourself based on another's opinion?
With the D/s dynamic it seems it would be natural for one person to exert influence over another's activities. Do PYLs use their position for betterment of their subs? Do pyls make suggestions or take action to 'improve' their partner?
Do you think people are actually able to accept others as they are? Or is there a persistent desire to change someone else for the better? And if so is that ok?
Feel free to answer all or part...I know I'm rambling a bit lol...but any insight as to how people accept criticism and respond would be very helpful. Thanks in advance.
