Question about being a master some practices

[madamedarlina]

Hello

I am actually trying to help our a friend give her self some answer being her self some sort of new to this world.

If a man is a master, it is common that he might prefer mostly oral sex (on the receiving and giving end)

or would you say this is his own particular style, and if u are experienced with such a man how far you think this person might go, besides bondage etc ...

Thx for any help

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Hello

I am actually trying to help our a friend give her self some answer being her self some sort of new to this world.

If a man is a master, it is common that he might prefer mostly oral sex (on the receiving and giving end)

or would you say this is his own particular style, and if u are experienced with such a man how far you think this person might go, besides bondage etc ...

Thx for any help

OK totally wrong person for this thread a Huge sensual dominant. I love bondage and giving oral sex. As I never feel more in control having her lock eyes and see whom is giving her pleasure. Sure grabbing her hair and recieving gives a charge. And using the floggers, paddles and canes make beautiful markingsand if a woman who enjoys a very big wet spot. But knowing she is helpless as work toys and tongue and fingers over her body just makes me purr. As her skin is my canvas and leave no part untouched.

 

[incubus_dark]

I'm not sure that I entirely understand your question but, there are some boring little twats whom might go that far and no further; that being the limit of their desire and imagination. There are others who might start there, perhaps by way of starting gently, then work their way forward as their sub shows them that they are accepting their role and ready to progress. Alternatively, if the dom is of the cowardly sort, as the sub shows that they are happy to progress further and provides the craven fool with the reasurance he requires, he may take a few tentative steps towards the more adventurous. People are people, they come in all sorts and various flavours of fucked up.

 

[quiet_compliant]

thanks

Hi, since I am new to being a sub I am not sure what are typical "master" behaviours and those that are just due to individuality.

Thanks

 

[incubus_dark]

The only thing that's typical, is that we're fairly individualistic, or at least would like to think we are (or would like others to think we are). Truly, there are a lot of stereotypical master behaviours, but by and large, these are largely predominant amongst that special class of socialite club ‘master’, who may have somewhat limited experience and ability in any area other than predation upon the socialite club ‘sub’. I presume that the internet communities attract varieties that suffer the same disabilities. Still, in general terms there are only so many things to try, so depending on how broadly you generalise, we may indeed all be the same. A very good and sweet sub friend of mine, sighing to me across the table of a side walk café on a windy Sydney morning, once confided the true gem of wisdom, “New dom; it’s always the knickers that have to go first.”

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Hi, since I am new to being a sub I am not sure what are typical "master" behaviours and those that are just due to individuality.

Thanks

Well the best thing is for any woman exploring to truly immerse herself in as much knowledge as she can gather. To truly look hard at checklists and see what truly reasonates with her. Keep a journal of your thoughts and fears. As will be amazed later as you progress you have changed so much. Trust and communication is the best way to find someone. As you can't run and kneel to first man finds interest in you. A lot of people even I have made the mistake of projecting something we want thats not there. So be careful but have fun. And find that dom who is not to hard and not to soft but just right. lol

 

[FurryFury]

Hello

I am actually trying to help our a friend give her self some answer being her self some sort of new to this world.

If a man is a master, it is common that he might prefer mostly oral sex (on the receiving and giving end)

or would you say this is his own particular style, and if u are experienced with such a man how far you think this person might go, besides bondage etc ...

Thx for any help

She needs to talk with him to find out what he is really interested in as well as communicate about what she is really interested in. Hopefully their interests will have enough areas of commonality to make the relationship work for them.

Being primarily into oral isn't a Dom thing so much as it is an individual thing IMO.

 

[snowbyte]

She needs to talk with him to find out what he is really interested in as well as communicate about what she is really interested in. Hopefully their interests will have enough areas of commonality to make the relationship work for them.

A checklist exercise can be helpful here. One thing to remember is that if one or both parties are new to BDSM, there are likely going to be a lot of "I don't know if I'm interested" responses. And probably more than a few "What's dacryphilia?" kind of responses. Regardless, without adequate communication, it will be rough going.

Being primarily into oral isn't a Dom thing so much as it is an individual thing IMO.

Agreed. For myself, it's a useful element in my Dom's toolkit, but it's used more as an expression of dominance than it is for the actual sensation.