After i got married a year a go i noticed that i seemed to get hit on more since i got married. I was single for so long and then after my wedding day (even on my honeymoon it happened) i was getting hit on left and right and not only from men but women as well. What do you think, do you think people get hotter after they are married and harder to "get" ?
What hotter...married or not married?
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Carnevil9
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Definitely. If a man wants some NSA sex, married women are the best target. Nobody misses a slice off a cut loaf. And they can't go wanting to marry you. And if they get knocked up, it's on someone else's tab.
Likewise, women will hit on married (or at least girlfriended) men more than unattached men. Why should they want him if nobody else does?
Human nature is a slimy little joke on all of us!
Likewise, women will hit on married (or at least girlfriended) men more than unattached men. Why should they want him if nobody else does?
Human nature is a slimy little joke on all of us!
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A woman would almost have to convince me to have sex with her if shes married.
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For the sheer thrilled, Married
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My husband's ex-wife once admitted to my mother-in-law that she liked the challenge of pursuing married men. The only problem was, she couldn't stop doing it when she was married, and that wouldn't have been a huge deal for my husband if she had been able to separate love and sex.
I don't know that being married has made a difference in how often I get hit on, which IME isn't that often to begin with, but I've always been told that I seem oblivious to flirting and come-ons.
I don't know that being married has made a difference in how often I get hit on, which IME isn't that often to begin with, but I've always been told that I seem oblivious to flirting and come-ons.
could be
I tend to think there's something intriguing to many about that unavailable person. I'm guessing you get hit on for many reasons including a good personality and good looks. But, there are some who are drawn to those they can't have.... that is, of course, unless they want you AND your husband to partake in some fun!
I tend to think there's something intriguing to many about that unavailable person. I'm guessing you get hit on for many reasons including a good personality and good looks. But, there are some who are drawn to those they can't have.... that is, of course, unless they want you AND your husband to partake in some fun!
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Theory
I believe it is biological as to why that happens. I don't have any data but here is what I think. Men and women alike emit pheromones to attract the oppostie sex. I believe are body subconciously picks up the pheromones and lets us know when someone is looking to get themselves some lovin. When we meet someone and we are not picking up on the pheromones, because the person is in a relationship, the subconcious is intrigued by this and then makes that person even more appealing.
That could all be bullshit but I think thers is some truth to it.
I remember years ago this friend of mine and I were both single and crusing the bars every night trying to pick a up a piece of ass. We went home alone nearly every night. I then started dating this woman but my buddy and I still kept going out so he could try to pick someone up. Well I found that when I was just hanging out with him and not looking to hook up, I got hit on all the time. It was crazy. I passed up a chance for a 3 some with two hot college girsl because of the woman I was with. Damn was I stupid....
I believe it is biological as to why that happens. I don't have any data but here is what I think. Men and women alike emit pheromones to attract the oppostie sex. I believe are body subconciously picks up the pheromones and lets us know when someone is looking to get themselves some lovin. When we meet someone and we are not picking up on the pheromones, because the person is in a relationship, the subconcious is intrigued by this and then makes that person even more appealing.
That could all be bullshit but I think thers is some truth to it.
I remember years ago this friend of mine and I were both single and crusing the bars every night trying to pick a up a piece of ass. We went home alone nearly every night. I then started dating this woman but my buddy and I still kept going out so he could try to pick someone up. Well I found that when I was just hanging out with him and not looking to hook up, I got hit on all the time. It was crazy. I passed up a chance for a 3 some with two hot college girsl because of the woman I was with. Damn was I stupid....
I think the reasons are different for men and women, but I definitely think you get hit on more when you're married.
I was talking to a mate of mine about this very subject, and he made an interesting comment. "Women see the ring and pictures of your kids, and they know you're a man who takes care of shit, not some flaky little boy. They know you'll go all the way."
Seemed to make sense, but who knows?
J
I was talking to a mate of mine about this very subject, and he made an interesting comment. "Women see the ring and pictures of your kids, and they know you're a man who takes care of shit, not some flaky little boy. They know you'll go all the way."
Seemed to make sense, but who knows?
J
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I usually don't go for married women (call me old fashioned), but have noticed that married woman are usually emotionally stable, more interesting and more fun to be around. I think its a confidence thing, but that's just my working theory. 
I'm not opposed to role playing or cybering with a married woman, but my conscience would really struggle with "being with" a married woman. Maybe I'm a hypocrit? IDK, but that's what I think.
I'm not opposed to role playing or cybering with a married woman, but my conscience would really struggle with "being with" a married woman. Maybe I'm a hypocrit? IDK, but that's what I think.baronvonschtupp
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Valid points, all. But I still believe it has to do with the allure of forbidden fruit.
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Easy. Married, but it has nothing to do with firbidden fruit or anything like that. Married people aren't trying to hook up, so they aren't worried about it, so they are more confident in general. As we've determined time and again, confidence is what most people are atttracted to.
At least that's my opinion.
At least that's my opinion.
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I think sex with someone who is married is better - more wanton - assuming they're not married to you.
But if you want to get chatted up as a bloke, walk around with a baby - instant babe magnet. (But a screaming child in the next room might put you both off your stroke .)
But if you want to get chatted up as a bloke, walk around with a baby - instant babe magnet. (But a screaming child in the next room might put you both off your stroke .)
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Haha! I may have to go and contribute to the 'What made you smile today thread' after reading this. Love it.
Unfortunately, It's probably true...of most slimeballs who keep their brains in their pants.
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i also think its the thrill of the chase ... the challenge in chasing after a woman who should be committed to only being with one man ... then the thrill of touching what you should not be able to touch
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Is this coming from experience Rozie??
ummmmm ... no y would u think tht?????
really its from my own insight
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married men hit on me all the time. even my husbands friends. but id never be stupid enough to do something with them.
Uh huh. Whatever you say dear!ummmmm ... no y would u think tht?????
really its from my own insight
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My observation is a little different, due to insights I've collected from talking to many people on topics related to this...
There are a lot of married men who will only hit on married women. The theory is that a married woman has as much to lose as the married man if she says yes. Whereas, the popular stereotype is that a single woman will easily turn into Glenn Close from Fatal Attraction. So, if you're a woman and married, you'll get hit on by both single AND married guys. (The single guys will most likely pursue married women due to some amalgam of the forbidden fruit/no strings attached/MILF syndrome thing.)
As a married man, I haven't been hit on very much...but I didn't get hit on much when I was single, either. But I have definitely been hit on, mostly by women who clearly didn't view my wedding ring as any sort of obstacle to getting what they wanted. I don't think that my marital status has made me any more or less attractive to women in general. And very few women will actively pursue a married man. That would open up the woman to be branded as a slut, whereas a married guy who hits on a woman is just being a typical male. An unfortunate but very prevalent form of discrimination today.
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There are a lot of married men who will only hit on married women. The theory is that a married woman has as much to lose as the married man if she says yes. Whereas, the popular stereotype is that a single woman will easily turn into Glenn Close from Fatal Attraction. So, if you're a woman and married, you'll get hit on by both single AND married guys. (The single guys will most likely pursue married women due to some amalgam of the forbidden fruit/no strings attached/MILF syndrome thing.)
As a married man, I haven't been hit on very much...but I didn't get hit on much when I was single, either. But I have definitely been hit on, mostly by women who clearly didn't view my wedding ring as any sort of obstacle to getting what they wanted. I don't think that my marital status has made me any more or less attractive to women in general. And very few women will actively pursue a married man. That would open up the woman to be branded as a slut, whereas a married guy who hits on a woman is just being a typical male. An unfortunate but very prevalent form of discrimination today.
SG
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smart
clever girl....
succesful cheating require as many degrees of seperation as possible
clever girl....
succesful cheating require as many degrees of seperation as possible
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I also think this has a lot to do with perception... maybe you only notice it more?
I remember my first car... and before that never really noticing seeing too many of that model on the streets, but while I had it and even now, I see so many of them!
Part of me really doesn't think there are more out there, just that they are instantly recognizable and sit very easily in my memory that way?
Maybe your thoughts have changed since getting married causing you to notice this more? I dunno... just an interesting thought
And IMO unmarried women are much more attractive because they're attainable Married women are like pretty flowers surrounded by a thicket of very prickly briar... sure, they may look nice, but why not pick the other flower in the open field?
I remember my first car... and before that never really noticing seeing too many of that model on the streets, but while I had it and even now, I see so many of them!
Part of me really doesn't think there are more out there, just that they are instantly recognizable and sit very easily in my memory that way?
Maybe your thoughts have changed since getting married causing you to notice this more? I dunno... just an interesting thought
And IMO unmarried women are much more attractive because they're attainable
Married women are like pretty flowers surrounded by a thicket of very prickly briar... sure, they may look nice, but why not pick the other flower in the open field? Similar threads
