Fisting 101

[nickollette]

For quite awhile now, I have always seen fisting as a distant turn on, one of those things that are totally hot but never thought I'd have the nerve to try. I have so many misconceptions burned into my head about it so that contributes to my lack of trying it yet as well. People thinking that only "loose" whores can do it, that once you do it then a normal dick won't cut it, that it makes you loose and so on are a few of those misconceptions I've heard. I seriously doubt that any of them are true, and just people being stupid and knocking things they don't understand, as people love to do. I will be so naive as to say, I'm curious if it does make you "looser", I'm thinking that it can't anymore than having my son did, even then things seem to have went back to normal, at least for me, don't know about the opinion of the person going in.

Anywho, on to the main aspect. For absolute beginners, with nothing bigger than a dick going in there on a regular basis, are there any steps to work yourself towards fisting? I imagine that there is probably a great deal of lube involved to make it easier, but is there anything else that are must haves to do this with relative ease. I've read about certain "techniques" that are helpful to get the hand in comfortably, but they're not all that descriptive to get a mental image in my head to support the words I read.

It'd be great to hear from both, the people who do the fisting and the one's who take it, beginners and experienced opinions alike.

 

[Primalex]

People thinking that only "loose" whores can do it,

This is true.

that once you do it then a normal dick won't cut it,

This is also true. Of course not immediately, but the human body adapts to sensations and soon a normal dosis will not suffice.

that it makes you loose

This is also true.

I'm thinking that it can't anymore than having my son did, even then things seem to have went back to normal, at least for me, don't know about the opinion of the person going in.

This leads now to the question: How often do you give birth and how often do you want a fisting? If the numbers equal, I wouldn't worry about it.

Anywho, on to the main aspect. For absolute beginners, with nothing bigger than a dick going in there on a regular basis, are there any steps to work yourself towards fisting?

See, you obviously contradict yourself now. If the interaction with your pussy would _not_ make you loose, how could there be any step to work yourself from dick size towards fisting?

Anyway, the fisting 101 for the person who is fisting:
1) Cut your fingernails very short.
2) Use gloves and lube
3) Use more lube
4) Take your time
5) The first three fingers are easy, from there on: take your time
6) This is now the time to use more lube
7) Your index finger should have a 10 or 11 o clock position, not horizontal at 9 o clock.
8) Check her breath regularly, some women tend to hold their breath way too long due to the sensations.
9) Work your way in and take your time
10) Don't think because you are nearly in, you can thrust the rest in easily, it's actually more the opposite way around. If she is ready for it, she will more or less glide over the rest.
11) If in doubt, just have some nice time with as many fingers as there are in and delay the "full fist" thingie till next time.
12) Fucking a pussy with a fist like with a dick is only seen in porn movies. She will move, if she needs more movement in her.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I will give you a female perspective.. When I got into the idea Id like to be fisted... I wanted to but I am built very small as well.. and I didnt want to be streached out either.... but it does take patience and time I will admit... You need to breathe and relax and trust.. and it feels so GOOD! I will tell you this.... and if he does it right he will start with one or two fingers and get you very worked up and and easily get you worked up to apoint where he can get it all in.. This isnt something you do everytime your together... If you want it and your PYL wants it.. Youll do it.. I promise you... When My Sir does this to me , yes it streaches me out temporarily.. but we can go from that to intercourse and it doesnt change the feeling... It doesnt permanantly streach me out either.... but this is my opinion...

 

[DrkSword]

Response to primalex

What are you smoking? You are obviously not well versed on the human body. It's posts like this that scare people away from trying new things that they might enjoy. Please refrain from giving "advice" that you have no knowledge of. You are one of the closed minded people that nickollette was referring to.

First and foremost; Anyone can do this given the desire, paitents and LOTS of lube.

It is not true that only whores do this.

It is not true that a "normal dick" won't cut it. Your body, as you stated with child birth, will go back to it's normal size. I will add this note: if you get fisted all the time there will be some perminant streching if you don't exersise the muscles. You can perform the Kiegel exercise to tighten the area keeipng you as if you were a teenager! This also falls in line with how loose you will become.

When I do this to my pet I can still have intercourse with her right afterwards and I'm not large in that area. No waiting involved and no change in the feeling!

If you truly want to have this experience I would offer the following;

1. RELAX
2. Go slowly. Be prepared to spend time adjusting to the feeling and the size of your partner.
3. RELAX
4. USE LOTS OF LUBE
5. RELAX
6. Enjoy, rinse, repeat

It may take a few tries before your partner is able to completely insert their hand.

Please take the time to research this on other sites on the web. There are many good places that will help you understand what can happen if you don't take care of yourself.

DS

This is true.



This is also true. Of course not immediately, but the human body adapts to sensations and soon a normal dosis will not suffice.



This is also true.



This leads now to the question: How often do you give birth and how often do you want a fisting? If the numbers equal, I wouldn't worry about it.



See, you obviously contradict yourself now. If the interaction with your pussy would _not_ make you loose, how could there be any step to work yourself from dick size towards fisting?

Anyway, the fisting 101 for the person who is fisting:
1) Cut your fingernails very short.
2) Use gloves and lube
3) Use more lube
4) Take your time
5) The first three fingers are easy, from there on: take your time
6) This is now the time to use more lube
7) Your index finger should have a 10 or 11 o clock position, not horizontal at 9 o clock.
8) Check her breath regularly, some women tend to hold their breath way too long due to the sensations.
9) Work your way in and take your time
10) Don't think because you are nearly in, you can thrust the rest in easily, it's actually more the opposite way around. If she is ready for it, she will more or less glide over the rest.
11) If in doubt, just have some nice time with as many fingers as there are in and delay the "full fist" thingie till next time.
12) Fucking a pussy with a fist like with a dick is only seen in porn movies. She will move, if she needs more movement in her.

 

[Primalex]

What are you smoking?

I don't smoke.

First and foremost; Anyone can do this given the desire, paitents and LOTS of lube.

Did I say something else?

It is not true that only whores do this.

It is true that people think this. You even mention this yourself here.

It is not true that a "normal dick" won't cut it. Your body, as you stated with child birth, will go back to it's normal size. I will add this note: if you get fisted all the time there will be some perminant streching if you don't exersise the muscles.

You can perform the Kiegel exercise to tighten the area keeipng you as if you were a teenager! This also falls in line with how loose you will become.

Now what? Does it stretch or not and does the body over time get used to it or not and are exercises helpful or not?
Think about what your opinion is and then answer, not the opposite way around. Despite this, I wasn't referring to the stretching aspect at all, but I was referring to the mental aspect, something even a mediocre reader would be able to recognize.

1. RELAX
2. Go slowly. Be prepared to spend time adjusting to the feeling and the size of your partner.
3. RELAX
4. USE LOTS OF LUBE
5. RELAX
6. Enjoy, rinse, repeat

It may take a few tries before your partner is able to completely insert their hand.

Wow. Now this is really different from what I wrote... fascinating.

 

[Kierae]

Here is an entire thread with tons of information from people who receive and give:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=578520

 

[iluvyou3638]

http://news.behindkink.com/blog/def...ess-Donna-Teaches-Class-on-Fisting-Techniques

enjoy.

also. as a side note. when i was 12, i started watching porn and the first porn that i saw was of a chick fisting herself. and i SERIOUSLY thought that this was something everyone could do, and i was devastated that i couldn't. i thought there was something wrong with me and that i was abnormal because i couldn't fit my own hand in my vagina. but dammit. i tried.

 

[Etoile]

I just want to say that I had sex last night, which means I got fisted. Oh man it is so awesome. I would say I've been fisted at least 100 times now and I'm no looser than I was when I started years ago. And even after 100 times, I still get amazed by her hand being all the way inside me.

 

[nickollette]

Awsome, I'll have to go check out that forum when I have more than 5 min to myself tonight.

I've sort of brought it up as something I'd like to try, but can't really tell if he is willing to because he wants to or because he knows I want to. Past just bringing it up, I'm never sure how to broach sexual topics with him, for the longest time I've been wanting to suggest him doing something different than he does it now, but always back down because I'm paranoid he'll take it personally.

I tried fisting myself a couple times but can never seem to get a good enough angle for it to work, let alone more than 3 fingers, which is why I ask if there's recommended babysteps to wwork up to it.

 

[madetotakeit]

I've sort of brought it up as something I'd like to try, but can't really tell if he is willing to because he wants to or because he knows I want to. Past just bringing it up, I'm never sure how to broach sexual topics with him, for the longest time I've been wanting to suggest him doing something different than he does it now, but always back down because I'm paranoid he'll take it personally.

Before attempting I would suggest finding out. I've tried with two partners. The first was doing it simply because I wanted it. It wasn't successful. We didn't discuss if it was something he was interested in first. He wasn't and that ended up coming across making me less than relaxed. My second partner I believe loves it more than me and that came across as well. We were much more successful even though I wasn't able to go to the wrist. Each time I came a little closer though. The regret of not being able to go all the way came later. At the time what I was feeling was too wonderful to have any regrets surface. It's been said many times in reference to fisting (as well as other things) that the practice itself is wonderful fun. Can't agree more.

Sometimes it's hard to verbalize what you want or what you are interested in trying. Not due to communication, trust issues, or the lack of desires but because we are not taught it's acceptable to speak of such things. It can be awkward until you relearn that it is okay to be blunt. I'm working on this myself. Sharing that part of yourself can be daunting even with someone you trust implicitly.

 

[HottieMama]

i both receive vaginal fisting and give both anal and vaginal. Lube and patience are the two big things for me. Latex gloves sometimes make things "smoother" especially in the beginning.

i do not recommend using KY as lube. It gets sticky very easily and can be uncomfortable. For Vag. fisting i use ID Millenium or Astroglide in a pinch. For anal fisting, Crisco or J-lube works best. (J-lube needs to be special ordered.)

 

[annayarnkitten]

my 2 cents as a female

Ok I am a female who very much enjoys being fisted. I am not a "whore" Married and monogamous for 17 years thank you. I have had 4 kids
BUT< BUT< I do kegals, even unconsiouly. all the time. when ever I think to.

So back on subject. We have used astro glide gel which is cold at first. Now we use only astroglide warming, fabulous! So my DOMhub starts out playing with me and putting lots of lube on my pussy, he knows I am ready as he plays with me and I grind his hand onto my vaginal so he usually starts with 3 then 4 then slowly rotating and gantly pushing in until his whole fist is in. I like him just to freeze a minute and let my body catch up to the sensations, If I want a "fucking" I prefer the thumb tucked across his palm. then a little flick on the clit from his tounge and I am over the moon. But I have found that I can't ejaculate (yes female) while he has his fist inside. and He has never complained about me feeling "loose" after anything has been inside me, so far the largest thing has been a rum bottle--the bottem part

 

[kinkyknickers]

For me the big (pardon the pun) issue is the size of the fist. Master has amazingly soft hands but they're just waaaay too big. We tried it, it just wasn't physically possible (not without tearing anyway).

My suggestion to you is to have a nice petite lady on hand such as our Minxie, she's got small hands and it made it a hell of alot easier. She was able to make a full closed fist inside me quicker than anyone expected.

I'm still a big fan of KY lube because I'm actually incredibly sensitive (we're talking burning people, burning!) to all other brands. To stop it from getting sticky, just rehydrate it with good old tap water, works a treat. Same deal with latex products, so no gloves for me.

One thing that is rather interesting that none of us thought of before hand (scuse the pun again), is that when I came I almost crushed her rather delicate hand, so I'd say there's not too much slackening to worry about there.

Having said that, I wouldn't do it all the time, I was walking funny for a few days afterwards, so special occassions only for me.

Happy fistingKK

 

[Etoile]

Ok I am a female who very much enjoys being fisted. I am not a "whore" Married and monogamous for 17 years thank you. I have had 4 kids
BUT< BUT< I do kegals, even unconsiouly. all the time. when ever I think to.

I guess I'm trying to figure out your introduction. You say that you enjoy being fisted, then you immediately note that you are not a whore. Did something in this thread prompt you to think that those of us who enjoy fisting are somehow whores? Or perhaps that it is unusual for married or monogamous couples to practice fisting? That fisting is only done in short-term relationships?

I'm also confused by your insistence that you do kegels. We've said over and over that fisting doesn't make a person loose, and neither would having kids, so why the emphasis on how tight you are?

 

[kinkyknickers]

I guess I'm trying to figure out your introduction. You say that you enjoy being fisted, then you immediately note that you are not a whore. Did something in this thread prompt you to think that those of us who enjoy fisting are somehow whores? Or perhaps that it is unusual for married or monogamous couples to practice fisting? That fisting is only done in short-term relationships?

I'm also confused by your insistence that you do kegels. We've said over and over that fisting doesn't make a person loose, and neither would having kids, so why the emphasis on how tight you are?

I think you'll find it was in defense against something Primelax quoted (I've noticed he has that effect on some people), whether he meant to say it would make you a whore or whether it was implyed others would think you're a whore.

I don't think she meant it in any other way.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I guess I'm trying to figure out your introduction. You say that you enjoy being fisted, then you immediately note that you are not a whore. Did something in this thread prompt you to think that those of us who enjoy fisting are somehow whores? Or perhaps that it is unusual for married or monogamous couples to practice fisting? That fisting is only done in short-term relationships?

I'm also confused by your insistence that you do kegels. We've said over and over that fisting doesn't make a person loose, and neither would having kids, so why the emphasis on how tight you are?

Etoile-
I think she is refering to Primalex's quotes below.. he made everyone think you had to be that way.... and made comments about that and she is addressing those statements..

This is true.



This is also true. Of course not immediately, but the human body adapts to sensations and soon a normal dosis will not suffice.



This is also true.



This leads now to the question: How often do you give birth and how often do you want a fisting? If the numbers equal, I wouldn't worry about it.



See, you obviously contradict yourself now. If the interaction with your pussy would _not_ make you loose, how could there be any step to work yourself from dick size towards fisting?

Anyway, the fisting 101 for the person who is fisting:
1) Cut your fingernails very short.
2) Use gloves and lube
3) Use more lube
4) Take your time
5) The first three fingers are easy, from there on: take your time
6) This is now the time to use more lube
7) Your index finger should have a 10 or 11 o clock position, not horizontal at 9 o clock.
8) Check her breath regularly, some women tend to hold their breath way too long due to the sensations.
9) Work your way in and take your time
10) Don't think because you are nearly in, you can thrust the rest in easily, it's actually more the opposite way around. If she is ready for it, she will more or less glide over the rest.
11) If in doubt, just have some nice time with as many fingers as there are in and delay the "full fist" thingie till next time.
12) Fucking a pussy with a fist like with a dick is only seen in porn movies. She will move, if she needs more movement in her.

 

[twysted73]

* sighs *

Ok...let me find it......

(digs and digs)

 

[graceanne]

K and I have tried to fist, we really think my pelvis is too small (at least for his hand). I had three cesareans because of a small pelvis, and after four fingers he starts hitting bone.

 

[twysted73]

* comes up for air *

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=578520

There you go.

The things I do for my passions.

 

[HottieMama]

K and I have tried to fist, we really think my pelvis is too small (at least for his hand). I had three cesareans because of a small pelvis, and after four fingers he starts hitting bone.

Grace...that's completely possible. While the vagina will stretch to theoretically accommodate a fist, you can't move bone. If you need to give birth by C-section because of your pelvis, chances are you might not be able to be fully fisted.

 

[graceanne]

Grace...that's completely possible. While the vagina will stretch to theoretically accommodate a fist, you can't move bone. If you need to give birth by C-section because of your pelvis, chances are you might not be able to be fully fisted.

To tell the truth I learned that, I think, from Etoile and a post she made once. We'd been trying like crazy for a while and it just WAS NOT working. I was researching, and learned that some women are too narrow through the pelvis. So now we just go up to four fingers and just don't stress about the fifth. *shrugs*

 

[Shankara20]

To tell the truth I learned that, I think, from Etoile and a post she made once. We'd been trying like crazy for a while and it just WAS NOT working. I was researching, and learned that some women are too narrow through the pelvis. So now we just go up to four fingers and just don't stress about the fifth. *shrugs*

sometimes it help to rotate the hand 90 deg so it lines up with the space between the bones - maybe no for you, bit sometimes it can help a little

good luck

 

[graceanne]

sometimes it help to rotate the hand 90 deg so it lines up with the space between the bones - maybe no for you, bit sometimes it can help a little

good luck

I'll mention it to him. I don't know if he's tried that - it's not like I can SEE what's going on. lol Thanks.

 

[Etoile]

Etoile-
I think she is refering to Primalex's quotes below.. he made everyone think you had to be that way.... and made comments about that and she is addressing those statements..

Hmm, I didn't really see it that way...perhaps I'm interpreting Primalex's words differently than she did, though. Because to me, what she said sounded really out of left field! Ah well.

 

[Etoile]

To tell the truth I learned that, I think, from Etoile and a post she made once. We'd been trying like crazy for a while and it just WAS NOT working. I was researching, and learned that some women are too narrow through the pelvis. So now we just go up to four fingers and just don't stress about the fifth. *shrugs*

*blushes*

So glad I could be of help!