Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Homburg]

V, Homburg, and MIS

I am so happy for you.. it's so good to see you three gelling together as a family.

It's hard to realize sometimes that it's ok to be in love with more than one person. And sometimes it's hard to hear your loved one say they love someone else, or pine for someone else.

You three are starting out on a hard road, a fun road.. and hopefully... a long long road... and I couldnt be happier

Thank you, Fi. Truth be told, you and Malin have been examples to me.

The gelling is a lot of work on the part of the girls. They're both doing incredibly. I am honestly happy, and so proud of both of them.

 

[EmpressFi]

Thank you, Fi. Truth be told, you and Malin have been examples to me.

The gelling is a lot of work on the part of the girls. They're both doing incredibly. I am honestly happy, and so proud of both of them.

Now it's my turn to blush

 

[Homburg]

Now it's my turn to blush

There have been a handful of folks on here that are involved in long-term, stable poly relationships. I pay attention. I try to learn. I ask questions. You guys, Netz, Caitlynne, and especially bijou have all given excellent advice and examples.

 

[EmpressFi]

well you know I'm always here for questions .. and support.. I love you guys *big hugs*

 

[Bandit58]

V, Homburg, and MIS

I am so happy for you.. it's so good to see you three gelling together as a family.

It's hard to realize sometimes that it's ok to be in love with more than one person. And sometimes it's hard to hear your loved one say they love someone else, or pine for someone else.

You three are starting out on a hard road, a fun road.. and hopefully... a long long road... and I couldnt be happier

Congrats to those of you who are able to make a relationship like this work

I am perfectly ok with having friends who are casual sexual/play partners - we have done this before and it adds something special to our own relationship, but I am not wired to enable someone to come in on a permanent basis. I know, never say never!

 

[EmpressFi]

Congrats to those of you who are able to make a relationship like this work

I am perfectly ok with having friends who are casual sexual/play partners - we have done this before and it adds something special to our own relationship, but I am not wired to enable someone to come in on a permanent basis. I know, never say never!

I never thought I would be either.

I was fine thinking that I'd only ever be with Malin for the rest of my life. However I was always afraid, every time I felt attracted to someone else, that I'd never be able to avoid the "once a cheat always a cheat" title. Maybe some would think we were using it as a crutch to allow us to "cheat" on each other.

And to be honest, that's kinda what I thought it was in the beginning. I mean.. c'mon.. permission to sleep with whomever I wanted, as long as I told Malin about it first??

Then I met my Master.

True that I'm not sure how it will work when we're all in the same town or same house. But right now, I'm more than content with my relationship as it is. I still flirt with men... and women.. but there's not been one I've wanted to be with romantically or sexually. I truly feel this is what I was searching for all along.

 

[Millificent]

I wish I could have been there with you today. If only to lend an extra pair of helping hands or hugs when you were feeling overly stressed and overwhelmed.

More virtual *hugs*

Know that I was/am thinking about you.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Hi Everyone! I know I haven't been around much.., but life is going well, very well.

Long distance can be very difficult as I am finding out even more so the last few months. But what has helped me especially with the new challenges we have been facing lately is to embrace what time, and kind of time we do have together and not spend too much time wishing for it to be different. I have learned to accept and actually cherish what it is, instead of hoping for what it is not.

This is the longest we have ever gone without seeing each other. Though my body physically aches to feel his arms around me, I am ok. He knows me so well. He is able to take care of me and give me what I crave without being right here next to me. And best of all I am able to serve him, care for him and fulfill his needs also.

In a couple weeks we will celebrate out 3 yr anniversary, unfortunately we won't be able to spend it together in person. But hopefully we will be able to finally hold each other again before the end of summer.

Hugs and best wishes to all!

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Wow that is beautiful.

i am not sure when i will see Master. i lost my job for next year (downsizing). But i can hear His words and feel His arms anyway. And i trust W/we will work it out.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Just wanted to let my friends in this thread know that I was DomWharfsBitch and have killed that one off and am going with KayKat as my handle...This is the safest thread for you to know who I am...

Thanks for sharing your new name.

and the offer of my PM box is always open

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*sigh*

Just having a bleh day.

It's just so frustrating that so many people get to see/touch/talk to/joke with/see her beautiful smile in person everyday and I don't.

Bleh.

I think I should just put a me too after all your posts, bro.

 

[KayKat]

Thanks for sharing your new name.

and the offer of my PM box is always open

You are welcome MP...

Thank you so much!

 

[SubKekiLee]

Hi Kk!!!

 

[KayKat]

Hi Kk!!!

Hey SKL

 

[myinnerslut]

hi all.

these last days are taking way too long.

 

[Homburg]

*growl*

 

[SubKekiLee]

I am missing HIM.... we HAD so much time this weekend... but Ive heard from him 2x today ... I hope I can talk to him more tonight since he is at work...

 

[EmpressFi]

I have to post this.

I've been so down lately, missing him so much. Sometimes I'd wonder if the pain of missing each other was worth it. How was I going to make this "real" if I'm not seeing him?

Monday nights, Malin spends the night with his new girlfriend. Master and I treat that as our date night too. We'd talked about playing cards or Civ4 and using Skype to talk all night.

We started sharing youtube videos..starting with the one by Queen that SKL posted. Then it dissolved into us watching "The Wall" from Berlin. We went song by song, talking about what we liked about it, or about the music or about the guitar pieces, etc. At the end of the night, I told him that it felt like we'd been watching it side by side, no distance between us.

I went to bed feeling recharged. No, it wont ever be as good as the real thing.. but it was what I needed.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I have to post this.

I've been so down lately, missing him so much. Sometimes I'd wonder if the pain of missing each other was worth it. How was I going to make this "real" if I'm not seeing him?

Monday nights, Malin spends the night with his new girlfriend. Master and I treat that as our date night too. We'd talked about playing cards or Civ4 and using Skype to talk all night.

We started sharing youtube videos..starting with the one by Queen that SKL posted. Then it dissolved into us watching "The Wall" from Berlin. We went song by song, talking about what we liked about it, or about the music or about the guitar pieces, etc. At the end of the night, I told him that it felt like we'd been watching it side by side, no distance between us.

I went to bed feeling recharged. No, it wont ever be as good as the real thing.. but it was what I needed.

Awesome Fi... I am glad you were able to do this... That was kinda what happend this weekend for Sir and I.. we spent so much time this weekend online watching videos/movies and chatting/webcaming like he was right here... and when I got sad and started crying I turned off my cam he got upset a me, cause he said would you do that if I were there? He was there.. so I turned it back on and he said I am right here with you and Im sharing this all with you... the only difference is if i were there your head would be on my chest... is all... *sigh he was right.* This is one of the many reasons I adore him so much..

 

[Homburg]

Tonight was really good.

Free nighttime minutes + conference calling = Happy Us

 

[minx1]

I have to post this.

I've been so down lately, missing him so much. Sometimes I'd wonder if the pain of missing each other was worth it. How was I going to make this "real" if I'm not seeing him?

Monday nights, Malin spends the night with his new girlfriend. Master and I treat that as our date night too. We'd talked about playing cards or Civ4 and using Skype to talk all night.

We started sharing youtube videos..starting with the one by Queen that SKL posted. Then it dissolved into us watching "The Wall" from Berlin. We went song by song, talking about what we liked about it, or about the music or about the guitar pieces, etc. At the end of the night, I told him that it felt like we'd been watching it side by side, no distance between us.

I went to bed feeling recharged. No, it wont ever be as good as the real thing.. but it was what I needed.

Thanks for sharing that Fi

It hit a real nerve with me. Even though I am in the same country as him now, our time is still limited for various reasons. The man is so wonderful and important to me that I struggle with accepting what we have and not wanting more and more. Reading this thread helps a lot sometimes, it makes remember when we weren't able to be together and makes me feel humble when I read others positions.
I still know exactly what you mean about keeping it real. I think yours and SKL's experience of having a 'date' night is a wonderful idea. Our time is precious so sometimes it means missing out on 'normal' things like watching a film together.

I wish you much luck and happiness

 

[minx1]

Just an update on my LDR..I think it has officially ended..Tomorrow will be a week since I have heard from him...Things had been going down hill for a while..so I am really okay with it all..He was NEVER around...it is for the best..I will be okay....I deserve better...

You know my thoughts on it hon and I think you are doing brilliantly

*hugs*

 

[KayKat]

You know my thoughts on it hon and I think you are doing brilliantly

*hugs*

Thank you my dear friend..I appreciate your support very much!

 

[minx1]

Thank you my dear friend..I appreciate your support very much!

My pleasure hon...as I said I think you are really brave making and standing by your decision. I know how hard it must have been for you to make.

I like your sig btw...so true x

 

[myinnerslut]

My pleasure hon...as I said I think you are really brave making and standing by your decision. I know how hard it must have been for you to make.

I like your sig btw...so true x

*checks kay's sig*

nods