Anyone really just like the idea of domination

[ttvttp]

Anyone else just really like the idea of domination no matter what sex? Its just I love the idea of someone controlling someone whatever sex the person is, whether female or male. Though I would not want to be controlled or I feel that any society is really controlled by any sex except maybe old cultures like islam or amish. Just wondering what people feel.

 

[EmpressFi]

Actually, although I've never been in the position to bottom for a woman before, I do work with a Domme who exudes dominance ... it works on others.. but not on me. I just dont think I have it in me to submit to a female.

 

[dani_boi]

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone. It excites me just as much to submit to as strong Female as it does to a strong Male. Just the knowing that my obidiance can give others pleasure is a total turn on for me. I love the feel of being told what to do, when to do it and to have no choice in the matter. It is my love and need to please and to make others that are "stonger" than me happy. I in no way feel less of a person or even less than those who top me. I actually feel stonger because I am a sub and because I can submit. In my mind it takes a far stonger person to submit than it does to command. Any way IMHO I get strength from being sub. I know it sounds backwards but it is how I feel.

xoxo dani

 

[EmpressFi]

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone. It excites me just as much to submit to as strong Female as it does to a strong Male. Just the knowing that my obidiance can give others pleasure is a total turn on for me. I love the feel of being told what to do, when to do it and to have no choice in the matter. It is my love and need to please and to make others that are "stonger" than me happy. I in no way feel less of a person or even less than those who top me. I actually feel stonger because I am a sub and because I can submit. In my mind it takes a far stonger person to submit than it does to command. Any way IMHO I get strength from being sub. I know it sounds backwards but it is how I feel.

xoxo dani

this is why I almost didnt respond to the thread at all. The fact that I dont feel submissive to women does not mean that I'm not a "true sub". Well maybe it does in your eyes, but not in mine. The only one who can determine what a submissive is or isnt .. is the submissive...

I know there are others...some of them good friends of mine, who feel the same way you do. But it's just not in me to do it. Perfect example is the Domme at work. I show her respect as a fellow human being, but I'm her boss. I dont submit to her.. Malin on the other hand has or had the strong urge to greet her with downcast eyes and not speak until spoken to. As her training supervisor and now as team leader, I cant be a submissive to her during the day, and the idea of me ever submitting to her or any female for that matter..to me.. is laughable

if that makes me a fake sub.. I guess I'm a fuckin fake sub...

I'm sorry.. all the reals, and trues, and best, and onlies around here sometimes really piss me off

 

[Keeper_of_Fi]

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone. *snip*
xoxo dani

No, it isn't. What a ridiculous statement.

 

[malinborn]

I have to say i think that is a bit of a crock. Yes, as Fi mentioned, i felt the need to look down and treat this co-worker with respect but then i also realized.. i do not have to do this.. i am not a slave in some kingdom in an anne rice novel and while that is an interesting concept and i have had the occasional fantasy of such places.. it's not real, to me anyway. yes, i have the ability to be able to allow myself to submit to people or feel myself submitting to others whom i might not normally be inclined to do so once i feel comfortable with them.. once they have earned the right to be dominant over me.. because D/s is an earning thing with me... just as a sub needs to earn the right to submit to a Master or Mistress, the trust factor means the same is true in reverse.

Slam me if you will but i think that kind of blanket statement is why there is such a divide in the community. Homburg is Dominant and while i have a wee mancrush on him for what he exudes, i am not submissive to him and i am CERTAINLY not Submissive to keeper of Fi... nor to many Dommes on here.

Just who i am i guess. If that means i am not a true sub then i will go join the many many many fakes i know and love

Malin

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone.

 

[malinborn]

...... multipost

 

[dani_boi]

Ok well first off I want to say sorry for offending anyone. Again this is in my eyes and I guess I did not explain myself well. You are right to say that was a blanket statement and like everything in this world one size does not fit all. For every person like me who readly submitts to anyone there are many more who are gender spicific. Just like many who don't understand the whole dom sub thing at all. I'm sorry as when I look at it in print I see how many would be offended. I am mearly stating that for ME and me alone that is the case. I'm not speaking for anyone else and just offering my humble opinion.

 

[Tebazile]

Actually, although I've never been in the position to bottom for a woman before, I do work with a Domme who exudes dominance ... it works on others.. but not on me. I just dont think I have it in me to submit to a female.

I'm the same way, and I'm very much a bisexual. I love women. I just don't love submitting to one. I don't Top a woman either, though... I just have sex with them.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*smiles softly*

In my eyes, the greatest treasure in the world is the slave who surrenders themselves to _me_. And me alone. I don't want my property submitting to anyone else, except at my command. I don't want them feeling or thinking that they have to give obedience or service to just anyone who claims to be on the left side of the power exchange slash.

For service and SM play, I don't care if the submissive or slave is male or female. I'm an equal opportunity sadist. If those I only play with, or occassionally allow to serve me, choose to submit to others, that's all well and good. I hope they choose who they submit to wisely.

For sex though, I'm pretty much straight as an arrow. Guys are fun to torture, but a nice butt and 6 pack abs on a guy don't gimme a woody. *grins and shrugs*

A good yardboy is hard to find...

 

[Netzach]

I'll dominate anybody I find halfway amusing and worth the effort. I will say I tend to be *nicer* to girls and Tgirls, but my world is not a fair world.

 

[Chicklet]

In my eyes, the greatest treasure in the world is the slave who surrenders themselves to _me_. And me alone. I don't want my property submitting to anyone else, except at my command. I don't want them feeling or thinking that they have to give obedience or service to just anyone who claims to be on the left side of the power exchange slash.

This is how I feel about it, too.

If my submission was up for grabs by absolutely anyone who considered themselves a Dominant, then what good would I be, really?

I only want to give myself to ONE person, and everyone else can go to hell if they're thinking I'm going to give my submission to them.

Luckily people in my community pick that up from me, and don't try There's one local party (M/f party) where every woman that goes needs to be in a "serving" capacity, and dude, I just could never, ever, in a million years, attend. I only want to wait on one person.

 

[BiBunny]

I'll dominate anybody I find halfway amusing and worth the effort. I will say I tend to be *nicer* to girls and Tgirls, but my world is not a fair world.

This is me, except I tend to be nicer to boys. Girls or boys who are dressed get my full wrath unleashed.

 

[WickedEve]

I only submit to one person and that's because he is worthy. For me, personally, I'd feel like a submission slut if I just submitted to anyone who was dominant. I don't mind being respectful to that person, or any person, but my submission is a very intimate thing to give to just anyone. Of course, I don't sleep around either, so maybe I treat my submission the same way I treat my genitalia.

 

[SubKekiLee]

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone. It excites me just as much to submit to as strong Female as it does to a strong Male. Just the knowing that my obidiance can give others pleasure is a total turn on for me. I love the feel of being told what to do, when to do it and to have no choice in the matter. It is my love and need to please and to make others that are "stonger" than me happy. I in no way feel less of a person or even less than those who top me. I actually feel stonger because I am a sub and because I can submit. In my mind it takes a far stonger person to submit than it does to command. Any way IMHO I get strength from being sub. I know it sounds backwards but it is how I feel.

xoxo dani

Absolutely NOT! I submit to one person my submission is a gift and he earned it and I wouldnt just give that to anyone, these relatioships are based off trust honesty and communcation...

No, it isn't. What a ridiculous statement.

here here I so agree with you...

I have to say i think that is a bit of a crock. Yes, as Fi mentioned, i felt the need to look down and treat this co-worker with respect but then i also realized.. i do not have to do this.. i am not a slave in some kingdom in an anne rice novel and while that is an interesting concept and i have had the occasional fantasy of such places.. it's not real, to me anyway. yes, i have the ability to be able to allow myself to submit to people or feel myself submitting to others whom i might not normally be inclined to do so once i feel comfortable with them.. once they have earned the right to be dominant over me.. because D/s is an earning thing with me... just as a sub needs to earn the right to submit to a Master or Mistress, the trust factor means the same is true in reverse.

Slam me if you will but i think that kind of blanket statement is why there is such a divide in the community. Homburg is Dominant and while i have a wee mancrush on him for what he exudes, i am not submissive to him and i am CERTAINLY not Submissive to keeper of Fi... nor to many Dommes on here.

Just who i am i guess. If that means i am not a true sub then i will go join the many many many fakes i know and love

Malin

Well Malin I am with you... Like I said above there are alot of Dominants in this world and my actions in this world are a reflection of my submission to my Sir but I will say I will not submit to just anyone...My Submission is a gift that is earned I do not beleive there is anything real or fake about you or any another person.. here I know alot of think along the same lines.. and I will tell you if some jerk of a guy or a bitch of a woman walked through the door or I went into a dungeon and she expected me to give her my gift Id be respectful of her but Id never give her my gift.. That is his.. I am in total agreence with you and Keeper and Fi...

Fi...
I am with you.. Ignorance is intolerable.. there are lots of woman who command respect but in my lifetime there has been one woman who could ever command that kind of respect from me of my submission to her and well that was long before Sir and when Sir came into my life, earned his place in my life with his words, thoughts, actions and communcation, I lost my inspiration to submit to her but most women in my eyes do not command that type of respect from me.. Im with you.. When I surrendered my heart soul and gift of submission to my Sir I couldnt just give that away to another...

 

[madetotakeit]

Gender certainly does have something to do with who I could submit to. It's more the base as I am strictly hetero, never even had a curiosity. Beyond that however, who I could submit to is much finer tuned. I could not submit to just any Dom. There's a recipe for what qualities he has to have to bring that out in me. I'm still trying to figure out exactly what the ingredients are. At this point all I can say is I know it when I sense it. Like SKL said however, it is something that ultimately has to be earned.

 

[ttvttp]

Ok what im really talking about is do you respect what males doms can make their slaves feel and likewise female doms with their slaves.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Ok what im really talking about is do you respect what males doms can make their slaves feel and likewise female doms with their slaves.

I respect my Dom immensely and he earned that... Yes I respect how he can command that kind of respect from me... considering all things...

 

[Etoile]

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone.

My problem with this statement is not the idea that someone should be able to submit to anyone, but rather that there is such a thing as a true sub. Because there isn't. Anytime I see the words "true sub" I get all twitchy. There's no such thing as a true sub just like there is no such thing as wax wings to fly you to the sun.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

I very much like the idea.I don't really need the whips and chains and stuff though.

 

[FuckMeEyes]

I enjoy it. As much as I'd like to delve deeper into dominating, unfortunately I've only scratched the surface in my experiences. An ex used to say that control is an illusion and that seems to be true in my life. I am more than willing to force someone, female, against her will. However, the reality of it is that life is much more civilized than my hidden demeanor truly allows.

With that tangent aside, the few who have trusted me have shown me something special that I'm sure most here know well more than I do. I don't think I will ever settle for a strictly vanilla relationship, even though I do enjoy that plain Jane romance and mushiness. However, I'm no fool in denying my desires to take pleasure in someone's willingness to serve me and ensure my happiness as part of their own joy. I know what it's like to find pleasure in making others happy. I feel that I crave to be on the receiving end of it and there lies my pleasure in dominance; knowing I am no less a servant to the submissive than she is to myself, but she is the one on her knees.

Additionally, my desires usually overlap the realm of sadism and sex. I like my testosterone and I really like my penis. So, sue me.

 

[LittleJade]

The mark of a true sub is the ability to submit to anyone.

I was fine with the rest of your post.. and was set to comment on submitting to all genders, but this caught me.

One of my biggest peeves about the D/s community (both online and in person), is those people who go around acting like they need to submit to, or dominate everyone.

Those submissives that call every top "Sir" or "Mistress", and those tops that feel like they own the room, and can talk down to any bottom in it. It bugs me. Massively.

But that's because I am someone whose respect must be earned. Just because someone is a top does not mean I'm automatically going to defer to them and their tastes. It does not mean that I will call them 'Sir'... especially given that I have SUCH a hard time with that word. There have been a total of THREE people that have ever heard that word out of my mouth, and it was difficult to say it almost every time, even though they'd certainly earned the title.

I am switch, not just submissive... but even when I am feeling at my most submissive, I will not submit to just anyone. And if someone in a top roles lays hands on me, or eyes on me even, or regards me as an open plaything, I will tell them quite bluntly to back the fuck off. There is one person here on Lit that I would submit to. One. And for various reasons, that will not happen.

As to submitting to all genders- I've never submitted to a woman, fully. I've played around with one woman, and she and I switched roles (the only female partner I've been able to do that with), but I've never given my all to a woman in that sense.

 

[FuckMeEyes]

But that's because I am someone whose respect must be earned. Just because someone is a top does not mean I'm automatically going to defer to them and their tastes.

I really like that, the respect. I know in my own exploits I need to respect the bottom if I'm going to get any fulfillment out of it. Without that respect, then it's like having a one night stand. I get my rocks off, but at the end of the day it's pretty meaningless. I need that meaning in my life, it's what makes it worth living and differentiates it from simply passing the time.

 

[ataxia.girl]

The only one who can determine what a submissive is or isnt .. is the submissive...

i would say the only one who can determine what submissive is or isn't would at least be a combination of the pyl and PYL together, it not soley the PYL, but certainly not the pyl alone if owned i think.

 

[LittleJade]

i would say the only one who can determine what submissive is or isn't would at least be a combination of the pyl and PYL together, it not soley the PYL, but certainly not the pyl alone if owned i think.

So, because you're owned, you lose the ability to define yourself? Because you're owned, you lose that basic human right?