How often do you practice safe sex, in all honesty? What exactly do you do?

[southernsky]

The title says it all, but I am curious. I know what we would all do in an idea world as far as safe sex precautions, but in reality, what do you do? Are you always 100% safe (a relative term depending on monogamy, testing frequency, etc) or do you have a personal standard of safety that's good enough for you?

Edited to add that I am curious as to what exactly constitutes your practices of safe sex.

 

[done_got_old]

100% of the time!

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

i have the copper tipped iud which in my opinion is good for the pregnancy part of safe sex and am also on birth control pills to help regulate my period.
But - since the iud opens the cervix - i also insist on a condom. Been with my current boyfriend since the beginning of december and we still use condoms. Its not that i dont trust him - its just that he hasnt been tested since his ex girlfriend <of whom cheated on him with several guys. Once he gets the all clear from his dr then the condoms are out of the picture lol

 

[KokopelliRises]

This thread brings to mind a conversation I had with a nurse at Planned Parenthood when I went in to get a pap smear last year. What she said was that it is best to use two forms of birth control, at least one preferably being a condom, but that once you are with someone for long enough that you both trust each other, you can make the choice to be on one or less forms; it is up to the couple to take whatever risks they are comfortable with. I think that sums up the issue of safe sex to me: informed choice.

 

[PertPerth]

When it comes to sex - penetration - 100% safe all the time. My boyfriend (well, now ex) was the first guy I'd had unprotected sex with and we both had all the std tests before hand. I get myself checked regularly anyway - they always ask when I get pap smears. One thing I don't do - and should - is use a condom for oral....and I know I should. After hearing about one of my friends who got an std, I'm not going to play the game of chance anymore!

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

I've been married to the same girl for 22 years. I also have had a vasectomy, so for me it's all free. No worries about a DAMN thing! Ha! In my younger days, I was with MULTIPLE partners and always used a condom with them...100% of the time (and this was JUST when herpes came out and it was before AIDS/HIV). At that time, the worst you could get was Gonorrhea or Syphilis or the Crabs. I never had any of them though.

I hate it for y'all that are in the dating world right now. It's a tough place to be. I would think that if I was dating someone right now, I know I'd use a condom for sure, and I think I'd do so even for oral. I've never even seen a dental dam, but I'd probably try one of those for going down on her too. Problem is, that the diseases out there nowadays are just too deadly and will fuck up your smile (so to speak).

Good luck folks, those of you who don't take this shit seriously are making it dangerous for those of you who do take it seriously.

Jack

 

[Cathleen]

<snip, no pun intended>

Good luck folks, those of you who don't take this shit seriously are making it dangerous for those of you who do take it seriously.

Jack

That is very well put, Jack.

If I had a partner at the moment I'd insist on a condom. I'm past childbearing age so it's all about staying disease free.

For those that are in new or not necessarily monogamous relationships do you ask them to get tested (along with you I assume), should you want to make things more permanent?

Edit: I've never used a condom for oral. I'm wondering about how it feels/sensations for both?

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

Hubby and I use birthcontrol every time. Two kids is enough. Eventually one of us is going to get fixed and then we wont have to worry about it.

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

Emerald, you should have HIM get fixed. I did it and it's no biggie at all. I picked the week my wife was going to have her period, went and had it done on a Friday afternoon, didn't do a damn thing all weekend and went back to work (moving, but sort of slowly) on Monday. By the next Friday, I felt good enough to get a little bit of sex. It wasn't the best sex I ever had, but it was good for sure. By the time two weeks were under my belt I was near 100%.

There are so many couples who fuck with birth control for so long and it's totally unnecessary. For the guy to get fixed is NOTHING.

Good luck.
Jack

 

[Noor]

Edit: I've never used a condom for oral. I'm wondering about how it feels/sensations for both?

I always have used a condom, I don't know anything else.

oral with a condom, it feels okay as long as you remove all the stuff off it on its on, a warm wash cloth usually works. Putting a drab or two of lube on the inside before you roll it on seems to make it feel better on the inside. very thin heat sensitive condoms work best. I have also used saran wrap, lol!

 

[ParlourGame]

Hello there,
I always use a condom for fucking & carry them around with me just in case. I've never used them for oral though.
❤

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

i've never used a condom for oral - i never really thought of it to be honest.

 

[yourheroINfla]

always.

 

[VampGirl]

back in the day i used to always practice safe sex. i'm allergic to latex but i would deal with it just to make sure. I used to use the pill and a condom and the pull out method. You have to be safe in this day and age...you never know what you might get if your not...

 

[kikmosa]

I use the safest form of all..... no sex, at all. And may I say... it sucks, lol.

 

[Noor]

I use the safest form of all..... no sex, at all. And may I say... it sucks, lol.

(((Kiki!)))

 

[Ganyeka]

Married 11 years, monogamous, and snipped. Barring infidelity, it's about as safe as I can get.

 

[elib257]

I've got the implant which I love not only for contraception but also because it stops my periods (thank god!). When I was dating I always used a condom aswell... but never for oral sex (I don't think I've met anybody that does and that might be part of a big problem).

However, I admit that from the very onset with my current boyfriend I never used condoms and I don't really know why.

 

[Colton_White]

I never use condoms

[size=+1] I never use condoms

After all wanking is completely safe-sex ( when done with washed hands lol) [/size]

 

[roguetwo]

I use the safest form of all..... no sex, at all. And may I say... it sucks, lol.

sorry to hear that darlin

 

[kimbernee]

I've never used protection for oral. For penetration, I always use something really good for birth control (hormonal or, right now, vasectomy). Depending on the person, I've also used condoms for STD protection but most of my long term relationships were condom-free right from the beginning. So I get good grades for birth control (no accidents) and bad grades for diseases (although I've been lucky so far).

 

[Bandit58]

When I came out of a 23 year monogamous marriage it was a big shock to be single again and have to think about STDs and HIV. I was very naughty and didn't use condoms with the three men I had sex with before I met Gil. Luckily I never caught anything but if I ever did have sex with another man I would definitely be using them. Gil and I are fluid bonded so we do not use condoms.

I had my tubes tied so no worries about pregnancy. My ex would not consider a vasectomy so I had to have invasive surgery after 10 years continuous pill use.

I have a female play partner and we do not use any protection when we're together. Gil and I have also played with a woman together but there was no intercourse involved just touching and oral (him to her). I am not yet ready to share him all the way lol

 

[kikmosa]

sorry to hear that darlin

Don't be sad, hun, after awhile you don't miss it that much.

 

[roguetwo]

Don't be sad, hun, after awhile you don't miss it that much.

somehow I doubt that lol...we all need it at some point

 

[Ganyeka]

I practised safe sex last night. I came on her tits.