Food for Thought ~ The Laws of Attraction

[MagicaPractica]

I think most people are familiar with the quote from Shakespeare, "Nothing ever is but thinking makes it so." I've always believed that but what I've learned recently has taken it to a whole new level. It's not only about what you are feeling at the moment, but the idea that what you are thinking is creating what you will get in the future.

I've been seeing a lot of posts by people focusing on what they don't want in their life, or what they lack. I was doing the same thing until recently, and was I ever depressed! Yikes. The funny thing is, it didn't take much to turn it around.

I started paying attention to the negative things I said to myself a hundred times a day and stopped myself every time I found one. Then I turned it into a positive statement.

Think about this for a minute.

"If we were to take a three-year-old child and put him in the middle of the room, and you and I were to start yelling at the child, telling him how stupid he was, how he could never do anything right, how he should do this, and shouldn't do that, and look at the mess he made, and maybe hit him a few times, we would end up with a frightened little child that either sits docily in the corner, or who tears up the place. The child will go one of these two ways, but we will never know the potential of the child.

If we take the same little child and tell him how much we love him, how much we care, that we love the way he looks and love how bright and clever he is, that we love the way he does things and that it's okay for him to make mistakes as he learns - and that we will always be there for him no matter what - then the potential that comes out of that child will blow your mind!

Each one of us has a three-year-old child within us, and we often spend most of our time yelling at that kid in ourselves. Then we wonder why our lives don't work."

Hay, Louise. You Can Heal Your Life. Hay House: Santa Monica, 1984. p. 34.

The Law of Attraction basically states that whatever you focus on, you get more of in your life. Where you put your thoughts is creating your future. So, if you focus on the negatives, you get more of that. If you focus on the positives, you'll get more of that. "It's only a thought and a thought can be changed." ~ Louise Hay

Another book on the topic.

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

I'm not loving this book. It's a little repetitive and annoying with the "secret" talk, but it does have some good points of information.

"Thoughts are magnetic, and thoughts have a frequency. As you think thoughts, they are sent out into the Universe, and they magnetically attract all like things that are on the same frequency."

"You are like a human transmission tower, transmitting a frequency with your thoughts. If you want to change anything in your life, change the frequency by changing your thoughts."

"Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you think about the most or focus on the most will appear as your life."

What it boils down to is this...

Focus on the positive in your life, you'll be a hell of a lot happier.

Stop thinking about what you don't want in your life and think about what you do want, it'll help bring it into being. If you want health, wealth, prosperity, wonderful relationships... concentrate on picturing those things for yourself instead of focusing on your current lack of any of them.

If you're already unhappy, why not give it a try? What could it hurt?

 

[neonlyte]

Cup half full, or cup half empty.

Negativity drags you down to your boot straps. I wallow in mire, we all do, by I it try to keep it to a few hours a month at most.

 

[sweetness6280]

"Thoughts are magnetic, and thoughts have a frequency. As you think thoughts, they are sent out into the Universe, and they magnetically attract all like things that are on the same frequency."

"You are like a human transmission tower, transmitting a frequency with your thoughts. If you want to change anything in your life, change the frequency by changing your thoughts."

"Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you think about the most or focus on the most will appear as your life."

Someone told me this when I was about 25, and I didn't buy it. 20 years later, I believe it with all my heart.

Why put out anymore negative energy? There is enough of that floating around. I choose to see the glass as completely full: half filled with air, half filled with water.

Great post hon, ty.

 

[WRJames]

Even more important to remember when dealing with a spouse or a child.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Don't read the Secret. Watch it. Same info, less time.

I completely believe in the law of attraction. (I just wish I could actually learn to use it! )

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I read somewhere that the average person gets discounted something like 100,000 times by the time theyre eighteen years old.

Discounting works the same way advertising works: If you repeat the message often enough people believe it. And if you treat people badly enough, often enough, they distrust genuine compliments and acts of kindness.

When I did psychotherapy I discovered that people with low self esteem have a difficult struggle with positive affirmations. Most people toss them in the garbage.

I suspect kindness and compliments and respect unleashes what we call a negative transference...that is, it touches a lot of bad experiences, resurrecting old feelings.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

I read somewhere that the average person gets discounted something like 100,000 times by the time theyre eighteen years old.

Discounting works the same way advertising works: If you repeat the message often enough people believe it. And if you treat people badly enough, often enough, they distrust genuine compliments and acts of kindness.

When I did psychotherapy I discovered that people with low self esteem have a difficult struggle with positive affirmations. Most people toss them in the garbage.

I suspect kindness and compliments and respect unleashes what we call a negative transference...that is, it touches a lot of bad experiences, resurrecting old feelings.

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy, yes.

And affirmations are HARD for a person with self-esteem issues. It, strangely, feels like hitting yourself with words, especially if you do it in the mirror. Compliments make you turn away and curl inward. It's an interesting phenomenon.

But what's even more interesting is that they work. If you can get past that initial denial (and the moments of extreme emotional response) they really do start to work.

 

[jomar]

Yes!

http://www.amazon.com/Learned-Optimism-Change-Your-Mind/dp/0671019112

 

[Pure]

there is a summary of 'learned optimism' at

http://www.shearonforschools.com/learned_optimism.htm

i think it's a good thing to know about, even though i don't know what would have happened if all the great writers and poets and blues singers had practiced it.

OLD, TRADITIONAL VERSE:

"motherless children have a hard time when your mother is dead.
motherless children have a hard time when your mother is dead.
they haven't got any place to go;
wandering around from do' to do'.
motherless children have a hard time when your mother is dead.

NEW OPTIMISTIC VERSE:

motherless children have a hard time when your mother is dead.
motherless children have a problem to solve when your mother is
dead.
they can look, find some place to go,
believin' there's good and they'll get mo'
no mothers to boss 'm, chill'un do just fine, oh, the dr. said.

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i don't know about the validity of the more 'magical' formulations. i often see them used in the service of allegedly teaching one how to become wealthy. maybe the 'garb' and mystical wrappings are irrelevant as far as empowerment and optimism go.

 

[SensualCealy]

I agree we must look towards the positive, but, there always has to be a but...
If you constantly have to many negitives you are going to start believing in them.

On average, I send out 5 resumes a week (or drop off), on average I get zero replies. I have totalled up my resumes which I have sent out starting two months before graduation for a total of 137 resumes. This comes with only 7 invitations for interviews and only 2 letters saying I was unsuccessful, and one stating the company was not hiring at this time.

When you constantly put yourself out to be scrutinized and gone over with a fine toothed comb and do not get a response or get a negative response, you begin to wonder-'what's wrong with me?'

Now add, "did you apply to any jobs today?" or "did you hear from any jobs today?" or better yet, "before you spend any money ask me first so I can juggle things around to make sure everyone gets what they need."

Feeling unworthy, trapped and basically a poor representation of a human being it takes all you have somedays to look in the mirror and feel that you are worthy of being here yet another day!

Some day my ship will come in...
C

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Don't read the Secret. Watch it. Same info, less time.

I completely believe in the law of attraction. (I just wish I could actually learn to use it! )

Ditto.

added thought:
I try to find one beautiful thing each day or something purple. Purple is my sign color. It makes me remember the beauty in life.

 

[impressive]

I completely believe in the law of attraction. (I just wish I could actually learn to use it! )

I think I use it selectively. In most cases, I'm damned good at it. There are a couple, though, in which I'm my own worst enemy.

 

[sweetness6280]

Ditto.

added thought:
I try to find one beautiful thing each day or something purple. Purple is my sign color. It makes me remember the beauty in life.

I knew I liked you.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Will ~ My problem is that if I start I can't stop so I'm trying to avoid starting.

Sweetness ~ I think we're on the same wavelength.

WRJames ~ I agree.

Selena ~ I think you're right. Would have been better to watch but I'm almost done with the book since it's so short. If you want to see how to really implement it, I recommend the Louise Hay book. Also, I'm finding the affirmations not difficult to work with. I use them as a sort of mantra to still my mind.

JamesB ~ I think the main problem is that people have heard it so much growing up that they eventually take over for the people berating them and start attacking themselves. That's a hard cycle to break, but it can be done.

Jomar~ Thanks for the link. I'll check it out.

Pure ~ I believe in balance. You need a certain amount of radical environmentalists to balance out the people who don't care or feel hopeless about it. Same with anything. Also, I think I can still write the blues. I don't lose an experience just because I'm past it.

Cealy ~ Sounds like you could use this idea right now. I would recommend a book called The Unmistakable Touch of Grace. Basically, the things I've read would suggest you turn the statement "my ship will come in" to "my ship is here." Best of luck.

Abs ~ *hugs* Good to see ya.

Imp ~ I'm working on it too.

 

[Katyusha]

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy, yes.

And affirmations are HARD for a person with self-esteem issues. It, strangely, feels like hitting yourself with words, especially if you do it in the mirror. Compliments make you turn away and curl inward. It's an interesting phenomenon.

But what's even more interesting is that they work. If you can get past that initial denial (and the moments of extreme emotional response) they really do start to work.

Oh is that my problem.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

MP

Yes, indeed. It can be done, but the price is dear.

In Transactional Analysis we say, "If youre not in the script, you have no role." Most people sense that they will be abandoned by friends and family if they get well.

 

[MagicaPractica]

MP

Yes, indeed. It can be done, but the price is dear.

In Transactional Analysis we say, "If youre not in the script, you have no role." Most people sense that they will be abandoned by friends and family if they get well.

I have seen that phenomenon in action. It's sad but I think it can be worked through if people are willing. I think it's often a case of the family fearing being abandoned themselves.

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. As a family, I feel very lucky in how we have talked and actually grown closer over the years. Understanding and supporting each other more with each year. I know that I am supported by them just as I support them. I won't go into details here, but that has been demonstrated a lot this past year. I've done for others and they've done for me, on rather a large scale.




Katyusha ~ It's really worth it. You are really worth it.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

MP

Here's how it works.

I have a biracial grandson. I'm not exaggerating when I say he's handsome, smart, manly, and a charmer. He also has a sweet heart. He's been a chick magnet since he was a baby. Females dig him.

Anyway, he was enrolled at an exclusive private school prior to being expelled. His sin? A white girl friend. The girl's momma found out about my grandson and went fucking nuts. It was a harmless school crush, but momma came unglued and scared the beejeezus out of the administration and faculty. A kiss became sexual predation, though the girl said she liked it. But he's out on his ass. He's 12.

Niggers have no roles in momma's script, and she made it clear to Missy.

 

[MagicaPractica]

MP

Here's how it works.

I have a biracial grandson. I'm not exaggerating when I say he's handsome, smart, manly, and a charmer. He also has a sweet heart. He's been a chick magnet since he was a baby. Females dig him.

Anyway, he was enrolled at an exclusive private school prior to being expelled. His sin? A white girl friend. The girl's momma found out about my grandson and went fucking nuts. It was a harmless school crush, but momma came unglued and scared the beejeezus out of the administration and faculty. A kiss became sexual predation, though the girl said she liked it. But he's out on his ass. He's 12.

Niggers have no roles in momma's script, and she made it clear to Missy.

Well, I'm certainly sorry that happened to your grandson, and I can actually relate to being made to feel like shit because of some aspect of who you are that isn't wrong in a sane world. There are going to be people who reject us simply because of who/what we are. All the more reason to have an inner core of self-esteem and hold on to those who support us.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

MP

Youre correct. People will reject you for any and every reason.

I recall a girl who rejected me for marriage because I had no pedigree. Her family was keen on genealogy. And I was clueless about mine. So I didnt get to play. Years later I did the research and discovered my pedigree is second to none, maybe better than Queen Elizabeth's.

In hindsight my old girlfriend was hasty in dismissing me.

 

[Guest]

No revolutions come from turning everything into positives. Sometimes it is time to turn the tables, seize the day, make a change.

Maharat

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I agree with Maharat. Life is most alluring and attraction most profound when it is not analyzed and reduced to simple 'laws' that are probably not accurate in any case. I like the mystery of it all, and that is why I write. I don't try to understand it. I try to love it and live it to the fullest extent.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Nothing is more untrue.

A friend of mine once picked up a girl, took her home, and while he was showering she shit on his bed. He analyzed THAT pretty damned quick.

People always analyze and judge and decide.

 

[MagicaPractica]

MP

Youre correct. People will reject you for any and every reason.

I recall a girl who rejected me for marriage because I had no pedigree. Her family was keen on genealogy. And I was clueless about mine. So I didnt get to play. Years later I did the research and discovered my pedigree is second to none, maybe better than Queen Elizabeth's.

In hindsight my old girlfriend was hasty in dismissing me.

I think that's why it's a good thing there's so many people out there in such a wide variety. We can all find friends.

No revolutions come from turning everything into positives. Sometimes it is time to turn the tables, seize the day, make a change.

Maharat

I don't think anyone is ever going to be able to turn everything into a positive. (Point in case, last night was complete darkness for me after a week of really great things.) But if people don't find the positive in life, if they dwell on the negative, then they are never going to have the energy and initiative to make that change in their lives. (Therefore today is about me looking for the light to help me move forward.)

Maybe this isn't true for everyone. Maybe there are people out there who can feel like crap about themselves and be completely pessimistic and still make their lives into what they want. I kinda doubt it. I think they have to have some light that they are holding inside themselves to help them feel that it's possible.

I agree with Maharat. Life is most alluring and attraction most profound when it is not analyzed and reduced to simple 'laws' that are probably not accurate in any case. I like the mystery of it all, and that is why I write. I don't try to understand it. I try to love it and live it to the fullest extent.

I think the point is that the laws work. Nobody really understands exactly why, therefore they can't be really accurate. Life is a mystery. These are some things that can help people who are not loving it and living it to the fullest extent possible. I've been mired in the negative and self-loathing for a while. This is helping me to try to love life again instead of honestly wishing it would end. If you're loving it, you're probably focusing on the positive a fair bit of the time already, some of us need a reminder and perhaps a method to practice that.