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daddysgirl83

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so i have been thinking a lot about this whole anal sex thing - i must say, most of the time the idea does not appeal to me ... but there are those times that it REALLY does. my Daddy (no, not my real Dad - my Dom!) has told me numerous times through our discussions that this is something that we are going to do because it pleases Him immensly. Only problem is, i've never done anal before - so im terrified of the idea! Any comments or suggestions would be so much appreciated here. i have so many questions about it! ... like, doesn't it hurt, a lot? seems to me that it would be umm *messy* and gross?? what's the best way to start? what's the best type of lube to use for less mess and more comfort? i've been doing some research - but i never know how much of it is actually true, so i wanted to hear it from real people. i would really appreciate any and all feedback here, good and bad. i definitely want to be prepared for this - i want to show Him that i can do this for Him ... so PLEASE HELP ME!!! :)

thanks so much!!! can't wait to hear the feedback!
 
Firstly, the more nervous and tense you are, the more uncomfortable it will be for you. It's a catch 22 but keep it in mind.

Get a small buttplug and start with that, use lots of silicone lube.

You might want to consider an enema or anal douche so you're clean for him, they're fairly easy to use.

Start slow and use lots of lube (I'm sure your Daddy will break you in gently)

Start by inserting fingers, 1 then 2 then 3 (yours or his)

Remember that the head of the penis is the widest part so once that's in, you've done the worst bit.

Personally I can orgasm from anal sex. If you can relax enough to do that it's wonderful. If not, ask for some clitoral stimulation to take your mind off any discomfort, it really worked for me the first few times. Now I take it pretty much all in my stride as 'good' pain because I'm accustomed to the sensation.

Be aware that you might get gas or feel indigestion or slight nausea during or afterwards. It's not terribly pleasant but not uncommon or harmful. You might have a little tearing or bleeding but it's not a huge health risk. I just put some antiseptic cream on after I've cleaned myself up.

Hope you enjoy it, I know that I do.
 
my advice....use enemas and clean yourself well, no more than an hour beforehand...train a few weeks in advance with butt plugs, starting with a small size and moving up to something the size of your Dominant's cock...use a good silicone-based lube...relax, relax, relax. that's the most important thing. i'm always at least a little tense during anal, so it's always excruciatingly difficult and painful for me, from beginning to end. so think calm, serene thoughts. maybe have a drink or two if that helps you.
 
VelvetDarkness said:
Get a small buttplug and start with that, use lots of silicone lube.
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Silicone lube is great, but NOT with buttplugs made of silicone. Never use silicone lube with any silicone toys.

All of my anal toys are silicone because they clean up so well. So I use atroglide for lube.
 
okay, i'm really liking the advice so far! this is great - i'm feeling a little better about this. i'm reading a lot about enemas to be clean. obviously i understand how that works - but what about when the sex just happens, and it's not planned? then what? *hold on a minute Daddy i have to go give myself an enema!* lol so obviously, when i know it is going to happen - i could definitely do that. but what about those times it happens unexpectedly? is it okay to just not use one? i mean, i don't want it to be gross or embarassing or anything obviously - will it be okay for those times it just happens? or should you always try to use an enema first? thanks so much for the help!
 
any male Doms have anything to add? would love to hear from Your perspective why this is such a turn-on for You? Thanks! :)
 
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I havent had diarrhea afterwords or cramping. The worst I've had, well when it was done correctly, was a feeling afterwards that I HAD to go. Not cramping.. just the sensation that I really had to go. Honestly, that was resolved by going to the bathroom and bearing down a little as if I were going.
 
My husband and I have both given and received anal sex many times. We have never used an enema. We don't mind a little mess should it happen. We prefer that to enemas.

*shrug*

Still I do fantasize about enemas sometimes as a humiliation thing.

:devil:
 
Unfortunately my wife isn't into it. But I used to enjoy it immensely with my ex-girlfriend. She liked it a lot too. From the man's perspective, it feels a lot different from vaginal intercourse. It's so primal. The first time we did it, we were both drunk, which probably wasn't a great time to try something new. But after that, we did it all the time. It was the only type of sex we had for several weeks after we first discovered it. She didn't mind. She seemed to enjoy giving me her ass to use for my pleasure. I don't know if she gave herself enemas and didn't tell me or what, but it was hardly ever messy.
 
i really enjoy anal.... Master doesn't usually TELL me when He's going to be "in the mood" for it so i dont use an enema.. Master never says anything about a mess. So.. i dont think it bothers Him!
 
Great response from Velvet Darkness!

One idea is if you want to train yourself a little, you might want to take a hot bath--scented candles, nice music, the whole shebang. Then try putting your own finger in. Don't force it--if it doesn't go in easy, you're not ready. Try touching yourself a little (after washing your hand) or something else to turn you on. If it doesn't work, try it another day--but I promise if you are patient you will get your whole finger in and this will give you at least a little preparation.

On why it's hot I can't give you a male perspective, but I can tell you as a lesbian domme I love it! There's a vulnerability to it, plus its a very hot position doggy-style. My sweetie has a lot of sensation in her ass, so she loves it and gets very turned on...overall a good time.

As far as being 'clean', I personally take a mellow attitude. I wear gloves anyway and if I find a piece of shit in there in my way I push it out of the way or remove it like I would any other piece of shit which annoys me in life. No big deal.

That said, unfortunately if there is something large in there it can make it impossible for the bottom to enjoy the sex. My sweetie says she finds it "uncomfortable." For this reason an enema is a great idea, but can have a downside too--sometimes the bottom can be a little too sensitive, just a little raw, for an hour or two after the enema. It's worth it anyway, but extra lube and gentleness needed.

I strongly suggest while you are learning that a real dick not be an immediate goal. If he pushes you too hard to get it in, you could end up hating anal and what a loser for both of you. Work up gradually like Velvet Darkness says. If all you can take is a finger or two the first few times, consider that a success!

Also, if you want a great book try Tristan Taomorino's The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Women/dp/1573440280
 
wow, this is advice is so awesome! thanks to everyone for sharing, i think it is absolutely great! and just to clear up the record - i do want to do anal, that's not the issue - i'm just nervous about it, i'm afraid it'll be embarassing for some reason and i want to avoid that at all cost! could it really get much more embarassing or gross for your man to pull his cock out of your ass and have it all nasty and dirty! lol yuck!!! rofl
and i don't want to have sex with him and then be stuck in the bathroom for hours because my stomach hurts, or i feel gassy, or i have diarrhea or something bad like that lol
i'm just nervous i want it all to go smoothly - and i think the best way for that to happen is to have advice from people who have already done this and know what is going to happen! :)
again... thanks so much for all the advice, i'm looking forward to hearing more!!!
 
I've never felt sick after.

As for a dirty dick well those things can be washed right off.

:rose:
 
Theres not a thing to worry about if he's experienced, just keep an open mind and an open erm... Something else and embrace a new experience. Sex in itself is fairly gross if you think about it; most of us just don't and enjoy our time creating pleasure for another. Keep your cool and push your limits if you're ready.
 
I've never heard of anyone having diarrhea or gas afterwards, tho' it's not uncommon to have pleasant relief from constipation. I like to tease that I was just trying to be helpful!
 
daddysgirl83 said:
my Daddy (no, not my real Dad - my Dom!)
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This is one place you will never have to explain this. We understand. :rose:

daddysgirl83 said:
could it really get much more embarassing or gross for your man to pull his cock out of your ass and have it all nasty and dirty! lol yuck!!! rofl
and i don't want to have sex with him and then be stuck in the bathroom for hours because my stomach hurts, or i feel gassy, or i have diarrhea or something bad like that lol
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I would say that 95% of your fears are unfounded. For one thing, unless you might have to go to the bathroom sometime in the next half-hour, your poop isn't anywhere near where his cock is going to be. It mostly stays up high, out of reach, until you are ready to go, and then it descends. So the chances of having it "all nasty and dirty" are pretty slim - there might be a few flecks here and there, but it's going to come out looking exactly the same as when it went in. Also, anal sex isn't going to give you diarrhea, and it probably won't even make your stomach hurt. The reason feeling gassy has been mentioned is because air gets pushed up there while he's fucking you, same as it does when he fucks your pussy. The chances that you will spend more than 10 minutes in the bathroom after are practically zero. In fact, it's unlikely you'll have to go in there at all!

I can understand why you're having so many fears, but honestly it's not that big a deal. It will be much easier than you expect.
 
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Alright...my 2

One: If you psyche yourself out, it'll be all the things you wish it wasn't. So calm yourself, relax you rmind and your body will follow.

You wanting this is 75% of the battle right there.

Your Daddy's doing this with you so trust in Him to take care of his little girl. All you need to do is help where/when you can by not losing control of your emotions.

Remeber it's only kinky (and new) once. After that it's experience. When you first rode a bike, did you hop on and go? Or did you need to take it slowly at first? Fall a few times didn't you?

Apply this mindset and you'll do well. You're pleasing Him simply by sharing this with Him. If he's good, he'll adjust accordingly.

Focus on the pleasure and the connection shared and it'll be memorable

Two: Inhale deeply using your lower abdominals as he goes in each time. it will relax your pelvic muscles.
 
Oooh, I don't think I've ever looked at the How To section of stories. I might have to give it a peek and/or try some writing for it. :)
 
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