First time anal

[newenglishsub]

Hi, I'm new to the site-in fact new to BDSM in general and asking for advice:

Next week my Mistress wants to take me with a strap on, my first time.
Naturally I am a little nervous-could any subs or Dommes give me some advice as to how to go about making this a memorable experience-obviously I am keen to try this, but don't want to let my Mistress down when she takes my virginity.

Thanks.

 

[Chicklet]

I'd say just try your very hardest to relax - it's a lot less of a strain on your body if you can force yourself to relax and bare down. bear down?

 

[goodguy2nondfuk]

Lucky man....

I dream for such an opportunity.

 

[twysted73]

I'd suggest to you the same as I'd suggest to any woman I'm with who has anxiety about anal.
!.) Lubricate. You can never have too much.
2.) Relax your abdominal muscles through breath control. Whenever you breathe deeply, your anus naturally relaxes and the muscles around it expand. So when she inserts, breathe in deep and slow.
3,) If she's a patient and understanding Mistress, she won't rape you first time out. So remember: You entrusted her with your safety. If she's worth that trust, she'll honor it and care for it by knowing and observing your limits. (and in the event sher's really enjoying herself and loses herself in the moment temporarily, don't forget those safe words. Wouldn't do for you to have a tear).
4.) Remember your skin is very elastic. With enough slow pressure and expansion, you can fit a beer can in there (even a fist!) So it IS possible for her itty bitty strap on.
5.) Given a good spread at Thanksgiving as well as Christmas Dinner, you've already passed a Boston Steamer larger then what she's going to use. So think of it this way: for all intents and purposes, you've already been there and done that.

Good luck, enjoy and don't sweat it. "It's only kinky the first time"

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'd second everything Twysted said and also add that as a courtesy to your Mistress you might consider an enema or taking a mild laxative the night before, to ensure there are no obstructions.

If you or your Mistress plays with other partners you should have a strap-on designated solely for use between yourselves. It saves any risk of cross infection of any kind.

Hope you enjoy it, if you're real lucky she'll stimulate your prostate and you'll have a fantastic time.

 

[twysted73]

I'd second everything Twysted said and also add that as a courtesy to your Mistress you might consider an enema or taking a mild laxative the night before, to ensure there are no obstructions.

If you or your Mistress plays with other partners you should have a strap-on designated solely for use between yourselves. It saves any risk of cross infection of any kind.

Hope you enjoy it, if you're real lucky she'll stimulate your prostate and you'll have a fantastic time.

RIGHT! Forgot about the enema.
Good save Velvet. They even have scented ones so pick your smell! Does she like lilac? Maybe Honeysuckle. (roses, I feel, would be too sarcastic)
See now I wanna play too damnit.
(in the mood to inflict)

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

RIGHT! Forgot about the enema.
Good save Velvet. They even have scented ones so pick your smell! Does she lilac? Maybe Honeysuckle. (roses, I feel, would be too sarcastic)
See now I wanna play too damnit.
(in the mood to inflict)

hehe

As for the advice you gave her I can just agree.

The first time I had anal I didnt like it at all cuz my man didnt bother to use any lube so it was just painful nuthing else. I dislike anal for a while then. Anytime my man wanted it I just pushed him down from me cuz I still remeberd the pain.

I have learn to take an anal on my own actualy. Well, friend of mine taught me how to take it and enjoy it as well. We did lots of streching of my ass hole first and then used toys. From thin ones to thick ones. Now I can take an anal pretty easily, once I had even a toy up my ass and cock of my man as well and it was still okay. One just have to get used to it, slowly.

As twysted73 said, the hole is strechable. It goes for pussy same as for the ass.

Have fun with your Mistress, relax and enjoy it!!

 

[Snuggle Bunz]

Awww congrats!

Just remember to take things slow, enough lube to drown a gerble and above all else REMEMBER: She adores every inch of you and you can take pride in the fact that she wants to share such an experiance with you.

Good luck and enjoy!

 

[twysted73]

Awww congrats!

Just remember to take things slow, enough lube to drown a gerble and above all else REMEMBER: She adores every inch of you and you can take pride in the fact that she wants to share such an experiance with you.

Good luck and enjoy!

** notices your location** Hey, I have my taxes done there every year. What a coincidence.

 

[OneLustyWench]

** notices your location** Hey, I have my taxes done there every year. What a coincidence.

Am I the only one to notice the correlation between anal and taxes here?

 

[goodguy2nondfuk]

So I'm guessing I won't find anyone when I go out for dinner tonight, who might treat me so wonderfully. Then again, one never knows!!

 

[Erryn_Silver]

Lube is your friend, so is stretching the muscles.

You can look it up on most instructional sex sites.

 

[eriov]

If you're allowed to, try sitting on your partner's new phallus. This will help you accommodate it and it will easier as a first time... once you're opened you may move to other positions

 

[Cumslave]

Relax and enjoy! Another virgin bites the dust! It's a great feeling to have your ass invaded by a big fake dick attached to a hot/sexy dominatrix!

Anal pleasure to you!

 

[mangasmic]

That could make me orgasm/ejaculate...