madetotakeit
WARNING: I Bite Back
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This is a variation of a question ecstaticsub posed to another poster in a thread on the Cafe board. Thanks for the inspiration. Inquiring minds want to know.
What is better in what you enjoy with a pyl, someone who has a checklist filled with "have done" and has narrowed down the specifics or an open minded newbie who doesn't know but is anxious to find out?
As someone who has more on her "to do" list than "done that" list I wonder how some PYL's think about that. I know individual results will vary, but what are the opinions?
The first time I looked at a list, I was a bit overwhelmed. I wasn't sure if I would enjoy many things on there. For one thing there seemed to be so many things on the list. It can be a lot to process for what was truly a vanilla who had dabbled but knew this is the direction her life should go. It's a bit like taking a test for which you know the subject but not the course.
For me there is that small voice that frets over not being experienced enough. I know everyone has to start somewhere, but it seemed daunting at how much I wasn't sure of. I had some clues as to what interested me from research, erotica, and porn. On the other hand I couldn't say with certainty how I would react to say having my clit slapped (a resounding addition to the green list by the way) until I actually felt it. What it boils down to is while there are not as many things I have done, there are a multitude of things that I am willing to try...want to try.
As a PYL do you prefer a partner who is experienced, someone who can list their interests and thresholds in concrete terms? Or do you enjoy a partner who will take more work but is willing to try what is brought as a possibility? Do you get like being the one to provide the first experience, see the joy when something is enjoyed for the first time? Does entering virgin territory add to your enjoyment or detract?
I'm just curious about opinions. (And by the way the second time I filled out a checklist-while it was still very jaundiced-there were things that I added and after sending thought of more I could have included.
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What is better in what you enjoy with a pyl, someone who has a checklist filled with "have done" and has narrowed down the specifics or an open minded newbie who doesn't know but is anxious to find out?
As someone who has more on her "to do" list than "done that" list I wonder how some PYL's think about that. I know individual results will vary, but what are the opinions?
The first time I looked at a list, I was a bit overwhelmed. I wasn't sure if I would enjoy many things on there. For one thing there seemed to be so many things on the list. It can be a lot to process for what was truly a vanilla who had dabbled but knew this is the direction her life should go. It's a bit like taking a test for which you know the subject but not the course.
For me there is that small voice that frets over not being experienced enough. I know everyone has to start somewhere, but it seemed daunting at how much I wasn't sure of. I had some clues as to what interested me from research, erotica, and porn. On the other hand I couldn't say with certainty how I would react to say having my clit slapped (a resounding addition to the green list by the way) until I actually felt it. What it boils down to is while there are not as many things I have done, there are a multitude of things that I am willing to try...want to try.
As a PYL do you prefer a partner who is experienced, someone who can list their interests and thresholds in concrete terms? Or do you enjoy a partner who will take more work but is willing to try what is brought as a possibility? Do you get like being the one to provide the first experience, see the joy when something is enjoyed for the first time? Does entering virgin territory add to your enjoyment or detract?
I'm just curious about opinions. (And by the way the second time I filled out a checklist-while it was still very jaundiced-there were things that I added and after sending thought of more I could have included.

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