The All Inclusive Calendar of 2008

[catalina_francisco]

We will finish last years submissive calendar, but this quote was just too good to risk leaving it for now and having it slip by without inclusion. Also thanks to some bright minds thinking ahead, unlike the calendars we have had in the past which were particular to either PYL or pyl posts, this one can include either and switches. If people wish to, they can identify if the quote is from a PYL, pyl or switch.



January 1st - words of DeservingBitch

"...That's why I really don't see anything conflictual between having feminist politics and BDSM. Being submissive is NOT a bad thing, and being dominant is NOT better than being submissive, irrespective of gender. Being submissive is not oppressive in itself -- it's being forced to or expected to be submissive because I walk around with a pussy that is oppressive."

Feminism & BDSM

 

[Homburg]

January 2nd, words of Netzach

"There is nothing but nothing wrong with being less than perfectly balanced as a switch, into the same activities across the board. Some people are, and I kind of envy them.

The things I would do to other people that I'd never in a million years consider hot done to me are a long list indeed. Kicking my genitals? You're fucking kidding me.

A question: would it bother you as much if you were willing to do a lot of things as a bottom that you would not want to try as a top?

For me, realizing that what turns me OFF as a top turns me ON as a bottom was a large part of any resurgence of interest in bottoming that I've had, that I'm a much lighter weight on the bottom than I am on the top, that that's OK, it's not some kind of hypocrisy to be rectified, that light sexual bedroom submission is hot for me but boring for me to do to others and I need masochistic freaks for my own purposes. That my off switch is flicked when the sex is not happening, but I would not tolerate someone who's not submissive when they're not having sex with me. It's just how I roll.

But for me it was really key and liberating to come to see myself as Dominant with side interests rather than as "a switch" which I think triggers an idea of 50/50 in my own thinking as well as other people's."








I need your advice.... please help!

 

[nh23]

January 3rd- Words of Homburg

If I don't have my gal with me at a party, I make clear that she exists, she knows what I'm doing, and she's fine with it. Honesty is important, plain and simple

Getting Started..any advice

 

[Etoile]

I love that the calendar is all-inclusive now! And so far it is up-to-date...let's keep it that way!

 

[Homburg]

January 3rd- Words of Homburg

Thank you, Nicole.

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I love that the calendar is all-inclusive now! And so far it is up-to-date...let's keep it that way!

Total and complete agreement, if only because it let's us post more Netzach-isms

 

[h_i_s]

January 4th. Words of Netzach.

January 4th. Words of Netzach.

My car may stall out or get weird on me, but usually because something's broken and sometimes it's my fault that it's broken in the first place. If it's a nice Saab I'd put up with the hassle of having to take it to the foreign specialist and wait for parts and pay heavily, because I have a really nice status car.

It's never going to drive off somewhere I didn't drive it though.

Beating the car in that situation is rarely the right response, most cars need some support and some cash put into them when they don't work.

However, when I've fixed the car a few times and it's still an underperformer I will go scream at the dealer, trade it in, and get one that doesn't suck. Life is short and I am not put here to be frustrated.

lable me this, batman

GREAT one Netzach.

 

[DeservingBitch]

We will finish last years submissive calendar, but this quote was just too good to risk leaving it for now and having it slip by without inclusion. Also thanks to some bright minds thinking ahead, unlike the calendars we have had in the past which were particular to either PYL or pyl posts, this one can include either and switches. If people wish to, they can identify if the quote is from a PYL, pyl or switch.



January 1st - words of DeservingBitch

"...That's why I really don't see anything conflictual between having feminist politics and BDSM. Being submissive is NOT a bad thing, and being dominant is NOT better than being submissive, irrespective of gender. Being submissive is not oppressive in itself -- it's being forced to or expected to be submissive because I walk around with a pussy that is oppressive."

Feminism & BDSM

Wow. This new calendar somehow didn't register on my radar up to now. Thanks Cat - I'm all blushing and stuff. That PhD of mine is finally paying off.

And really great idea to have an all inclusive calendar.

 

[Etoile]

(Maybe this is out of order.. last offering being on the 3rd and it is the 7th... so shoot me. Or maybe someone else can fix it. This post needed to be here. So be it. )

Just edit it and date it the 4th, we usually go in order, somebody will fill in the rest. Doesn't have to be dated with the day of the posting.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Wow. This new calendar somehow didn't register on my radar up to now. Thanks Cat - I'm all blushing and stuff. That PhD of mine is finally paying off.

And really great idea to have an all inclusive calendar.

YW, and I can't claim recognition for the all inclusive idea. If memory serves me correctly it was an idea of graceanne and rebecca which they mentioned. We did at one time have a PYL calendar, but is was in an even poorer state of response than the pyl one, not to mention at the time our PYL's had a habit of not saying much at various points of the year, thus finding gems was sometimes difficult. This way we should always have someone to quote.

Catalina

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

YW, and I can't claim recognition for the all inclusive idea.

I can though : chuckles :

Please excuse me while I go be precious somewhere else now

On more serious note, there is simply too many brilliant PYL perspectives being absorbed in to the Litpixelsphere. Based on conversations with other board members ( including our Graceanne ) & also having heard about the last PYL thread which I believe predates my active participation on the board, it was a simple conclusion to draw. I sincerely hope that most established members of the Board will occasionally take the time to submit the posts of others which they find to be of a caliber in keeping with the premise of this thread .

 

[catalina_francisco]

I can though : chuckles :

Please excuse me while I go be precious somewhere else now

On more serious note, there is simply too many brilliant PYL perspectives being absorbed in to the Litpixelsphere. Based on conversations with other board members ( including our Graceanne ) & also having heard about the last PYL thread which I believe predates my active participation on the board, it was a simple conclusion to draw. I sincerely hope that most established members of the Board will occasionally take the time to submit the posts of others which they find to be of a caliber in keeping with the premise of this thread .

LOL, well I had begun to think perhaps this one should have been called the PYL Calendar as it seems it is only drawing quotes of PYL's and I am sure it isn't becasue the pyl's have nothing of interest to say. I would have remedied it, but alas I am still run off my feet getting ready to fly tomorrow while 2 males in the household lay back leisurely and keep telling me I need to sit down. Oh yeah, I would if someone else would feed the cats, cook the dinner, hang and collect and fold the washing, do the washing, vaccuum the living room, empty the garbage, stack the dishwasher, serve dessert, do I need to go on?!! Hmm, and then a certain man orders yet another cup of coffee after telling me to sit down for awhile!! (and which I hadn't done as yet as I was still seeing to all the other things) Geeeeez it will be good to get on a plane and know there is nothing else that can be done for awhile.

Catalina

 

[MasterPhoenix]

January 8, 2008

In the words of Homburg

From this thread http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=564660

As you always hear: communication, communication, communication.

In this case, you exceeded a boundary that you did not know existed. This may, or may not, have come up in negotiation, but it certainly won't come up without negotiation.

That said, fuck, he went along with it. His fault. He could've "yellowed" or something. Maybe, y'know, said that he was uncool with it when you started allowing her to pet him.

Yes, he's your responsibility, but unless you are in a TPE, he's also his own responsibility. That's what safewords are for.



Pfft. Do what pleases you, and let him conform to your whims. You're the Top here. Sure, it pays to give him a little bit of the imagery he wants here and there, but be a Top. Don't let the little bitch set the tone with acts and images that you find specifically to be a turn-off.

I found the bolded portion to be words of wisdom for a scene.

 

[FurryFury]

January 9, the words of SweetErika:

I understand how it might seem limiting, Linda, but I've never seen D/s that way for us, at least.

Hard limits aside, everything we do falls under me having the final say, but there's a virtually limitless territory under that umbrella. We have sex like teenagers, babymaking sex, sex where there's no clear power difference, mutual masturbation, give to each other in every way, play with toys, occasional threesomes or involvement w/ other couples, anal, oral and just about every other kind of sex open-minded people have. There can be BDSM overtones or activities, but that could be anything from me clearly being in charge, to me bottoming for him, or having just a few twists on conventional sex.

Our non-sexual life is similarly varied. The only reason we're D/s is because we've agreed I have the final say. But he takes care of a lot of our responsibilities and takes care of me in many ways. I take care of him in some of the same, and many other, ways. I see us as serving each other.

The only thing we don't do is give him overriding control, sexually or otherwise.

It's not limiting for us. It's nearly limitless.

http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25592336

From the thread:

My domme side

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=25594899#post25594899

 

[FurryFury]

Is there a chance we could sticky this thread for the year?

 

[FurryFury]

January 10, the words of Twysted:

Welcome.
Glad you popped in.

I define myself as a Switch (one who subs and Doms) with a natural tendancy for one in particular tho depending on the month/week/moment, that could change. (you'd swear I was a Gemeni)
If you and I went out in public you'd know I'm gragarious, intuitive, sexually agressive and very engaging. I am told I bowl people over with my extroverted nature.

But on the very few occasions I completely submit (and it's rare) you'd swear I never raised a spanking hand in my life to watch me go.

So you being submissive is only one part of who you are. It just so happens you're also a soft spoken, unassuming, non-confrontational, extreme Type-B personality to boot.

So as the sage-like Ciara so aptly pointed out, there's submissive, and then there's doormat.
Just know where you'd like your limits (of being pushed) to be and set them, then don't back down.
Obviously in customer service, submission is currency. It's how you get things done.
But once you clock out, you're your own person again and you'll be damned if you have to take crap and not get paid for it. *winks*
Best of luck in those assertiveness training courses. And we (as I know I speak for everyone here) hope to see you around again.

http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25630363

From the thread:

Too submissive?

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=565632

 

[FurryFury]

January 11, the words of VelvetDarkness:

Fury is right, the first thing you need to do is your homework. Before you take on the welfare of a woman prepared to submit to you, even for a casual encounter, you need to know the risks involved in anything you might be doing.

There is a designated BDSM personals forum where you can seek a submissive woman. There are also other sites like alt.com and collarme.com but I haven't used them myself. There are sites devoted to BDSM from a Master's perspective. Don't be afraid to learn from an experienced dominant, or even an experienced sub. It is possible to benefit from a sub's knowledge without it interfering with the dynamic. Be honest about what you are looking for, whether that is a long term relationship or something less involved.

Local groups and events are a good place to start. A munch is where like minded local lifestylers meet up for a few drinks. There's no fetishwear or play involved, just an opportunity to meet people and swap information. Demo's are at fetish/leather clubs where skills are exhibited e.g. japanese bondage or waxplay. You can meet people there and learn new skills. You can google for local events near you.

Basically, being a Master is whatever you choose to make it. BDSM covers a very broad spectrum of power exchange dynamics and kinky activities, everybody takes from it what works for them. If you are honest about what you would like in a submissive, there will be a woman out there whose interests complement your own, possibly a harem out there waiting for you.

There are very experienced dominant men who post here and a lot of what they say is very good advice born of personal experience. Everybody has to start somewhere and people here will offer support and a listening ear throughout every stage of your journey.

http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25640247

From the thread:

New to Lit

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=565543

 

[twysted73]

January 10, the words of Twysted:



http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25630363

From the thread:

Too submissive?

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=565632

Dankaschoen Frauline Furry. It's always the posts you never think would make it that make it. Just shot off impulsively and never imagining, you know? That rocks.

Viva la Lit! *raises my croisant*

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

January 14th

The words of IYM to Sinn for her birthday:

Happy Birthday little girl

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I will make this post short and sweet.

Today marks the 40th birthday of my little girl.

As many of you may have read in previous posts, if I could have ordered this slave from the slave factory, they could have not gotten my order any better.

little girl, you obedience stimulates me every day, your service to me is unquestionable, I cherish you as the the most wonderful possession I will ever have the pleasure to own. Others may say it is impossible to achieve this, we will continue to prove them wrong.

I love you with all of the heart I have left.

 

[Etoile]

The words of IYM to Sinn for her birthday:

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=25642655&postcount=1

It would be great if you could actually quote the post here, because sometimes people remove their posts at a later date...

 

[Stegral]

Something off the PG board that made me think & smile...

"Common sense is genius dressed in its working clothes."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

It would be great if you could actually quote the post here, because sometimes people remove their posts at a later date...

like this ??

I will make this post short and sweet.

Today marks the 40th birthday of my little girl.

As many of you may have read in previous posts, if I could have ordered this slave from the slave factory, they could have not gotten my order any better.

little girl, you obedience stimulates me every day, your service to me is unquestionable, I cherish you as the the most wonderful possession I will ever have the pleasure to own. Others may say it is impossible to achieve this, we will continue to prove them wrong.

I love you with all of the heart I have left.

I love it too.... they are awesome people...

 

[FurryFury]

Dankaschoen Frauline Furry. It's always the posts you never think would make it that make it. Just shot off impulsively and never imagining, you know? That rocks.

Viva la Lit! *raises my croisant*

My pleasure and well deserved.

 

[bandelero]

reminds me of an advert: "Black Cats for sale....available in other colours."

This quote was from a longer post made by hamiJJ on 19th September 07 in the thread "Girls who like to be called sluts"

<QUOTE>An example of this would be a girl who likes sucking cock.

When asked how it makes them feel, one may say "i feel submissive and in your power. like i am pleasing you"
another might say " I feel humilated"
and another might say " i feel in control and powerful as though i control you"

Same thing different reference. </QUOTE>

 

[VelvetDarkness]

January 11, the words of VelvetDarkness:
http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25640247

Blimey Fury, I'm honoured.

 

[FurryFury]

Blimey Fury, I'm honoured.

Well deserved!

 

[Netzach]

Words of FurryFury

It's not D/s but damn it's just wise:

One of the sad facts of Internet life is that there will always be someone who thinks being truthful and being offensive is the same thing. Take what you can use, let the rest fall off by the wayside. People who enjoy stirring things up HATE being ignored. It's like death for them. Fighting with them makes them happy.