"So nervous"... ?

[Whisperly]

I see so many posts in the ampics which begin (if not - actually entitled) regarding their extreme level of nerves. I assume it's for fear of what kind of reaction they may get in which case it becomes unappealing to me because it seems more like a validation thing and less like a kinky exhibitionist thing.

I can't help but wonder - if you're so damn nervous about this, then why are you doing it?
Is it part of the appeal of posting or something?

 

[ShyGuy68]

My guess it's because many people these days have low self esteem due to them putting to much weight into how they think they should look according to the media.

And then when they start posting, they mostly find out that the people in the forum are very supportive, and prefer the real people compared to those from the movies.

 

[tommynova2001]

I think it is also a nod to modesty

both in the leteral sense of taking one's clothes off, but also to explain, hey look I know I am not porn star materail, and I don't want to be judged by those standards.

If one just started a thread that saud "Look at my naked body!" (which is after all what most of the threads are in fact about) it sounds a bit grandiose.

By retaining a liitle nervousness or same maybe we preserve in our minds the illusion that we are just peeking out of our respective closets and not streaking naked down the street trailing streamers.

I agree with shy guy though that for many it is abut fear of ridicule that certaily many of us experienced in our lives even with our clothes on Me, I was always skinny and slightly effeminate, I actually thought for a long time I looked mre developed naked than clothed since save for custom tailoring Clothes never hung on me right

My wife has the opposite problem, she was very much used to being noticed and remarked upon positively as a teenager, objectified sexually for her shape that did conform to many of the ideals that the media influences us to see as beautiful.

She still has a shape that many appreciate, but I think she judges herself by the standard of what she looked like 20 years and 5 kids ago.

 

[yogiforlife]

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I think for some people its a modesty thing. There are some people who lets say are "above average" according to the levels set by society and even they say "please be nice" and "nervous". I mean no one starts a thread titled, "hot guy or girl, worship me'.

And I agree, I think for the most part, people on here like the fact that its an average, normal person who is posting pics of themselves. We find it erotic that the person next door is the one posing nude. Thats why suspected "pros" take so much heat from people on here.

 

[Whisperly]

I understand modesty, and I don't mean the opposite would be attractive in any way at all (I find both extremes off-putting just personally), but, I don't know... I almost fear for the person posting when their thread is begun with how incredibly nervous they are.

 

[george55]

I understand modesty, and I don't mean the opposite would be attractive in any way at all (I find both extremes off-putting just personally), but, I don't know... I almost fear for the person posting when their thread is begun with how incredibly nervous they are.

I think the most important thing to understand is that this is the Amateur Pic Forum. And the emphasis on amateur has to be paramount. Most of the people who start a thread have never shown a picture outside of a personal group of friends and acquaintances. By coming here, they are showing parts of themselves these same people most probably have never seen. From what you've said, you are a young art student, with a much different background and from how you've handled the negativity here, a strong sense of self. You also most probably have sat for artists, and have been told of your attributes. Try to understand where they come from. This is a vastly different world with a much different audience.

 

[blondboy]

I think some people use it as a self deprecating introduction!!!

 

[coastal-boy]

they dont want other people to think they are a slut. Instead of being able to appreciate the human body for what it is, they are more concerned with what other people think...so they soften it by saying...I'm nervous...instead of saying...this is really turning me on.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

I was nervous because I was doing something completely out of character. For me, it was the taboo nature of it all. I believe most worry about being caught by friends and or loved ones. I think some might even be mistaking excitement for nervousness.

 

[Whisperly]

I understand more and more ~ thank you so much for your replies all.

 

[george55]

I understand more and more ~ thank you so much for your replies all.

Just a suggestion....post more pics!!!!!!!!!!

 

[rydia57]

Hey, I was nervous about my first audio, but I did it to see if I could. If no one liked it...at least I did it.

 

[FaustARP]

i also often wonder how nervous someone could possibly be after posting three blurry webcam pics of a half-covered ass, or similar.

show your face, then you might have reason to have nerves. otherwise, meh.