Hookup apps

[ZacharyFagg]

I need to rant.
Hookup apps can be fun, but they can be frustrating, and occasionally downright creepy. Here's a few things that people should know about them. If you have other things to add, feel free to add them. The people that need to read this probably won't, but you might feel better.


Your blank profile is useless. Fill out your profile. I get that people need to be discreet, but you can at least put your age, stats and what you are looking for. If you feel that you cannot, at least send it in a message. Say “40 year old 6’0 200# top looking for some fun.” Don't just say “hey” or “looking” from a totally blank profile.

Read other people's profiles before messaging them. And, have a little respect for what they say that they are looking for. If someone says that they are a total top who's looking for smooth, twink bottoms, do not message them if you are not that. If someone says they are a total bottom, do not message them and ask them to top.

Do not ask for pics without having some on your profile or sending some. And if you ask for pics, and someone sends one, at least say something to them. Nobody likes pic collectors.

Be polite and have a little game. Flattery, dirty talk, or flirting will get you further than "looking?" "Hosting?" “wyd” or “rn?”

Don't get pushy, and don't spam someone if they don't reply right away. And if someone says they aren't interested, just look elsewhere.

People have lives. They may not be sitting around wanting to go right now. If you're interested in someone, but they can't meet right then, stay in touch. Occasionally let them know that you are still interested.

If someone says that they are just looking for a NSA hookup, they are just looking for some casual fun. They probably don't want to send 30 different pics, or tell you their life story.

Most importantly, if you agree to meet someone, don't flake. Especially if the other person is hosting. It's a terrible feeling to give out your address to a stranger, then have them not show.

 

[BillyWalrus]

Excellent advice. I used to have my profile title as "PLEASE READ MY PROFILE". They still did not read the profile!

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Excellent advice. I used to have my profile title as "PLEASE READ MY PROFILE". They still did not read the profile!

Grrrr there's nothing worse than seeing that you have a new message, and seeing it's from someone who's exactly what you said that you weren't looking for.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

There's always been alot of bullshit on dating sites and hookup apps but lately it seems like it's gotten worse. Way worse.

 

[Friendlyhillbilly]

the biggest problems tends to be "hosting" and people flaking at zero hour.
on the occasions I can host, they agree to meet, then they ghost at the last minute.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

the biggest problems tends to be "hosting" and people flaking at zero hour.
on the occasions I can host, they agree to meet, then they ghost at the last minute.

That's always been a problem and it's aggravating.
I travel for work and can always host in my motel room, and that happens to me frequently. There's nothing worse that telling someone my motel and room number, then they don't show. That happened to me just last night.
It's worse than the aggravation of wasting time. It's sitting there now knowing that someone knows where you are.
It's even worse if it was your house.
I don't know what people get out of that. If someone just wants to dirty chat and jack off, I'm always good with that.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I absolutely despise opening a message that just says "pics." That's an instant block.
Send a fucking pic. Don't just ask for one.

 

[Friendlyhillbilly]

That's always been a problem and it's aggravating.
I travel for work and can always host in my motel room, and that happens to me frequently. There's nothing worse that telling someone my motel and room number, then they don't show. That happened to me just last night.
It's worse than the aggravation of wasting time. It's sitting there now knowing that someone knows where you are.
It's even worse if it was your house.
I don't know what people get out of that. If someone just wants to dirty chat and jack off, I'm always good with that.

Waste my time, and I've ignored other offers, because I thought I had company come. It so frustrating.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Waste my time, and I've ignored other offers, because I thought I had company come. It so

Exactly. It's totally inconsiderate. I have no idea why people do this.

 

[Uncut1969]

So frustrating for sure! Finally got nerve to meet someone and had it set up waiting in parking lot and got the run around from him I can't find ! I have to go! I was so let down I was ready and got turned down

 

[starfish71]

I can only host if I’m traveling for work, and even then I’m cautious about giving out my room number… I prefer to either meet in the lobby, or give the floor and meet in the elevator lobby… only once have I given my actual room number, and that was only because I was dressed in only lingerie.

If they are going to flake they only have so much info, none of which identifies me

 

[tall758]

My profile clearly identifies me as a cocksucking cum slut, but guys on all of the apps ask if I want to top them. NO! All I want is to get down on my knees, suck and pleasure their cocks, and be rewarded with their cum in my belly. Twice if possible! Then, I will drive home feeling submissive and horny as hell, and work another load out of myself when I get there. It doesnt get better than that!

 

[Sunnyade]

Hookup apps and sites are awful, so many time wasters. I don't use any now but still meet up with one guy I met a few years ago.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

My profile clearly identifies me as a cocksucking cum slut, but guys on all of the apps ask if I want to top them. NO! All I want is to get down on my knees, suck and pleasure their cocks, and be rewarded with their cum in my belly. Twice if possible! Then, I will drive home feeling submissive and horny as hell, and work another load out of myself when I get there. It doesnt get better than that!

Yes. I clearly state that I am a total bottom, and I get this all the time.
Or worse, guys that say they are a total top, then show up and beg me to fuck them.

 

[apantyhoselovr]

sniffies...dick everywhere...assholes too.

 

[JiminNC]

That's always been a problem and it's aggravating.
I travel for work and can always host in my motel room, and that happens to me frequently. There's nothing worse that telling someone my motel and room number, then they don't show. That happened to me just last night.
It's worse than the aggravation of wasting time. It's sitting there now knowing that someone knows where you are.
It's even worse if it was your house.
I don't know what people get out of that. If someone just wants to dirty chat and jack off, I'm always good with that.

Not only that, but there’s the “opportunity cost” of not arranging with a guy who would have shown.

 

[Biglibido99]

I have a female friend in Germany who uses Bumble and more recently Tinder. She's 42 but I warned her about the risks of bringing a guy to her apartment on a first date before having met them in some neutral place at least once. She feels that chatting with them on audio gives her a sense of how safe they are.

I think that's very precarious but don't know the modern dating scene especially in Germany

Any thoughts?

Is Tinder a nightmare?

 

[BillyWalrus]

I have a female friend in Germany who uses Bumble and more recently Tinder. She's 42 but I warned her about the risks of bringing a guy to her apartment on a first date before having met them in some neutral place at least once. She feels that chatting with them on audio gives her a sense of how safe they are.

I think that's very precarious but don't know the modern dating scene especially in Germany

Any thoughts?

Yes. My gf always used Tinder to arrange dates. She ALWAYS met them in a public place first for a drink or a bite to eat first. She never had any problems and we are talking about well over a hundred dates.

 

[Biglibido99]

Yes. My gf always used Tinder to arrange dates. She ALWAYS met them in a public place first for a drink or a bite to eat first. She never had any problems and we are talking about well over a hundred dates.

That's good to hear - US not Germany?

 

[BillyWalrus]

That's good to hear - US not Germany?

She was in the Phillipines arranging to meet foreign men, mostly Europeans and Americans. None of them complained about meeting her beforehand. They were happy to do so for their own protection as well.

 

[Smoothnbi4fun]

I can only host if I’m traveling for work, and even then I’m cautious about giving out my room number… I prefer to either meet in the lobby, or give the floor and meet in the elevator lobby… only once have I given my actual room number, and that was only because I was dressed in only lingerie.

If they are going to flake they only have so much info, none of which identifies me

I can only host if I’m traveling for work, and even then I’m cautious about giving out my room number… I prefer to either meet in the lobby, or give the floor and meet in the elevator lobby… only once have I given my actual room number, and that was only because I was dressed in only lingerie.

If they are going to flake they only have so much info, none of which identifies me

Yah, that's the frustration. You're either wearing something sexy/fem or plan to meet them at the door nude, which means you have to give them your room number and then they flake. I've gotten a lot better at screening guys based on their comments, what they say, etc, but still not perfect.