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Sadly, I missed most of the pictures, but I did enjoy reading your tantalising and teasing words, especially that oh so 'boring' text ;) :devilish: . I love the face pictures :kiss: . I hope that your weekend has started well.
 
I did post this on Kits thread but I feel like itā€™s necessary to leave it here too. šŸ„°

I want to touch on something Iā€™ve spoken about MANYY times before, regarding engagement on threads run by us girlsā€¦ because itā€™s become increasingly noticeable over time. Whatā€™s being discussed reflects a far broader shift in how interaction seems to function on Lit now.

Iā€™ve noticed this both on my own thread and more broadly across the entire site. When I first joined last February, most threads, even Am Picsā€¦ (I know crazy right? Nudes AND intellectual conversation?) felt like spaces for conversation.

There were busy threads such as Boobs Butts and Bedlam that would be POPPING all hours of the day and night. Users would drop in to talk about sex, debauchery, books, films, ideas, lifeā€¦ and engagement didnā€™t hinge so heavily on visual content (sexual or not).

Itā€™s especially noticeable when you look back at older threads and compare them to now, even scrolling back and to the beginning of this here thread. Posts that invite discussion or reflection often receive very little response, while naughty, or not so naughty images generate a pretty immediate interaction. That isnā€™t a criticism of anyone in particular, but it is a bit disheartening if youā€™re someone who enjoys actual dialogue, reading word-based interactions, especially genuine back-and-forths, and engaging in conversations and discussion. Iā€™ll also say that via DM, many users (in my experience) send longer messages of concern or agreement when Iā€™ve voiced my views about the way engagement seems to skew toward images, but thatā€™s a separate conversation entirely.

You can see the contrast in engagement clearly when multiple images are posted and activity spikes, compared to days where there might be one or two photos followed by genuinely interesting, engaging prompts, lists of books, movies, series being watched, or questions that invite discussionā€¦ and the response is minimal, often limited to the same two or three regular contributors. That difference really does feel like tangible evidence of how interaction here has shifted quite significantly. šŸ™ƒ

As Iā€™ve said before, this certainly isnā€™t a value judgement about individual behaviour, but itā€™s understandable that such a dynamic would feel discouraging for those who are here not just to post or consume images, but to have intellectual or conversational exchanges.

For what itā€™s worth, for me anyway, posts where people share their interests and thoughts are the ones that give the clearest sense of who they are, and theyā€™re the kind of contributions that made this space feel engaging and worth returning to. I hope there remains room, and appetite for that kind of participation, because it adds far more depth than fleeting interaction ever could.

If Iā€™m being totally honest, I donā€™t really have the patience or inclination to wait out quieter days and then post a run of photos purely to spark engagement. That approach just doesnā€™t feel natural to me. Iā€™m much more interested in sharing thoughts, ideas, or conversations as they come.

And I think thatā€™s where the frustration sits for me: itā€™s hard to feel motivated to share parts of myself visually when thereā€™s so little engagement with what I share intellectually and I think the same goes for others!
 
Well, I love everything you post be it sexual or not. I think you're a wonderful woman, and I love knowing your thoughts on things. I love seeing how you view the world and how your views affect your thinking. Yes I love seeing you but I really do love reading whatever you post. So, know I'll be here, and will endeavor to post more here because I genuinely enjoy reading your words. ā¤ļø
 
I can definitely see the frustration in that for you.

Makes things less fun here for you, less willing to even share your thoughts cause whatā€™s the point right it almost feels like right?
 
Thatā€™s quite a deep post @SpicyBean99 and I can see how frustrating it can be. Maybe itā€™s the difference in you wanting people to see past your beauty on the outside & discover your beauty on the inside. I can completely understand how frustrating that must be.

Personally, I generally discuss what Iā€™m interested in in PMs rather than out in the open here. Some of that is fear of judgement and some is if Iā€™m talking about something really personal Iā€™d rather know someone is listening at the time.

I love how this site allows people like you to have a place to share their thoughts. I think the pics people share says a lot about them, the poses, locations, colours etc.

Having only joined less than six months ago I donā€™t know what things used to be like. What I do know is posts/threads by females will get far more traffic than from males. I guess itā€™s the age-old problem of whatā€™s the reason people came to your thread in the first place. If it was to see your gorgeous body then theyā€™re probably not that interested in your thoughts, but if theyā€™re turned on by your mind then the pics get in the way a bit, perhaps.

Not sure Iā€™ve really answered your question other than I was trying to say more than ā€˜nice titsā€™
 
hugh_jarce69 said:
Thatā€™s quite a deep post @SpicyBean99 and I can see how frustrating it can be. Maybe itā€™s the difference in you wanting people to see past your beauty on the outside & discover your beauty on the inside. I can completely understand how frustrating that must be.

Personally, I generally discuss what Iā€™m interested in in PMs rather than out in the open here. Some of that is fear of judgement and some is if Iā€™m talking about something really personal Iā€™d rather know someone is listening at the time.

I love how this site allows people like you to have a place to share their thoughts. I think the pics people share says a lot about them, the poses, locations, colours etc.

Having only joined less than six months ago I donā€™t know what things used to be like. What I do know is posts/threads by females will get far more traffic than from males. I guess itā€™s the age-old problem of whatā€™s the reason people came to your thread in the first place. If it was to see your gorgeous body then theyā€™re probably not that interested in your thoughts, but if theyā€™re turned on by your mind then the pics get in the way a bit, perhaps.

Not sure Iā€™ve really answered your question other than I was trying to say more than ā€˜nice titsā€™
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Heya Hugh!

Wow, thank you for taking the time to engage with it properly!

I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your response.

I think where Iā€™d slightly reframe it is that itā€™s not really about wanting people to ā€œsee pastā€ anything, or about inside versus outside beauty. I donā€™t see those as separate or competing. Itā€™s more about how engagement here on lit becomes conditioned over time, what gets responded to, what gets ignored, and what that slowly trains both posters and readers to prioritise.

I completely understand why people choose to have more personal or nuanced conversations in PMs, especially when thereā€™s vulnerability involved. That makes a lot of sense. Whatā€™s interesting to me, though, is how rarely those kinds of exchanges now happen in the open, and how that changes the feel of the space as a whole.

I agree that images can say a lotā€¦ about mood, intention, humour, even self-awarenessā€¦and Iā€™m not dismissing their value at all. But when visual content becomes the primary gateway to interaction, it narrows the range of what feels ā€œworthā€ sharing publicly? Does that make sense?

Youā€™re right in saying that people arrive at threads for different reasons, and expectations form quickly. I think my point is less about individual motives and more about what gets reinforced collectively over time. When attention consistently follows one type of contribution, everything else quietly becomes secondary. If look at my latter posts todayā€¦ I share one thought and no one really cares to engage. I share 1 video and 1 picture and all of suddenā€¦ bam. Engagement.

And for what itā€™s worth, your response did go well beyond ā€œnice titsā€ ā€¦ which is exactly the kind of engagement I was talking about.

Thank you!
 
SpicyBean99 said:
Heya Hugh!

Wow, thank you for taking the time to engage with it properly!

I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your response.

I think where Iā€™d slightly reframe it is that itā€™s not really about wanting people to ā€œsee pastā€ anything, or about inside versus outside beauty. I donā€™t see those as separate or competing. Itā€™s more about how engagement here on lit becomes conditioned over time, what gets responded to, what gets ignored, and what that slowly trains both posters and readers to prioritise.

I completely understand why people choose to have more personal or nuanced conversations in PMs, especially when thereā€™s vulnerability involved. That makes a lot of sense. Whatā€™s interesting to me, though, is how rarely those kinds of exchanges now happen in the open, and how that changes the feel of the space as a whole.

I agree that images can say a lotā€¦ about mood, intention, humour, even self-awarenessā€¦and Iā€™m not dismissing their value at all. But when visual content becomes the primary gateway to interaction, it narrows the range of what feels ā€œworthā€ sharing publicly? Does that make sense?

Youā€™re right in saying that people arrive at threads for different reasons, and expectations form quickly. I think my point is less about individual motives and more about what gets reinforced collectively over time. When attention consistently follows one type of contribution, everything else quietly becomes secondary. If look at my latter posts todayā€¦ I share one thought and no one really cares to engage. I share 1 video and 1 picture and all of suddenā€¦ bam. Engagement.

And for what itā€™s worth, your response did go well beyond ā€œnice titsā€ ā€¦ which is exactly the kind of engagement I was talking about.

Thank you!
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Yeah I got to the end of my thoughts and found I was as puzzled as you. It is interesting and I guess thatā€™s why people who design algorithms around human behaviour are paid a lot of money.

Youā€™ve really made me think this morning.

When I first joined I was fascinated in how open people were about their thoughts, desires & kinks. Some of it took me by surprise but I felt comfortable in a place so many were prepared to share aspects which the wider world would think them weird.

So perhaps Iā€™ve slipped into the behaviour you mentioned. Maybe this is how we are affected by the aspect of our mind which porn & erotica satisfies.

I came to this site to satisfy the writing & reading part of my arousal that porn wasnā€™t satisfying. Yet now I donā€™t visit as many external porn sites as I spend so much time on here. Yet, if I think about it Iā€™m not reading as much as I did.

Iā€™ll say again, you really have made me think this morning. So glad I stumbled across this
 
I will say, it's interesting to read your thoughts about posting pictures and video of yourself versus posting more intellectually stimulating content. I know you're intelligent and that's what drew me in first. Yes, I do get excited to see your pictures or read something bawdy you wrote.

As a man, I guess it's odd for me to see that men are just responding more to the sexy stuff even in a site like Lit. I'm here for the whole person, even if it takes a while to get there, but you're always so forthright with who you are. I do appreciate both sides of course.

It is never fun to come on lit and see nothing has been posted in your thread, so I really will endeavor to post more and respond to your words more.
 
So while weā€™re having this in depth chat @SpicyBean99 , how do you feel about people posting porn pics when someone like you posts pics of themselves?

Do you feel that dimishes the site a bit as itā€™s been more about the contributions rather than a general porn site?
Do you think those pics put other girls off posting as they donā€™t feel they can meet the quality of the pics?
Should Lit steer from other porn sites which are available?
 
I've been on lit for basically a third of my life. I've talked to all sorts of women of varying ages. They chat about mundane stuff and sexy stuff, but I swear there have been so few that light up my brain like you do.

I started with the stories and then slowly found the threads..I was too young and inexperienced then. It was nearly impossible for me to connect with people, and I struggled. If not for certain women I would have left lit in the early years but I did find confidence in myself here and even posted pictures because I felt empowered.

I think for me anyway, as much as I like to chime in here and respond. The personal and private messages also are important. We both know how I feel about the men on lit, and it can be hard to feel like I'm saying the wrong thing when I read through what some of these men say or have said.

I thoroughly understand not wanting to post or engagement farm in a way with the sexy pictures. I just crave the solace of a one on one chat, and j know that can be hard for you.

Also depression really is a demon, and now that I'm medicated I think I'm feeling more able to think clearly. But in the time that I've known you, I've learned a lot about you, and still feel the same as I always have. You're an incredibe woman, and one I'll treasure knowing as long as you'll have me in your life.
 
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hugh_jarce69 said:
Yeah I got to the end of my thoughts and found I was as puzzled as you. It is interesting and I guess thatā€™s why people who design algorithms around human behaviour are paid a lot of money.

Youā€™ve really made me think this morning.

When I first joined I was fascinated in how open people were about their thoughts, desires & kinks. Some of it took me by surprise but I felt comfortable in a place so many were prepared to share aspects which the wider world would think them weird.

So perhaps Iā€™ve slipped into the behaviour you mentioned. Maybe this is how we are affected by the aspect of our mind which porn & erotica satisfies.

I came to this site to satisfy the writing & reading part of my arousal that porn wasnā€™t satisfying. Yet now I donā€™t visit as many external porn sites as I spend so much time on here. Yet, if I think about it Iā€™m not reading as much as I did.

Iā€™ll say again, you really have made me think this morning. So glad I stumbled across this
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I really relate to what youā€™ve said, especially the part about why you came here in the first place. I had a similar entry point. I originally joined Lit to upload my stories and to read other peopleā€™s writing (erotica has a way of getting me off that visual porn canā€™t quite manage.) The threads came later for me, almost incidentally

What drew me in was that the threads here seemed to offer something I didnā€™t really have elsewhere: a space to explore gratification, curiosity, and expression in a way that feltā€¦. nuanced? I canā€™t post half-nudes on Instagram, yet used to use that app as a way to experience the latter. And it didnā€™t work for me.

What I saw here on other womenā€™s threads was a mix that felt kinda balanced with eroticism sitting alongside humour, conversation, vulnerability, and genuine presence from the commenters in those threads. That combination gave me the confidence to start my own!! what felt even more exciting about this place was having an outlet not just for images, but for the kinds of thoughts, desires, and questions that rarely get spoken about openly, even between friends outside in the real worldā€¦

I donā€™t have a neat conclusion to any of this either by the way. šŸ˜‚ Like you, Iā€™m mostly just noticing it and once you notice it, itā€™s hard to unsee it I guess!
 
HotRobb said:
Right ... just found the threat here and quite curious as to what to find. So: hello you all and SpicyBean in particular!
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Hello to you, too HottRobb! šŸ˜

Welcomeee!

There is a lot to unpack within this thread thatā€™s for sureā€¦ itā€™s not as busy as others but you will certainly have fun here!

I hope you find something that you enjoy here!
 
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