Wit & Nipples 🍒

[hugh_jarce69]

I really relate to what you’ve said, especially the part about why you came here in the first place. I had a similar entry point. I originally joined Lit to upload my stories and to read other people’s writing (erotica has a way of getting me off that visual porn can’t quite manage.) The threads came later for me, almost incidentally

What drew me in was that the threads here seemed to offer something I didn’t really have elsewhere: a space to explore gratification, curiosity, and expression in a way that felt…. nuanced? I can’t post half-nudes on Instagram, yet used to use that app as a way to experience the latter. And it didn’t work for me.

What I saw here on other women’s threads was a mix that felt kinda balanced with eroticism sitting alongside humour, conversation, vulnerability, and genuine presence from the commenters in those threads. That combination gave me the confidence to start my own!! what felt even more exciting about this place was having an outlet not just for images, but for the kinds of thoughts, desires, and questions that rarely get spoken about openly, even between friends outside in the real world…

I don’t have a neat conclusion to any of this either by the way. Like you, I’m mostly just noticing it and once you notice it, it’s hard to unsee it I guess!

I love this. I’m gonna reply but just have to sort out some real life bits first

 

[GallantWriter]

I really relate to what you’ve said, especially the part about why you came here in the first place. I had a similar entry point. I originally joined Lit to upload my stories and to read other people’s writing (erotica has a way of getting me off that visual porn can’t quite manage.) The threads came later for me, almost incidentally

What drew me in was that the threads here seemed to offer something I didn’t really have elsewhere: a space to explore gratification, curiosity, and expression in a way that felt…. nuanced? I can’t post half-nudes on Instagram, yet used to use that app as a way to experience the latter. And it didn’t work for me.

What I saw here on other women’s threads was a mix that felt kinda balanced with eroticism sitting alongside humour, conversation, vulnerability, and genuine presence from the commenters in those threads. That combination gave me the confidence to start my own!! what felt even more exciting about this place was having an outlet not just for images, but for the kinds of thoughts, desires, and questions that rarely get spoken about openly, even between friends outside in the real world…

I don’t have a neat conclusion to any of this either by the way. Like you, I’m mostly just noticing it and once you notice it, it’s hard to unsee it I guess!

I will definitely agree here. The threads on lit offer up such a different world than one I've ever experienced online. People are genuinely more real here, and I have met people who have changed my life for good.

It's crazy to pop on here and feel so free. Especially when the offline world feels so stilted. I love that people can use this as an outlet, you really do get to see them for who they are truly here and that is special. I mean if they are willing to put their true self out there.

 

[HotRobb]

Hello to you, too HottRobb!

Welcomeee!

There is a lot to unpack within this thread that’s for sure… it’s not as busy as others but you will certainly have fun here!

I hope you find something that you enjoy here!

Thank you. I am reading and I actually do like a lot the delicate balance between lust and chat. I will be happy to come in and come up with whatever comes to minds, whilst respecting this balance. This will obviously not prevent me from having my OOHHS etc to some of the posted images. As intro - beyond all the usual, I would argue that dance is sublimated sex; this is why I crave techno dance events, the more underground the better and sometimes even more than sex. Berghain is on my bucket list

 

[HotRobb]

My profile pic is a Brussels dance event that somehow became upside down

 

[SpicyBean99]

So while we’re having this in depth chat @SpicyBean99 , how do you feel about people posting porn pics when someone like you posts pics of themselves?

Do you feel that dimishes the site a bit as it’s been more about the contributions rather than a general porn site?
Do you think those pics put other girls off posting as they don’t feel they can meet the quality of the pics?
Should Lit steer from other porn sites which are available?

Super interesting points actually.

For me…seeing porn images posted here on lit that have been taken from other sites doesn’t put me off posting at all since… well… porn can be found literally everywhere on the internet and on other apps (Reddit and such), Lit has never existed in isolation from that since it’s one of the biggest written erotica sites on the web. What makes it feel different to me is the ‘amateur participatory’ (if you will) element… the fact that the people sharing are actually here. You can talk to them, in real time, respond to them, engage with them (as long as you know how to spot a catfish ). So…do I think reposted porn diminishes Literotica? To a degree, yes. Not because porn is a problem, but because it’s already so easily accessible, as I said earlier. Bringing in content lifted from other parts of the internet doesn’t add much here and I think most will agree with that!

 

[SpicyBean99]

I love this. I’m gonna reply but just have to sort out some real life bits first

Take your time! Real life comes first.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Thank you. I am reading and I actually do like a lot the delicate balance between lust and chat. I will be happy to come in and come up with whatever comes to minds, whilst respecting this balance. This will obviously not prevent me from having my OOHHS etc to some of the posted images. As intro - beyond all the usual, I would argue that dance is sublimated sex; this is why I crave techno dance events, the more underground the better and sometimes even more than sex. Berghain is on my bucket list

I would love to attend Berghain…my only fear is queuing for hours only to be turned down by the famously formidable bouncers

OOHHS, by the way, are very welcome, don’t worry they’re kind of part of the fun

I’m with you on dance too, there just is something about getting lost in music (I often get turned on when listening to guitar solos) and movement, especially when dancing with someone you are in tune with that can feel like a sexual act!

 

[SpicyBean99]

A slightly older repost I’m sure most won’t mind me sharing again for the newer lurkers here

https://postimg.cc/HjtwXK0y

 

[GallantWriter]

I would love to attend Berghain…my only fear is queuing for hours only to be turned down by the famously formidable bouncers

OOHHS, by the way, are very welcome, don’t worry they’re kind of part of the fun

I’m with you on dance too, there just is something about getting lost in music (I often get turned on when listening to guitar solos) and movement, especially when dancing with someone you are in tune with that can feel like a sexual act!

I must say I imagine dancing with you would be amazing. I'm not the greatest dancer but I took Ballroom in college, and I've acted in a number of musicals. So I think I could hold me own with classical dance. Though I might struggle in other forms of dancing..I think you'd be a wonderful dance partner all the same.

 

[GallantWriter]

A slightly older repost I’m sure most won’t mind me sharing again for the newer lurkers here

https://postimg.cc/HjtwXK0y

Now a picture like that makes me wish I could paint or draw. I have this instinct to want to create art seeing you in general though.

 

[DynamicFigure]

I did post this on Kits thread but I feel like it’s necessary to leave it here too.

I want to touch on something I’ve spoken about MANYY times before, regarding engagement on threads run by us girls… because it’s become increasingly noticeable over time. What’s being discussed reflects a far broader shift in how interaction seems to function on Lit now.

I’ve noticed this both on my own thread and more broadly across the entire site. When I first joined last February, most threads, even Am Pics… (I know crazy right? Nudes AND intellectual conversation?) felt like spaces for conversation.

There were busy threads such as Boobs Butts and Bedlam that would be POPPING all hours of the day and night. Users would drop in to talk about sex, debauchery, books, films, ideas, life… and engagement didn’t hinge so heavily on visual content (sexual or not).

It’s especially noticeable when you look back at older threads and compare them to now, even scrolling back and to the beginning of this here thread. Posts that invite discussion or reflection often receive very little response, while naughty, or not so naughty images generate a pretty immediate interaction. That isn’t a criticism of anyone in particular, but it is a bit disheartening if you’re someone who enjoys actual dialogue, reading word-based interactions, especially genuine back-and-forths, and engaging in conversations and discussion. I’ll also say that via DM, many users (in my experience) send longer messages of concern or agreement when I’ve voiced my views about the way engagement seems to skew toward images, but that’s a separate conversation entirely.

You can see the contrast in engagement clearly when multiple images are posted and activity spikes, compared to days where there might be one or two photos followed by genuinely interesting, engaging prompts, lists of books, movies, series being watched, or questions that invite discussion… and the response is minimal, often limited to the same two or three regular contributors. That difference really does feel like tangible evidence of how interaction here has shifted quite significantly.

As I’ve said before, this certainly isn’t a value judgement about individual behaviour, but it’s understandable that such a dynamic would feel discouraging for those who are here not just to post or consume images, but to have intellectual or conversational exchanges.

For what it’s worth, for me anyway, posts where people share their interests and thoughts are the ones that give the clearest sense of who they are, and they’re the kind of contributions that made this space feel engaging and worth returning to. I hope there remains room, and appetite for that kind of participation, because it adds far more depth than fleeting interaction ever could.

If I’m being totally honest, I don’t really have the patience or inclination to wait out quieter days and then post a run of photos purely to spark engagement. That approach just doesn’t feel natural to me. I’m much more interested in sharing thoughts, ideas, or conversations as they come.

And I think that’s where the frustration sits for me: it’s hard to feel motivated to share parts of myself visually when there’s so little engagement with what I share intellectually and I think the same goes for others!

That’s right. Tell the boys you want the juice for your posts.

Get to work and admire and even worship this glorious goddess, you heathens!

 

[desperado1089]

The video link didn't work for me. I just woke up so when I clear the cobwebs I'll respond with something more substantial.

 

[Lost_Writer01]

Heya Hugh!

Wow, thank you for taking the time to engage with it properly!

I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your response.

I think where I’d slightly reframe it is that it’s not really about wanting people to “see past” anything, or about inside versus outside beauty. I don’t see those as separate or competing. It’s more about how engagement here on lit becomes conditioned over time, what gets responded to, what gets ignored, and what that slowly trains both posters and readers to prioritise.

I completely understand why people choose to have more personal or nuanced conversations in PMs, especially when there’s vulnerability involved. That makes a lot of sense. What’s interesting to me, though, is how rarely those kinds of exchanges now happen in the open, and how that changes the feel of the space as a whole.

I agree that images can say a lot… about mood, intention, humour, even self-awareness…and I’m not dismissing their value at all. But when visual content becomes the primary gateway to interaction, it narrows the range of what feels “worth” sharing publicly? Does that make sense?

You’re right in saying that people arrive at threads for different reasons, and expectations form quickly. I think my point is less about individual motives and more about what gets reinforced collectively over time. When attention consistently follows one type of contribution, everything else quietly becomes secondary. If look at my latter posts today… I share one thought and no one really cares to engage. I share 1 video and 1 picture and all of sudden… bam. Engagement.

And for what it’s worth, your response did go well beyond “nice tits” … which is exactly the kind of engagement I was talking about.

Thank you!

Hey Dopabean ,

Thanks for your original post, you have highlighted something that I hadn’t thought about, yet had been impacting my experience on Lit the last few weeks. I reply to this post because you’ve really evidenced the difference in how your posts have been engaged with, in order to make your point. And it shows.

I find my habits have changed recently when interacting on here. I used to try to actively engage in threads, especially chain threads or threads that are newer with intellectual or creative ideas, now I do that less. I only really share my personality in PMs now.

I’ve tried a couple of times recently. One a newer, Christmas-related thread which I just excused myself from after an unpleasant exchange and another chain game that led to a pleasant PM conversation which kept me there.

Maybe it’s just where I am in my Lit ‘journey’ and I’ve been on here long enough to know who I am likely to get on with and who I’m not. Thankfully, you’re in the former which means that I’m more interested in talking to you and others in PMs rather than on the threads because you know me and my personality.

The red flag game was a good example of a great attempt by you to widen the depth of the thread but my immediate thought was: I’m not sure that I want people knowing those things about me. That’s on me, not you.

I don’t want the nature of Lit to change such that all we get is content you (and others) occasionally throw up when you’re in the mood - which will likely decrease over time as Lit becomes less engaging for you - because it loses a lot of what makes Lit great. As I say, I love the intellectual conversations, including when those are sex-themed in some way, I’ve probably been relying on PMs a little too much for real connection. I’m sure others are the same - and it lowers the overall quality of threads.

I’ll stop my rambling now and summarise:
You’ve highlighted an important point which I’m both a cause of and impacted by, so I will look to increase my attention on threads moving forward because I really don’t want threads like these to become one-note or worse, die away.

LW

 

[subdudeme13]

That’s right. Tell the boys you want the juice for your posts.

Get to work and admire and even worship this glorious goddess, you heathens!

I posted in another thread about this and the nature of the beast. Men are very visually motivated. I really became aware of how much when I had androgen therapy, which basically blocks testosterone. Overnight my head did not swivel automatically to look or glance at women. Spicey could walk by and she might as well be a leaf tumbling across the ground. I don't know if you can understand how much of an effect hormones have on the brain. Now that I am not on therapy my head is back on the swivel.

 

[hugh_jarce69]

Take your time! Real life comes first.

I woke up this morning (love that song), in a reflective mood. Last night I felt emotional & slightly vulnerable so was contemplating that.
Then I found your post, and I can’t stop thinking about it. The words, obvs although the pics are very stimulating.

As I’ve said already you’ve really made me think.

I completely agree with you about the advantage of amateur pics on here is you can interact with the subject, which changes it from other sites.
It must be a boost to your ego to hear how it turns others on & what they’d love to do to, and with you.

So I’m hugely turned on by curves, lines and light. I post porn, mainly soft, on here as I like to share what turns me on as well as stimulate others. I’d never post a pic of myself on here as I couldn’t stand the judgement, but showing pics of things I like gives me that hit when someone likes it.

I post pics of hose, legs & leggings mostly. The curve/lines/light thing is contained within all those.

I have a vivid imagination so I like to see some clothing coverage so I can imagine joining in with its removal. I don’t have a preference for hose or stockings as I like what both give me. The light & shade on hose over a bum is very stimulating. But so is running your fingers up a leg then feeling the contrast in temperature from the nylon covered skin to the naked skin.

See, there you go, I’ve just dumped a load of stuff from my brain and not sure I’ve answered your original point.

Actually, there is a point. If those pics weren’t on this site I would probably have only kept this place as a reading site. Now there are other things to enjoy I find I spend nearly all my time here to the detriment of other sites.

Ok, I admit it. I’ve been captured.

I’m so, so pleased I read your post from this morning as it’s made me think about my own behaviour. And being 100% honest, I never got beyond your looks. I now realise there’s a fascinating mind behind.
Today has been a real education, thank you

 

[hugh_jarce69]

I woke up this morning (love that song), in a reflective mood. Last night I felt emotional & slightly vulnerable so was contemplating that.
Then I found your post, and I can’t stop thinking about it. The words, obvs although the pics are very stimulating.

As I’ve said already you’ve really made me think.

I completely agree with you about the advantage of amateur pics on here is you can interact with the subject, which changes it from other sites.
It must be a boost to your ego to hear how it turns others on & what they’d love to do to, and with you.

So I’m hugely turned on by curves, lines and light. I post porn, mainly soft, on here as I like to share what turns me on as well as stimulate others. I’d never post a pic of myself on here as I couldn’t stand the judgement, but showing pics of things I like gives me that hit when someone likes it.

I post pics of hose, legs & leggings mostly. The curve/lines/light thing is contained within all those.

I have a vivid imagination so I like to see some clothing coverage so I can imagine joining in with its removal. I don’t have a preference for hose or stockings as I like what both give me. The light & shade on hose over a bum is very stimulating. But so is running your fingers up a leg then feeling the contrast in temperature from the nylon covered skin to the naked skin.

See, there you go, I’ve just dumped a load of stuff from my brain and not sure I’ve answered your original point.

Actually, there is a point. If those pics weren’t on this site I would probably have only kept this place as a reading site. Now there are other things to enjoy I find I spend nearly all my time here to the detriment of other sites.

Ok, I admit it. I’ve been captured.

I’m so, so pleased I read your post from this morning as it’s made me think about my own behaviour. And being 100% honest, I never got beyond your looks. I now realise there’s a fascinating mind behind.
Today has been a real education, thank you

Actually, I’ve realised why I’m not reading as much recently.

I have some pieces of my own I need to finish and I’m frustrated I can’t get them to a conclusion, so reading pieces from others who have managed to finish theirs is not gonna make me feel better.
If I can just get past this blockage things will get better.

I just seem to be thanking you so much @SpicyBean99 today. But I really mean it.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Good morning Bean.
I woke up and saw the post you did regarding engagement.
It kind of reminds me of when someone goes to meet someone.
There are the first impressions when a person is physically attracted to someone.
Then there is conversation that shows whether they can interest you.
Then the deeper relationship develops.

I know that some folks are fans of the "let's just get to the good parts" mentality and such. This kind of behavior, I have seen, have driven away some cool people in the past, like that they were only good for showing T&A and they wanted better.
It's easy to start a thread here. It's easy to attract posts when a little skin is shown.
It is more difficult to maintain a thread over time because of trying to keep the interest of the posters.

One of your strong suits as you is that, like others on here people follow, there is more to you than that. The fact you like to share your thoughts, the fact you're going to school, the fact you want folks to show interest in what you think makes you a more rounded person to get to know. Once a person gets invested in that side of you, it makes it easier to want to follow your adventures, adult and other wise.

I know one of my challenges coming onto this platform is the fact that for every interesting woman on here to follow, there is an overabundance of other guys who follow as well. Unfortunately, not every guy thinks like me and may push the attention needed to get the posts in a direction you may not feel to go.

I hope many see the person behind your screenname.
She's pretty awesome.

 

[DynamicFigure]

I posted in another thread about this and the nature of the beast. Men are very visually motivated. I really became aware of how much when I had androgen therapy, which basically blocks testosterone. Overnight my head did not swivel automatically to look or glance at women. Spicey could walk by and she might as well be a leaf tumbling across the ground. I don't know if you can understand how much of an effect hormones have on the brain. Now that I am not on therapy my head is back on the swivel.

That’s interesting. I am highly visual and have always been a big cunt hound.

Funny, I had a conversation about hormone replacement therapy with a female friend of mine yesterday. She’s post menopausal and has gained some weight and wants Hormone therapy to manage her weight better.

I published a holistic health magazine for over seven years. An Advertiser of mine administered the Soto Pelle method, a natural treatment to get the body to produce hormones in an optimal fashion again.

One day, I was there speaking with the husband that was manning the front desk and there was a female client there. She told me she was newly post menopausal and it was doing a number on her sex drive. This hormone replacement treatment brought it back in spades. She was horny and fucking like a teenager again, and said her husband was happy as hell.

 

[subdudeme13]

That’s interesting. I am highly visual and have always been a big cunt hound.

Funny, I had a conversation about hormone replacement therapy with a female friend of mine yesterday. She’s post menopausal and has gained some weight and wants Hormone therapy to manage her weight better.

I published a holistic health magazine for over seven years. An Advertiser of mine administered the Soto Pelle method, a natural treatment to get the body to produce hormones in an optimal fashion again.

One day, I was there speaking with the husband that was manning the front desk and there was a female client there. She told me she was newly post menopausal and it was doing a number on her sex drive. This hormone replacement treatment brought it back in spades. She was horny and fucking like a teenager again, and said her husband was happy as hell.

I recall a friend of mine complaining about his wife. His words were, "All she wants to do is fuck since she started hormone replacement therapy."
I have a high testosterone level. That might be why the sudden loss of it was so eye opening. I walk the beach all most daily and it was so nice not to have to fight the desire to stare.

 

[Jerrieager]

A slightly older repost I’m sure most won’t mind me sharing again for the newer lurkers here

https://postimg.cc/HjtwXK0y

Such beautiful hips lov !

 

[jonnoback]

A slightly older repost I’m sure most won’t mind me sharing again for the newer lurkers here

https://postimg.cc/HjtwXK0y

Always worth a repost gorgeous!

 

[Hubs76]

A slightly older repost I’m sure most won’t mind me sharing again for the newer lurkers here

https://postimg.cc/HjtwXK0y

I love your hair. More pics involving your flowing locks would be amazing.

Also. What is your ideal date/night out - I’d love to know. The seduction to a great intimate session lies in the build up. Meal, movie, walk in the country etc. what makes you tingle and want a man?

 

[kieranhalcyon01]

I did post this on Kits thread but I feel like it’s necessary to leave it here too.

I want to touch on something I’ve spoken about MANYY times before, regarding engagement on threads run by us girls… because it’s become increasingly noticeable over time. What’s being discussed reflects a far broader shift in how interaction seems to function on Lit now.

I’ve noticed this both on my own thread and more broadly across the entire site. When I first joined last February, most threads, even Am Pics… (I know crazy right? Nudes AND intellectual conversation?) felt like spaces for conversation.

There were busy threads such as Boobs Butts and Bedlam that would be POPPING all hours of the day and night. Users would drop in to talk about sex, debauchery, books, films, ideas, life… and engagement didn’t hinge so heavily on visual content (sexual or not).

It’s especially noticeable when you look back at older threads and compare them to now, even scrolling back and to the beginning of this here thread. Posts that invite discussion or reflection often receive very little response, while naughty, or not so naughty images generate a pretty immediate interaction. That isn’t a criticism of anyone in particular, but it is a bit disheartening if you’re someone who enjoys actual dialogue, reading word-based interactions, especially genuine back-and-forths, and engaging in conversations and discussion. I’ll also say that via DM, many users (in my experience) send longer messages of concern or agreement when I’ve voiced my views about the way engagement seems to skew toward images, but that’s a separate conversation entirely.

You can see the contrast in engagement clearly when multiple images are posted and activity spikes, compared to days where there might be one or two photos followed by genuinely interesting, engaging prompts, lists of books, movies, series being watched, or questions that invite discussion… and the response is minimal, often limited to the same two or three regular contributors. That difference really does feel like tangible evidence of how interaction here has shifted quite significantly.

As I’ve said before, this certainly isn’t a value judgement about individual behaviour, but it’s understandable that such a dynamic would feel discouraging for those who are here not just to post or consume images, but to have intellectual or conversational exchanges.

For what it’s worth, for me anyway, posts where people share their interests and thoughts are the ones that give the clearest sense of who they are, and they’re the kind of contributions that made this space feel engaging and worth returning to. I hope there remains room, and appetite for that kind of participation, because it adds far more depth than fleeting interaction ever could.

If I’m being totally honest, I don’t really have the patience or inclination to wait out quieter days and then post a run of photos purely to spark engagement. That approach just doesn’t feel natural to me. I’m much more interested in sharing thoughts, ideas, or conversations as they come.

And I think that’s where the frustration sits for me: it’s hard to feel motivated to share parts of myself visually when there’s so little engagement with what I share intellectually and I think the same goes for others!

I like when threads are a mix of mind-numbingly gorgeous pictures and mind-stimulatingly interesting conversation with the poster of said pictures. That's why I enjoy both your and Kit's threads. Your brains are more interesting to me than the pictures. Sadly, I'm not on often enough (or at the right time) to meaningfully engage most of the time.

I HAVE thoroughly enjoyed your talking about what you're learning in school and I always want to hear more. It's very much related to what I do professionally and learning what makes people tick is just interesting.

 

[ilovetoeat42]

I did post this on Kits thread but I feel like it’s necessary to leave it here too.

I want to touch on something I’ve spoken about MANYY times before, regarding engagement on threads run by us girls… because it’s become increasingly noticeable over time. What’s being discussed reflects a far broader shift in how interaction seems to function on Lit now.

I’ve noticed this both on my own thread and more broadly across the entire site. When I first joined last February, most threads, even Am Pics… (I know crazy right? Nudes AND intellectual conversation?) felt like spaces for conversation.

There were busy threads such as Boobs Butts and Bedlam that would be POPPING all hours of the day and night. Users would drop in to talk about sex, debauchery, books, films, ideas, life… and engagement didn’t hinge so heavily on visual content (sexual or not).

It’s especially noticeable when you look back at older threads and compare them to now, even scrolling back and to the beginning of this here thread. Posts that invite discussion or reflection often receive very little response, while naughty, or not so naughty images generate a pretty immediate interaction. That isn’t a criticism of anyone in particular, but it is a bit disheartening if you’re someone who enjoys actual dialogue, reading word-based interactions, especially genuine back-and-forths, and engaging in conversations and discussion. I’ll also say that via DM, many users (in my experience) send longer messages of concern or agreement when I’ve voiced my views about the way engagement seems to skew toward images, but that’s a separate conversation entirely.

You can see the contrast in engagement clearly when multiple images are posted and activity spikes, compared to days where there might be one or two photos followed by genuinely interesting, engaging prompts, lists of books, movies, series being watched, or questions that invite discussion… and the response is minimal, often limited to the same two or three regular contributors. That difference really does feel like tangible evidence of how interaction here has shifted quite significantly.

As I’ve said before, this certainly isn’t a value judgement about individual behaviour, but it’s understandable that such a dynamic would feel discouraging for those who are here not just to post or consume images, but to have intellectual or conversational exchanges.

For what it’s worth, for me anyway, posts where people share their interests and thoughts are the ones that give the clearest sense of who they are, and they’re the kind of contributions that made this space feel engaging and worth returning to. I hope there remains room, and appetite for that kind of participation, because it adds far more depth than fleeting interaction ever could.

If I’m being totally honest, I don’t really have the patience or inclination to wait out quieter days and then post a run of photos purely to spark engagement. That approach just doesn’t feel natural to me. I’m much more interested in sharing thoughts, ideas, or conversations as they come.

And I think that’s where the frustration sits for me: it’s hard to feel motivated to share parts of myself visually when there’s so little engagement with what I share intellectually and I think the same goes for others!

To be honest it's nice having a good mix. You and @LilKitKat do threads right by keeping balance. I love the mental stimulation (not even sexy talk, just real talk) as much as physical. I lurk more than I post, but felt this was appropriate. Thank you all you both do.

 

[Celticlight]

I did post this on Kits thread but I feel like it’s necessary to leave it here too.

I want to touch on something I’ve spoken about MANYY times before, regarding engagement on threads run by us girls… because it’s become increasingly noticeable over time. What’s being discussed reflects a far broader shift in how interaction seems to function on Lit now.

I’ve noticed this both on my own thread and more broadly across the entire site. When I first joined last February, most threads, even Am Pics… (I know crazy right? Nudes AND intellectual conversation?) felt like spaces for conversation.

There were busy threads such as Boobs Butts and Bedlam that would be POPPING all hours of the day and night. Users would drop in to talk about sex, debauchery, books, films, ideas, life… and engagement didn’t hinge so heavily on visual content (sexual or not).

It’s especially noticeable when you look back at older threads and compare them to now, even scrolling back and to the beginning of this here thread. Posts that invite discussion or reflection often receive very little response, while naughty, or not so naughty images generate a pretty immediate interaction. That isn’t a criticism of anyone in particular, but it is a bit disheartening if you’re someone who enjoys actual dialogue, reading word-based interactions, especially genuine back-and-forths, and engaging in conversations and discussion. I’ll also say that via DM, many users (in my experience) send longer messages of concern or agreement when I’ve voiced my views about the way engagement seems to skew toward images, but that’s a separate conversation entirely.

You can see the contrast in engagement clearly when multiple images are posted and activity spikes, compared to days where there might be one or two photos followed by genuinely interesting, engaging prompts, lists of books, movies, series being watched, or questions that invite discussion… and the response is minimal, often limited to the same two or three regular contributors. That difference really does feel like tangible evidence of how interaction here has shifted quite significantly.

As I’ve said before, this certainly isn’t a value judgement about individual behaviour, but it’s understandable that such a dynamic would feel discouraging for those who are here not just to post or consume images, but to have intellectual or conversational exchanges.

For what it’s worth, for me anyway, posts where people share their interests and thoughts are the ones that give the clearest sense of who they are, and they’re the kind of contributions that made this space feel engaging and worth returning to. I hope there remains room, and appetite for that kind of participation, because it adds far more depth than fleeting interaction ever could.

If I’m being totally honest, I don’t really have the patience or inclination to wait out quieter days and then post a run of photos purely to spark engagement. That approach just doesn’t feel natural to me. I’m much more interested in sharing thoughts, ideas, or conversations as they come.

And I think that’s where the frustration sits for me: it’s hard to feel motivated to share parts of myself visually when there’s so little engagement with what I share intellectually and I think the same goes for others!

Can fully appreciate this. It’s one of the main reasons I ration risqué pictures of myself; people’s lust would just become too animal and I know it’d detract from their appreciation of my poetry and my brilliant thoughts