How do men actually work?

[m_and_em_stories]

So you got close, he went a bit far. You told him to stop and he did. Now he's hesitant to push not wanting to cross boundaries?

If accurate, ball is in your court to initiate and communicate your boundaries

 

[Peachyprincess0]

You rejected. That's your only chance. Once rejected I would never be serious with that woman again. I moved on.

But did you read why

 

[Britva415]

I rejected him […]
How do men work

Women spent decades teaching men that “no means no,” so, when you told him no, that’s where it lies.

Men also HATE game-playing. He might be happy to flirt with you but he probably wants nothing more, at this point.

 

[Britva415]

I bet he wants to but he’s afraid of the rejection.

He already got rejected. He’s not afraid, he just isn’t interested anymore.

I like him I’ve tried to tell him but he turns it into a joke

It is a joke. He’s being VERY gallant to not hurt you by giving you a painful rejection. Instead he’s doing something women know all about: Getting unwanted attention and reacting by being nice and playing along just enough to not upset the pursuer but not enough to make the pursuer think it will go anywhere.

Shoe’s on the other foot. Interesting, isn’t it. I think you should give up and move on.

 

[hugh_jarce69]

He sounds fucking weird to me. Just wants women chasing him. There’s a reason he’s available
Does he have hair on the back of his hands?
Get out of there before he finds out where you live

 

[Peachyprincess0]

He sounds fucking weird to me. Just wants women chasing him. There’s a reason he’s available
Does he have hair on the back of his hands?
Get out of there before he finds out where you live

He’s been in my house

 

[Peachyprincess0]

Women spent decades teaching men that “no means no,” so, when you told him no, that’s where it lies.

Men also HATE game-playing. He might be happy to flirt with you but he probably wants nothing more, at this point.

He’s given me a lot of compliments recently and complained that men probably give me too much attention

 

[Kolejdayz]

This guy I like and I keep flirting and literally nothing is coming of it

He initiated something a while ago I rejected him but now I’ve clearly shown my interest we tease each other everyday

How do men work

It's a long way from teasing to fucking. Is he attached in some way? I am going though this kind of thing myself right now

 

[panty_aussie]

He’s been in my house

Well if you rejected him he prob was like nope

i asked a chick to get a drink after work.

She rejected me and said she doesn't drink.

If a guy gets rejected he is not going to try harder, especially these days as we can be accused of being creep or weird

I think you might have to ask him out.

 

[hugh_jarce69]

He’s been in my house

https://postimg.cc/CZkSc55S

 

[kinky_jat]

This guy I like and I keep flirting and literally nothing is coming of it

He initiated something a while ago I rejected him but now I’ve clearly shown my interest we tease each other everyday

How do men work

Basically regardless of how you act or what you do he thinks you are just playing a game with him, I mean you did already reject him earlier. So what made you change your mind about him? he jokes about it as a defensive measure he probably has been rejected a lot in the past .

 

[MiaBabe23]

This guy I like and I keep flirting and literally nothing is coming of it

He initiated something a while ago I rejected him but now I’ve clearly shown my interest we tease each other everyday

How do men work

Same as women with something like this, I’d guess. If you rejected him already, I’d imagine you’re gonna have to make the next move if you want to go beyond flirting

 

[Britva415]

He’s given me a lot of compliments recently and complained that men probably give me too much attention

I think he's either playing games with you or hoping you will make a move.

He is not going to make a move. You have to do that, now, because you rejected him before.

"Making a move" does not mean "be provocative." It means, do or say something which he will HAVE TO either react by going ahead and making out with you, because he does want that with you, or, react by rejecting you explicitly because he does not want this with you.

If you want this to go anywhere, you have to be the one who moves it along. You have to kiss him or get him on a bed or blow him in the bathroom or the car. Or you have to tell him to fuck you. It has to be THAT forward.

It can't be just flirting. It can't be trying to get him to be the one who makes a move. It has to be you.

It's the only way you can find out if this is just games to him. As long as you keep playing games (which is certainly what he believes is happening), then he will also not go any further than playing games.

He might still not want to go any further than that. But to find out, you have to close the deal. He's not going to, unless you force him to decide.

 

[Live4themoments]

What should I do?

Just be yourself. People can sense when other's are forcing themselves to be something unfamiliar or not used to, it has to come naturally. Then when things progress it will be much more rewarding and pleasurable.

 

[Live4themoments]

Another thought. I'm not sure with the work situation, same office or division? Possibly he realized it might not be wise to start something up with a coworker? Might lead to an uneasy work environment if it blows up, or if he is in a higher position might be fearful of harassment. I know I would be.

 

[Peachyprincess0]

Update, we hung out and although neither of us said anything in regards to this we ended up kissing, a lot
To the point I was ready to pull my skirt up and sit on his lap in public but of course I can’t tell him this

Kissing is a good sign right?

 

[lifeis2short2b]

You rejected. That's your only chance. Once rejected I would never be serious with that woman again. I moved on.

I agree 100% Your only shot right now ? Get him alone, be naked, and jump him.

Side note: Similar thing happened to me, Years later the woman told me, she regretted not acting on my advances. As I/We moved on. Interesting that I was still on her mind. Don't be her !

 

[Britva415]

we ended up kissing

How did that come about?

Did he initiate it or did you?

 

[Britva415]

Also: How long do you have before he goes back home?

 

[Peachyprincess0]

How did that come about?

Did he initiate it or did you?

We were flirting/messing walking together and he pushed me over so I dragged him with me and we ended up kissing on the ground for a really long time

 

[Highwayczar]

The initial rejection is foremost in his mind. But most of us men can’t read the signs in front of our face. Be bold PeachyP and tell him how you feel/what you want. The subtleties aren’t working so tell him when we were kissing I wanted to hike up my skirt and straddle you. If he makes a joke, just tell him I’m serious and not joking. That might be the frying pan to the head for him.

 

[Peachyprincess0]

The initial rejection is foremost in his mind. But most of us men can’t read the signs in front of our face. Be bold PeachyP and tell him how you feel/what you want. The subtleties aren’t working so tell him when we were kissing I wanted to hike up my skirt and straddle you. If he makes a joke, just tell him I’m serious and not joking. That might be the frying pan to the head for him.

I’m not brave enough to say that

 

[tristantrotsky]

This guy I like and I keep flirting and literally nothing is coming of it

He initiated something a while ago I rejected him but now I’ve clearly shown my interest we tease each other everyday

How do men work

Frequently, men do very little work at all...

 

[TravisAW]

This guy I like and I keep flirting and literally nothing is coming of it

He initiated something a while ago I rejected him but now I’ve clearly shown my interest we tease each other everyday

How do men work

You've rejected him once.

Unless you make it clear that you've had a change of heart, he's not going to ask again.
In his mind, he's in a flirty friend zone with you.

 

[Highwayczar]

I’m not brave enough to say that

I can understand that, tone it down then. If He makes a joke, respond with I’m wearing my special; perfume, bra, miniskirt, panties or lack there of, what ever makes YOU feel sexy. Maybe make eye contact and a panty flash, down blouse at his desk.