The ones we leave behind

[iwatchus]

Sorry for this being a somewhat depressing topic, but how many people have a mechanism in place to tell people here if the worst happens?

A discussiona few days ago about a past member of the community being presumed dead, accompanied by a scare for a current member recently, has me thinking about this.

My wife would contact someone here, she knows who and how, if something happened to me. If we both died in a car crash or something, I'm not sure. I have friends here who I think deserve to know what happened if I just disappeared. And I would definitely want to know if they disappeared.

On the flip side, if you're going to quit the site, let someone know. Not everyone is on board with starting a thread announcing it, but at least DM someone telling them, so the knowledge is in the community.

Sorry again for posting a morose thread, but I think it's important.

 

[Erozetta]

My husband knows who to tell for me.

If something were to happen to him, a few people know my real name, a couple know my phone number and where I work, they would be able to find out pretty easily.

 

[Z_TheWriter]

I currently live with my parents due to an illness - I know how that sounds considering the topic, but it's not that kind of illness. For IRL stuff, they would obviously tell people.

No one knows I write stories here. That might change someday, but for now this is a private thing which I have no intentions of sharing.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Done.

 

[crookedletter]

My wife knows I post stories on here, but I suspect if I died the question of how to inform the erotica community would not be quite top of mind.

 

[Erozetta]

My wife knows I post stories on here, but I suspect if I died the question of how to inform the erotica community would not be quite top of mind.

For me it's not about alerting the "erotica community" but about letting my friends know.

Specifically, my husband would let my podcast co-host and Altissimus know (and a couple of others from Lit specifically). And would let the people on my Discord server know. I'd expect one of them to pass it along to anyone else interested/curious, but I wouldn't expect more than a few to even wonder.

 

[MrPixel]

I've had written instructions for a while, but it needs to be updated. Thanks for the reminder.

 

[MelissaBaby]

My husband has all my log-in info and will post here if something should happen to me. I have warned him that someone will respond by saying, "So does that mean she'll never write a third Ranger Ramona story?

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I'll be even more morose.

Hopefully, I'll be around for a long time. I'm in my early forties, after all. But if I am gone, there will be no notice here. No one knows about my Literotica proclivities.

That being said, I don't think I'll be missed here. I'm not exactly popular here, nor do I think that I fit in with majority of AH populace. And that's all fine.

I'm not sad or fishing for compliments. I'm just being realistic.

 

[crookedletter]

For me it's not about alerting the "erotica community" but about letting my friends know.

Specifically, my husband would let my podcast co-host and Altissimus know (and a couple of others from Lit specifically). And would let the people on my Discord server know. I'd expect one of them to pass it along to anyone else interested/curious, but I wouldn't expect more than a few to even wonder.

That’s fair, I didn’t mean my post as mocking those who do have a communication plan in place.

It’s a matter of how embedded in the community you are, I guess. For me, as lovely as all you AH folks are, and as much as I enjoy the hobby, this is more diversion than an integral part of my life and identity.

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I'll be even more morose.

Hopefully, I'll be around for a long time. I'm in my early forties, after all. But if I am gone, there will be no notice here. No one knows about my Literotica proclivities.

That being said, I don't think I'll be missed here. I'm not exactly popular here, nor do I think that I fit in with majority of AH populace. And that's all fine.

I'm not sad or fishing for compliments. I'm just being realistic.

I'm pretty much the same way (other than being way older)

No apologies

 

[Statius]

I'll be even more morose.

Hopefully, I'll be around for a long time. I'm in my early forties, after all. But if I am gone, there will be no notice here. No one knows about my Literotica proclivities.

That being said, I don't think I'll be missed here. I'm not exactly popular here, nor do I think that I fit in with majority of AH populace. And that's all fine.

I'm not sad or fishing for compliments. I'm just being realistic.

I wonder how many of us this actually fits? I count myself as one like this as well; and yes, special attention to the last sentence above.

 

[OddLove]

I'll be even more morose.

Hopefully, I'll be around for a long time. I'm in my early forties, after all. But if I am gone, there will be no notice here. No one knows about my Literotica proclivities.

That being said, I don't think I'll be missed here. I'm not exactly popular here, nor do I think that I fit in with majority of AH populace. And that's all fine.

I'm not sad or fishing for compliments. I'm just being realistic.

I'm in the same boat lol, if the reaper took me tonight, nobody in my real life knows I write erotica, and nobody on Lit knows me.

So if I suddenly disappeared, the only reaction would be an occasional 'When is the next chapter!?!' comment once or twice a decade.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I'm in the same boat lol, if the reaper took me tonight, nobody in my real life knows I write erotica, and nobody on Lit knows me.

So if I suddenly disappeared, the only reaction would be an occasional 'When is the next chapter!?!' comment once or twice a decade.

Well, I'd say there is a number of readers who'd miss me. They have a vested interest in my unfinished series, after all.

I was mostly talking about AH, which I believe was the O.P.'s intention.

 

[PennyThompson]

I think I'm a lot more likely to lose interest and walk away than I am to die any time soon, and as of right now I don't think I would do that silently

But if I were to get hit by a bus or something, I don't think anyone here would ever know. Honestly connecting this part of my life to the rest of my life is a source of anxiety, even when it comes to the people here that I love very much.

I would just fade away and that would be that, and if occasionally someone thought "Whatever happened to that annoying girl who thought she was funny," my ghost would be happy

 

[OddLove]

Well, I'd say there is a number of readers who'd miss me. They have a vested interest in my unfinished series, after all.

I was mostly talking about AH, which I believe was the O.P.'s intention.

Okay, then we're actually not in the same boat. I have no sense of community here. I just come here when I'm bored, I don't DM with anyone and I don't have any connections with others on here. I literally just chat in the forums when I'm bored and read/write stories on Lit.

But to anyone who has a sense of community here and is worried about leaving their online friends in the dark, they should probably connect outside of Lit. For example, if you have a few people you're close to on here, you can add them to your friends list on Facebook, then they would see updates from IRL friends and family, so they'd be able to relay the message back here.

Also, to go a step further. If you trust someone on here enough with your login info, that persons could update your bio to make an announcement post in AH if anything did happen.

 

[TheLobster]

Considering I'm still in my 30s, I don't expect to shuffle off my mortal coil anytime soon. Should that happen suddenly, however, I'm in the same boat as @AwkwardlySet , @PennyThompson and a few others here.

No one in other areas of my life knows I'm scribbling smut in my free time, and no one here knows (hopefully!) anything remotely identifiable about me outside of Literotica. I don't plan on changing that anytime soon.

Still, if you start wondering where did my pincers go, rest assured that it is much more likely that I simply got bored of the whole endeavor altogether, as it did happen before with some of my other transient hobbies.

 

[AG31]

I posted this in June of 2024.

Every now and then I see a Rest in Peace post. Someone has died and others know about it. I'm 80 and in terrific health. I expect to see 100. But if I don't, no one will know to tell you all. So I'm composing this thank you, in hopes that, should I disappear from the scene for more than a few weeks, someone will notice and will bump this for all to see.

 

[yowser]

If you want an example of a thoroughly graceful 'goodbye' see Sam Scribble, an extraordinary writer here. There was one more cryptic post from his account a year later, so maybe some hope yet (or was perhaps done by a family member with access,) But his farewell was uniquely thoughtful and typically elegant.

 

[cw5523729]

Unfortunately, since no one, including my wife, has any idea I have an account on here, or that I even write erotic literature, if I disappear someday you'll all have to just speculate. The wilder and crazier the speculation, the better. Kidnapped at a train station, abducted by aliens, you name it.

 

[Erozetta]

That’s fair, I didn’t mean my post as mocking those who do have a communication plan in place.

It’s a matter of how embedded in the community you are, I guess. For me, as lovely as all you AH folks are, and as much as I enjoy the hobby, this is more diversion than an integral part of my life and identity.

Oh, I didn't take it as mocking.

I just wanted to clarify that it wouldn't be a post he'd make to the general community; he'd be reaching out to individuals he knows I'm friends with, and he'd be honest with what happened. If it was a car accident, they'd know that, illness the same, by my own hand, the same. He's not very "sugar coating" of information, so his message would likely be short and blunt, lol.

 

[Writer61]

Like others, nobody in my real life knows what I do here, and I hope they never do.

If I have some warning of my imminent end, I will probably post here, but … oh shit, that bus is going to hit me!

 

[Off_base]

Unfortunately, since no one, including my wife, has any idea I have an account on here, or that I even write erotic literature, if I disappear someday you'll all have to just speculate. The wilder and crazier the speculation, the better. Kidnapped at a train station, abducted by aliens, you name it.

Those all sound a little too vanilla for you

 

[cw5523729]

Those all sound a little too vanilla for you

I agree, I actually thought that after posting it. Not my best effort at all, I'm very sorry. I should have at least worked an anal probe in there if I was mentioning aliens anyway.


I'll do better next time, I swear.

 

[Off_base]

Right? Something scandalous involving tentacles