I want to date my insurance agent

[NaiveOne]

Yes, it's true.

I have a little crush on my State Farm agent.

And I've gotten hints he is interested in me, but he hasn't asked me out.

So my question is:

Are there regulations about insurance agents asking out their clients?

Or going out with their clients if the client does the asking?

He just might not be interested in me, which is usually the case . But if he is prohibited from asking out his client (me!), then maybe I can make a move?

Thanks!!!!

 

[dukeofspades]

Yes, it's true.

I have a little crush on my State Farm agent.

And I've gotten hints he is interested in me, but he hasn't asked me out.

So my question is:

Are there regulations about insurance agents asking out their clients?

Or going out with their clients if the client does the asking?

He just might not be interested in me, which is usually the case . But if he is prohibited from asking out his client (me!), then maybe I can make a move?

Thanks!!!!

From experience, i would definetely make a move first. Even if it turns out that he's not into you, then you'll know. It's worth a shot, because if he is into you, then y'all can have a whole lotta fun. And i dont believe there is any rule about agents dating their clients.

 

[Guest]

 

[silverwhisper]

there's some possible...complications if you start a relationship with a person with whom you have a professional relationship. also, will it be weird if you ask him out and he says he's not interested?

ed

 

[NaiveOne]

there's some possible...complications if you start a relationship with a person with whom you have a professional relationship. also, will it be weird if you ask him out and he says he's not interested?

ed

Yeah, that's what I'm most worried about, the wierdness.

It seems like he's the type of guy who wouldn't be afraid to ask out a girl if he was interested.

But can he ask me out if I'm his client?

 

[pimpslap]

Yeah, that's what I'm most worried about, the wierdness.

It seems like he's the type of guy who wouldn't be afraid to ask out a girl if he was interested.

But can he ask me out if I'm his client?

He can, but won't. You don't ask out clients.

You have to move first

 

[Guest]

 

[revolution724]

Yeah, he may not think it's ok to ask, but it might be ok for him to accept. I mean, he's not your priest/professor/gynecologist/boss, so why not?

 

[NaiveOne]

He can, but won't. You don't ask out clients.

You have to move first

Huh. I guess I never thought about it that way.

Makes sense!

 

[NaiveOne]

I agree, and to me this would show that the guy has at least some respectability (though it's hard to make a judgement from here )

But I don't have any problem with NaiveOne making the first move or him accepting if he so decides. I don't think this would be a problem unless NaiveOne has some sort of huge account with the insurance company. If you're talking about basic auto and/or homeowners/renters insurance, it's no big deal.

Geez....size again.

As a grad student, I definately DONT have any huge accounts with him.

LOL

It always comes down to size!

But now the question is.... how do I do it?

 

[NaiveOne]

Yeah, he may not think it's ok to ask, but it might be ok for him to accept. I mean, he's not your priest/professor/gynecologist/boss, so why not?

Thanks for your input rev!

True, I guess insurance agent isn't quite as personal as some other professions.....

 

[silverwhisper]

naive one: so ask him if he wants to get a drink some time. it's pretty straightforward. make clear that this would not be a business meeting. maybe you call him to confirm details on your policy, and after all that's settled, you could say, "now that we're done talking shop, maybe this would be a good time to ask if you'd like to get together for a drink" or something like that?

ed

 

[Masonpeters]

get that this can be a tricky situation, especially when you're navigating a professional relationship!

As far as regulations go, there isn’t typically a blanket rule that stops insurance agents from dating their clients, but there are a few things to consider. Most ethical guidelines for agents do recommend maintaining professional boundaries to avoid any potential conflicts of interest or the appearance of impropriety. Some companies may even have internal policies that discourage agents from dating clients, but this varies by company. It's important for both parties to feel comfortable and for the business relationship to remain respectful.

If your agent is showing interest but hasn’t asked you out, it could just be that he’s trying to maintain professionalism or simply doesn’t want to cross any lines. It’s possible he’s unsure if it would be appropriate too.

If you’re interested in making a move, I’d suggest approaching it casually, maybe outside of the insurance context. For example, you could try chatting with him more informally about mutual interests or see if he mentions anything personal. If you feel comfortable, you could always ask him out yourself — but just be prepared for the possibility that he may not be allowed to, or simply might not feel the same.

At the end of the day, it's all about mutual respect and understanding each other's boundaries.

 

[Britva415]

if you start a relationship with a person with whom you have a professional relationship. also, will it be weird if you ask him out and he says he's not interested?

Nowhere near as weird as it can get if he IS interested in the non-professional relationship.

 

[Crystal_Dust]

For the love of…
This thread is like literally almost 20 years old

 

[kreemi_pi]

Make sure your policy has a big ductdicktable

Er...deductible

 

[dct10538]

Or you're a time traveler.

 

[kreemi_pi]

For the love of…
This thread coll is like literally almost 20 years old

She already married him and put their first kid through college

 

[dct10538]

2006. If you hold your phone real close to your ear, you can hear "Hips Don't Lie."

 

[Crystal_Dust]

2006. If you hold your phone real close to your ear, you can hear "Hips Don't Lie."

That song still works for me

 

[kreemi_pi]

Like a good neeeeeighbor...State Farm is there!

 

[dct10538]

That song still works for me

Freaking almost half a lifetime ago for me. Yikes.

 

[Crystal_Dust]

Freaking almost half a lifetime ago for me. Yikes.

You and me both

 

[kreemi_pi]

Freaking almost half a lifetime ago for me. Yikes.

My fucking CAR is almost that old

 

[dct10538]

Found the Toyota or Sube driver? Maybe a Volvo.