Rules for a Gentleman in 2025

[Statius]

Yes, different people can have different preferences.

Yep. That is the point!

 

[Statius]

Isn't the number one Rule for Gentlemen not to drag threads off their tracks and bludgeon them to death with pointless back and forth arguments?

I love and loathe the hair splitting arguments on Lit

 

[onehitwanda]

I love and loathe the hair splitting arguments on Lit

It's the circle of life.

 

[SimonDoom]

I love and loathe the hair splitting arguments on Lit

A real gentleman, though, only uses a first-class hair splitter.

 

[Statius]

A real gentleman, though, only uses a first-class hair splitter.

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[XerXesXu]

Ok, shoes. All the houses I lived in, in England, had boot scrapers outside the front door. I rarely needed to use them, I never took my shoes off, I never asked guests to take theirs off. There was a sisal doormat to clean the soles of your shoes. My Asian friends introduced me to the practice of removing shoes. It was irritating, but I politely complied. I now live in Asia. I wear shoes in my house, others slip of their flip-flops at the door, but don't clean their feet. Dirty feet leave dirty marks on the floor; they never clean up before they leave. Theres more to being gentlemanly than ... taking off your shoes!

 

[TheLobster]

What does the Y-axis represent? Is this showing total crimes or per capita? Why does homicide and aggravated share the same color-which is which?

It's a crime chart; the units for those are pretty much always the same: incidents per 100k people.

Here's the original Wikipedia source if you want more details.

 

[NuclearFairy]

*sighs the weary sigh of somebody about to regift something that's toxic to my pets*

Not to mention that I doubt I'm the only one allergic to lillies. Also, cats don't even have to chew on them, too much pollen alone can make them sick.

This is always such an issue. Also, I'm allergic to basically every flower except sunflowers. I always bring them to work and ditch them at the front desk.

Case in point.

Really, before gifting someone flowers or anything that can be inhaled, ingested, or rubbed on their skin you should find out about their allergies, sensitivities, and intolerance.

 

[Erozetta]

Not to mention that I doubt I'm the only one allergic to lillies. Also, cats don't even have to chew on them, too much pollen alone can make them sick.

Case in point.

Really, before gifting someone flowers or anything that can be inhaled, ingested, or rubbed on their skin you should find out about their allergies, sensitivities, and intolerance.

And this is why I won't cook for anyone without first asking "Any food allergies, intolerances, dislikes, whatever?"

 

[Kelliezgirl]

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I didn't know this!

But if that's why you would open the door for your passenger to enter, what about opening the door for your passenger to exit? How did that develop?

But the courtesy predates cars and door locks. Opening a carriage door for example.

 

[GuiltyCowboy]

And this is why I won't cook for anyone without first asking "Any food allergies, intolerances, dislikes, whatever?"

I have a friend who likes to flip this around if he goes to dinner at the house of a vegetarian.

He pulls the host aside once he's through the door and says 'erm, I'm sorry I forgot to mention this before but, yeah, I'm actually someone who eats meat - would it be terribly inconvenient to have just a little meat dish on the side? Doesn't need to be fancy or anything.'

Anyway, people seem to like him.

 

[Erozetta]

I have a friend who likes to flip this around if he goes to dinner at the house of a vegetarian.

He pulls the host aside once he's through the door and says 'erm, I'm sorry I forgot to mention this before but, yeah, I'm actually someone who eats meat - would it be terribly inconvenient to have just a little meat dish on the side? Doesn't need to be fancy or anything.'

Anyway, people seem to like him.

I'm mostly vegetarian. Occasionally eat chicken. If he brought meat with him, I'd make it. Or if he informed me ahead of time, I'd make it. Last-minute addition without supplying the goods? "Sorry buddy, I'm not a magician, hope you like quinoa."

 

[GuiltyCowboy]

If he brought meat with him, I'd make it. Or if he informed me ahead of time, I'd make it.

You are WAY too nice! He can eat the quinoa like everyone else as far as I'm concerned.

 

[Erozetta]

You are WAY too nice! He can eat the quinoa like everyone else as far as I'm concerned.

I genuinely like to cook for people.

I would kick him out if he asked for steak to be well done, or wanted ketchup or A-1 with it. Pretty much everything else I'm flexible on.

 

[NuclearFairy]

I genuinely like to cook for people.

I would kick him out if he asked for steak to be well done, or wanted ketchup or A-1 with it. Pretty much everything else I'm flexible on.

When I was pregnant with my middle child, I kept having these insane cravings for A-1, so my SO went and bought a bottle of it and some stew beef. XD

 

[SimonDoom]

I genuinely like to cook for people.

I would kick him out if he asked for steak to be well done, or wanted ketchup or A-1 with it. Pretty much everything else I'm flexible on.

I had a girlfriend once who said that in the past she had mixed white wine with 7-Up to make the wine palatable. Fortunately, she had abandoned that habit by the time she dated me, or it might have been a deal breaker.

Steak well-done: just no, for me. But there are a lot of people in the USA who prefer it that way. I need some pink in my steak.

I like to cook for people, too, and one of the most pleasurable things about it is that people are often genuinely appreciative when you cook for them and put effort into it. Eating in the USA is often so much of an auto-pilot matter that a little effort can go a long way.

 

[Erozetta]

I had a girlfriend once who said that in the past she had mixed white wine with 7-Up to make the wine palatable. Fortunately, she had abandoned that habit by the time she dated me, or it might have been a deal breaker.

Steak well-done: just no, for me. But there are a lot of people in the USA who prefer it that way. I need some pink in my steak.

I like to cook for people, too, and one of the most pleasurable things about it is that people are often genuinely appreciative when you cook for them and put effort into it. Eating in the USA is often so much of an auto-pilot matter that a little effort can go a long way.

My dad does steak well-done. Like, burnt to a crisp well done. But claims to like meat. Meanwhile, he eats bacon raw. And I don't mean undercooked, I mean straight out of the fucking package with mustard. *shudders*

I do not understand my father's food preferences.

 

[onehitwanda]

My dad does steak well-done. Like, burnt to a crisp well done. But claims to like meat. Meanwhile, he eats bacon raw. And I don't mean undercooked, I mean straight out of the fucking package with mustard. *shudders*

I do not understand my father's food preferences.

Oh my god what the fuck

 

[crookedletter]

straight out of the fucking package with mustard

I know it's a Lit commandment to not yuck someone's yum, as they say. But... good lord...

 

[Erozetta]

I'll repeat that I don't know how I became the person I am growing up with the family I had other than looking at them and thinking "I want to be the polar fucking opposite of that."

I have no explanation for it. It grosses me out.

 

[SimonDoom]

Meanwhile, he eats bacon raw. And I don't mean undercooked, I mean straight out of the fucking package with mustard. *shudders*

I do not understand my father's food preferences.

Sushi should be raw. Bacon should not be served like sushi.

I consider myself pretty open-minded about cuisine, but you've got to draw the line somewhere.

 

[Erozetta]

Oh, good, the one thing that might unite everyone is "Bacon should not be eaten raw." I can get behind that.

 

[SimonDoom]

Oh, good, the one thing that might unite everyone is "Bacon should not be eaten raw." I can get behind that.

Somebody made a dopey hit song about two people whose only shared characteristic was liking the movie "Breakfast at Tiffany's." You never know what will bring us all together. Rejecting raw bacon is a good start. Keep hope alive.

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

33. The age gap rule for adults used to be that men shouldn’t date below “half your age plus seven.” We like half your age plus 10. (Hey, nothing’s inflation-proof.) We can call this “the gentleman’s age gap.” And no, your metabolic age doesn’t count.

Nuts!

The original version of this particular idea used to be that the  IDEAL age for a gentleman's love interest was half plus seven. At some point that got misquoted as the minimum and now it seems that those of the 'just a number' persuasion are being ostracised even further.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

Somebody made a dopey hit song about two people whose only shared characteristic was liking the movie "Breakfast at Tiffany's." You never know what will bring us all together. Rejecting raw bacon is a good start. Keep hope alive.