Tell me about your transition from monogamy to non-monogamy or straight to bisexuality as a married/partnered couple.

[irishblade]

I’m not quite sure where I am in this “process.” I’ve always been submissive (sexually and in real life). When I married my wife, I told her I’d do whatever I could to protect and please her. Fast forward 12 years or so and we dabbled for a minute in female domination. She seemed to get a kick out of how hard I’d get when she’d make me wear panties to do dishes or something of that ilk.

She eventually confided that I’m the smallest endowed lover she’s ever had (wasn’t a surprise to me lol) and likes cocks a little longer and thicker than mine. No worries. Later, we discuss her sleeping with other men and she’s onboard as long as I’m in the room. It’s been about a year since that talk. I’ve mentioned it since and she says she doesn’t think she could do it. Frequency of sex has dropped (from about twice a week to once a month), it’s back to the most vanilla of sex, and we seem to be back to post-honeymoon moods on sex.

 

[shewantsmore]

I married my husband when i was still in my late teens he was in his 30s, i loved him at the time, it was john my husband's idea that i went with others, it was his fantsy that i slept with others, we would discuss our fantasies and i think it was maybe 6/7 years into our marriage that i said yes and this was the start of our journey into swinging. .

 

[TonyF862]

I’m not quite sure where I am in this “process.” I’ve always been submissive (sexually and in real life). When I married my wife, I told her I’d do whatever I could to protect and please her. Fast forward 12 years or so and we dabbled for a minute in female domination. She seemed to get a kick out of how hard I’d get when she’d make me wear panties to do dishes or something of that ilk.

She eventually confided that I’m the smallest endowed lover she’s ever had (wasn’t a surprise to me lol) and likes cocks a little longer and thicker than mine. No worries. Later, we discuss her sleeping with other men and she’s onboard as long as I’m in the room. It’s been about a year since that talk. Frequency of sex has dropped (from about twice a week to once a month), it’s back to the most vanilla of sex, and we seem to be back to post-honeymoon moods on sex.

Don’t give up! She still needs that big cock - and so do you! Keep looking for Mr Right!

 

[irishblade]

Don’t give up! She still needs that big cock - and so do you! Keep looking for Mr Right!

I’m definitely trying to stay positive but it’s incredibly discouraging now that it’s seemingly affected our sex life. Appreciate the encouragement though!

 

[TonyF862]

I’m definitely trying to stay positive but it’s incredibly discouraging now that it’s seemingly affected our sex life. Appreciate the encouragement though!

When was the last time you discussed it? Ask if she’d be ok to review some “candidates” if you were able to discreetly/anonymously pick them for her review?

 

[irishblade]

It was probably two months ago when she said she didn’t think she could actually do it.

 

[TonyF862]

It was probably two months ago when she said she didn’t think she could actually do it.

Did she say why?

 

[irishblade]

Did she say why?

Just didn’t think she could actually go through with it

 

[GoodnessO]

I’m definitely trying to stay positive but it’s incredibly discouraging now that it’s seemingly affected our sex life. Appreciate the encouragement though!

Have you tried toys? There are types designed for use by a woman either solo or during intercourse (or with a dildo). But I think especially if the man's cock isn't thick. I have 1 that's a WeeVibe, Chorus model, I got last fall... shortly before I became non-monagomous. I haven't used it while fucking a man, because I haven't been regular with a guy who wasn't well endowed. But I have in mind to use it with a fellow I've had a few sessions with, who's cock is long, but not particularly girthy.

 

[irishblade]

Have you tried toys? There are types designed for use by a woman either solo or during intercourse (or with a dildo). But I think especially if the man's cock isn't thick. I have 1 that's a WeeVibe, Chorus model, I got last fall... shortly before I became non-monagomous. I haven't used it while fucking a man, because I haven't been regular with a guy who wasn't well endowed. But I have in mind to use it with a fellow I've had a few sessions with, who's cock is long, but not particularly girthy.

We have a couple that are bigger (length and girth). We haven’t done couple play with them amd when she masturbates, she’s a clitoral cummer. Will look into the WeeVibe Chorus though! Thanks for the suggestion!